Home
Quotes New

Audio

Forum

Read

Contest


Write

Write blog

Log In
Your search for emotions
TO ALL THE BOYS I KNOW. (AND DON'T)
 Tanishqa Batra  
 31 January 2018  

Dear members of the male species,I’m sure you’ve heard about the re-energized feminist movement. I’m sure some of you even support it. I also think that the meaning of ‘Feminism’, the crux of what this movement is about is also lost on a lot of people. The media and the public have made it seem like a dirty word. I assure you it’s not. It still stands for equality of the two sexes as it always has and forever will. Anyway, this is not the reason why I’m writing what I am today. I am writing to tell you that I’m sorry. I’m sorry if, in all this ado, you felt lost somewhere because honestly, I can’t imagine being in your place nor do I ever wish to. At this point in time, everyone knows that females face problems and there are steps being taken to eradicate them and if not, at least people are aware and are talking about it. It’s much different for you, I’ve seen. No one talks about how you too can be a victim of sexual assault or rape. No one talks about how you feel depressed. No one talks about how hard it is to bear the brunt of the society. Be masculine. Open jars. Pay bills. Plan Great Big romantic Gestures even if you are an introvert because it’s your job! Don’t cry, don’t wear pink, don’t show your emotions, love your friends but don’t hug the male ones, don’t wax your arms or legs or eyebrows because personal grooming takes a backseat when it comes to fitting in with societies idea of the ultimate male. I’m here to tell you it’s okay. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be able to express how you feel and do what you want. Maybe you are not restricted, maybe you can roam alone at night and your parents won’t mind, maybe you can go where ever you want without thinking too much but you are not free either. You have rules imposed upon you. You will be ridiculed if you want to go in a profession which is predominantly women oriented and these are only some of the examples. I have a vision of a utopia where there are no boundaries, no rules, no gender stereotyping, only freedom. I hope my words give you a sense of security and understanding and know that I believe in you. Let’s change this world one person at a time. Let’s change this world by being there for each other. Let’s change this world with SheForHe.Love and admiration,The fairer sex(or so I’ve been told)

THE SUBTLE ART OF GIVING A FUCK.
 Tanishqa Batra  
 2 February 2018  

‘I don’t know.’ ‘I don’t care.’ ‘I don’t have emotions.’ ‘I don’t feel things.’It’s cool, it’s in. This is what’s trending. Ask a millennial their thoughts on love and I guarantee you 8 out of 10 will give a nihilistic answer because, in their dictionary of heartbreaks, love doesn’t exist. Love is something that they or should I say, we, like to view as a mythical entity. We’re not sure how it exists, where it exists,if it exists. We see it all around us every day and yet we don’t believe. We have become people who refuse to acknowledge good things because maybe Instagram has taught us that cherophobia is a real thing and why to be happy when you know that you are bound to be sad the next day or maybe the one following that or maybe we’re just scared because all we see around us are failed relationships and hate. God knows that we have plenty and all kinds of hate around us in this world but the only thing stronger, more potent than that is love.I hate to sound like a clichéd chick-flick movie dialogue and say that the love of your life will sweep you off your feet with his grand romantic gestures and amazingly good looks. No. I’m just going to tell you that there are a lot of types of love. It can be the love of a mother for her child, of a friend for a friend, of a dog for it’s human. It can be anything. Love doesn’t have a fixed form. It just takes the shape of whatever vessel you pour it in. Take a look around you the next time you go out. Look at the flowers or the people or the sky. Just look at something and I assure you, you  will see one good thing which brightens up your day and makes you say, maybe it’s not so bad to care after all. 

How is StoryMirror on a path to changing the Creative landscape of India?
 Aman Upadhyay  
 22 February 2018  

There are seven billion on this Earth. So, there are seven billion equally important journeys of their lives that they have lived and the stories that they created during those journeys. These stories define these individuals because these stories appeal to these individuals too. StoryMirror is the home to these seven billion stories. It is the home where stories are nurtured in myriad creative ways.And just like every individual, every brand has a story to tell—creative stories that not only engage, inform, surprise, delight, and impact their audience, but that also deliver on a measurable level of Creativity.Brand StoryMirror’s story, is the story of Creativity. StoryMirror explores thoughts or ideas that are new or different in some way from previous thoughts and ideas. And as exploring thoughts and ideas can be expressed by people in many ways, it can also be expressed through drawing, writing, singing, or even doing something. And StoryMirror is the conduit between the audience and the Creativity - a movement which brings every creative mind on a single platform. It is a Creative ecosystem that is beautifully involved in providing the stage for Creative minds to share their work on. It is a unique online platform created to showcase the diversity, versatility, and excellence in the field of literature and art dispersed across the length and breadth of India. StoryMirror was set up, in the year 2015, as a revolution to connect people through stories and inculcate the spirit of storytelling in the stressful lives of the masses. Every story, poem, and artwork that appears on www.storymirror.com reflects the emotions and lives of every individual. Hence the tagline, ‘Stories that reflect you.’ It was founded, with the vision to let the artists give their piece of mind for the world to behold. StoryMirror started off as an online portal wherein any person who believes that they could write a story or a poem or had creative traits to be an artist could submit their work to be cherished by millions of individuals across the globe. By 2016, they entered publishing industry and their Future Prospects include Audio Books, Interactive Webzines, 30+ Regional Languages, Short Films/Videos, and Authors’ Workshops.StoryMirrror is trying to connect storytellers with their peers through advanced technology and digital prowess. All the stories, poems, artworks, and eBooks are available for reading, sharing, and submitting. They also have an eCommerce website and mobile application from where all the products can be downloaded or ordered. Currently, they support 6 languages - Hindi, Odia, Marathi, Gujarati, Bangla, and English and they are going to cover Tamil, Telugu, and Kannada very soon.Therefore, when it's said that StoryMirror is on a path to changing the Creative landscape of India, it leads to the fact that www.storymirror.com has brought to the world and made it realize the power of storytelling with its 3 million+ readers, 70k+ users, and 10k+ writers/poets/artists. It’s the only story portal with a mobile application and with more than 10,000 downloads.StoryMirror, is your way in and while this Creative Ecosystem’s stories reflect you, it is all set to always amaze you with the enormous possibilities that lie within its global vision. Because StoryMirror is the idea of Creativity. StoryMirror gives you the wonders of Creativity. And StoryMirror is the answer to your Creativity. It is all about Creativity!

Psychology behind fashion
 Vanshika Garg  
 23 February 2018  

Do you know clothing is something thataffects your behavior, attitude, personality, mood, confidence, and even the way we interact with others?If no, then think ...What you wear affects you psychologically. We all take a little extra effort to look nice for special occasions; it can extremely alter your mood. It also influences how others respond to you. And the visual image created by the style and fabric dramatically changes the appearance of your body. Your clothes can affect your job prospects, your life and even your self-image. Science of fashion physiology now suggests that how we dress may just be the difference between giving ourselves the extra edge in our professional and personal lives. And yes, that applies to men too.He looks spoiled brat. She looks so arrogant. She looks cheap. He looks mean. I can tell she is unconscionable.We make quickly make judgments about people from the clothes they wear, on what basis? Simple, on the basis of clothes and the appearance.Have you ever been told that you can judge a man by his shoes, do you know how? If shoes are unpolished shabby this indicates carelessness and a very casual attitude. If laces are too tight it shows that you are very rigid, if laces are untied it indicates indecisive nature.There is much more to our clothing choices than we might imagine. For many people, what they wear is only a matter of habit, but when we dress in the morning or going somewhere like in party, office or even for shopping it might pay us to be a little more careful in the choices we make. Doing experiments with your clothes and trying out something different might be a way of changing the impression others have of you.My wardrobe says a lot about me. Did yours? If not then think again, because what you wear can inform passersby of your type of employment, as well as your ambitions, emotions and spending habits. So guys, you are the Person what you wear, because your clothes reveal all about you. Shopping and spending behaviors often come from internal motivations such as emotions, experiences and culture.“dress for the dream job you want, not the job you have” and “ always look good, feel good”

12 reasons that tell you why is it great to be single
 Ipsa Arora  
 6 March 2018  

Being single is sometimes considered lonely and less fun but at other times singles know that it is a blessing to them. Single status denotes freedom, liberty, no restrictions and more of solo fun. Let us look at 12 things every single should be happy about:You can spend more time with yourself-You can go on solo trips and explore around various holiday destinations. You could even spend time watching your favourite shows or movies till late in the night- you don’t have to spend every night pampering somebody on the phone! Weekends can be lazy as you want them to be. Spend time yawning in your bed, nobody is going to insist you to go out for shopping!You can spend more time with your besties- Every person in a relationship often hears these words from his/her best friends- “You are not giving time to us now. You have changed dude.” Being single you don’t have to face any such problem. You would never have to miss out any of your friend’s party, birthday or hangout plan.Live rich!- No hefty shopping budgets. No spending huge amounts on gifts every now and then. No getting scolded from parents for burning a hole in their pockets. Save all your earnings and your parents earnings for a bright future or even spend it for pampering your own self.No spies behind you- Chill! There is nobody spying on you 24x7. You don’t have to keep someone informed about each and every thing you do in your day. Nobody is going to call you every now and then and inspect about where you are, with whom and why? No need to send mushy good morning and good night messages to someone.No guess games- Girlfriend is in a bad mood, probably because of her boyfriend. She replies to his text by saying ‘hmm’, ‘okay’, ‘fine’. The boyfriend goes back in time to the day they met and starts thinking from that day what made her upset. No don’t have to play any such guessing games. You can just relax and go about doing whatever you want to.No forced choices- Boy likes blue, grey and black coloured clothes only. No fourth colour. His girlfriend forces him to wear a bright orange shirt. He cringes, cries but ultimately gives in. He steps out of his home the next day wearing that bright coloured T-shirt. Nobody can meet the awkwardness he faces. But you, you are free to wear any colour you wish you. Ah what a smile when you step out of your home!No cheesiness in your life- you don’t have to send or receive cheesy messages to or from anyone. You don’t need to tolerate any baby, honey type cheesy stuff. Live your life simply because simplicity is the best.No lies- You don’t have to lie to anyone about where you are, what you are doing or who you are with. You don’t have to hide anything from anyone. Be your own self, live the way you like.You are the master of your life- You don’t need to take permissions from anyone for anything and everything you do in your life. Nobody is going to get angry on you for doing something without informing them.Hang out with your opposite gender friends without anyone getting possessive for you or insecure about your friendship. You know after all that you two are best friends and nobody can take that place in your life.You can flirt with whoever you want to without anyone seeing it and running after you to kill you. Healthy and harmless flirting is good for health after all.Don’t control your emotions- You don’t have to control your emotions and beware of your mood every single time. You can be happy, sad, upset, angry or whatever you feel like. You are not answerable to anyone.Already feeling relaxed and happy about being single? You must be observing a lot of your friends not sure about where their relationship is going. Their major problem in their life is around their relationship only. You on the other hand have no such troubles and are living a happy and content life, aren’t you? 

The Room - Will you visit before it's too late ?
 Forem Lapsiwala  
 12 March 2018  

THE ROOM19 year old Nishantis worried as he enters the room with his mom, its 6 pm in the evening he has bunked a couple of classes to get to the venue, the sun is almost down but he still has his shades on.  He picks up a quiet corner further away from everyone and hopes the earth would swallow him.58 year old chatty Betty is on the other side. She is very blissful. She picks up conversations with almost everyone in the room. She is very friendly.35 year old Khushbu is also present. She is busy observing everyone, her so called fellow roommates, the receptionist, the general vibrations and the aura. She is very proud to get to the “room”.So where actually are they? Where one is worried of being spotted another proud and yet another totally blissful!! Let me give you a brief snippet of their lives.Nishant has had phenomenal performance in his academics. He has always topped the class. He has got into the best engineering college in the country. He has plans to set up his own start up dot com. He is introvert by nature but in this digital world who cares?! He is very close to his family and loves them dearly.Off late he worries a lot of the well being of his family members so much so that he checks on them almost every one hour. He believes every single minute that they are going to die. He feels there will be an earthquake or a road accident any minute and his family members will be affected. It took Nishant’s mom a lot of persuation to ask Nishant come along. He is worried on whether he should share this encounter in the room with his girlfriend at all.Betty is a wonderful lady with a heart of gold. She has a degree in chartered accountancy. She is the apple eyed girl of her father. She was responsible for setting up her paternal family’s business.  Albeit she found her prince charming sooner than expected and settled down for domesticity at the tender age of 21.All the same she is very knowledgeable and can have rich stimulating conversations from fashion to politics.Her problem is she is confused of her identity and family lineage. She believes she comes from royal family and nobody in her world is real. She believes that her mother is a queen who did not want to take care of her as she did not love her and in turn left her with her current foster parents. This of course is her imagination. She is more than happy to come to the room as she believes she is going to meet a queen.Khushbu is a young dynamic advertising professional. She has everything going right for her. She is blessed to have a supporting family,awesome children and a husband to die for. She is an omnivert if I may coin a behavioral term for her!! Well that means she is approachable and friendly yet does not blend in easily. She does not care what anybody thinks of her and speaks her mind. She is extremely self assured and leaves no stone unturned to fulfil her goals. She has a wide range of capabilities right from dancing, swimming to driving to name a few.All this suddenly disappears when she left by herself. She is always second guessing herself and is very anxious of being lonely. This has led to endless sleepless nights, frustration ultimately leading to bouts of violence. She feels so wretched at times that she contemplates suicide every second day. One minute she is happy next minute she is sad. She is totally clueless on what she will feel next. This roller coaster of emotions brings her to “the room”. She is glad she made it after a lot of contemplation.My guess is you have a guess by now (Pun intended) ! Welcome to the therapist’s clinic!! Do Nishant, Betty and Khushbu have a life situation that warrants a visit to the therapist? Are they having any crisis? Is there a financial loss? Is there a loss of a loved one? Is there a severe health failure?  Is there anything out of order at all dear readers in their lives?Now all of situations may well qualify for a psychological health crisis. An issue which exists but is not easily validated. Socially there is a refusal to classify it as a disease. Unlike Blood Pressure, Diabetes, Heart Disease, Immunity Disorder, Cancer and so on and so forth there are no symptoms that the body will give out. Quiet contrarily here is absolutely no physical manifestation at all in all of the above cases.Technically they are not “crazy”, “mad” or “abnormal”. They are highly capable individuals. Well what separates them a little bit from most is that their thoughts run a tad more than us. Are not all of us a little weird? Do not all of us have some type of anxiety, imagination or lack of confidence. That’s all that’s about it. Would you give them company in the room without being apprehensive about judgment?It’s a actually a non starter. We all have a taboo about therapist, shrink or in need of a better word clinical psychologist. We are all worried about social acceptance having visited the therapist once. In fact it may even feature in our “dark secrets” that is allowed only the deepest recesses of our minds and hearts. We refuse to share, talk, discuss leave alone consultation.In fact it is so great an outlaw that we are not able to see our own tell tale signs of psychological inadequacies. We continue to lead a life filled with anxiety, depression, insomnia, addiction, stress needless to say and many more forms of emotional upheavals.Somehow when we think a psychotherapist we only think of a person who is deranged who is haggard who is not successful who is probably chained who is hostile who is demented the list is endless. They are the ones who get help because their inadequacies are on display.The ones who really suffer are the ones who cannot see that we don’t have to be psychotic to visit the therapist. We just need to want a better life. We are totally unaware of a much better joyous life that we may have if we care to pay attention to the needs of our mind. For this we need to lift the rose tinted glasses on our perception of “normalcy”. The irony of life is we are abnormally worked up about normalcy!!We need to revamp our approach to therapy. We need to believe that it’s ok to visit a therapist. Why should we deprive ourselves of a good life? The more we address it, talk about it and discuss it the more we improve our lives.Last but not the least! No! We don’t have to worry about changing the lives of the ones who are in the room. They are already the winners. We actually are talking about the lives of the ones who don’t visit and appear alright.  That very well may be us!!We all have that one emotion that we cannot handle. We all have that one compulsive disorder that we cannot change. We all have that one fear we cannot get over. It is all about our mind and our soul.If you dear readers don’t feel up to it don’t wait! Wake up, get going and visit the room. Get a life!#smblogcontest

"The Puppet Show"
 Trupti Paikaray  
 14 March 2018  

What a beautiful life it was without the virtual reality headaches. Babloo with Golu calling Titu and Monu with other friends were rushing to the nearby fields to play cricket, volleyball, football, gilli danda and kabaddi. They were even so fond of sack race, cycling, hide and seek and a number of other exciting games not only to keep them entertained but also to stay fit and fine. Then, Babloo, Golu, and Titu were growing up playing various outdoor games, the games which need sharp mind, attention, keen intellect and alertness. They were also doing best in their studies and pursuing good careers. It is true that they didn’t know the magic of the computer and internet. If they were given such facility, nobody would have beaten them. Here, what I want to highlight that yes they were lacking a facility, but still, they were the go-getters, the trendsetters. With the advent of computer and internet life changed hugely. Nowadays, kids are ‘internet-babies’ and youth are ‘puppets’ in the hands of the internet. I don’t dare to say anything against internet and it has a lot of contribution to our life. If our life is getting better and better, it is only because of the internet. But as we know “too much of everything is bad”, we should have control over its use. Along with free internet data available, not only youths but most of the people are getting addicted to the internet and social media. Kids cannot stay away from online games, cartoon videos and new varieties of apps are also coming up which fascinates the young minds.Social media is gaining huge popularity day by day. It’s indeed a great idea to stay connected to friends, family, admirers, and well-wishers. Personally, I feel it’s a great platform to expand your knowledge and information base. It connects you to a group of like-minded people, using it we grow our business, increase our fan followers. We also get to know about day to day happenings. But, the excess use of social media leads to frustrations also. There is a kind of virtual competition going on. People are busy showing off that they can afford to visit foreign countries, can go to expensive hotels and can enjoy the most exotic holiday trips and at the same time busy uploading picture, to make others feel that “yes, I can afford and I am living such a lavish lifestyle.” Those people, who really can’t afford, feel sad and broken and it also makes them feel low. It gives them a chance to curse their destiny; it creates and spreads jealousy and narcissism among people. If we post something on social media then we expect more likes and comments and if there are more likes we feel like winners, if fewer likes and comments feel like losers. Somehow, it disturbs our mental peace. Yes, I have seen many teenagers struggling to get more likes, comments, and shares. After the addition of love, wow like emoticon buttons, there is competition to get more loves, wows. Is it a real life? We forget that this is not the taste of a real life.As per my observations on social media behavior I found there are a few types of social media users which can be divided into the following groups;Group-1 (The smart users): These types of people always love to give likes or comments if you look beautiful, smart, if you post pictures of your exotic holiday trips, get good jobs in big companies. Let me say, this is the reason you get more friends and it can also be the reason for losing some friends as they can't see you going, growing, or happy.Group-2 (The Genuine users): There are some people who always give likes and comments from their hearts being yours true and genuine admirers and they never hurt you. They can be the biggest supporters and friends.Group-3 (The Deliberate users): Some are there who prefer to give likes, loves, wows and comments as they expect you to do the same and it’s their sweet strategy to get more likes in return. They can be described as sweet “Like collectors & counters”.Group-4 (The Snobs): Some users are there who give likes and comments only when they find and think, “Oh, yes…this guy is of my level”. Otherwise, they don't care.Group-5 (The Moody users): There is a type of moody users group. They are so moody in this matter and you can't predict when you are going to get likes and comments from them. Group-6 (The Silent users): Another group of users is there who never give likes or comments and don’t bother even if you don’t give comments on their posts.Group-7 (The Jealous users): Some people knowingly avoid you only because “it is you” and they feel jealous of your followers, friends and the more likes and comments you get the more it makes them upset. Group-8 (The Selfish users): The selfish users are the true bargaining kind of people, “If you give likes, I will give likes, if you don’t, I won’t”. However, they start liking your posts like ‘your one and only friend’ and beautiful comments to make win your hearts. But, if they don’t get return likes or comments they just stop there.Group-9 (The Go with the flow users): Go with the flow users are very diplomatic. They give comments, likes, loves on your posts, pictures only when see and find your mutual friends giving you likes, loves, wows, then they can’t tolerate and even if they don’t like they give it only to go with the flow.Group-10 (The Game watchers): Last but not the least, the ‘Game watchers’ love to watch the game till the end. They just pause a bit, then wait and watch how your posts are performing in the ‘Like & Comments Game’. If your posts get more likes n comments then they decide to throw likes.The story doesn't end here. Many people are opening fake accounts and flirt with girls and start chatting with them. As everything has its pros and cons even social media has its own advantages and disadvantages. It is undoubtedly the biggest source of communication, interaction, entertainment or infotainment. It is used in a wrong way causing major issues. Cyberbullying, hurting each other and insulting people are very common these days. Teens are completely trapped by the momentary bliss social media gives. We are celebrating festivals, important days and throwing parties being obsessed with posting pictures and giving status updates by forgetting the actual purpose of the event. In this entire process, we people are getting puppets in the hands of technology and social media. It controls our emotions, it gives us pleasure, and our life is controlled by how many likes, loves, and wows we get. It is also creating frustrations among the youths as they see their friend going ahead, achieving success, going on foreign trips, spending holidays in posh hotels, buying luxurious cars and houses and they can’t do it. It makes them feel low and bad about themselves and their positions. But, they must understand that “all that glitters is not gold” and people do it only to show others. In the name of social media, we forget the actual relationships because we are so busy with this ‘virtual friendship’. As per a new study, we now spend more time on our smartphones than with our partner. While at home, we too remain busy with our smartphones, updating our status on social media and it’s like as if a puppet show is going on and we are the puppets in the hands of social media. Hence, we must understand the pros and cons of social media and it should be used to make our lives better not bitter. We should not be addicted to it. There are a lot of benefits from using these platforms. We can follow the news, can read good articles, and can keep in touch with friends and family who may be physically far away. But sometimes, we should take a break from it, just put the windows down, enjoy the fresh air, breathe, read some good books, do gardening, go for a walk, spend time with family & friends, play some outdoor games and do some charity work and it will give you the real pleasure of being with the real people. 

"The Puppet Show"
 Trupti Paikaray  
 14 March 2018  

What a beautiful life it was without the virtual reality headaches. Babloo with Golu calling Titu and Monu with other friends were rushing to the nearby fields to play cricket, volleyball, football, gilli danda and kabaddi. They were even so fond of sack race, cycling, hide and seek and a number of other exciting games not only to keep them entertained but also to stay fit and fine. Then, Babloo, Golu, and Titu were growing up playing various outdoor games, the games which need sharp mind, attention, keen intellect and alertness. They were also doing best in their studies and pursuing good careers. It is true that they didn’t know the magic of the computer and internet. If they were given such facility, nobody would have beaten them. Here, what I want to highlight that yes they were lacking a facility, but still, they were the go-getters, the trendsetters. With the advent of computer and internet life changed hugely. Nowadays, kids are ‘internet-babies’ and youth are ‘puppets’ in the hands of the internet. I don’t dare to say anything against internet and it has a lot of contribution to our life. If our life is getting better and better, it is only because of the internet. But as we know “too much of everything is bad”, we should have control over its use. Along with free internet data available, not only youths but most of the people are getting addicted to the internet and social media. Kids cannot stay away from online games, cartoon videos and new varieties of apps are also coming up which fascinates the young minds.Social media is gaining huge popularity day by day. It’s indeed a great idea to stay connected to friends, family, admirers, and well-wishers. Personally, I feel it’s a great platform to expand your knowledge and information base. It connects you to a group of like-minded people, using it we grow our business, increase our fan followers. We also get to know about day to day happenings. But, the excess use of social media leads to frustrations also. There is a kind of virtual competition going on. People are busy showing off that they can afford to visit foreign countries, go to expensive hotels and can enjoy the exotic holiday trips and at the same time busy uploading picture, to make others feel that “yes, I can afford and I am living such a lavish lifestyle.” Those people, who really can’t afford, feel sad and broken and it also makes them feel bad. It gives them a chance to curse their destiny; it creates and spreads jealousy and narcissism among people. If we post something on social media then we expect more likes and comments and if there are more likes we feel like winners, if fewer likes and comments feel like losers. Somehow, it disturbs our mental peace. Yes, I have seen many teenagers struggling to get more likes, comments, and shares. After the addition of love, wow like emoticon buttons, there is competition to get more loves, wows. Is it a real life? We forget that this is not the taste of a real life.As per my observations on social media behavior I found there are a few types of social media users which can be divided into the following groups;Group-1 (The smart users): These types of people always love to give likes or comments if you look beautiful, smart, if you post pictures of your exotic holiday trips, get good jobs in big companies. Let me say, this is the reason you get more friends and it can also be the reason for losing some friends as they can't see you going, growing, or happy.Group-2 (The Genuine users): There are some people who always give likes and comments from their hearts being yours true and genuine admirers and they never hurt you. They can be the biggest supporters and friends.Group-3 (The Deliberate users): Some are there who prefer to give likes, loves, wows and comments as they expect you to do the same and it’s their sweet strategy to get more likes in return. They can be described as sweet “Like collectors & counters”. Group-4 (The Snobs): Some users are there who give likes and comments only when they find and think, “Oh, yes…this guy is of my level”. Otherwise, they don't care.Group-5 (The Moody users): There is a type of moody users group. They are so moody in this matter and you can't predict when you are going to get likes and comments from them. Group-6 (The Silent users): Another group of users is there who never give likes or comments and don’t bother even if you don’t give likes, comments on their posts.Group-7 (The Jealous users): Some people knowingly avoid you, only because “it is you” and they feel jealous of you, your followers, friends and the more likes and comments you get the more it makes them upset. Group-8 (The Selfish users): The selfish users are the true bargaining kind of people, “If you give likes, I will give likes, if you don’t, I won’t”. However, they start liking your posts like ‘your one and only friend’ and beautiful comments to make win your hearts. But, if they don’t get return likes or comments they just stop there.Group-9 (The Go with the flow users): Go with the flow users are very diplomatic. They give comments, likes, loves on your posts, pictures only when see and find your mutual friends giving you likes, loves, wows, then they can’t tolerate and even if they don’t like they give it only to go with the flow.Group-10 (The Game watchers): Last but not the least, the ‘Game watchers’ love to watch the game till the end. They just pause a bit, then wait and watch how your posts are performing in the ‘Like & Comments Game’. If your posts get more likes n comments then they decide to throw likes. The story doesn't end here. Many people are opening fake accounts and flirt with girls and start chatting with them. As everything has its pros and cons even social media has its own advantages and disadvantages. It is undoubtedly the biggest source of communication, interaction, entertainment or infotainment. It is used in a wrong way causing major issues. Cyberbullying, hurting each other and insulting people are very common these days. Teens are completely trapped by the momentary bliss social media gives. We are celebrating festivals, important days and throwing parties being obsessed with posting pictures and giving status updates by forgetting the actual purpose of the event. In this entire process, we people are getting puppets in the hands of technology and social media. It controls our emotions, it gives us pleasure, and our life is controlled by how many likes, loves, and wows we get. It is also creating frustrations among the youths as they see their friend going ahead, achieving success, going on foreign trips, spending holidays in posh hotels, buying luxurious cars and houses and they can’t do it. It makes them feel low and bad about themselves and their positions. But, they must understand that “all that glitters is not gold” and people do it only to show others. In the name of social media, we forget the actual relationships because we are so busy with this ‘virtual friendship’. As per a new study, we now spend more time on our smartphones than with our partner. While at home, we too remain busy with our smartphones, updating our status on social media and it’s like as if a puppet show is going on and we are the puppets in the hands of social media. Hence, we must understand the pros and cons of social media and it should be used to make our lives better not bitter. We should not be addicted to it. There are a lot of benefits from using these platforms. We can follow social media news, can read good articles, and can keep in touch with friends and family who may be physically far away. But sometimes, we should take a break from it, just put the windows down, enjoy the fresh air, breathe, read some good books, do gardening, go for a walk, spend time with family & friends, play some outdoor games and do some charity work and it will give you the real pleasure of being with the real people.

BORN FREE TO LIVE IN A CAGE
 Padmini Ravindran  
 16 March 2018  

  All over the world, countries celebrate their independence day with great pride and gusto showcasing their strength and progress to be admired and awed by people. However, I wonder at times are we; human beings really free or liberated? Do we enjoy freedom in true sense? I’ll keep my thought process limited to India without going to the other parts of the world.Every human being according to me is free only at the time of birth. A baby has no worries about projecting the “right public image” and is happy doing anything and everything he wants to. As we grow, we are caged, shackled in many chains by the society- Social, cultural, emotional and lately technological.It starts when the baby (I’ll use ‘She’ as a pronoun as it encompasses ‘he’ too J!) is hardly a toddler. Parents love to show off his/her talents without any consideration for his/her moods and fancies. She has to sing or dance and entertain the relatives who are often least interested. Then there is a marathon for the best school in the city. The kid is again forced to mug up the likely questions to be asked at the interview, learn to behave in a certain manner at the age when she just wants to be left on her/his own.    Once at school the comparison starts with all the other children. Every parent wants the child to be the best - marvelling at studies, sports, debates and elocutions, arts, theatre, social etiquette and so on. In short she has to be a Superwoman, while the mothers sweat over every small detail like deciding what hobbies are “in”, what vitamin supplements to give the child for super-built body and extra-intelligent brain, what kind of clothes are in vogue for kids and so on. All advertisements put the pressure on parents to make a scientist/ doctor/ engineer or any professional (Please note that none off the advertisements think much of artists or farmersL! No wonders farmers have remained the most vulnerable lot in our “agrarian” economy for decades!). The harried parents, in turn pass on this frenzied madness on to their children. Every parent dreams of having a super successful child prodigy, irrespective of own talents that he has passed on in the child’s DNA at birth. We want our children to follow the career chart we have created for them taking in consideration the status, social acceptance, and money it will yield. What the child’s interests are is totally ignored.Once the school and college marathon is over and youth gets a plum job, then the other social pressures build up. A girl must learn to be graceful, super talented at juggling home and demanding career, must be having all the socially accepted attributes like – fair, tall, slim, social yet home-loving, educated yet sacrificing, modern yet with traditional values and the list is endless.This brings me to the fairness obsession in our country where most girls are bound to be wheat complexioned due to our geographic and climatic conditions. Having a dusky complexion is looked down upon and if you have a darker skin only God or fairness creams save you! I find the advertisements so ridiculous when a girl dreaming of a great career has to rely on fairness creams to prove her mettle! If she wants to remain single by choice then hell breaks loose. If she marries then her womanhood is not considered complete till she delivers a baby. Why I wonder, in a free country it becomes a privilege of all and sundry to barge into couple’s bedroom and discuss why are they not having kids and what could be wrong with them. Can we not let the parents decide when they want to bring in a life that is going to be their responsibility till they are alive?Men on the other hand are forced to bring home a handsome pay package and comparisons of how much comforts and luxury a neighbour can afford to give his wife vis- a -vis the poor husband becomes a main topic of contention. Once they become parents they too merrily join the same rat race that their parents had joined to ruin them.These are some of the socio-cultural shackles I strongly feel about. Emotional shackles too are somewhat intertwined in these as usually our Indian society loves to emotionally blackmail their loved ones to follow their commands. Log kya kahenge is the most dangerous epidemic that has been afflicted by Asian psyche. Social approval is a bug that has bitten all of us. Imagine the emotional state of a young girl when she is more than often rejected because she is NOT fair, slim or beautiful. She is most often an easy prey to depression. I wonder why we give so much importance to external attributes while totally ignoring the more important ones like nature, intelligence, compatibility etc. in a life partner. Are we shopping here for a curio to beautify home or wanting someone with whom we can share our lives! And same things go for men too - what with markets flooded with anti-balding treatments and all those fairness creams for men? He too is expected to earn well, be qualified with the most lucrative degree, have a macho figure etc. I often hear young girls asking for well sculpted men as their life partners. SO now the fire has reached even the other side of the society. At a young age he’s expected to offer all the comforts and luxuries when he’s still building his career!Added to all these cages, the worst shackle is the technology. We think human being created technology for comforts but today it has totally backfired on us impacting every aspect of the society. Just look around and see for yourself what have smart phones done to our lives! The downfall that started with the idiot box and further fuelled with the internet has been completed by the smart phones. Phones are getting smarter and humans are getting dumber. I’ve nothing against technology and if used sensibly it can be a great boon. We can now reach the entire world in a split second. Emails have become a passé with the advent of other more powerful and faster means of communication. Often Facebook and twitter has helped in reuniting people or in sending across a useful message. Today I too am saying what I feel thanks to this technology. We can surely not ignore the good things. However, we can’t turn a blind eye to the damage it does to our most profound institutions of marriage, family and society as a whole.  Families are fast disintegrating today as each one is happy to be in his on anda cell created by his Laptop, smart phone, personal TV or a tablet, and is constantly in his world with his headsets on. Cheating in marriages has never been so rampant and easy with the right to privacy. Virtual affairs ruin many marriages as one doesn’t understand that virtual love is bound to appear “perfect” and it’s only when you actually start life together you need to adjust and understand. Recently, a study revealed how social skills are being affected in this generation that spends most of its time in the virtual world. Family time is unheard of with each one immersed in his on virtual world. We forget that though wired from all sides we are not robots but human beings who are bound to need emotions like warmth, love and touch to thrive. The older generation who is not very tech savvy feels the brunt the most. They are mostly treated like a piece of furniture. The youth has no connect with parents leave alone grandparents. In our desire to connect across miles we have been disconnected from our own family.Family outings, dinners and gatherings do happen surprisingly even today but the most time and attention is hogged by these smart phones. Family time has become a joke with each member immersed in one’s cell phone- exchanging messages. Checking face book updates, updating status and so on.The family vacations are more for clicking selfies and check-ins to let the whole world on social media know the exotic place one is heading to. There have been many stand up comedies, what’s app forwards and tongue in cheek cartoons aimed at this but I feel we are quick to ignore these warning bells and laugh it off merely as a humour. So many have lost lives clicking selfies at dangerous spots but we are too slow to understand the implications. Are we really a generation of dimwits and our cell phones smarter than us? Only God save us in such situation…!All pictures Courtesy- https://unsplash.com

Book Review : A Stoic's Diary
 Swapna Peri  
 24 March 2018  

What is Stoicism?Stoicism is an ancient Greek philosophy developed around 300 B.C. as a modification of Cynicism which teaches the development of self-control and courage by fighting destructive emotions. It is not just a set of beliefs but a way of life with practice and including the logic mostly. Soliloquy and a kind of meditation aimed at training one's attention to remain in the present moment is the main characteristic. No wonder it’s not more popular. No wonder the Stoic sage, in Western culture, has never obtained the popularity of the Zen master. Even though Stoicism is far more accessible, not only does it lack the exotic mystique of Eastern practice; it’s also regarded as a philosophy of merely breaking even while remaining determinedly impassive. What this attitude ignores is the promise proffered by Stoicism of lasting transcendence and imperturbable tranquility.It ignores gratitude, too. This is part of the tranquility, because it’s what makes the tranquility possible. Stoicism is, as much as anything, a philosophy of gratitude – and a gratitude, moreover, rugged enough to endure anything.About the book:The title of the book ' A Stoic's Diary '  is very  attention capturing and new. The book cover is very subtle and doesn't talk much about the book. The art of Stoicism is briefly yet illustratively and practically is explained in the book. The concept of mind maps and looking at a problem in different dimensions is observed as the main concept in the book. Self awareness, self help, will power and perseverance are explained in a beautiful manner. One of its kind of a book in the field of Stoicism. Kudos to the author.

PRAVAAH : THE MOTION OF WATER
 Gunika Grover  
 26 March 2018  
Art

The Flux, the change in flow, in current, movement, in moments of life.Humans are forever stuck in the hyperboles of their own imaginations and expressions. To relate to a metaphysical hydraulogical phenomenon is to experience life through the flow of water. The structural capacity of water is that of a fluid. The fluid, unlike oil, which makes breathe; unlike acid,which saves more, corrodes less.Water hence, provides a lesson for the pravaah(flow) we all need in healthy living. To endure, collect and proceed…   Flow through life with a sense of fluidity,taking shape to the circumstancesthat create the person you are meant to be. When an object traverses through universe in due time,kinetic, potential, stored, all of which, caused by the movement of the substance nurtures energy. Flowing water is a form of energy. Yes, the world has progressed in utilising the hydel power and hydraulic stations, the polities and economies of some countries revolve around them. Where the amazon rainforest has been dependent on existing reserves of hydropower, China produces 856 kw hydroelectric power annually. However I wish to highlight the intellect behind this energy of water. Sparkling Water? The moment it touches your throat, it flows through the surface that existed, erodes the friction and calms your being. When we think of the energy in stored glaciers and bottles, it almost feels solid. Contained. Abstained. So much so that whence we experience a natural or a virtual flow, it teleports us to a place of serenity and tranquility. The moment the shower spouts water on your head, the sense of thirst for peace and refreshment is enlightened. Be an ever flowing river and dance through life,flowing beautifully from one place to another.Glide to the destination of life that awaits. If we indulge in mind mapping, we would realise this phenomenon in depth, as to how our thoughts too are a flow of emotions and ideas. To surpass a phase in life, to move on, we must attempt to not stay put, but move. It is funny how for how people who worship the still water. For it is in a constant state of departure, while still arriving. We realise action when it is at position of unrest. Now it can be when the cloud rains pour, brooks babble across banks and produce froth or even then when see a tear roll down the cheek. It creates a moment of unsteadiness. And also a moment to not to stop. life is like river rapids, strong and powerful.times, we must know when to paddle gentlythrough a slow-moving stream.Wherever you are in your present practice and life,be mindful as to what fluidity your mind and body is craving. Water is the mother of fire and on earth only do we preside.Out of the three elements in existence, water, in my opinion holds the strongest and the most integrated position. I have seen my work and toil fall and turn into rubble within nanoseconds, I have seen alive beings burn to ashes. I didn’t have much to take from my grandfather after he expired, but his teachings on finding the flow stuck to my heart. Next time when you’re stuck in a puddle or a storm, remember to be like the flowing water. Remember to have a pravaah.

Relationships Today
 Preeti Tal  
 27 March 2018  

What are relationships today? Search your soul and give the answer. I bet you will pick up your Apple or Blackberry to search for the answer. Wish apple and blackberry  had just been fruits instead of laptops and mobiles. Your first instinct would  be to google the answer. But you needn't do that you just have to search within you and you know the right answer. Life today is full of cares and worries .We are in the rat race just to achieve  our goals. What are those goals? A good education  from a elite institution, a high profile job, a comfortable  lifestyle, a financially strong life partner and the perfect,high achiever kids. So to procure all this we are multitasking. There is no time to stand and stare. Conversations  have become  texts, arguments have become   phone  calls  and feelings  have become  status updates. when you are lonely and you need  a shoulder, you call up your loved ones. But today they are devoid of time and each emotion is shared with  an emoticon. If you are happy and you tell your friends  and relatives, they encourage you with a ☺, if you are 😔, if you are 😕 .Relationships  are all about emoticons. No one has the time to socialize  but virtually  we know about each others lives with Social Status  Updates. Which only take seconds updating you about marriages, breakups, hospital visits, birthdays and so on. The true emotions  have been lost, we are technogeeks and technoslaves. In one word  Relationships  are robotic emotions. #smblogcontest

Book Review: SOLITUDE and other OBSESSIONS
 Shivangi Rawat  
 28 March 2018  

ReviewSOLITUDE and other OBSESSIONS is a thoughts and imagination treasury of Uma, Binod, Trupti, Shruti and Saurin. All the five poets have done an amazing work, they have compiled 73 poems in totals that reflect the emotions and feelings.A human mind is always preoccupied with various and numerous thoughts. From man to woman, boy to girl, minor to stripling every humankind is indulged with obsession, some people refrain but some they cant and become obsessed.Poems in the garner have a high and rich vocabulary, themes of the poem are multifarious. Poetry is something that has a power to control the mind, I was enjoying reading these poems on various topics, the book is full of awestruck and awesome pieces of poems of poets. Some of my personal favorite from this pile is Binod Panda's collection every poem has a story behind even years are mentioned, Life: With A smile amazing, Two to Tango, Who Am I, Send Me, Flute, The Light Princess, and In A Lap Of Death are few titles touched my soul.Title and cover both didn't make a place in my heart, but yes poems have left the print in my heart!Highly recommended to all the poetry lovers.4/5 startsBlurbWe are a species fueled by obsessions. Every human achievement, and every infamy, is the result of an obsession that tormented, possessed and consumed. This is a selection of poetry about solitude and other obsessions that have distracted, driven, destroyed and / or defined us. Spanning genres, styles, emotions, time & place, these works by a collective of 5 poets are a glimpse into the obsessions that have become us.All about the five Authors"Uma Sudhindra grew up in an army environment. After a decade-and-half of corporate life, she became an entrepreneur and has remained one. She loves books, music, travel & the Armed Forces. Her entrepreneurial venture Go Magic Trails reflects her passion for travel and experiencing the new & unique.She's co-founded I'm Every Woman, an NGO for women empowerment. Their flagship initiative, DURGA India, has worked tirelessly with communities, corporates & government to create safer spaces for women & children.Binod Kumar Panda is the classic mix of left-brain, right-brain. Gregarious and charming, he's an engineer and MBA with a hugely successful corporate, entrepreneurial and consulting career.His school and college years though were spent in the company of solitude and like-minded friends that resulted in thought provoking poetry.Trupti Kalamdani is a mechanical engineer by profession who investigates stresses developed on an aircraft body at work; while at home, releases her stress by penning down a few lines.Her tryst with poetry started during her school days, when she expressed her undying love for cricket in the form of a poem. Over the years, her limericks have grown into full bodied verses. A closet poet for years, she is finally out and exploring different platforms to share her work.Her poems have been published in literary journals like efiction India, Taj Mahal Review and Coffee Shop Poems. She is also a regular performer at ""Let Poetry Be"" events at Atta Galatta.Dr. Shruti Arabatti comes with a mature head over drooping arms and a mind ticking faster than an exploding bomb. Like her namesake, she is an orchestrated person living in a discordant cadence. She manages to hit all the right notes amidst all the gobbledygook yelping by her adorable preschooler.Saurin Desai's first love led to a roaring affair that's ongoing now since nearly 30 years. At the innocent age of 8 he met a comic book that whacked him on the head (pun intended) and he fell heels-over-head, literally (pun not intended).But being commitment-phobic, he had a couple of dalliances: with engineering, jobs & businesses, before succumbing to the seduction of the writer's life and giving up everything to become lazier than he ever was.About BookPaperback: 128 pagesPublisher: Notion Press,Language: English.

SIGHT and ACTION.
 Gunika Grover  
 28 March 2018  

Maps And Mother Goddesses in Modern India”,Imago Mundi, Vol 53 pp. 97-11by Sumathy Ramaswamy; “Death of a Kotwal”, The Caste Question pp.241-264 by Anupama RaoThe scales of shapes and skills remain balanced so long there is a constant urge to take action through acts and thoughts. Borrowing evidences from the texts from The Death of A Kotwal and Maps and Mother Goddesses of India, this paper argues how bodies produce knowledge. It lurks around the former where an innocent Kotwal is bludgeoned to death and the latter provides for a bodyscape which helped unite India. This paper reflects how irrespective of the existence of materials, constant interactions in the society can lead to formation of perceptions and abstractions. NON LIVING PARTICIPATION IN ACTIONBodies are known to be the hub for interactions and debates. Apart from their physical realities, in a rut to fight and provide evidence, humans intensify the meaning of the non-existential bodies to make them exist. Rao, in her paper explains the helplessness of the family and the Dalit community after Sawane’s virtual corpse is put under the eyes of the law. The case expedites when it is scrutinized deeply and Rao mentions, “The addition of the PCR Act’s Section 3(x)was mandatory and signaled that the case merited extra care as an atrocity”(243). The idea of the investigation of a dead body by another body in power(legislation) sensationalized the tiff in hand.This case was chalked out as an exception from all of the Anti-Dalit discriminations, because of its gruesome severity. Ramaswamy supporting this argument in her essasy argues reflects how soma (body) of a woman can be utilized for representing a map, to awaken the depressed patriots of India. She says, “These gendered bodyscapes also enable the viewing of the nation’s territory possessively, even pleasurably”(109). Considering maps of margins and boundaries incapable of provocation of any belongingness, she intensifies the need and power of embodiment. Such bodyscapes hence acted like moderators between different ideologies to brew a collective revolution.Man’s constant attempt to question and frame an individual to gain attention has made his instinct for differing between the real and unreal blind. The once real, body of the Kotwal and the virtual Mother India, both created by man are not hotplate for discussion and representations.STRUCTURES TO ABSTRACTIONSBodies are meant to provide a structure and materialize the abstractions. However their state of living existence may be, bodies never cease to engender knowledge and awareness. When put under a magnifying glass of human perceptions, one views different from the other. Rao expresses how the location of the village was harmless yet a catastrophe occurred. As the case progressed it was found out that apart from being Dalit and follower of Ambedkar, he was also the gate keeper for his area. Rao writes, “Living outside the village boundaries, the mahar veskar is the outsider figure who protects the integrity of the village social unit” (258). Sawane wasn’t only a material body, but upon his death,a lot of humanity and responsibilities failed which remained unnoticed.Sumathy Ramaswamy too expresses how blank cartographical representations of their progressing nation once looked at differently, livened up. The body of the mother goddess as a map now, calls for national urge to freedom. She writes “They invite the citizen subject who gazes upon them to relate the nation not as some abstract, dead geographical space but as a near and dear person, his personal goddess, his vulnerable mother, even a beloved lover “(110). One couldn’t have imagined the power of abstract images with bodies to shake the restlessness in the nation and make them aware about their surroundings. These perceptions help build studies of knowledge and emotion amongst people who are witnessing the action. Hence to attain the key of all the knowledge of interest from a body, one must seep through all the roots of the body and decipher all its actions and emotions it represent for others before making quick judgments. It is only then when our deductions will surpass the normal overview of bodies, that we will take a leap into the world of actual reality.KNOWLEDGE EXCHANGES ON THE BASIS OF PERCEPTIONSCo-existing with other humans in the universe leads to various perceptions and ideas to be built around the body. The way he moves, his actions, his speech, all comes into consideration when there is an observer or listener who symbolizes his being with respect to own life. On one hand, Rao reflects the importance of politics in the society, on the other,Ramaswamy talks about the status of the female community through her work. The latter writes on behalf of many and says “feminist geographers have suggested that the conception of the nation as cartographically female enables a ‘masculinist’ relationship to the place”(109).In their purview, such kind of bodyscaping was centralized so men could join arms and perform righteous duties towards the vulnerable mother nation. On a similar note, Rao reflects how ideas taken from the perception of Dalit communities and Ambedkar’s role as a political leader helped shape the judgment. She resounds the case progressions and says, “Kharkov distinguished two forms of phenomenal violence: new violent caste social displayed in conflict around Ambedkar statue and retaliatory counter violence that reinstated Dalits’ stigmatized status” (255). This knowledge became crucial in understanding and refining the position of the Dalit kotwal and his ambition of constructing a statue of Ambedkar. The distress of the Dalit community and their political representative from the past, would not have come under notice if there was no action amidst communities. The analysis that came in effect after continuous actions and perceptions made in societies would not have been produced without the continuous expulsion of knowledge from the bodies. It is due to such their status in the society and such symbolic representations, that we can extrapolate their relationships and achievements in the past.Humans, often involuntarily make decisions keeping in mind other people’s existence in their life and their effects. As goes their anatomy, knowledge can never be separated alone from the way they occupy space. This space however need not be tangible or visible, for what matters more is the influence created by it. By their own will, the bodies spout a river of emotions and actions in due course of their life. As they interact, the by products become adaptable and appreciable by the people over who he has the influence. Now this influence can be used to target a set of people or a notion, it can be used as a boon or a bay, or a tool or weapon. These assumptions about perceptions, extraction of reality from abstractions too are caused by an exchange in ideas and thoughts over time in space. Hence so I believe that bodies are more than occupants of the earth, they exceed their limits and become unique walls of creative knowledge. 

Book: ILA IS ONLINE – Preeti Vayada
 Kiran Kumar Adharapuram  
 29 March 2018  

Blurb:All mothers dream of their sons getting married, having children in a couple of years, and living happily ever after. But my dream was shattered into pieces, not to mention that it was because of a reason I cannot talk about in public.Well, after much thought and careful consideration, I have come to the realisation that it is not all over. Varun will get married. This time I will double check. Sameer told me that staying ‘Active’ on Facebook can help.The only problem is that I don’t know how to use Facebook. But how difficult can it be? If I can operate the washing machine and the smart TV, Facebook cannot be much harder. After all, Varun’s future at stake – and my name in society.Intrigue:“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.” – This is the crux of this book.This is the story of “Ilaben Patel” conservative mother who wish to get his son varun married to Aakruthi which calls off due to strange circumstances ends her into the social media vicious circle.What’s next,Could she subsist the concomitant of the social media infirmity ?What decision Ila took in addressing those aftermath?Did Varun get married ?My Review:Blurb hints the essence of social media which is supported by Splendid book cover (Facebook blue background) with a marriage procession horse and a chat text “Ila is online”, this is not the story of protagonist Ila rather its a anecdote of every mother Whose children are already trapped amidst the evils of social media. I cant stop appreciating the author who picked up this idea. Every sentence explains the agony of mother of techno-freak kids. This book is first person(Ila) narration with a dash of comical aspect. Author never missed the theme of chucklesome in the entire plot. Characters are very well illustrated.Author conveyed different angle of motherhood of extant society. Its a different approach in conveying message to the readers. Undoubtedly this is a reference manual for the present day fraternity mothers.“I saw my mother in Ilaben Patel” – I hope that consolidatesI rate “ILA IS ONLINE – Preeti Vayada” a 4.5/5 which carries powerful message,humour, motherhood emotions, family bonding and desi style. Its worth reading as this is of different genre and you will never feel bored. Believe me you will never regret reading this treatise.RegardsKiran K Adharapuram

TELL ME WHAT YOU SEE?
 Gunika Grover  
 4 April 2018  

Mirror, Mirror on the wall. Who’s the fairest of them all?Fairy tale to Fiction logue, all have been a proof of experiential thoughts to which a human mind can exercise imagination and bring it to reality.Out of many such virtually realistic ideas, how humans perceive themselves to be is a whole stream of consciousness. Especially when it comes to the subject of personalities, history is evident of humans going to unparalleled stretches to satisfy a set paradigm of looks, intelligence and emotions. One of the most staunch realities of people trying to fit in the ‘convention’ that they set for themselves, exist in the track record of how people perceive the image of their Bodies. The most fascinating fact is that unlike in situations where the question is “how is my dress today?”, in body image issues, the questions change to, “how am I today?”. And there in minutes to change words and thoughts, they start doubting not the material but their existence and what they represent to the outer world. This in turn portrays how they think of themselves as this constant representation of the Self leads to a situation of mirror surroundings and influence how they feel about themselves.Body image consciousness is a phenomenon which occurs mostly when there becomes a certain concern extra concern for the individual outside than the individual inside. Over due course of time people have encountered numerous methods of tackling these issues. Sometimes they stem from the standards set by the society, sometimes they rise up out of self expectation. Few industries, majorly Fashion and the cinema industry, have seen individuals going to lengths to deal with body image issues and how they want to be perceived in this industry. Because of the rise of show biz, it became important for people to feel good, show good and take care of their bodies. The industry itself has putten up standards and stereotypes on beauty, talent and style. Through which the stars gaining up to fame and being in the eyes of a larger audience was integral to their performance. Many of these stars had influences in the public so much so, that they wanted to adopt their lifestyle and profess their style of living and thinking.Some well known artists and celebrities in the Indian cinema industries have adopted various ideologies and they have different perceptions on this issue and here are few examples.SRIDEVIEVERGREEN BEAUTYThe late actress was said to always be in her glorified young years even after surpassing her young adult age and contributing decades of marvellous works to the film industry. Sri Devi hammered claims saying that ladies more than 40 should take care of themselves and do what makes them attractive. In spite of the fact that her fans view her as an evergreen delight since her flicks like Naagin and Mr. India , the on-screen character has had an extremely nose job and botox besides the face-lifting and body-tucking surgery done. KAREENA KAPOOR KHAN THE CULTURE  PULLS ME INThe performing artist, who brought the unattainable size zero fever in drift, has always been blessed with good looks and features. Even after following dietary restrictions and having strict workout regimes, Kapoor blames her Punjabi culture for being a foodie and her natural instinct towards north Indian delicacies.In an interview for a leading magazine she says, "I don’t know how the size-zero thing started—but I was only 27 and I wanted to do it for a role. It looked amazing, but that was then. I’ve been in the business for a long time since, and I’m more mature—now, it’s about being fit. I’m definitely comfortable in my skin right now” SHILPA SHETTYFIT IN FIFTYShe unquestionably is synonymous to wellness in our nation. After being Recognised as one of the top selling fitness freak actors, Shilpa with her faultless skin, slim midriff, idealize bends and thick hair make her a universal top choice. She claims that her idea of self fitness and hygiene is driven by the motivation of looking at her best at her 50.There have been many such perspectives from the other sides of the gender and industry spectrum, but these were few of the most influential ones. They set the trend for any new style by making it their own and producing a sense of aesthetic with it. Be it as a response to the media or social changes, One’s wellness should be the top priority, both physical and mental.In the end the question should be,Mirror on the wall, who’s the most themselves of them all?  

Aislin Fall, a poet and photographer
 StoryMirror Feed  
 18 April 2018  

StoryMirror interviewed Aislin Fall, a 25 years old maker of things. Writer. Photographer. Poet. Compulsive traveller. Joy Seeker. Knowledge sponge. PNW born and bred.Here is what she has to say.Q. Tell us about you and your background.I guess I was born and then a lot of things happened and I ended up where I am now.I'm from British Columbia, Canada. I was 16 when I started taking photographs using my dad's camera. I was really obsessed with fashion photography for a long time and was always making my friends crawl into bushes and peer from behind blooming branches and once, I made my best friend carry a small wooden giraffe around her neighbourhood. Eventually, I started photographing models in the suburbs and beautiful landscapes wearing lots of different clothes. Eventually, I stopped photographing models anywhere. These past few years, I've become more drawn to taking pictures that document life as I see it, which usually fits in the category of travel and portrait photography with a tinge of adventure and lifestyle. I still shoot fashion sometimes but it's not my main focus.Photoshop came before photography for me and by the time I picked up my first camera, I was already dabbling in graphic design and photomanipulation. I fell in love with retouching as I transitioned into fashion photography and I worked as a retoucher for a few years. I don't retouch professionally any longer. I like being outside more than I like being on a computer these days.Travel has been the dominant force in my life for the past four years, although I did travel a lot with my family while growing up. I am usually in a state of going somewhere. I haven't had a "home" for more than a few months in a long time.Q. What is your life's greatest passion? What inspires you? I think life itself is my greatest passion—life and all the things it encompasses. The swell and swoon and pull and press of existence. The miracle of existing at all. The hope is to be as fully present and here in this moment. It's strange how something so simple can be so hard sometimes! How easy to get lost in your head—to stop listening to footfall of passing strangers, trills of birds, pulse of water. So my greatest passion is life and from there, everything else flows. I have been a maker ever since I was little—drawing, writing, forming stories—and the process of creating is a huge passion of mine. Nowadays, it takes the shape of photography and poetry. I grew up travelling the west coast of North America with my family and in my 20s, I've spent a lot of time on the road in Canada, USA, Europe, Southeast Asia, Australia, and New Zealand. Travelling is definitely one of the other great loves of my life.But they are all so wound together. Photography, writing, travelling—they're all giant pieces of this life of mine. They're how I think and feel and experience. Life gives me inspiration and then I take that and make these things with it.Life inspires me, the world inspires me, relationships inspire me, art inspires me, emotions inspire me, light inspires me. Since I'm mostly photographing my life as I experience it, I just look for moments.Q. Take us through your work. I shoot people and places. I catch real moments and pull them through my perspective until they feel like me. I get my fingerprints on everything. I'm not one of those photographers who doesn't like to modify things (though if you are, that's fine). I see things as malleable. I love Photoshop.My work is me; my work is my life. It's the fleeting instant that I got my fingers around. It's a record of where I've been and what I've felt. The roads I've walked down, the people I've loved, the sunrises I've seen, the glimmers of light that took my breath away.It's travel or landscape or documentary or lifestyle or portrait or whatever.WhistlerUSATessTasmaniaTasmaniaSydneyScotlandPortoMaiteIrelandIrelandIrelandhowthhollandCanadaBeeAusAthensAthensQ. Can you share with us a 'behind-the-scene' memory of yours that has stood out the most? Back in October, at the beginning of this last backpacking trip in Europe, I went to the Acropolis in Athens for sunrise. I watched the twinkle of dawn wash over the ancient streets of the city and observed the quiet blue of night transform into brilliant, shining light. It was one of those times when you look around at your life and feel all the decisions that brought there to that specific, remarkable, precious point. A blink of overwhelming gratitude.During the day, Acropolis is a swarming beehive of human beings. There are so many people. But when the gates first open in the morning—right before the sun rises, it's nearly empty. There were only two or three other people there when I watched the dawn awaken the city. It was so private and personal, witnessing the sun crest over the mountains, pull the shadows long and far over the ruins.Q. Is there an achievement or contribution that you are most proud of?I have been to 25 countries in 25 years, and while that's not a "career" oriented "achievement," it's a personal achievement. I'm immensely proud of this life that I've carved for myself. I have seen so much and it's truly shaped me.Q. What is your life's philosophy?Love and interconnectivity. Be kind and compassionate towards everything—other humans, animals, the planet, yourself. We are all so tied together. Our actions matter.Q. If you could give a message to all the 20 year olds of the world, what would it be?Be patient. Remember that you are not your emotions. Gratitude is the key. Emotions are passing clouds in the sky—they are things that you experience but they are not your identity so don't be consumed by them or think that they're your truth. Patience because all things take time and it's really hard to really know who you are or what you want at 20. It's important to give yourself room to grow and discover and make mistakes. I view the 20s as being a massive opportunity for learning. Training your mind to practice gratitude has the potential to change everything.Q. How do you want to see yourself 5 years from now?Happy and fulfilled, though that's the aim for every single day and not the destination. I'd like to be sustaining an income from my photography and writing, and still engaged in creative projects that excite me. I hope to have more of a "home" in five years but still travelling a lot with at least another ten new countries checked off my list!Check out her website, blog and instagram.

@ Keyword in life @
 Pallabi Das  
 7 May 2018  

In programming language there are lots of keywords like in "Java" 50 reserved words are there, 32 in "C" programming language and another 30 reserved words are for C++. But in life there is a very powerful keyword present, guess what it would be! Which plays a very important role in our day to day life.i. e-"SORRY".Sorry is used as a polite way of asking someone to excuse you for having done something that might have annoyed the person.If someone scolding you in a very loud voice and he/she didn't give a chance to explain properly then you should let them speak for a moment until they speak out their issues. Feel like this, who are talking in a louder voice by dominating others then there must be some serious issues in their life, they might be in pain or suffering some problems, to hide their emotions they are taking the help of a louder style. Keep quiet and listen to their thoughts, if they are nonstop then just apply a trick by saying sorry then they must pause for a while and you should take chance at that time and start your words. Make sure your every word are polite which give them relax like medicine. Even if they are wrong and you are right you should give them a chance to speak out, when they get relax take a break and tell all the things. If they don't understand then give them time for realizing. If still, they do not understand the thing, then don't think so much and leave that topic by saying sorry. Keep your ego in your pocket and try to spread happiness. Life is too short, there is no place for all negative words. Try to smile and make everyone smile.

Directionless Youth of our country
 Ayush Mathur  
 12 June 2018  

Today, India is one of the most populous countries in the world, out of which most of the population is youth. Youth percentage in India is more than 50%, young people are full of abundant energy, courage, a spirit of adventure, imagination, hope, and ambition. The young men and women of India should be fully involved and creative work of nation-building and reconstruction. The younger generation, which is more generous, flexible, sensitive and dynamic, can do wonders if properly guided and motivated. In fact, the Youth is the future of India. In our country, children always taught by their parents and elders from their childhood to score good marks and be competitive and practical in life, despite of teaching them life lessons about kindness, loyalty, humbleness, helping others, etc instead of that they were taught to be mean, self centered, money-minded etc. In schools, they just got bounded and trapped between walls that just teach them to study as it is whatever it is written in the book, they don't have any practical knowledge about how the world works, how to behave, how to react in difficult situations of life, how to get rid from the unwanted problems. They don't have direction in life, they are just blindly following each other like a flock of sheep. Most of the youth are not aware of what is right and what's wrong, they are in the age where their extreme emotions can turn them into completely different individuals. They start drugs in very young age because of peer pressure and then became an addict with the passage of time. Their Brain stops working after reaching at one point when they completely dissolve themselves in the addiction. We can take the example of Punjab, where 90% of its total youth population was drug addict once, they even don't get bothered by their families, relatives etc.  But all these reflect one-sidedness and lack of proper understanding on the part of the elders and grown-ups. The lifestyles youngsters adopt today are chosen either out of curiosity , peer pressure or fashion, alternatively stress, anxiety, and frustration drive them onto these paths. What is even more alarming is that the attraction of today's youth is no longer for ciggerate, tobacco, alcohol. These are now termed as soft items. The "in" things are cocaine, heroin, brown sugar which are so called as stress buster. Besides it, most of the young generation are living meaningless lives, they don't have any ambition or motives in their lives, they don't have dreams. They don't want chase success they are just living in a parallel universe where they just wanted that everything should work according to them. The time is declining very rapidly and now it's the time that they must realise that life won't work like this, they have to came out from the black hole that is attracting them everyday as soon as possible. They have to realise the meaning and importance of their life. They have to direction their lives in a particular way. The future of our country totally relies on the youth, they have to stop wasting their precious time and lives in drugs.

Book Review: For A Girl In A Star By Ratna Chandu
 Ayushi A Nair  
 13 June 2018  

For A Girl In A Star is written by Ratna Chandu.Book Title: For A Girl In A StarAuthor: Ratna ChanduFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 224Language: EnglishPublisher: Srishti Publishers & DistributorsPublishing Date: 10 February 2018ISBN-10: 9387022153ISBN-13: 978-9387022157What do you do when your best friend – the one person who has stood byyou through thick and thin, knows you better than you know yourself, andliterally saved your life – falls in love with the same girl as you?Avinash and Sahas, two village boys, arrive in Bangalore in search of art andin pursuit of ambition. Sahas, hardworking and nervous, antonym to hisfriend, has emerged from a troubled past only to find that his future doesn’tcome without encumbrances. Their friendship is the one constant in thetwo boys’ lives, but that is tested when they each meet Aarti – a mysterious,compassionate, beautiful girl who captures both their imaginations andsets their hearts aflame.Will their passion for the same girl, and an untimely tragedy, sunder the twofriends forever?A compelling tale with twists and turns reminiscent of India’s melodramaticfilms, For a Girl in a Star deals with the age–old staples of young love, heartbreak, and what it means to be a true friend.Starting from the cover is eye catching. It’s not only the design work but also the substance of the Story as well. Just look at the design, there is a couple and a guy which is going away from the couple. The view is simply amazing. The title of the novel is thoughtful, and completely justifying the story. They complement each other well and also is according to the story, so it’s a perfect combination.The story revolves on love triangle with the lives main protagonist Avinash (Avi), Sahas and Aarti. Avi & Sahas, both belonged to the same village Agumbe. Since their early childhood, they were the best buddies of each other and the depth of their friendship was beyond of any imagination. Since the time Avi saved Sahas’s life from drowning in his childhood, Sahas devoted his unconditional friendship to him and soon with time, their bond became inseparable. Aarti was a girl, full of life, with a caring and sensible heart, mature thoughts and kind nature. Her beauty of heart got reflected in her outer appearance also.Aarti and Sahas are in the same college. With continuous interactions, and close encounters, even a shy personality like Sahas also had fallen head over hills for Aarti, but due to lack of courage, he could not get the chance to express his true feelings in front of Aarti. Aarti considered Sahas as a very good & genuine close friend, but she was unaware completely about the feelings of Sahas for her.Sleep felt like a faraway dream since he meet her…Destiny made Avi too crossed his path with Aarti suddenly in an awkward situation, and soon after the first sight, Avi noticed the actually inner beauty of that Aarti possessed and curiosity stuck him. Not one time, but frequently, and after a point, Avi got the chance to interact with Aarti directly. Though their initial interactions was one sided, but soon, after realizing the talent of Avi, and seeing the mesmerizing art of Avi, and his inner simplicity of heart, she started to admire him. With time, they got very close to each other and love blossomed inside the heart of both of them. Even their love for each other made them to take a step further.It is the destiny which turns out to be so cruel that it brings so much misunderstanding in the life of two childhood friends who fall in love with the same girl. It happens in movies that two boys of different worlds find one girl and fall in love with. Talk about coincidence but it happens with these childhood friends. And of course, this love-triangle drives a wedge between them. The story revolves around their struggles and the way they cope up with grief and situations.The story makes you smile in the first half and leaves you sobbing in the second half, the story is narrated in such a manner that everything you read can be visualized.Life sometimes throws you encounters only to leave you indelible memoriesLanguage is simple and lucid to read and connect with the story and being engaged throughout the story.  Characters are also clearly justified to their respective roles and all of the characters mentioned in the book have been portrayed in such a way, that any reader will be able to connect with the characters effortlessly and live the journey with them. It’s a combination of emotions, revenge, friendship, realization, redemption, love, true love, pain, joy, happiness, laughter, family, fate & many other elements infused together. However, the editing errors including spelling and grammatical errors are numerous.  I had learned the true meaning of friendship from the book.Recommended to all bibliophiles.Overall 5/5 StarsAbout the AuthorRatna Chandu was born and brought up in Hyderabad and did her engineering in mechanical. Having worked as a Personality Development Trainer for four years, she gave up her job to be a full-time writer. She’s a voracious reader, an artist and a yoga freak. When she isn’t reading or writing, she tries her hand at varied culinary, the activity that helps her unwind and works as a therapy. Currently, she’s residing in Pune with her husband and son.

Book Review: Come Back To Leave Me… Again By Sohil Ashvin Shah
 Ayushi A Nair  
 13 June 2018  

Come back to leave me… again is the debut novel which is inspired from his real life incidents and his own fantasies written by Sohil Ashvin Shah is a romantic thriller. It’s an combination of emotions friendship, love, relations, heartbreak, dreams and reality.Book Title: Come Back to Leave Me… AgainAuthor: Sohil Ashvin ShahFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 216Publisher: Power-PublishersPublishing Date: 16th April 2017ISBN-10: 9384334839ISBN-13: 978-9384334833Why does the love always seem beautiful in romantic movies and novels, but not in real life? Why should lovers not be in any relationship after they break up? Why do ex-lovers always try to deal with damages instead of staying together? If you want answers to the questions, this book is for you.Starting from the cover to the title its beautiful and looks interesting.The title is also good and gives an idea that its a sad love story. This is the story of protagonist Siddhanth  and Hritisha. Siddhanth fells in love with Hritisha over a phone call and tried hard to get her. As the time passes they became friends and one day when he was drunk, Siddhanth proposed Hritisha. They became a happy couple but one-day whole world of Siddhanth falls apart when Hritisha tells him she won’t marry him without her parents permission. He loses everything after that, even his job. Later he comes to India with the support of family and friends he moves on a finds a new job in India. This book is to teach the readers that no matter how truly you love each other, destiny will always have its role to play in your relationship. The language is lucid and also perfectly written what should be in a perfect novel and it’s a mixture of Hindi,English and Gujarati. Narration of the novel is simple and really nice.All the characters are well crafted. The author has balanced emotions and humor in the story throughout. Overall, it was a wonderful read. I recommend this book to all those who love to read love stories.I just loved it. Recommending it to everyone. Must read for all the book lovers.Overall rating 5/5 stars.About the AuthorSohil Ashvin Shah aka Bunty is a Senior Accountant by Profession.He was born and brought up in Ahmedabad, Gujarat and resides and works in Dubai for last Eight years. Apart from writing, his hobbies are reading romantic novels, watching Bollywood Movies, and singing. He is commerce graduate from Gujarat University. His biggest dream is to see his name on big Screen as a ‘Film Director’. ‘Come Back to Leave Me… Again’ is his debut novel, which is inspired from his real life’s incidents and his own fantasies.Contact : write@sohilashvinshah.comInstagram : beingsohilshahTwitter : @sohil8289FB : Sohil Ashvin Shah

Interview With Revathi Raj Iyer
 Ayushi A Nair  
 21 June 2018  

Revathi Raj Iyer is a freelance writer, book reviewer, company director, service volunteer and yoga/fitness enthusiast. Professionally qualified as Company Secretary (India & New Zealand) with legal background, she has worked in the corporate field for over a decade. Bombay is her hometown and Baroda her abode after marriage. When she moved to Fiji Islands, she bid adieu to a rewarding career with a multinational to become a full time mum and pursue her twin passions, yoga and writing. She worked as lecturer of Laws at the University of Fiji. Living between NZ and Fiji, she pursued writing and yoga training and continues her passion after moving to India. She lives in Ahmedabad, India and has completed her next book which is a collection of short stories. Her dream is to write books for children.A couple of easy questions to begin with…First off,  What inspired you to write “My Friendship with Yoga”?Physical activity was dominant in my life right from an early age, as a trained classical dancer, which continued until my late twenties. Thereafter it took a back seat, when I became engrossed with my career together with being hands-on mum to a lovely little daughter alongside other demands that needed my attention. However, things changed when we moved to Fiji Islands, and I got back into fitness with intense aerobics and strength training. As destiny would have it, a disciple of Yogacharya BKS Iyengar was deputed to Fiji to introduce this ancient tradition to the people of Fiji. Yoga was at my door step and I embraced it with heartfelt love. I started writing my yoga journal. One fine day, I decided to give a formal structure to my jottings to reach out to a wider audience. As I wrote the book I had no idea of the publishing process, but I was focussed on my goal. “My Friendship with Yoga” thus took shape and was launched on the 10th January, 2017 at the New Delhi World Book Fair. Thanks to Lifi Publications for making this happen!How do you see writing, as a hobby or a passion?I find writing very therapeutic and it also makes me happy. It is passion that drives me to enter that lonely space, which I beautify with words, plot and characters to create a story.Is yoga a way of life or a way to exercise and meditateYoga and meditation are a way of life for a holistic and healthy lifestyle. It is not instant therapy or about perfecting the postures. It is much more than that.  One has to go through a process of learning – patiently and persistently; and observe the changes it brings about in oneself.Please tell us some more about your debut novel?“My Friendship with Yoga” is about my progression from learning under an instructor to achieving confidence in self-practice and sharing my varied experiences with readers. I have presented the complicated aspects of yoga in a lucid style with practical hints so as to cater book lovers of all age groups and skill levels. The book is divided into three parts:Narrative which combines the physical, psychological and spiritual aspects of yoga, wherein a selection of topics along with interesting anecdotes have been coveredThe 2nd Part has more than 80 postures with steps to attain these, guidelines, tips, techniques and benefits; keeping in mind yoga enthusiasts, beginners as well as those who have been practising yoga.The 3rd Part consists of the much desired weekly practice schedule written sequentially with clear instructions to enhance one’s practice.What has yoga done for you as a person?Yoga has helped me to deal with a given situation in a pragmatic and dispassionate manner. It has enabled me to let go of the past and negative emotions, be more positive and result-oriented and direct my energies towards my creative pursuit and other commitments. Yoga has certainly helped in making me acknowledge and appreciate the choices I have made so far, and offered me a healthier and more content lifestyle.What sort of research did you do to write this book?I have been reading books on yoga, but “My Friendship with Yoga,” is the outcome of my entire learning process, from the disciple of BKS Iyengar and instructors from the West. My effort was to present the complicated aspects of yoga in simple language that would appeal to readers of all age groups and skill levels. Yoga is not about perfection as different bodies react in a certain way to a certain posture. To that end, my thought process kept evolving during the entire course of my writing. I made several drafts until I was fully satisfied that I had done justice to my work. For each and every asana which has been illustrated in the book, I consciously performed them and wrote down the steps. Every single breath, every movement, position, the sequence had to be accurate.How did you come up with the title of the book “My Friendship with yoga”?It came straight from the heart; in fact I did not falter or ponder over the title. I began writing this book with its title in place. The title was a reminder to simplify yoga and it guided me in writing a user and reader friendly book, which has been appreciated by the reviewers and readers. Fortunately, my publishers were also happy with the title and did not suggest any changes.Besides writing, what else do you do in your free time?Besides writing and reading books; I practice yoga, support my publisher in the promotion of my book, review books for Muse India, handle professional commitment as Director of a company, travel and spend time with my family. I love to bake and cook, and feel delighted when the outcome exceeds my expectations Do you recall the first ever book/novel you read?I don’t recall the title of the first book, but I started off with the Enid Blyton series, followed by Agatha Christie.Were your parents reading enthusiasts who gave you a push to be a reader as a kid?My mum read a lot and I would accompany her to the local lending library. She was not pushy but I gradually picked up the habit and enjoyed those evening walks to the library after school, with my best friend. She will get nostalgic when she reads this!What are your top three favorite books of all time?It is hard to pick just 3, as I have so many favorites. Hmmm….. The Little Prince, Kite Runner, Reluctant Fundamentalist, Namesake…As a new author, what is your favorite part of the writing/ publishing process? Least favorite.My favorite part is the writing itself and working hand-in-glove with the publishers; the book launch being the icing on the cake. My least favorite part is to face rejections without knowing the reason for it, after waiting for months to hear from publishers.What is the main thing you want readers to take away from your book?To understand the pure essence and simplicity of yoga, without feeling intimidated or inadequateAs mentioned in the book, “Yoga is not about perfection. It is a very enjoyable bonding with our body and mind that teaches us to be resilient and patient.”I would like you to share something about yourself with the readers. Something that does not go in the about the author section something that is the real you?I dream a lot and wish that all my dreams came true, hahaha…And finally, A message for aspiring writers?“Rejections are a part of the whole process of being ultimately accepted and acknowledged, as a writer. Please do not give up, no matter what, and pursue your passion, despite the road blocks. Think of the book lovers and connect with them. Write for them and the passion will always be with you.”Thank you. It was really a privilege interviewing you. Hope you enjoyed the interview. Links to buy the book- Amazon.in Amazon.com FlipkartWrite to her at chirminey@gmail.com

Interview With Revathi Raj Iyer
 Ayushi A Nair  
 21 June 2018  

Revathi Raj Iyer is a freelance writer, book reviewer, company director, service volunteer and yoga/fitness enthusiast. Professionally qualified as Company Secretary (India & New Zealand) with legal background, she has worked in the corporate field for over a decade. Bombay is her hometown and Baroda her abode after marriage. When she moved to Fiji Islands, she bid adieu to a rewarding career with a multinational to become a full time mum and pursue her twin passions, yoga and writing. She worked as lecturer of Laws at the University of Fiji. Living between NZ and Fiji, she pursued writing and yoga training and continues her passion after moving to India. She lives in Ahmedabad, India and has completed her next book which is a collection of short stories. Her dream is to write books for children.A couple of easy questions to begin with…First off,  What inspired you to write “My Friendship with Yoga”?Physical activity was dominant in my life right from an early age, as a trained classical dancer, which continued until my late twenties. Thereafter it took a back seat, when I became engrossed with my career together with being hands-on mum to a lovely little daughter alongside other demands that needed my attention. However, things changed when we moved to Fiji Islands, and I got back into fitness with intense aerobics and strength training. As destiny would have it, a disciple of Yogacharya BKS Iyengar was deputed to Fiji to introduce this ancient tradition to the people of Fiji. Yoga was at my door step and I embraced it with heartfelt love. I started writing my yoga journal. One fine day, I decided to give a formal structure to my jottings to reach out to a wider audience. As I wrote the book I had no idea of the publishing process, but I was focussed on my goal. “My Friendship with Yoga” thus took shape and was launched on the 10th January, 2017 at the New Delhi World Book Fair. Thanks to Lifi Publications for making this happen!How do you see writing, as a hobby or a passion?I find writing very therapeutic and it also makes me happy. It is passion that drives me to enter that lonely space, which I beautify with words, plot and characters to create a story.Is yoga a way of life or a way to exercise and meditateYoga and meditation are a way of life for a holistic and healthy lifestyle. It is not instant therapy or about perfecting the postures. It is much more than that.  One has to go through a process of learning – patiently and persistently; and observe the changes it brings about in oneself.Please tell us some more about your debut novel?“My Friendship with Yoga” is about my progression from learning under an instructor to achieving confidence in self-practice and sharing my varied experiences with readers. I have presented the complicated aspects of yoga in a lucid style with practical hints so as to cater book lovers of all age groups and skill levels. The book is divided into three parts:Narrative which combines the physical, psychological and spiritual aspects of yoga, wherein a selection of topics along with interesting anecdotes have been coveredThe 2nd Part has more than 80 postures with steps to attain these, guidelines, tips, techniques and benefits; keeping in mind yoga enthusiasts, beginners as well as those who have been practising yoga.The 3rd Part consists of the much desired weekly practice schedule written sequentially with clear instructions to enhance one’s practice.What has yoga done for you as a person?Yoga has helped me to deal with a given situation in a pragmatic and dispassionate manner. It has enabled me to let go of the past and negative emotions, be more positive and result-oriented and direct my energies towards my creative pursuit and other commitments. Yoga has certainly helped in making me acknowledge and appreciate the choices I have made so far, and offered me a healthier and more content lifestyle.What sort of research did you do to write this book?I have been reading books on yoga, but “My Friendship with Yoga,” is the outcome of my entire learning process, from the disciple of BKS Iyengar and instructors from the West. My effort was to present the complicated aspects of yoga in simple language that would appeal to readers of all age groups and skill levels. Yoga is not about perfection as different bodies react in a certain way to a certain posture. To that end, my thought process kept evolving during the entire course of my writing. I made several drafts until I was fully satisfied that I had done justice to my work. For each and every asana which has been illustrated in the book, I consciously performed them and wrote down the steps. Every single breath, every movement, position, the sequence had to be accurate.How did you come up with the title of the book “My Friendship with yoga”?It came straight from the heart; in fact I did not falter or ponder over the title. I began writing this book with its title in place. The title was a reminder to simplify yoga and it guided me in writing a user and reader friendly book, which has been appreciated by the reviewers and readers. Fortunately, my publishers were also happy with the title and did not suggest any changes.Besides writing, what else do you do in your free time?Besides writing and reading books; I practice yoga, support my publisher in the promotion of my book, review books for Muse India, handle professional commitment as Director of a company, travel and spend time with my family. I love to bake and cook, and feel delighted when the outcome exceeds my expectations Do you recall the first ever book/novel you read?I don’t recall the title of the first book, but I started off with the Enid Blyton series, followed by Agatha Christie.Were your parents reading enthusiasts who gave you a push to be a reader as a kid?My mum read a lot and I would accompany her to the local lending library. She was not pushy but I gradually picked up the habit and enjoyed those evening walks to the library after school, with my best friend. She will get nostalgic when she reads this!What are your top three favorite books of all time?It is hard to pick just 3, as I have so many favorites. Hmmm….. The Little Prince, Kite Runner, Reluctant Fundamentalist, Namesake…As a new author, what is your favorite part of the writing/ publishing process? Least favorite.My favorite part is the writing itself and working hand-in-glove with the publishers; the book launch being the icing on the cake. My least favorite part is to face rejections without knowing the reason for it, after waiting for months to hear from publishers.What is the main thing you want readers to take away from your book?To understand the pure essence and simplicity of yoga, without feeling intimidated or inadequateAs mentioned in the book, “Yoga is not about perfection. It is a very enjoyable bonding with our body and mind that teaches us to be resilient and patient.”I would like you to share something about yourself with the readers. Something that does not go in the about the author section something that is the real you?I dream a lot and wish that all my dreams came true, hahaha…And finally, A message for aspiring writers?“Rejections are a part of the whole process of being ultimately accepted and acknowledged, as a writer. Please do not give up, no matter what, and pursue your passion, despite the road blocks. Think of the book lovers and connect with them. Write for them and the passion will always be with you.”Thank you. It was really a privilege interviewing you. Hope you enjoyed the interview. Links to buy the book- Amazon.in Amazon.com FlipkartWrite to her at chirminey@gmail.com

Book Review: My Love is Away From Mortality by Vansh Arora
 Ayushi A Nair  
 22 June 2018  

Book Title: My Love Is Away From MortalityAuthor: Vansh AroraFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages:248 pagesLanguage: EnglishPublisher: Kalamos Literary Services LLPPublishing Date: 23 April 2018ISBN-10: 9387780066ISBN-13: 978-9387780064What will you do if the love you nurtured with utmost care walks in to the territory of evilness? Manav, an atypical sleepyhead cares about nothing but his sleep. Life is good for him as long as he is in the premises of his bedroom. Aditi, a pro-level pessimist boasts her proficiency in envisioning worst possible consequences of every situation. After bumping in to each other, the course on which their life was previously treading begins to witness a complete transformation. The tender age pushes them to believe what they shared was more than a mere comradeship. They try to repel the feeling at first, but it intensifies to such an extent that both of them end up getting swallowed by it. However, they must keep an eye out for the lurking danger as there is a person who is on the quest to bereave them of something which will certainly put their and whole world’s fate in jeopardy. How will their destiny unfold?The cover is catchy enough and the reader shall pick the book up just after looking at it once, the blurb as compared to the story gives an apt just of the entire story. The title My Love Is Away From Mortality is apt according to the plot.This is the story of the protagonist Manav Kashyap and Aditi Gupta. Manav is a sleepyhead and a football lover on the other hand Aditi a pessimist and a book worm. Aditi and Manav soon became friends in school. They were intimate in School days, but the distance started growing between them when they took admission in different colleges. Still their hearts always covet for each other all the time. Despite knowing that their world will be meaningless without each other, still their hearts were not convincing enough to confess their love for each other.Will Manav confess his love with Aditi?How will there destiny unfold?To know more what happened next read the book.However, one thing i want Manav to know is that even if something undesirable happens. I will never stop loving him. I am mortal, but my love for him is away from mortality.Words flow smoothly and emotions find expression thus making the book a veritable treat.  Never felt my interest waning. The every scene and all character are well crafted that you can actually get images of them in your mind. Narration of the novel is simple and really nice. The pace is perfect, neither slow nor too fast. It is steady and smooth. Language is perfect, simple yet elegantly written. I did not liked the climax and Salistonia story felt in complete. I wouldn’t say it would be the same when you finish reading it.  Perceptions may differ. You might like the way the story ends. The author has portrayed each and every character with utmost significance of their own and every one of them has done justice to their respective roles throughout the story.An engrossing read that’s capable of keeping the reader on edge till the very end. Looking forward to read more to read more works by the author.Highly Recommended to all book worms.Overall Ratings-4/5 StarsAbout the AuthorVansh is currently pursuing his higher studies. Along with it, he is working on the sequel to “My Love is Away from Mortality”. When not writing, Vansh loves to follow sports or heap up some knowledge about stuff which fails to make into the textbooks. Apart from it, he is a proficient member and a self-proclaimed food tasting officer.Grab Your Copy- Amazon.in Amazon.com Goodreads

Book Review: Emotions And Elation by Banani Das Dhar
 Ayushi A Nair  
 3 July 2018  

Book Title: Emotions And ElationAuthor: Banani Das DharFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 90Language: EnglishPublisher: HALF BAKED BEANS Publishing Date: 4 June 2018ASIN: B07DHB9521Each expectant mother goes through a different journey, each relationship with the unborn child special. This book is a piece of my soul. It does not aim to be a guidebook but is a detailed journal of my beautiful journey. Yes, my body went through a tremendous transformation and not every moment was as smooth as I thought it to be. What started out as a period of pampering and feasting was soon overshadowed by bouts of miserable times as well. A long separation from my husband and a gnawing loneliness marred my joy. I want to take you on an emotional ride, one that touched every nerve of my being. a joy that has to be experienced to be believed. welcome to my world !My TakeThe first impression is the best impression the foremost thing which i liked in the book is the simple and yet beautiful cover. The title of the book Emotions and Elation is apt according to the plot. They complement each other well and also is according to the story, so it’s a perfect combination.Motherhood is the greatest gift God gave to womankind, to know that we are instruments in  God’s Creation, to know that we participated in God’s purpose and plan. The author has written her personal life experience of her 9 month of conceiving a baby and her anxieties and ambivalence that pregnant women experience. Baby moon was my favorite part of the book. Words flow smoothly and emotions find expression thus making the book a veritable treat.The language of the book is simple and crisp which will make it easy to read for the readers. The book is free from any grammatical errors and has been perfectly edited. The pace is perfect, neither slow nor too fast. It is steady and smooth. Narration is done well. Characterization is perfect. All the characters are well developed.I miss you the most at night.When everything is quiet and the silence reminds meThat I’m not sleeping next to you…An engaging read, I would like to recommend this book to all bibliophiles.Overall Ratings 5/5 StarGrab the book here- Amazon.in

Book Review: The Author by Raj Siddhi
 Ayushi A Nair  
 7 July 2018  

Book Title: The Author Author: Raj Siddhi  Format: Paper Back  Total Number of Pages:  183  Language: English  Publisher: Blue Rose Publishers  Publishing Date: 11th Apr 2018  ASIN: B07C42K9KB‘The Author’ begins with the story of a published book which has been maintaining its position of being the ‘best-selling book’ for last few years, but no reader knows who the writer of this is. A press conference is convened to disclose the fact of its author. In addition, it will disclose the fact why the readers have been put in the dark so far in connection with the identity of the author. The MD of the Publication House is a young lady who narrates a story before introducing the author of the novel. The story begins with Bangala Sahib Gurudwara at Connaught Place, Delhi. It is 14th February, the Valentine Day. In the meantime, a boy falls fainted at the gate of Sacred Heart Church. Nobody but two attendants of the church, Mrs. David, and her blind granddaughter, bring him to the hospital for treatment. While the boy’s treatment is on, it is discovered that he has tried to commit suicide. The boy’s name is Samar. Samar is an orphan and in an orphanage, he was brought up under the tutelage of Mother Marry. Spring is his fast friend with whose help he succeeds in winning the heart of a voracious reader of novels, Sufi. The Author is the story of love, dreams, sacrifice and an unquenched thirst. It deals with a journey to being a promising author for the fulfillment of other’s dreams.My TakeThe cover is full with grey hints us that there is something mysterious in the story. The title The Author is apt for the plot. The plot is blend of emotions, love, friendship, scarifies, dreams, passion.This is the story of protagonist Samar. Samar and Spring is an orphan who was bought up with love and guidance of Mother Marry. They grew up like brothers. Later they started working in an restaurant. Samar meets Sufi. Sufi loves reading love story and want's to meet a real author. To impress her Samar tells a lie that he is an author. The friendship blooms into love. What happens after that to know more read the book.Language is simple and lucid to read and connect with the story and being engaged throughout the story. Pace is was slow. Narration was done well. I love the friendship and understanding between Samar and Spring.Ek jaddo jahad hui is jindagi se...jindagi ke khatirEk tarif hamne khud kee ki..ek jeet ki khatirEk sapne ko maine jinda rakha...jinda rahne ke khatirEk takraro hui sapnooo se...sapnooo ke khatirEk tohfa sapnaoo ne diya...apnoo ki khatirEk jaddo jahad hui is jindagi se...jindagi ke khatir.Every page is loaded with emotions and twists. The Hindi poetries in between the chapters that were included according to the situations are enough to touch readers’ heart.Overall ratings 3.5/5 StarsGrab the book here- Amazon.inAbout the AuthorRaj Siddhi, which is the pen name of Raju Kumar Dubey, is a very young writer and poet from a small town of Jharkhand, Giridih. Raj Siddhi has a good experience of staging theatres in Delhi. His underlying quality of composing poems on different aspects of the society isInstagram unique. He is a BA from Vinoba Bhave University. He loves travelling to hill stations and coastal areas. He also loves watching Bollywood films. ‘The Author’ is his debut fiction, which was originally penned in Hindi. Later, the work was translated and edited by Mr. Ashish Anandam. The best way to contact Raj Siddhi is through Facebook.You can also write to him at rajsiddhi91@gmail.com Facebook |Instagram 

Book Review: My True Angel by Irshad Thalakala
 Ayushi A Nair  
 7 July 2018  

Book Title: My True Angel Author: Irshad Thalakala  Format: Paper Back  Total Number of Pages: 216  Language: English  Publisher: Invincible Publishers  Publishing Date: 16 January 2018  ISBN-10: 9387328201  ISBN-13: 978-9387328204This is a sweet tale of finding true love.Iqbal who works in an IT company Bangalore, meets the beautiful Rubina.Iqbal's love is unfortunately not reciprocated by Rubina.When he is trying to overcome from Rubina, he finds his true love from Payal.Were these meant to be together?Whether they could able to crack the religion barrier?Does destiny has other plans for Iqbal and Payal?My TakeThe title of the My True Angel gives a hint of love story and the cover of the book is simple and beautiful.  The plot is a blend of emotions, love, friendship, affection, loneliness, humor,  religion, and most importantly family values.This is the story of the protagonist Iqbal  software engineer from Kerala and moves to Bangalore for a job hunt and with the dream of finding an angel. Iqbal joins a software company and meets Rubina a Muslim girl from Delhi falls in love with her but Rubina rejects the the proposal and also complains the higher authorities of the company about harassing her because of it Iqbal was fired out. Then he joins new company and there he meets Payal. Payal was the first angel of his life who loves unconditionally without any expectation. Payal is Hindu and Iqbal is from Muslim orthodox family where chances of getting married with to other religion is strictly prohibited. Payal father was supporting to the marriage for the sake of his daughter's happiness but on the other hand Iqbal's family were not supporting to the relationship. Payal and Iqbal breakups there relationship for the parents happiness and try to move on in life with other proposal and promise to keep in touch. Later Iqbal gets engaged with third angel of his life Nazriya. After engagement he was back to Bangalore and meets his first angel of his life Rubina. Rubina apologize him for what she had done with him. Rubina and Iqbal becomes friends and Rubina asks whether his love for her still remains in heart. Iqbal met with accident. What happens to Iqbal and his angels to know more read the book.The author has portrayed each and every character with utmost significance of their own and every one of them has done justice to their respective roles throughout the story. Narration of the book is done well.Language is simple and lucid to read and connect with the story and being engaged throughout the story. All in all, a good easy book to read, a book which won’t require the use of a dictionary, a book which even an amateur reader would love to get indulged in. Pace is slow. The story flows like a movie. The book have been portrayed in such a way, that any reader will be able to connect with the story and live the journey with them.She was the true angel that God had sent with a healing touch. When I was low and depressed in life, she was the one who inspire me to live and not give up on loving people.I recommend this book to the readers who are seeking for a quick read or a light-heated romantic novel.Overall Ratings 4.5/5 StarsGrab the book here Amazon.in Amazon.comAbout the AuthorIrshad Thalakala, presently works as Technical Teach in IBM Bangalore. In the past he worked with Tech Mahindra, Tata Technologies and DRDO.  He is a serious writer and frequent writer of blogs and small stories. His latest novel “My True Angel” getting good response and appreciation from all over.He is from Thalakala, which is a town in the northern part of Kerala, situated in the lap of Western Ghats. He finished his primary education from Kasaragod, Kerala and his higher education from Mangalore, Karnataka. Other than writing he likes to explore different varieties of food. He also likes to travel.Here are some of links via you can contact Irshad- Facebook |Instagram  

Book Review: Connecting with Yourself By Vishal Jacob
 Ayushi A Nair  
 25 July 2018  

Book Title: Connecting with Yourself:Why we think, feel and act the way we doAuthor: Vishal JacobFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 164Language: EnglishPublisher: Notion PressPublishing Date: 7 June 2018ISBN-10: 1643244760ISBN-13: 978-1643244761Every life is an interesting story, and this story is best written when people go through life's experiences by staying connected to who they truly are. To stay connected to yourself, you need first to start listening from within.This book gives a perspective on why we think, feel and act the way we do, through concepts from neuroscience and psychology. It attempts to answer some of life's key questions, such as--Why do we all perceive things differently?-Why are we designed to do different things?-Why do we all learn things in different ways?-How are habits formed?-What role do emotions play in our lives?-What makes us happy?And finally, what it means and takes to stay connected to ourselves and others.Here is what people have to say about the book:"Great ideas for a better living, that not only help you connect with yourself but also to connect with others."Dr. David J Lincoln - Chief advisor and president ANLP India."The simplicity of ideas and the depth of knowledge make this book a must-read for leaders everywhere."Rajat GargMaster Certified Coach & Director, Global Board of Directors for The ICF (International Coaching Federation)"Vishal brings to life and connects many aspects of living with facts about the brain and how the human mind works. These easy to read and well-structured reflections 'from the heart' show the simple aspects of living life fully."Chitra RaviFounder & Principle consultant at SeedTLC, Regional Representative for India & Asia on the Board of Trustees of the ITAA (International Transactional Analysis Association)My TakeThe title of the book Connecting with Yourself and cover of the book is apt according to the plot. The title is catchy it gives the hint's to the readers that it will be a self help book.The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.                                                                                                                        -William MorisThe book is a combination of neuroscience, philosophy and psychology. The book is divided into ten chapters Perspectives, Intelligence, Learning, Habits, Decisions and Biases, Emotions, Happiness and where author explains the connection with yourself in different situations. Every chapter starts with a inspiring quotes and the end of every chapter there are key points where you get important point from the particular chapter. The author had done lot's of research while writing the book and it's highly appreciable.The words were simple and the language is lucid which eased the reading. Narration is done well. The book is free from any grammatical errors and has been perfectly edited.All in all, a good easy book to read in one sitting.I'll recommend this book to all the readers who want to know more about yourself. I won’t say that reading this book entirely changes your life but I’m sure your approach towards life and many other will surely get influenced.Overall Rating 4.5/ 5 StarsGrab your copy here- Amazon.in | Amazon.com | Amazon.co.ukAbout the AuthorVishal Jacob is the Vice President, Digital Media & Marketing at WaveMaker India (created from the merger of GroupM India's Maxus & MEC). He has over 17 years of experience in the field of digital marketing, communication planning and consumer behavior. The works of some of the teams he has led and mentored have won recognition and accolades both in India and globally.Vishal is also an executive coach certified by the NeuroLeadership Institute and holds certifications in TA (Transactional Analysis) and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). He has co-authored two books on Digital Marketing and is a guest lecturer in some of the top B-Schools in the country.Here are some of links via you can contact Facebook |Twitter|Instagram

Book Review: Navarasa By Vinaya Patil
 Ayushi A Nair  
 31 July 2018  

Book Title: NAVARASAAuthor:Vinaya PatilFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 100Language: EnglishPublisher: HALF BAKED BEANPublishing Date: 4 June 2018ASIN: B07DHB2256Know your Rasa while you enjoy reading a story about it. From the butterflies you feel in your stomach when you fall in love to the spine chilling horror, this book has it all. Denials, acceptance, adventure, anger, humor, you will experience the different flavors when you read the nine (nava) rasa stories. A love story on kindle, a girl who hates to fly, a boy full of wonder, an adventurous and brave brother, an iron cored girl with goals, a loving Grand Pa and a story around his tea estate, a haughty landlord, a taxi ride and a woman’s struggle make up for a wide variety of reading.MY TAKEStarting from the cover of the book is simple and yet beautiful with nine different rasa emoji in red color background. The title of the book “Navarasa” Nava – nine and Rasa – emotions means nine emotions.The book is a collection of short stories based on nine navarasa. The nine emotions included in Navarasa are:-Shringara (love, devotion, beauty)Hasya (Joy, humor, sarcasm)Adbutha (wonder, mystery, curiosity),Veera (courage, confidence, pride),Shanta (peace, relaxation, calmness)Karuna (sadness, compassion, pity),Raudra (anger, irritation, violence),Bhayanaka (Horror, anxiety, worry),Bhibathsa (disgust, depression, self-pity)These are the emotions that humans show according to the situations. My love for you, Take Off, In the eyes of wonder, A Knock at the door, the damned bridge, Nancy’s Haven, A wash away story, girl in the back seat, when I wake up are some short stories author had penned down based on these emotions. Every page is loaded with emotions and twists.Grandpa Henry from Nancy’s Heaven was my favorite character in the book. Take Off! It’s one of the funniest stories in the book. The protagonist Manasi dislikes kids and hate flying. Manasi colleague Arunima inivited her to celebrate New Year Eve Party at Chennai. Aravind (Arunima’s brother) is also coming from US to attend the party so Manasi decides to use the opportunity to meet him. She had a crush on him. Arunima requests Manasi to take her darling daughter Shaina with her in the plane. Shaina was very naughty. The plane and airport journey in the book was amusing.Language is simple and lucid to read and connect with the story and being engaged throughout the story. The style of narration and the pace are perfect. The author has portrayed each and every character with utmost significance of their own and every one of them has done justice to their respective roles throughout the story.Looking forward to read more works by the author.I’ll recommend this book to all readers.Overall Ratings 5/5 StarsGrab the book here Amazon.in | Amazon.com |About the AuthorVinaya Patil is a passionate IT professional who chose to write when she decided to take a break from her well established IT career. She resigned the much sought after Fortune 500 company to explore her creative side in writing and drafted her first book ‘One Life to Love’, a young adult fiction which was published by Rupa Publications in 2014.‘One Life to Love’ was very well received and been reviewed by various forums such as Bookgeeks, Asian Age, Aaj Tak and Women’s Era.    She has been interviewed by newspapers such as Deccan Chronicle and The Hindu. She was also interviewed on Bangalore Radio Fever 104 on Mad mornings. Vinaya also has had a stint with Theatre and worked with Theatre Groups such as Evam and Red Pill before she moved to US where she lived for two years. More recently Vinaya has been helping a start-up company and is the Head of its Operations.Vinaya is also an avid reader, spiritual follower and a random scribbler.You can stalk her @Facebook | Instagram |Twitter

Book Review: Stories Are Magical by Abhirup Dhar
 Ayushi A Nair  
 4 August 2018  

Book Title: Stories Are MagicalAuthor: Abhirup DharFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 175 pagesLanguage: EnglishPublisher: Hawakal PublishersPublishing Date: 16th April 2018ISBN-10: 9387883043ISBN-13: 978-9387883048Stories are like magic! Who doesn’t like listening to or reading a good one? This book is just that. A reminder why we love them and why we live them – a celebration of storytelling!Six stories. Six different genres. One book.My TakeStarting from the cover the green colour is quite soothing design is simple but powerful. You would want to sit in your own cosy corner and immerse yourself. The title of the book is captivate.Stories Are Magical is a collection of six different short stories And Love Happened With Her Again!, Once Upon A ghost, Woof!, A walk Through Memory Lane, The reunion, Two Plans Ans A Murder. Never felt my interest waning. To write is an art, to keep the reader fascinating and hankering for more is magic. Out of this six short stories Woof!  is my favorite part Dogs have long been considered “man’s best friend.”The plot is blend of emotions, friendship, heartbreaks, romance, hope affection, anxiety, phantasm, creature love, dreams, power struggle, passion, crime, betrayal and many more.Language is simple and lucid to read and connect with the story and being engaged throughout the story. The author’s mastery over the language is evident from the terms he has used and the vivid description of events that unfold in the pages of the book.  The characters are well developed and one can easily relate them. Narration is done well.An engrossing read that’s capable of keeping the reader on edge till the very end.Overall Ratings 4/5 StarsGrab the book here AmazonAbout the AuthorAbhirup Dhar was born in Kolkata and is still being brought up in India. A banker by profession and aspirational in life with a passion to excel, he also reviewed movies for certain portals years ago. He writes for the sheer joy of it since childhood and that itself led him to pen his first book ‘Once Again… With Love!’. He believes the best stories are always the simpler ones. He now celebrated storytelling in his second outing with ‘Stories Are Magical’ and readers had a quick, relaxing and fun read. Abhirup currently lives in Delhi.You can stalk him @Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

Book Review: Seductive Affair by Rishabh Puri
 Ayushi A Nair  
 1 September 2018  

Book Title: Seductive AffairAuthor:Rishabh PuriFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 184Language: EnglishPublisher: Srishti Publishers & Distributors;Publishing Date: 10 July 2018ISBN-10: 9387022277ISBN-13: 978-9387022270Prisha Khatri is a regular college graduate, focused on her career, desperate to finally move out of her parents’ house and freshly dumped by her successful fiancé. When she lands a job at a prestigious media house, she’s glad to have something to take her mind off her heartbreak. What she doesn’t expect is to be landed on a business trip with a famously fiery reporter Rajesh Lagheri. He’s travelling to a business conference for a story and doesn’t seem impressed by her involvement. But as soon as they’re out of the office, things change and it becomes clear that there is more to Rajesh’s trip than meets the eye. As Prisha is drawn into the story he’s trying to hide from their editor, their hunt for the story grows more intense and she finds herself growing closer to Rajesh. As their chemistry threatens to overwhelm them and Prisha is pulled deeper into the Seductive Affair, she must decide what matters most to her matters of the head or of the heart.My TakeStarting from the cover and title is enchanting. I expected it to be a dark romance thriller but it's a simple love story based on career and love. The title is misleading there is no seduction in the plot. The book is a bag of emotions, love, hate, relationship, passion, separation, trust, bond, joy, happiness, family, relationships, life, sadness, betrayal and many more. This is the story about main protagonist Prisha Khatri. Prisha getting ready for the first day of her dream job and remembering her past where her ex-fiance Aditya ditched her because she wanted to work and he wanted a wife who will sit at home, cook, raise children and take care of them. Breakup with her ex-fiance due to his insecurity, she is all set to enter corporate world, her dream job. She joins The Chronicles as in one of the leading newspapers of the country. She is attracted to Rajesh a senior reporter. Rajesh and Prisha travels for a businesses  conference in Mumbai where they find themselves getting close to each other while covering a story for their article. To find out more read the book.Language of the book is lucid and written in a simple way to comprehend for any kind of reader. I have read the author's previous work i have much expectation from this book too but i'm disappointed this time. Plot becomes predictable sometimes. The story is faced. Narration was simple and okey. The characters are good but could not able to connect with them. A few typographical errors here and there need to be rectified. If the edit was done properly, the story would have sounded much much better.I'll recommend this book to beginners for a light read.  Overall Ratings 2/5 StarsGrab the book here- Amazon.in Amazon.com Amazon.co.ukAbout the AuthorRishabh Puri is a highly accomplished entrepreneur with a flair for writing. Contributing to his family business since the age of 18, he makes his home in Lagos, Nigeria and Dubai, UAE. He has previously authored the bestselling novel Inside the Heart of Hope.

Book Review: I Shall Always Love You by Shilpa Jain
 Ayushi A Nair  
 1 September 2018  

Book Title: I Shall Always Love YouAuthor:Shilpa JainFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 168 pagesLanguage: EnglishPublisher: Srishti Publishers & Distributors;Publishing Date: 20 May 2018ISBN-10: 9387022196ISBN-13: 978-9387022195Shiv Sanyal is a celebrated artist. When he meets an enigmatic woman, he creates a sculpture of her, his masterpiece. He is shocked when he is publicly humiliated for copying a Khajuraho figurine that looks just like this mysterious woman. He decides to visit Khajuraho to unveil the truth.Stumbling upon revelations and facts long hidden, he discovers his connection to the glorious past of Khajuraho. Unexpected events in Khajuraho and Mumbai force him and his friends to go on a quest to find a hidden treasure with clues in a missing Khajuraho sculpture. They travel across India and visit various ancient temples to find clues leading to the treasure.What is this treasure? Who is compelling them to seek it? Who is Shiv’s friend and who is his enemy? How has the universe woven the lives of his friends into his life?I Shall Always Love You is a thrilling tale of love that never dies, treasures that lay buried and truths that go deeper than the seas.My TakesStarting from the cover is a couples in temple background and the title of the I Shall Always Love You gives the hint to the reader's it's going to be a love story. I personally feel after reading the book the cover and title can be much better it's not much attractive to catch the attention of the readers.The book is a bag of emotions, love, friendship, past life, historical connection, heartbreak, travel, adventyre, mystery, suspense,  mythology, humor, loyalty, affection, treasure hunt, appreciation, reincarnation, promise, and many more.The story revolves around Shiv (Rudra), Nysa (Mohini), Arjun (Abhay), Saloni (Pallavi). The book starts with Shiv Sanyal's birthday celebration, Arjun and Saloni as his close friend. In the the birthday party Shiv had a peek over a lady with the scar on her back which happens to be similar to the one he got on his ankle and feels attracted towards her without seeing her face. He try to inquire about the lady with scar. He sculpted a statue thinking about the lady and presented in his exhibition. The sculpture was a mater piece by Shiv till date but a critic the sculpture was copied from Khajuraho temple and doubts his original work. Shiv moves to Khajuraho to finds the truth. To know more read the book. I finished it in one sitting.With every turning page the curiosity to read further keeps on increasing. Language of the book is simple and lucid easy to comprehend for any kind of reader. Words flow smoothly and emotions find expression thus making the book a veritable treat.  Narration of the novel is perfect with many twists and turns. The every scene and all character are well crafted that you can actually get images of them in your mind. The present life and after life is beautifully weaved. The historical touch with romance which made the different from usual romance read. I really enjoyed reading the book. The pace of the novel is fast. The author has portrayed each and every character with utmost significance of their own and every one of them has done justice to their respective roles throughout the story. This is the debut novel of author but we don’t seriously feel as if we are reading a book written by a debut author.Overall Ratings 3.5/ 5 StarsGrab the book here Amazon.in |Amazon.co.uk|Amazon.comAbout the AuthorShilpa Jain is a doctor with over twenty years of experience in medical practice. She also has wide experience in medical writing and editing. She has worked as a corporate medical officer and counsellor.Over the period of last three years, she developed a keen interest in creative writing and began writing her novels.

Book Review: Table For One by Neha Bindal
 Ayushi A Nair  
 8 September 2018  

Book Title: Table For OneAuthor: Neha BindalFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 180Language: EnglishPublisher: HALF BAKED BEANSPublishing Date: 20 July 2018ASIN: B07FQ7MWBCTaara Maheshwari, a single woman in her thirties and a successful lawyer, is tough from outside but a die heart fan of romantic movies from inside.She grew up seeking her “happily ever after’ but amid various heartbreaks and culture of modern age short term relationships,her believe in “true connections" got replaced by the comfort of being “emotionally disconnected.”After she turned 31, her parents persuaded her into meeting a guy for marriage who sounded just perfect for her. Acting on impulse,she told her parents that she would meet him only if they let her go on a trip to Europe.As Taara went on to explore the world, she experienced what actually happens when a single Indian girl travels to Europe all by herself. Is it only about dancing, singing or falling in love? What happens after you fall in love? Does love conquer all? Only her story would tell.My TakeThis is the story of protagonist Taara Maheshwari, a successful lawyer in her early thirties still unmarried. She is a confused women, who had encountered some heart breaks and doesn't know what to she wanted in her life. As her parents convinces for an arrange marriage. To which she agreed only if her parents would allow her for solo trip in Europe before marriage. She promised to meet the man once she returned back from the trip fortunately her parents agreed. She thinks it's an escape from marriage and quit her job to fulfill her dream to take a solo trip to Europe. Here her self-exploration starts with travelling diverse destinations, meets different kinds of peoples all around there, sang a song in public, danced crazily, went on trekking,  and many more she explored the Europe. Taara in this trips founds new friends as well as she is attracted towards Fred and was in love with him. To know more what happen next read the book. The book is a bag of emotions of love, heartbreaks, travel, romance, adventure, external love, internal love, self realization, happiness, peace, friends, family, life, and many more.Language is simple crisp and lucid and has the ability to bring live the events narrated in the book. The story flows like a movie and takes the readers on a journey  to Paris, Switzerland and Italy with Taara the every scene is so well written than you can actually get images of them in your mind. Characterization should be have been strong and done better and i don't like the sudden climax. The faced paced and engaging narration. The writer’s words has the capacity to hold the reader till the last page. The storytelling style was different and simply adorable. I loved Taara character through out the book. Characterization should be done better and i don't like the sudden climax. The cover and title is beautifully crafted.We are all taught that the most beautiful part of a fairy-tale is “happily ever after”. But we fail to notice that all fairy tales begin with “Once upon a time”. Once. It all happened. It was all real. Once. No matter who we are, what we do, or where we live, deep inside we all feel incomplete. It’s like we have lost something and need to get it back. Just what that something is, most of us never find out. And of those who do, even fewer manage to go out and look for it. Alone wasn’t just a closed dark room anymore but a whole wide world full of opportunities. I needed to explore and occupy the vastness of the world inside of me, which until now I hadn’t truly understood. Like the houses we build, the sky was also a shelter to few.I'll recommend this book to all the avid reader's.Overall 4/5 StarsGrab the copy here- AMAZON

Book Review: You Are the best thing That Happened to Me by Sushil Kumar Rana
 Ayushi A Nair  
 13 September 2018  

Book Title:You Are the best thing That Happened to MeAuthor: Sushil Kumar RanaFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 208Language: EnglishPublisher: Redgrab booksPublishing Date: Second edition (31 July 2018)ISBN-10: 9387390403ISBN-13: 978-9387390409Sushil: A successful writer and an engineer from a Middle-class family.Anjali: A gorgeous and smart girl. Anyone can fall in love at the first sight of her.Aashish: Sushil's Best friend, who loves Anjali one-sided.Anuradha: A journalism Student and doing research on Writer.Sushil Pandit is a mechanical engineer. He is also an author of two bestselling novels. Now, he has everything in life, except his love, Anjali. Love is a blissful and everyone has to experience it once in a lifetime. Love makes life lively and also give a reason to live. There was a time when these two lovebirds were an example of two bodies, one soul. But a turning point in their lives sets them apart, with their soul still united and strong. Experience a roller coaster of emotions in this story. Find out how Sushil changed into a successful person from an ordinary boy.My TakeStarting from the title of the book You Are the best thing That Happened to Me gives the hint’s to readers it’s going to be a love story. The title is apt according to the plot.  It’s been said that never judge a book cannot be judged by looking at its cover alone but I personally feel cover can be much better to catch attraction among readers.The story starts with an award function where our protagonist Sushil Pandit receives an award for best employee of the year 2016. Sushil Pandit is a mechanical engineer by profession and author of two bestselling novels. He has achieved everything in life except the love of his life. After the function on his way to home he happens to meets Anuradha a journalism student who doing some research on authors. Anuradha wants to know more about Sushi’s life after achieving everything in life he is incomplete.  Then the story enters into the flashback memories of when he was in school. Sushil joins a coaching center with his friends to improve grades in subject. There he meets Anjali for the first time and felt attracted towards her. Later Anjali and Sushil become best friends who can understand each other well. Sushil was confused with his feelings towards Anjali is it love or attraction? Ashish and Anjali are they both equally important to him he can’t even think of losing one for other. On the other hand Ashish had a crush on Anjali. To know more what happened next to Sushil read the book.The author had beautifully weaved the struggles of every middle class family, the family bonding, surprise birthday celebration of Anjali at tuition center, hang outs with friends, decision to choose between career and love, struggles after college, job hunt and many more incidents. I love how cunning crafted the mother and sons bonding.Language of the book is lucid and written in a simple way to comprehend for any kind of reader. A book which won’t require the use of a dictionary, a book which evens an amateur reader would love to get indulged in. The pace of the story is slow and kept dragging at some time. The characters are well developed and one can easily relate them.  Narration of the book is simple and engaging. A few typographical errors here and there need to be rectified. If the edit was done properly, the story would have sounded much better. If the Hindi dialogues were translated into English it was much better since everyone will not able to understand it.I recommend this book to the readers who are seeking for a quick read or a light-hearted romantic novel.Overall 3/5 StarsGrab the copy here- Amazon |FlipkartAbout the AuthorSushil Kumar Rana is a Mechanical Engineer work in an MNC company in Odisha. He belongs to a middle class family, was born and brought up in Bolangir District, Odisha. He always tried to inhabit the life in his way and his parents always support him. He is an aspiring author, contributed in an anthology is published by Purlit (Rainbow of Womanhood). A second anthology is “ Twisted Tales” published by the Authors ink publication. He is the author of “In Search Of Happiness” Anthology. He was in the habit of writing a diary which consisted of his college experiences and memories. Currently working on his second novel based on crime thriller. Apart from writing, reading and book reviewing, he is a music and movie geek. His motto in life “never give up your dreams for others, be happy and spread happiness”. Currently he resides in Sambalpur District.You can reach at him @ Twitter |Instagram |Facebook |Website

Finally I Got My Prince Charming
 Vandana Singh  
 20 September 2018  

While growing up we all have heard at some point of time that one day you will get your prince charming. While in our youth; consciously or unconsciously we fantasise a dream of finding our prince charming someday. When we get married we try to realize the fantasy of our prince charming in our dear husband. But milla kya??😂😂 We do love our husband more than anything and so do they but that prince charming feeling.... Did you get it? Nah!!!Soon all the fantasy of fairy princess' prince charming comes to an end with each passing day so I also thought that prince charming is just a fictional character. But then one day I found my prince charming. His presence is magical and mesmerizing. He has all the time in the world for me, we love to spend time with each other. I love every little thing about him, his twinkling eyes, sparkling smile, shiny hair and especially his lovely voice when he says the magical word Mumma.... Yes it's my son who is my prince charming. He gave me the real meaning of prince charming. He changed my life more beautifully and in a more meaningful way. He not only gave me the privilege of being a mother but also to live my childhood once again. I could see the whole new and beautiful world in his twinkling eyes. He is the best version of any prince charming I could have ever imagined. I discovered so many new emotions in me that I didn't even have any clue of existence in me. I found a new me, I'm in love with myself too. I love more, live more. You will always be my prince charming. I wish that you fulfill all your dreams, for me you are and you will be my prince charming forever. My love, my life, my prince charming love you to the moon and back.....

Cinema,mon amour
 Uday Joshi  
 23 September 2018  
Art

Cinema: the greatest hypnotizer

Book Review: From Ashes to Dreams by Rashmi Trivedi
 Ayushi A Nair  
 28 September 2018  

Book Title:From Ashes to DreamsAuthor:  Rashmi TrivediFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 194Language: EnglishPublisher: Blue Rose PublishersPublishing Date: 17 August 2018ASIN: 17 August 2018Sometimes life brings you at a crossroad, where you have no choice but to live every day as if it was your last one. Naina was at such a crossroad! An orphan, she did not have much to look forward to in life, until she fell in love. Love gave her wings and she started to fly, only to come crashing down as the wind beneath her wings turned into a storm. She tries putting an end to her now wretched existence, but fate has some other plans for her. She comes to know that she has limited time to live and decides to start living everyday instead of merely surviving. She lives every moment without worrying about the future she does not have or the past that could not be undone. She falls in love once again, this time with life!Will fate respect her fortitude?My TakeStarting from the cover of the book is  black and white photograph of a woman with a suspicious face. The cover is beautifully designed. I found this title interesting and it drew my attention instantly into this book. I must say. It certainly made me want to read it as soon as possible.The story mainly revolves around Shanti Amma, Naina, Raghav, Kusum, Ayushi, Siddharth, Shrishti, Vishal, Ranjitha and Anurag. The book is a blend of emotions, friendship, mother's love, pain, happiness, life, value, struggles and many moreThis is the story of three musketeers of Shanti Ammas orphanage. Three orphans Naina, Kusum and Raghav who are deserted by their parents on the same day at Shanti Ammas orphanage. Shanti Amma treats every child like her own children's but from the beginning she had a special tenderness towards Naina because she looks like her own daughter. Naina, Kusum and Raghav are of same age, shared the same birthday date, they grew up together and best friends. Naina is simple, shy, loving and caring girl on the other hand Kusum is smart, harmful  had a string fondness towards Raghav, Raghav is affectionate towards Naina but Naina consider Raghav as her brother.Shanti Amma passed away due to cancer, now she had only her friends left with her. Naina feels a stronger desire towards a married man Siddharth. Siddharth and Naina get's into a lovely relationship. The true love is hard to find. On the other hand Raghav and Kusum are going to get married were as Kusum is pregnant. The destiny had some other plans for them Siddharth wife is not doing well from past few days and has diagnosis in third stage of cancer. Shrishti was still legally his wife and the mother of his daughter. He sacrifices is love for his responsibilities towards family and was unable to explain the real matter to Naina  because of the promise given to his dying wife. Naina was left all alone in her life. She attempt suicide.How will Naina recovers from the mental trauma?Will Sid comes to safe her?Three musketeers will the be friends again?To know more read the book.The plot is unique the storyline is gripping as well as intriguing  and the author has been able to do full justice to it. Never felt my interest waning. The pace is perfect, neither slow nor too fast. It is steady and smooth. Author has portrayed each and every character with utmost significance of their own and every one of them has done justice to their respective roles throughout the story, thus making it easy for the reader to relate to them, their views, their actions and reactions. I loved how beautiful the character Naina is portrayed, how she over come her struggles and find a new hope towards leading the life, Ranjitha and her son Vishal having faced so much pains in their life and becomes an inspiration for others to live a happy life and Dr.Anurag with ability of healing pain in a different way. The author’s mastery over the language is evident from the terms she has used and the vivid description of events that unfold in the pages of the book. Words flow smoothly and emotions find expression thus making the book a veritable treat. With every turning page the curiosity to read further keeps on increasing as well sobbing. Yes this book made my cry at many times. Kudos to the author for penning down this wonderful book.Looking forward to read more books by the author.A wonderful read, one i’ll strongly recommend it's a must read to all the reader's and non-readers out there.Overall Ratings 5/5 StarsGrab the copy here Amazon About the AuthorRashmi Trivedi is working at a middle management level in a leading Public Sector Undertaking and has worked in various departments which includes operations, sales and training.Since the childhood days, she was passionate about reading. Unlike many who read when they find the time, she always took out time for reading. At all stages of her life, she was never too busy for a book.In 2013 she was transferred to Bhopal where she stayed for three years whereas the family stayed back in Delhi. It was during this period that she started writing poems and articles and sharing them with family and friends. She then started writing for her own page and blog. The experience at Bhopal taught her that it is only the self-imposed limitations we create in our minds that stop us from reaching our true potential. She wanted to share her experience with others and so this book happened.Other than reading, she is also passionate about travelling. There are a number of places on her bucket list which she has to explore before she calls it a day. To her, every journey is like a wrapped gift which she loves opening.Like any other female, she loves to talk and make friends. She also is a foodie and loves to binge.She stays at Delhi with her family.You can stalk her @ Facebook |Instagram ‘I am taking my Alexa rank to the next level with Blogchatter’

WHY DO I LIKE TO BLOG
 Preeti Tal  
 7 October 2018  

Why i like blogging

On Homosexuality
 Thomas Martinez  
 26 November 2018  
Art

It doesn't matter if its legal or not , Homosexualiy will always be an issue to any culture.Yes,it took hundreds of years to be legal in some places, but its very uncertain that how long it will take people to understand their feelings and emotions ,and stop seeing them as a threat to any cultural values. People get scared if a homo stands in the vicinity, what if you get harrased somehow by him or her,or whould he or she destroy your social image.There are a lots of doubtful questions come into your mind but its not logical. Think you are heterosexual, do you like or love every opposite gender you see.if you do then you are mentaly retarded, if not then your taste of like or dislike depends on some criteria, which you might be aware of or might not.So A homo also find someone as per his criteria, it won't be everyone.But well there is a chance it could be you ,So if you deny then would that homo force you,can you force somebody to love you.You can't then why you can't befriend a homo?.We are actually insulting them giving a different category "Homo" but do they ever tease us calling Hetero.Why they can't do the same because we are more in numbers than them ,we are on the right path,maintaining the cycle of life,but they are an abomination breaking the cycle and a threat to the existence of human kind.Its true but think from perspective of your life,do you love a woman because you got a Nobel job to maintain life on earth or its just about your satisfaction and security. So just like us they also strive for their own and there is no wrong in it.This is how their body is made and if God is the creator and every creation is beautiful in its way then they are also beautiful and they are rare.There is no shame being a Homo or befriending a homo.They are different and less that doesnt mean we can dominate them.And if you have too much blind faith in scriptures then let me tell you what teaches us what is right and what is wrong,Its Life ,your experience on those actions you taken make you realize what's right in this world and you fight for it.They fought for their rights because its their truth which they protected from our kind.Even who gives you right to judge someone on basis of their sexual orientation. it's their personal matter.If sugar taste bitter for some people , you can't blame them being wrong .For you its sweet for them its bitter,no judgments should pass on personal experience. You can never prove it.So please treat them with equality.So many writers,poets and scientists were born a homo and they blessed us with their creativity.But they also experienced very hard time cause society can't accept them. May be there were more brigher minds but they are not part of history,they names are lost ,grounded in this grey soil.But its modern age,and things need to be changed.

On Ideas
 Thomas Martinez  
 26 November 2018  
Art

Why do we read or why do we want to experience? To gather knowledge,ideas,to live in thoughtfulness.Some of us feel that if we are more thoughtful in every action we take,we are more enlightened because it gives us clarity of this world,like laureates in literature or in science.But sometime Ideas don't enlighten us ,it affects us,it diverts us from knowing ourself.How? It happens because of Imitation, Imitation is an art and not everyone is able to do that perfectly.But we are born to imitate,First our parents then our sociaty.We imitate everything not only language or appearance but also emotions and thoughts we see or hear,some says Imitation is first step of invention.But Sometime we became so obsessed with a particular idea from someone great that we want to imitate very perfectly , which made us forget what we actually want and who we are.We think that we are more alive and meaningful in thoughtfulness, in embracing new Ideas because we know Death is not actually painful,it's the absolute abesense of everything but in doing so sometime we are driven by ideas.We become possessed by it.We get mad to maintain a particular lifestyle, thought processing it doesn't matter even if it's wrong ,because to adapt perfection in anything we need to accept a little bit of imperfection also.This is the art of perfect Imitation.When people see these kind of men they think we are showing off to others,but we are actually showing off to ourselves.We personificate our ideas not knowing what we are doing and the realization happens untill the last moment comes then we understand we never truly lived in our mind. To me it's a tragedy.Yes It is indeed.So I suggest don't let any ideas to master your mind,you think of it,reshape it,remold it,don't let it posses you.If you think the idealistic life you are leading is 100% true then be in peace but if you thing you are getting mad to prove that then get away from that.

On Aggressiveness
 Thomas Martinez  
 26 November 2018  
Art

What is Aggressiveness?Anger is one of the primal emotions of human being, Even it is very Mature And Natural emotion for a Human to have. But there is a slight difference between being angry and Aggressive. Angry is a condition you may not express your anger but you can be angry but aggressive means to show your anger physically frequently most of without any logic.Reason – in our daily Life many things happen where  we should be angry and should show anger but in most cases, for social image or thinking about people’s view, we suppress it and try to find other passive way to express, sometime in form of revenge but without understanding more harmful effect what we are doing in society.Sometime we believe that giving aggressive response is the only way to resolve interpersonal problems avoiding a brief Communication and discussing matter through constructive behavior. We mostly do it when we are not confident and confused in any way.Aggressiveness is another way to let our mind free and powerful. As humankind is not allowed  to Clean our urges from inside because we are so called civilized. So this becomes a way to feel Pleasure, yelling on others. It feels like giving priority to himself or herself, to be more Alive and Superior Being.In most of time anger impairs ours ability to control over cognitive behavior and then we fail to find any right outcome to express. Gradually it forms a destructive aggressive way to express the condition.Effects – Frequent use of Aggressiveness can cause addiction of being Angry. Like all other emotions if we are always in a way to be angry it consumes us like addiction.In society we misinterpreted such kinds of people. They are very mistaken for their appearance as they lose their self monitoring ability.Cure – When we become aware of this we try to train our brain to control aggression by avoiding physical contact, to rationalize our activities, but the process sometime works as temporary Cure not permanent. In those cases we must take the way of reconciliation. If we blindly keep our self calm, taking responsibility for everything,that will trigger guiltness and that doesn’t kill the reason. So day by day this partial improper training can cause opposite effect as well. We must uproot the origin of Aggression .but its Easy to act like a child rather being a matured one. That's what we follow. We must convert our Anger to Constructive behavior without making dramatic situation.

On Parenting
 Thomas Martinez  
 26 November 2018  
Art

On ParentingIn India most of the people leaves their baby home alone so they can earn money to make assure their children's future by providing them material security ,this makes them feel the most successful parents .But this concept is 80% wrong,because it makes them overprotective in every way,and they very like to coddle up their children that ruin their mental freedom .Every parents wants their child in their image,this is natural but what they want is to see their children like a baby with tottering legs even he is 30 years old or married.If they can never give freedom even in their mind,then how a child can taste freedom in reality.Every child is born with their natural instinct,if their qualities are not nurtured well ,situation could be catastrophic.So every parent should allow their individualities to grow freely ,they need to accept whoever he or she is going to become.But to make them steady and wise they need to build some moral codes,some rules which helps them to be very straight and strong in mind.Time can change everything,it effects everything but it can't change someone's psych if those moral pillers are strong enough.The most common reason which ruins a child is a bad marriage.Teenage people wrongly caught up in spell called Love without knowing what it is.then they desperately wants to be a father or mother.which is completely wrong decision.when the spell is Broken they start doing compromise with their life but That child here becomes a victim of their situation,my question to them if you are so unwise about love and and future you hold then why you waste another life?.When a child grows up their physical dependencies turns into emotional dependencies.At the time when it wants to be free in its thoughts and emotions they find unhappiness in their family that made them caged in theirselves.because it can't share what it has inside and slowly die in silence,or goes into wrong hands.A child is very similar to an old person.both physically and mentally they are very vulnerable.they require special care in both aspect.but a child is more sensitive cause he is going to be a man one day.So your upbringing would decide what kind of person you want to make.Every parents should study their children's behaviors,the way they react to certain situations.Some time you need to create situation to study the way your child thinks because every child is born with different instinct so their actions might differ.Every minor response from them is important who knows which might reveal their biggest strength.A parent can only be best friend if they try a little bit to modernize their thoughts to cope up with their child.So they can understand whatever happens he or she will take care of me.but in 99% of cases they failed cope up with their new perceptions because they belong to a different time.Another thing is every parent should spend at least three hours a week to teach them about life.telling them some stories about positivity,and being strong in morality.something which they can apply in their life.you can say that we pay school for education , but they can't teach your child like you can.learning is not only about academic excellence but having true perceptions about life.Most of parents don't have time for this,but it's an important lesson which any parent needs to start from the age of 4,they may not remember the whole story but that lesson will always be in their subconscious mind.Which effects the way they are going to think and see things in their vision.Their are other Environmental factors which effects in certain ways but Home is the first school and parents are first teachers.

THOUGHTS CAN IMAPCT YOU A LOT
 Mahek Jain  
 24 December 2018  
Art

THOUGHTSSeptember 5, 2018EditThe uncomplicated definition of thought is a notion, perception or conception of one. Someone so truly said that ,”As a single step footstep will not make a path on the Earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind.To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives!”Yes! The way you think, is the way you become. It is not just the volume of efforts you put in, but also the type of thoughts you possess. The thoughts that you have in your mind, have an intense impact on your behaviour, success, existence and your emotions.The brain stimulates responses in accordance to the gestures it receives.So, if you develop good thoughts, you’ll have a positive impact . For example: Whenever you are struck with any problem ,don’t panic. Just give your brain positive gestures like everything is normal, I can deal with it.Giving such positive gestures prepares the mind and let’s you stay calm.In the same situation, if you express dismay or get thoughts in your mind like,’ I can’t do anything, Everything is done,’ then your mind gets prepared in such a way that you become all the more alarmed and tensed. Although having positive thoughts can’t solve your problem,’but it will atleast give you courage and inspiration to solve it.I don’t want to stress on the point to have positive thoughts but instead I would suggest you people to always have such thoughts that will make your life simpler. Where some thoughts make up your life , some thoughts destruct it.Thoughts come a lot, some help you trot while some cause you rot. One should understand the fine line between positive and negative thoughts. The thought that calm you down are the positive ones and the ones that warm you up are the negative ones. What may be a positive thought for one may not be positive for the other. For instance Getting a change in society in terms of eradicating superstitions may be a positive thought for one but might be a negative thought for the other since he/she might believe that superstitions are necessary!“Positive feel’s wheel heals quickly!” So,Think you are the conqueror, you will become so. Think you own this world , you’ll definitely own one day. Once you just realize the power of your thoughts you will never think a negative thought. The day you change your thoughts, you can change the world.Thus, HAVE STRONG BELIEF, IT PROVIDES YOU RELIEF. SHAPE YOUR THOUGHTS, TO GET RID OF TRAP IN WHICH YOU ARE CAUGHT…….

Bollywood around the trees
 Kalpana Swamy  
 6 February 2019  

"Bollywood is all about dancing around the trees"... probably yes and that's what makes us unique and jhintaak!
I guess "around the trees" is a metaphor to show that sweet shyness which tingles your body and that strange happiness you don't know how to express. Most of the songs picturised around trees are the ones where the girl and boy are expressing their love coyly. Starting from 1930s where Ashok Kumar and Devika Rani crooned to “Main Ban Ki Chidiya Ban Me” around the trees to almost the end of 1990s, hindi cinema have taken refuge of nature to depict romance.
And why not? Trees, flowers, gardens and nature appear the best when you heart is blooming with love. It is a state of mind which depicts happiness and joy. Even autumn starts looking fresh in hues of brown and grey, when the love blossoms! Remember the tulip garden in Dekha Ek Khwab from Silsila!
However, I want to recollect one rare song which fits the bill and still does not qualify to be jhintaak at all! “Dil Dhoondhta Hai” from Mausam!
Mausam signifies weather, which changes and never remains constant! The movie aptly titled shows myriad variations of emotions which are created by circumstances and fate. A happy couple separates, a daughter never sees her father and life takes her on the path of a profession where a man is a man, not a father or brother or friend! Fate brings the father and daughter back and relationship tornado takes swirls!
And one song which summarises the whole movie is Dil Dhoondhta Hai Phir Wohi Fursat ke Raat Din!
Gulzar Saab has penned this song in such articulated way that the same lyrics make up for a happy version and a sad version. While Madan Mohan ji has composed both the versions in typical moods, we must give complete credit to Bhupinder Singh ji for exuding such strong emotions in each version so beautifully!
The baritone effortlessly reach your soul in both the versions. While singing happy, he voice smiles and while remembering the happy times heart cries, his voice will pierce you with pain and pathos! More you listen to each version, more you fall in love!
Happy Birthday Bhupinder Singh ji!

 
 


Boys do cry
 Sara Garg  
 7 February 2019  

Boys do cry

Relationship
 Pallabi Das  
 9 February 2019  
Art

Surrounding is a key factor in everyone. In my surrounding everywhere marriage is going on.When it comes to my marriage, I'm afraid of marriage and started thinking about lots of things.I'm very much clear about my choices and my family choices but still, I'm in dilemma to get marry andmake a new family.I did some research for that.I found some answers from my heart and some from observing my family & friends and some from media.I asked myself some questions so many times- what is marriage, what is good for me,love marriage or arrange marriage and how I know I got the right person, etc?Different people define it in different ways. Not even sociologists are able to agree on a single meaning.According to me, love is God gifted, it's doesn't matter you got love marriage or arrange marriage,in every marriage life love is essential. It does not matter, you love someonebefore or after marriage, the fact is how much you love him/her, how much you sharing and caring.Marriage and family are key structures in most societies.I am going to share some of the important things to make a healthy marriage  -1.TrustJohn Gottman, one of the nation's foremost  researchers of marriages and families, says that "trust is essential to healthy relationships and healthy communities."If you have strong trust then your relationship is healthy nothing will harm your relationship.2.TogethernessSometimes you do what you like, and other times you do...what the other person likes.Maybe people will understand this is a compromise but it's actually the color of love.You spend time together doing things you both enjoy.Whether that's hiking, food tasting,  watching movies or listening to any song, or even working together.If one spouse is passionate about writing and reading then the other person should make time to read and give some tips to improve.3.Time ApartSometimes, giving space for each other is necessary.It is a boring life to spend 24 / 7 together and can't have separate interests and hobbies.you both understand, and respect, that you need time apart doing what you want to do.4. Attentiveness for each otherEven if u get the best chance for going somewhere or your favorite movie ticket,if your partner is not feeling well or he/she has some important work to do thendon't force.understanding each other's situation is the best part of your relationship.5.SharingSharing small things also gives more pleasure.If your situation is bad, don't hide it,since they will be there to comfort you and help you figure out ways to move on from this bad situation.6. Change OvernightDon't expect each other to change overnight.If your spouse is fat or thin or any bad habits they have then that won't make you feel ashamed or even expect you to change overnight.Make them understand that change is a process, and I will support you along the way.7. Do FightsDo some productive fights with him/her.This means listening to each other, understanding and respecting each other's viewpoints,and finding common ground so that you can strengthen your marriage.8. Value and GoalsShare each other's values and goals.I think it would be boring if a couple had the exact interests or personalities.so respect each other's interest and personality.Don't expect the same personality as yours.Let your spouse know how much you are proud of him/her. Celebrate his/her smallachievements.9. Helping each otherHelp each other to become more successful and to maintain a productive work-life balance. I saw in my family, a spouse is also your biggest strength in helping you achieve your goals and will do whatever they can, to help you overcome obstacles blocking your path to success in work and life. And they're genuinely excited when you succeed.10.Laugh“Against the assault of laughter, nothing can stand.” – Mark Twain.Make your marriage fun and happy. Tell some words which make your spouse cheer up.When life is stressful this the best way to cheer up.11. ListenListen to him/her rather talking more (vise versa).Your spouse needs the gift of your time and attention.When you listen generously, your spouse will feel secure in coming to you with their concerns, hopes, and fears.Once you’ve identified what your spouse is feeling—whether it’s anger, sadness, frustration,anxiety, or excitement—you can adjust your responses based on their emotional state.When our emotions go into a tailspin, it can be difficult to keep communication healthy.One way to build intimacy in your relationship is by sharing your thoughts and feelingswith each other and then responding to those disclosures in a way that makes you both feel good.12.Seek KnowledgeSeek knowledge from each other.You may don't have the same knowledge.The right person is someone who is interested in learning and growing intellectually by constantly seeking knowledge.13. Ask for helpNever hesitate to ask for help.Asking for help is not your weakness.When you ask your spouse for advice or help you're respecting and admitting the fact that they have more experience or skills in an area that you're not that familiar with.14.Financial goalsYou share the same financial goals.Even the greatest of relationship can end in a break up due to financial differences and concerns.You should both be on the same page when it comes to your financial goals, such as how much moneyyou need to live a happy and stress-free life and how you're going to save for retirement.Strong couples create and share budgets, as well as generate financial challenges for themselvesin order to put their finances in order.15.Physical AffectionThe ways in which we can express physical affection vary and more research is needed.Physical affection is related to lower blood pressure & releases feel-good hormones.One of the reasons why hugging, holding hands, and touching feel good to us is that these behaviors elevate our level of oxytocin, a hormone that reduces pain and causes a calming sensation.How important is physical intimacy in a relationship and what does it really mean?It’s an expression of love.Being physically intimate means more than simply heading to the bedroom with your spouse.Physical intimacy can range from eye-contact, holding hands, cuddling, and of course, sex.Physical intimacy involves a deep emotional connection.Having a deep connection to your spouse on this level helps build trust, boosts morale, and has many health benefits.

Glorious The Moon
 Dhwani Shah  
 14 February 2019  

Glorious the moon . . .therefore our thanksdark cloudsCome to rest our necks.When our focus shift from thoughts to self, we are grateful to everything around us. Our mind becomes silent and at rest.Life is a story we weave together from the thoughts, feelings, and emotions we experience each moment. Yet we live the majority of our life in the memories of our past and the expectations of the future. Rarely do we live in the purity of the present.In meditation we disrupt the unconscious progression of thoughts and emotions by focusing on a new object of attention, whether that is our breath or empty screen on third eye.Meditation is one of the best ways to loosen the grip of sticky emotions and connect to our true self, which isn’t limited, angry, or fearful, but is infinite, pure consciousness. Meditation brings us home to the peace of present-moment awareness and gives us an experience of profound relaxation that dissolves fatigue and long-standing stresses and – as countless studies have shown – promotes both physical and emotional healing. The benefits of meditation include:• lowered blood pressure and hypertension• slower heart rate• decreases cholesterol levels• reduced production of “stress hormones,” including cortisol and adrenaline• more efficient oxygen use by the body• increased production of the anti-aging hormone DHEA• improved immune functionBeyond these significant health benefits, the greatest gift of meditation is the sense of calm and inner peace it brings into our daily life. When we meditate, we go beyond the mind’s noisy chatter into an entirely different place: the silence of a mind that is not imprisoned by the past or the future.

True love Vs fake love
 Sara Garg  
 17 February 2019  

True love Vs fake love

StoryMirror in conversation with Author Aditya Thakur
 StoryMirror Feed  
 20 February 2019  
Art

Q: Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life.A: I am currently pursuing the B.E. Program in Electrical Engineering from Punjab Chandigarh College, Chandigarh. I am a writer and a poet. I love to sing, and study about music and psychology. My other interests include painting, sketching and public speaking. I just want to do it all.Q: How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?  A: When I was growing up, I went through my phases of teen rebel, the melodrama of youth and the feelings of being misunderstood. I had a hard time dealing with growing up and facing the world. And when I couldn't find any other way to deal with it, one day I decided to write, and the words came flowing to my mind and I was amazed. It felt so good and relieving, that I continued with writing poems, articles and stories, and read them to my family and friends.Q: What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work? Sometimes you are so weighed down by your emotions that you don't want to write about them because at times, that is like, piercing knives through your heart. It hurts so bad to confront and re-confront the bad stuff but then again, that also gives you some of your best work. So, i don't mind it but it sure feels difficult to be eaten alive by something you love doing, so dearly. So that is one difficult thing about it, the way how everything is sometimes so difficult to write about when it's just screaming out of you, everywhere.Q: What is your view about the present-day literary work?  A: I think it's amazing how so many writers have found various platforms and a lot of stories are coming out. New Genres are being formed and everybody is now pushing their limits, which is great. Finally, we are in a world where everyone has a voice and that just feels so amazing.Q: Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers? A: Absolutely yes! I couldn't have agreed more. Digital platforms are a blessing to a budding writer's world.Q: Please tell us something about your literary work.  A: Most of the stuff I write about is centered around the themes of growing up, parting, solitude and escapism. I take inspiration from my own life and the lives of people around me. I try to paint a picture with my words and try to do in the most honest and sometimes dark manner. I have also written about suicide, death, friends and teenage and I am open to writing more about being spiritual and what it means to be happy and sad. I want to go and explore different themes and write about each one of them, if I can. I think I am a tireless nomad in search for something that connects everything.Q: What was your first literary work and how was it published?A: My first literary work was with StoryMirror. I had never tried my hand at writing but one day i decided to and so I sent one of my poems 'The rush of your dreams' in the inter-college level competition organized by StoryMirror. I got so many views and applause for it that it was too overwhelming. It also got selected to be featured in one of the anthologies by StoryMirror, which is under work. I was completely shaken, and I still remember that feeling like it was yesterday. Q: How many ways literature can contribute to society in future? A: Well, for one, I’d say literature is going to save the world. In a world where we are so divided by boundaries and religion, I think Literature is where we all come together as humans. If every human being develops a writer's heart and an artistic growth, so many amazing things can happen to this world, that could have been thought of only in dreams or stories.Q: here do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world? A:I want to travel all around the world, look for various muses and write about them. I really hope to make it successful as a writer and as a poet and maybe one day, I’ll get to write my story for the world to read and be remembered. Q: What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets? A: I think it is a great idea. While I firmly believe that every writer has a different and a deep personal story to tell, I think it would be great if we all could just talk to one another and discuss about our muses and themes. I'd love to be in such a club, for sure. Sign me up! Q: What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers? A: As one myself, I’d ask them to continue writing no matter what. It doesn't matter whether you get any recognition or applause, just remember why you started off writing and go on with it, no matter what. The most important thing is to write for yourself, and then comes the world. So just do your thing and don't ever look back.Q: How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror?   A: Two words - Beyond Exhilarating. I got so much recognition and exposure, and I am so grateful that I can't even begin to put it into words. It feels like being found in this chaotic world and I look forward to being remembered. Thank you, StoryMirror! You have my heart!Q: Would you like to say something about StoryMirror?  A: Yes! Keep up with this amazing platform. I hope a lot of writers consider you as the medium they want their work to spread and speak to the people. May you make big with all of these writers. Keep slaying!!!You can read my content on https://storymirror.com/profile/oseliq3i/aditya-thakur/poems

StoryMirror in conversation with Author Ashlesha Sadras
 StoryMirror Feed  
 20 February 2019  
Art

·Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life.A- Mount Carmel 2005 batch pass out, I was quite a rebellious teenager, I surely was interested in getting the best grades however was always looking for logic and reasoning in most of the things I came across.·How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?  A-I think I have felt the urge to put my words together into sentences when I realized that I had thoughts that were not common. I was always intrigued by the notion of writing and how uncommon thoughts when put together can touch millions of hearts and bring a change.·What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work? A-My first post was with Story mirror and My first content Closure got published. I guess I have been lucky to not see that phase of difficulty.·What is your view about the present day literary work?A-I feel literary work has evolved from where it was earlier when it comes to new inclination of thoughts breaking the stereotypical thought process and now we have more writers who think out of the box.·Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers?A-I completely agree with that as I feel earlier it was difficult for writers to reach to their desired readers and vice versa, now we have numerous ways to select the kind of Genre we would like to read and follow the writer to keep ourselves updated with their new work·Please tell us something about your literary work. A-I write to be read and through my writing I want to convey the emotions which are somewhere lost. It is about a journey that takes you back to past, gives you a glimpse of future and all in between. I wish to change some lives which are trapped within themselves to give them a sense of true self and if even one bit is possible by my writing and it reaches them I would be the happiest.·What was your first literary work and how was it published? A-My first work was CLOSURE and it was published on StoryMirror.·How many ways literature can contribute to society in future?A-Literature plays a vital role in shaping the society and as rightly coined by Edward Bulwer –Lytton “ Pen is mightier than sword”. I feel we can eradicate major differences today in society with some powerful and meaningful writing.·Where do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?A-I see myself at a position where my writing would have made a difference in the way we deal with situations be it with others or with own self.·What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets?A-If I had to suggest it would be a “Writers Fest” annually, where all the writers globally could come together brainstorm ideas, thoughts and innovative ways to get the literary work to new level. This would not only bring innovation to the literary world but also connect writers globally.·What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers? A-Keep writing, irrespective of the rhyme, flow and trust me it would fit. All you need is to pen down your thoughts that you actually feel from within and there are no conflicts about them within yourself.·How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror?  A-My experience was phenomenal, story mirror gave me an opportunity to express my thoughts, All I kept on doing was writing more and in no time I could see all of my contents that I submitted getting published with ease and great support.·Would you like to say something about StoryMirror? A-StoryMirror gave me transparency about how things would work and gave me a clear picture about my literary future with them. I feel transparency is the key to build strong relationships and I feel my work is in right hands.You can read my work on this link https://storymirror.com/profile/a5jjvmkb/ashlesha-sadras/poems

StoryMirror in conversation with Author Richa Dixit.
 StoryMirror Feed  
 20 February 2019  
Art

Q: Please give details about your initial education and forming years of lifeA: I have done my schooling and Graduation (B. Com) from my hometown, i.e. Gwalior (M.P) . And later did my Post Grad (MBA) from Lakshmangarh Jaipur (Raj.)Q:How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?A: From the childhood days i used to enjoy reading & writing poetry. Words and the emotions they generate and expressing myself by ideas and words have been my passion throughout. Writing has been a soul calling for me, words have been a source of healing to my emotions and zest to find myself through words. Q: What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work?A: Although my family has been always supporting me in my writing passion, but still the society limits us by such creative fields to be as a career option, specially being a woman. A qualified woman in most houses are the ones who have attained degrees to get married to high earning spouse to do the dishes at end of the day, freedom of expression has always been a highly neglected zone for women. though not that case with me but still being at the shore, that ripple effect tickles your feet in some or the other way.Q: What is your view about the present-day literary work?A: Literature needs to be honored in its true sense, education system in schools and colleges and the awareness for literature subject has to be rolled out. Without creativity and those floating ideas, being a human race is undefined. Roots of literature are needed to be strengthened.Q: Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers?A: Yes, it has served a lot and a new hope has arisen to let the light shine. Young writers are gaining there worth through this a lot, were they can showcase their talent and be recognized. Q: Please tell us something about your literary work.A: Talking about my literary work, I have been always fascinated by poetry (English, Hindi, Urdu), i really wish to rekindle the magic of poetry to world again. I have published my Hindi/Urdu poetry compilation in my two books.Q: What was your first literary work and how was it published?A: My first literary work was my online book issue (DILSOZ ALFAAZ), that was a compilation of some of my poetry work. This is what the significance of social media that has enabled me to publish my work online, with no cost involved, where in I got a good response and later decided to compile another book (lamhon ki oot se) in print media.Q: How many ways literature can contribute to society in future?A: Literature can totally define the roots of us, it holds a great contribution percentage, era has to be brought back so that art n culture, traditions can be put into flow . Literary world must be enriched with creative young passion, literature is a science and art of healing in my perspective. With our wall bounded, numbers-oriented job world, we are turning into barren souls, literature can bring the showers of peace and harmony to create a world and life worth living.Q: There do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?A: After 5 years I see myself as a writer figure, nurturing my soul calling and purpose, sharing with society my ideas and work that can heal and inspire others. Q: What ways would you suggest building a community for poets?A: System has to be modified from ground level, schools & colleges need to be taking participation in same so that our youth can revive the vibe of creativity and build our literature stronger, society needs young writers as the successors of our literary world. It has to be a prominent career opportunity for people who wish to pursue it, due to lack of awareness and opportunities in literary world, youth is getting brain drained towards numb career zones ending up in stress and losing one self.Q: What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers? A: I would like to share this view to aspiring new writers, that let your words say it all, no matter what follow your heart, collective efforts of all of us will make us and this literary society of ours shine and we will establish a strong foundation, they are the crucial pillars of it.Q: How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror? A: Writing on story mirror was really an amazing experience, getting my work selected at it was really a pleasure. Q: Would you like to say something about Storymirror? A: Story Mirror is a wonderful platform, I really feel blessed to come across it, they people really make our worth being notified to world out there, Great to be writing on it and felicitated by it for letting my words find their true light. Read my content on https://storymirror.com/profile/wmz2b5q5/richa-dixit/poems

StoryMirror in conversation with Author Ashlesha Sadras
 StoryMirror Feed  
 20 February 2019  
Art

Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life.A- Mount Carmel 2005 batch pass out, I was quite a rebellious teenager, I surely was interested in getting the best grades however was always looking for logic and reasoning in most of the things I came across.·How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?  A-I think I have felt the urge to put my words together into sentences when I realized that I had thoughts that were not common. I was always intrigued by the notion of writing and how uncommon thoughts when put together can touch millions of hearts and bring a change.·What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work? A-My first post was with Story mirror and My first content Closure got published. I guess I have been lucky to not see that phase of difficulty.·What is your view about the present day literary work?A-I feel literary work has evolved from where it was earlier when it comes to new inclination of thoughts breaking the stereotypical thought process and now we have more writers who think out of the box.·Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers?A-I completely agree with that as I feel earlier it was difficult for writers to reach to their desired readers and vice versa, now we have numerous ways to select the kind of Genre we would like to read and follow the writer to keep ourselves updated with their new work·Please tell us something about your literary work. A-I write to be read and through my writing I want to convey the emotions which are somewhere lost. It is about a journey that takes you back to past, gives you a glimpse of future and all in between. I wish to change some lives which are trapped within themselves to give them a sense of true self and if even one bit is possible by my writing and it reaches them I would be the happiest.·What was your first literary work and how was it published? A-My first work was CLOSURE and it was published on StoryMirror.·How many ways literature can contribute to society in future?A-Literature plays a vital role in shaping the society and as rightly coined by Edward Bulwer –Lytton “ Pen is mightier than sword”. I feel we can eradicate major differences today in society with some powerful and meaningful writing.·Where do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?A-I see myself at a position where my writing would have made a difference in the way we deal with situations be it with others or with own self.·What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets?A-If I had to suggest it would be a “Writers Fest” annually, where all the writers globally could come together brainstorm ideas, thoughts and innovative ways to get the literary work to new level. This would not only bring innovation to the literary world but also connect writers globally.·What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers? A-Keep writing, irrespective of the rhyme, flow and trust me it would fit. All you need is to pen down your thoughts that you actually feel from within and there are no conflicts about them within yourself.·How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror?  A-My experience was phenomenal, story mirror gave me an opportunity to express my thoughts, All I kept on doing was writing more and in no time I could see all of my contents that I submitted getting published with ease and great support.·Would you like to say something about StoryMirror? A-StoryMirror gave me transparency about how things would work and gave me a clear picture about my literary future with them. I feel transparency is the key to build strong relationships and I feel my work is in right hands.You can read my work on this link https://storymirror.com/profile/a5jjvmkb/ashlesha-sadras/poems

StoryMirror in conversation with author Pulkit Maheshwari
 StoryMirror Feed  
 22 February 2019  
Art

Q:Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life. A: I completed my initial education from the various hindi medium schools of Jaipur and then completed my engineering. Like most youngsters of India my forming years were a struggle between listening to my heart and family. I will talk about it more in my upcoming book.Q: How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write? A: For me it wasn't that difficult, I was writing whatever was coming in my heart and still I do the same only.Q: What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work? A: People have become more opened up and they are pouring their hearts out through their writing. Previous generations work was mainly about society, but today's generation work is mainly about life experiences.Q: What is your view about the present day literary work? A: Yes, certainly it did that and doing that as well.Q: Please tell us something about your literary work. A: My literary work is mainly based upon my life experiences and my emotions. How I fought through the long streak of depression has definitely given a direction and motivation to my writing.Q: What was your first literary work and how was it published? A: Couple of urdu poems and they got published because of the motivation and support from my soul mother.Q: How many ways literature can contribute to society in future?A: In every possible way.Q: Where do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?A: Hard to find some time to think that far.Q: What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets?A: Poets should be more opened in communicating and sharing thoughts. Also, they should help each-other by pointing out the mistakes and give suggestions for improvements. Q: What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers?A: Listen to your heart.Q: How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror?  A: It was a good exposure.Q: Would you like to say something about StoryMirror? A: It's good platform to support budding writers.Here is the link to read my content https://storymirror.com/profile/pemocbrh/pulkit-maheshwari/poems

StoryMirror in conversation with author Suman Mishra
 StoryMirror Feed  
 22 February 2019  
Art

Q:Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life.  A: I am of 11th std, science student in odm public school , bhubaneswar odisha . Preparing and aiming for medical in future. Besides i love writing and discovered this passion of mine at an early age.Q: How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?   A: Literature has always been my favorite. I used to read novels, short stories and poems which later inspired me to write. I love playing with words and try to write every sentence with the deep and realistic feeling.Q: What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work?  A: Coming to difficulties, I have tried to write a novel many a times yet i am just not able to write the way it should be. Aiming to have my solo novel published is not just a dream but needs a lot of hard work as well. Literary writing brings the original though from a writer’s mind yet if not completed, gives disappointment as well.Q: What is your view about the present-day literary work? A: The modern day literature has become so modernized that we are forgetting out ethics and culture and it leads to the degradation of the literature as well.Q: Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers? A: Yes the emergence of digital and social sites have given a lot of opportunities for the young , modern and aspiring writers to showcase their talents.Q: Please tell us something about your literary work.A: My literary work involves everything that is around me . May be it on social causes , emotions , abstract or anything that connects me to the deepest of my emotions , that’s where I start to pen my thoughts , mostly in poetry . Q: What was your first literary work and how was it published? A: My first literary work is titled as 'maa' which i wrote on the eve of my mother's birthday and had submitted the poem on a theme based poetry anthology it got selected that is going to be published in the upcoming months.Q: How many ways literature can contribute to society in future?A: Literature can contribute to the society in a million ways , may be it changing the mindset , society's rules , literature has the power to change the thinking in unstoppable ways. Q: Where do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?A: After 5 years , I see my literature world in a totally different way. Having got my solo book published that time would be a dream come true, planning for more such to change the world with my words and verses.Q: What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets?A: A community of poets would basically have mentors, experienced writers , learners , young writers and would form a group to aim for better literary knowledge and more anthologies.Q: What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers? A: To all the aspiring writers , you can do it . I know its a bit of a difficult journey at the start , but eventually things would fall in its own place. Just pen down your feelings and let the words express what you want to convey. If you think u can do it you would definitely be able to do it . All my best wishes to you.Q: How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror?  A: My experience in storyMirror has been incredibly nice. Q: Would you like to say something about StoryMirror? A: StoryMirror provides an amazing platform for all the writers to know more, learn and grow from it .Here is the link to read my content https://storymirror.com/profile/z3dv6kea/suman-mishra/stories

StoryMirror in conversation with author Suman Mishra
 StoryMirror Feed  
 24 February 2019  
Art

Q: Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life. A: I am of 11th std, science student in odm public school , bhubaneswar odisha . Preparing and aiming for medical in future. Besides i love writing and discovered this passion of mine at an early age.Q: How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?   A: Literature has always been my favorite. I used to read novels, short stories and poems which later inspired me to write. I love playing with words and try to write every sentence with the deep and realistic feeling.Q: What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work?  A: Coming to difficulties, I have tried to write a novel many a times yet i am just not able to write the way it should be. Aiming to have my solo novel published is not just a dream but needs a lot of hard work as well. Literary writing brings the original though from a writer’s mind yet if not completed, gives disappointment as well.Q: What is your view about the present-day literary work?A: The modern day literature has become so modernized that we are forgetting out ethics and culture and it leads to the degradation of the literature as well.Q: Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers?A: Yes the emergence of digital and social sites have given a lot of opportunities for the young , modern and aspiring writers to showcase their talents.Q: Please tell us something about your literary work.A: My literary work involves everything that is around me . May be it on social causes , emotions , abstract or anything that connects me to the deepest of my emotions , that’s where I start to pen my thoughts , mostly in poetry . Q: What was your first literary work and how was it published?A: My first literary work is titled as 'maa' which i wrote on the eve of my mother's birthday and had submitted the poem on a theme based poetry anthology it got selected that is going to be published in the upcoming months.Q: How many ways literature can contribute to society in future?A: Literature can contribute to the society in a million ways , may be it changing the mindset , society's rules , literature has the power to change the thinking in unstoppable ways. Q: Where do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?A: After 5 years , I see my literature world in a totally different way. Having got my solo book published that time would be a dream come true, planning for more such to change the world with my words and verses.Q: What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets?A: A community of poets would basically have mentors, experienced writers , learners , young writers and would form a group to aim for better literary knowledge and more anthologies.Q: What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers?A: To all the aspiring writers , you can do it . I know its a bit of a difficult journey at the start , but eventually things would fall in its own place. Just pen down your feelings and let the words express what you want to convey. If you think u can do it you would definitely be able to do it . All my best wishes to you.Q: How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror?  A: My experience in storyMirror has been incredibly nice. Q: Would you like to say something about StoryMirror?A: StoryMirror provides an amazing platform for all the writers to know more, learn and grow from it .

StoryMirror in conversation with author Bipul Banerjee
 StoryMirror Feed  
 25 February 2019  
Art

Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life.:I am a science graduate with an M.B.A in marketing. I work as an Associate Vice President-Sales and Business Development with a Life Science research organizationHow did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?  :Since my school days English as a subject has been my love. I was inspired by the poems taught to us in school. Human emotions are my source of inspiration. In my early days I used to write romantic poems in rhyming patterns, slowly my work has evolved into life emotions written in free verseWhat difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work? :In today’s world of information explosion and internet at your finger tip, plagiarism is a major issue. Furthermore exploitation of budding writers by commercial houses who do not understand literature is an issue that I have been coming across everyday. Getting a right platform to showcase your work is very important What is your view about the present day literary work? :The present day literary work in my opinion is stupendous. It is really heartening to see youngsters pursue their literary skills and take them to new heights armed with latest technology which was not the case of yesteryears.Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers? :It definitely has and this is a huge opportunity which creative writers should optimize on Please tell us something about your literary work:I write to pursue my passion of penning emotions. I am not a professional writer but write in free verse, penning various emotions of life. I believe that emotions should rhyme rather than rhyming of words. A lucid and vivid pen picture of your emotions should be presented to the reading to which your audience can immediately relate to. My work has been published across various national and international platforms. A brief summary is as follows :The author is management leader by profession .He has 5 research publications  to his name in the field of CRM and two book chapters.A well read and vastly published poet.Featured among 100 emerging poets of Asia. Featured poet of the month in PoetrySoup.com in 2016-17Featured poet as contemporary Asianpoets of 2016-17Featured artist of the week in The 13Alphabet Magazine- 2017-18Featured artist at the St.Charles Artsfest gallery- Chicago- 2018Conferred ‘The Author of the year 2018’ by Story mirror 20 international and 25 national poetry publications in paper backs and e-books . Popularly known as ‘Dusk’ in literary circles                                    How many ways literature can contribute to society in future? :Literature can contribute to the society only if it is able to inculcate basic values in children. The future of our society lies in our children, their basic literature will only be the lighthouse in their journey called lifeWhere do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?:I don’t take writing as a profession hence there is no set benchmark for futureWhat ways would you suggest to build a community for poets?Social media is the best platform to bind poets and build a communityWhat message would you like to give to aspiring new writers? :Be honest in your writing. Inspirations are good but being influenced is not. Be yourself and pen what you think is right. It is not necessary that your thoughts need to be caged into rhyming verses, as I have said earlier, it is important that the emotions rhyme.How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror?  :My experience of writing on StoryMirror has been good so far and I find a very welcoming and professional culture here backed by politeness and graceWould you like to say something about StoryMirror? :StoryMirror is the home for writers from all facets of the society. They are doing a good job and improving on their own set benchmarks day by day. My sincere gratitude and best wishes to themHere is the link to read all my content https://storymirror.com/profile/uh6hb5p3/bipul-banerjee/poems

StoryMirror in conversation with author Kritika Mittal
 StoryMirror Feed  
 27 February 2019  
Art

Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life.I'm from a small town in Punjab and I am appearing for class 12th board exams this year and I want to be a social worker. How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?  I've interest in literature from the very starting, poems, stories the way they are written and the hidden meanings have always inspired me to read and write more. For me writing is my passion, a way to outlet emotions so I would say my emotions are what inspires me to write. What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work? There have been many problems the top one being I've not taken classes for writing so yeah sometimes it backfires.  What is your view about the present-day literary work? Present day literary work is really great, new ideas with this new generation are spreading, people are becoming aware and literature is about love and that's exactly today's writers are doing. Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers? Yes, I do think that the emergence of social media has given a new platform to the aspiring writers and artists. If it would not have been social media then I've been not writing this mail to one of the best organization. Please tell us something about your literary work. I'm a poetess and poetry is what makes me, when all the emotions are on the page, just in few lines and you can tell what the poet is feeling is amazing and wonderful. Literature is a way of living. What was your first literary work and how was it published? My first literary work was a poem on loneliness, and it was published in an anthology on loneliness with the help of delhipoetry slam and poem pajama. How many ways literature can contribute to society in future? Today's life is full of chaos, it's about materialistic things and literature is what gives joy and knowledge and it can change the world by changing the minds. Where do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?  Where people know my name, where my poetry connects to their heart, on tours for my book and meeting my lovely readers. What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets? I guess starting with a team of 40 with different languages and ways of writing each and every with its own unique style and then spreading the love, conducting workshops for free, having open mic and contests. What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers? The message I would like to give to the new aspiring writers is guys you're doing great, do not leave your pen because your pen is your sword and your words are your voice, you're the change that people desire. How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror?  Story mirror has helped me to change as a person, to evolve as a writer, to connect with others, it has been a wonderful ride with the team. Would you like to say something about StoryMirror? Storymirror is the best place I've discovered and I would love to be a part of this, there journey.Here is the link to read my content https://storymirror.com/profile/ocsu5rk7/kritika-mittal/poems

StoryMirror in conversation with author Rashmi Jain
 StoryMirror Feed  
 4 March 2019  
Art

Q:Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life. A: I’ve done MCA and was there in the IT industry for few years. But, always had a flair for writing since my childhood. I didn’t remember when I first picked up the pen, but I do remember one thing. It changed my entire life!Q: How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?  A: Literature liberates your soul. Words empower you. If you ask what inspires me, I would say, inspiration is everywhere around you. You just need to have an eye for it. I'm surrounded by a lot of people around me. Each one has a story to share. I just get the idea from the everyday life of all those.Q: What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work? A: To present a piece of literary work (something worthy, something close to your heart, something upon which you have devoted your time and effort) in front of a huge audience out there, and the related doubts of meeting the expectations of and fear of acceptance by your readers can be the scariest part. It’s challenging yet exciting.Q: What is your view about the present day literary work? A: No doubt, the present day literary work has come a far way. People are eager to put forth their views, share their ideas and narrate their stories.Q: Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers? A: Yes, the emergence of digital and social media has played a crucial role to showcase the talent of creative writers. Writers are getting more exposure than ever before.Q: Please tell us something about your literary work. A: Writing is a form of art and I love creating it. It is like painting your emotions vividly on a canvas. I believe Pen is the most powerful weapon and Writing is the purest form of therapy. My writings mainly revolve around the freedom, equality and empowerment of women. It also involves exploring life by means of travelling and the life lessons learnt in the entire process.Q: What was your first literary work and how was it published?  A: ‘Be wild again’ is my first literary publication. I owe to the BlogChatter team for the support and direction for publishing it initially. The book is now available onAmazonalso.Q: How many ways literature can contribute to society in future?A: Literature is liberating in itself. I always feel rewarded when someone somewhere can relate to it or when my writing brings that beautiful curve on someone’s face or if it brightens someone’s day or uplifts someone’s emotions or motivates someone. Just like a small stone can also create a big ripple, a few words are enough to capture the hidden emotions and deep thoughts beautifully. And to that, if it conveys the message of love, strengthens the connection between the mob, it’s definitely going to uplift the society overall.Q: Where do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?A: Not only I would love to see my work in more hands, but also would love to see myself in more smiles and like to find a place in more hearts.Q: What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets?A: Apart from the connection on social media, if we can organise more events on poetry, I think it would leverage the community for poets.Q: What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers? A: Some tips for the aspiring writers:      Self-doubt is the biggest enemy. Don’t fall in its trap.      Put your unique voice forward without any filters.      Never stop exploring yourself. You never know what opportunity is waiting at the other side.      Go out, share and connect with others. There’s a lot to learn from the beautiful world out there.      Be consistent and make your presence feel.Q: How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror? A: StoryMirror projects a mirror image of your own life stories in varied forms. It’s a great platform to represent your writing skills, whether it’s a story or a poem of any genre. And it provides a vast library as well to engage its readers. Honoured to be a part of it.Q: Would you like to say something about StoryMirror?A: More power to you. Wish you good luck to make it bigger and more successful.Here is the link to read my content https://storymirror.com/profile/syuwol1r/rashmi-jain/stories

The biochemistry of love
 Rajabala Tripathy  
 1 April 2019  

❤️The biochemistry of love❤️Falling in love is undeniably one of the best feelings in the world. The majority of people who seek psychotherapy are either looking for love, too afraid of it or recovering from its loss. Psychologist Cher Laurenti Engerer explains what happens in our brains through this fundamental human experience. Romantic love – the kind that makes our heart skip a beat and puts a bounce in our step – may well be one of the most studied but least understood human behaviours. ❤️Psychological studies about love over the last decade have taken on a new dimension. Through the technologies of MRI imaging of the brain of individuals in the depths of romantic love, we have discovered that the very sight of our loved one is enough to send our brain into a biochemical overload. It was discovered that seeing photos of people we are in love with causes our brains to become active in regions associated with pleasure and rich in so-called feel-good neurotransmitters (happy hormones), such as dopamine.We also now know that primitive areas of the brain are primarily involved in romantic love – which means that love is not something we are consciously in control of but rather a process that happens with little involvement of the central brain. Falling in love happens without us thinking about it. This phenomenon is something of great frustration for most people. In fact, clients often come for psychotherapy hoping to be hypnotised or to be taught ways of forgetting or to stop loving, which of course is not something within our human capacity.❤️People also often seek to take a rational approach to love but, based on these findings, we can see that it is scientifically impossible to be rational and in love at the same time since two very independent mechanisms of the brain are responsible for love and reason; biochemicals are the fundamental influencing factor in the process of falling for our person.❤️So what happens when we fall in love? Chemicals associated with pleasure circuits flood our brain, producing a variety of physical and emotional responses – increased heart rate, dilated pupils, flutters in the stomach, loss of appetite, sweaty palms, flushed cheeks, feelings of passion and anxiety. Levels of stress hormones also increase during the initial phase of love, something most people find difficult to understand.❤️ Romantic love is experienced as a crisis in the brain, causing an avalanche of chemical reactions which shake the pediments of our life. With the increase of certain chemicals comes the depletion of others, causing strange and irrational behaviours. Sometimes, people can even become ecstatic, obsessive, irrational and terrified.❤️We are also prone to making rash decisions in these flights of passion. When in love, the neural processes responsible for making critical assessments of other people, including those we are in love with, shut down – which in essence is the basis for the old adage ‘love is blind’.❤️ The love hormone Oxytocin deepens feelings of attachment and makes couples feel closer to one another after having sex. It elicits feelings of joy, passion, safety and serenity. The lustful part of love is caused by testosterone and estrogens; other chemicals known as monoamines are responsible for attraction.❤️Heartbreak is a strong feeling of grief or despair. It can be experienced as a physical pain in the chest and at times can also be chronically debilitating to our lives, sending us into emotional turmoil and distress. This experience is also fundamentally biochemically based. In essence, it can feel like a ‘withdrawal’ from an addiction, during which ‘happy hormones’ leave our body or try to equilibrate and regulate themselves.❤️Heartbreak causes a volcano of chemical reactions which bring strong feelings of sadness and stress. Our brain triggers that we are in trauma, sending us into an autonomic loop of survival instinct. Life suddenly becomes about coping and our brain floods us with alert signals of danger and copious amounts of stress hormones in our blood. When we fall in love, chemicals give the body a goal and when heartbroken, the very same chemicals in the brain go out of whack, causing a chronic chemical imbalance. Heartbreak takes time to heal and has to run its course.❤️If love lasts, the rollercoaster of biochemical reactions and emotions tends to calm within one or two years, a term people commonly refer to as the end of the ‘honeymoon period’. Brain areas associated with pleasure are still activated as loving relationships proceed, but with the decrease of oxytocin, we also experience a decline in passion and craving.❤️Some propose that over time most couples see a change from passionate love to what is typically called compassionate love – a love that is deep but not as euphoric as in the early stages of romance. This is often a critical period for couples. Some assume they are no longer in love, some seek the passion elsewhere and others experience silent disappointment.❤️The good news is that it is actually possible to stay madly in love with someone after decades together. Research using MRI scans has shown that the same intensity of chemical reactions was observed in couples who had been together for over 20 years, as in those in the early stages of love. So, why do some couples have this and others not? Is it possible to rekindle the flame we experienced in the early days of our relationship after being bogged down by life, children, sickness and work pressures? The study suggested that the excitement of romance can remain while the apprehension is lost.❤️By Rajabala Tripathy

The hormones of happyness
 Rajabala Tripathy  
 1 April 2019  

😊The Hormones Of Happiness : How To Increase Them😊...............................................All of your feelings and emotions are a result of chemical reactions taking place in your body. These reactions are responsible for making you feel negative emotions, like anger and sadness, as well as positive emotions, like love and happiness. Read on to find out what your happy hormones are and how you can increase them.😊Endorphins..........***Endorphins are your body's natural painkillers, since they block pain. Most people are aware of the fact that exercise releases endorphins, but they don't realise the reason for this. Way back in the stone ages, endorphins were important to our ancestors because they enabled them to keep running through the pain and escape predators. Today, we don't need to escape predators anymore, so we only produce endorphins when we perform anaerobic exercises, since endorphins help us to keep going even after we deplete our oxygen stores.Ways to increase your endorphin levels:***• Exercise to cope with chronic pain.• Eat spicy food, since your tongue has receptors that react to spice by sending messages to your brain that are similar to pain signals, causing your brain to trigger the release of endorphins.😊Serotonin***Serotonin is the key hormone of happiness, since it regulates mood, prevents depression, thwarts irritation and makes you happy and sociable.Ways to increase your serotonin levels:***• Spend time in the sun, since sunlight causes your body to produce Vitamin D, which triggers the release of serotonin.• Think happy thoughts, since your brain produces serotonin when you remember happy memories or think about things that make you happy.• Consume foods like milk and corn, since they contain tryptophan, a substance that your body converts to serotonin. Other carbohydrates also contain tryptophan.• Do a low-intensity workout, since your body produces serotonin when it is performing aerobic exercise, as opposed to the endorphins it produces during anaerobic exercise.😊Dopamine..........***Dopamine is a pleasure hormone that is released when you strive towards a goal. Dopamine motivates you to work hard so that you can achieve the satisfaction of reaching that goal. It also keeps you mentally alert and helps you focus.Ways to increase your dopamine levels:***• Set daily or monthly goals, since they give you something to strive towards.• Set exercise goals, since dopamine increases in tandem with serotonin and endorphins when you exercise. Setting goals will increase the production of dopamine even more.• Eat foods that are rich in protein.😊Oxytocin......****Oxytocin is the love hormone, and is released in large amounts during sexual intercourse and childbirth, but also during other types of affectionate physical contact, like hugging. Oxytocin also increases feelings of love and trust.Ways to increase your oxytocin levels: 😊• Get a massage, since it relaxes your muscles and the prolonged physical contact triggers the release of oxytocin.• Show your friends and family that you love them by touching them affectionately. You can hug your parents, throw an arm around a friend or cuddle up with your partner.😊What are the limitations of these hormones?*****Hormones are effective, but they do have their limitations. The effects of endorphins are only temporary. If you have had a fight with someone for example, exercising will make you feel better for a while, but until you sort out the fight your unhappiness will keep returning. Oxytocin is a great way to build a relationship, but common sense dictates that you can't love and trust everyone you meet or you will be the victim of several scams. Too much dopamine is unhealthy, since it can cause addictions.source: internetRajabala

A Gentle Path Through Estate Dispute Resolution
 Zumina Zummi  
 9 April 2019  

Disputes over estates can be an emotionally draining experience. Many intangible factors tend to be present in estate matters. Hurt feelings can be hard to overcome and can be severe stumbling blocks in a settlement. These sentiments can be fueled by a lack of trust or simply as a result of ineffective communication between parties, which can simmer and boil over into emotionally-charged disputes and litigation.A competent estate litigation lawyer is able to guide clients away from the emotional aspects of the dispute and direct them towards its resolution, often through non-litigious routes such as mediation. Not all family disputes can be avoided, particularly where complex emotions or significant imbalances are involved. However, estate litigation lawyers, through open discussions, can take measures to minimize the need for litigation in court, or at the least reduce the scale of issues at an early stage, and save already tense family dynamics from deteriorating further.Consider the following scenario: Sandra, a wife and mother of two daughters, June and Rose, died, bequeathing her possessions to her surviving husband, as well as both her daughters. Each daughter was bequeathed $40,000. Sandra also divided her jewelry between her daughters. 60% to June, her eldest daughter, a married 28-year-old with children, and 40% to Rose, her youngest daughter, an unmarried 19-year-old without children. Among the jewelry Sandra bequeathed to June, was a ring that Sandra’s husband had gifted Sandra at the time Rose was born. The ring was set with the birthstone of Rose’s birth month.Since the birthstone mounted on the ring was aligned to her birth month, Rose expected to inherit it as an heirloom, which she could pass on to her own descendants. Although the $500 ring itself was of relatively low intrinsic value, it carried great sentimental value for Rose. June also felt that she was the intended beneficiary of the ring as her own child was also born in the birthstone month. She believed this was the reason Sandra had seen it fit to bequeath the ring to her.Their surviving father, who was the Executor of Sandra’s Will, was not certain of how to resolve the intensifying dispute between his two daughters. All three of them decided to seek legal counsel to find resolutions to this dispute. Through the help of estate litigation lawyers and hours of informal discussion, an out of court settlement was reached in which Rose offered to put forward $5,000 towards a college fund for June’s daughter in exchange for inheritance of the ring. All three of them found the outcome of the negotiation mutually beneficial and satisfying.While the Wills, Estates and Succession Act of British Columbia has provided provisions for Wills to be challenged, varied and cured of deficiencies, court proceedings can be very stressful and cause anxiety that can take a toll on individuals and family relationships. Court proceedings can also be financially expensive, as costs such as expert witness and lawyer fees and even travel expenses may quickly add up, putting pressure on parties and on the finances of the estate. Time is another disadvantage of court trials. Parties may spend hours away from work to attend court proceedings which may be further drawn out if decisions are appealed. Family disputes can be a very private matter, and litigation in court will result in information becoming public, which may be uncomfortable for parties who would like to maintain the privacy of their family affairs. During informal dispute resolution, such as mediation, clients are assured that the process is completely confidential and that anything that is said or admitted cannot be used against them at a later date. The fact that there will be no public record of the mediation may provide some clients with the comfort to say things that would otherwise have remained unsaid. The opportunity to participate in open and frank discussions may be the key to resolving outstanding issues that might not otherwise be addressed in the litigation process.Helpforme, the Personal Legal Services division of Hammerberg Lawyers LLP, has extensive knowledge of Wills variation law and provides clients with the impartial legal counsel they need to help them through emotionally-charged disputes.Helpforme offers a free consultation and will work quickly to determine whether you have a valid claim under the law. The firm has a uniquely personal and empathetic client approach, which emphasizes guiding people through a difficult and emotional dispute and leading them through a resolution process to restore their sense of justice. The Helpforme team also assert that not all estate disputes need to involve litigation – Helpforme estate litigation lawyers are also experienced negotiators and can often find amicable solutions among beneficiaries that, if desired, can unite divided families.As for legal fees, Helpforme takes a personalized approach depending on each client’s situation and where possible, takes claims on a contingency basis.  Helpforme’s estate litigation group focuses on assisting people in a process that is too complex to resolve on their own while keeping their best interests in mind and adding value every step of the way.

Free Dating Websites In India
 Charmi Patel  
 16 April 2019  
Art

Improve Long Distance Relationship With The Use Of Technology And Free Dating Websites In IndiaWe will gonna talk about the couple who are in love, but unfortunately, due to distance,  they can't meet and can't do the things which normal couples do. But  hey, don't get upset!! If you are in long distance relationship then the following usage of technology revamp your relationship. So, let's go  with one by one.1. Listen To Your InstinctsThere are peoples in  your life like your friends & family members who are against the  long-distance relationship. And there is nothing wrong in it, they might be true. After all, they are experienced people but if you meet someone & by keeping in touch with each other, you know that this is the  person whom you are finding for a long then don't let go this person.  Listen, what your heart is trying to say you. This might sound filmy,  but this is how you both will share a beautiful relationship with the  magic of love.2. Do Adventure TogetherIf your partner lives  in another part of the country or in another part of the world, you  can't do things together while enjoying each others' company. But never  mind, when technology will get used? Yes, there are apps available in  the play store like Skype, Google Duo, Rabbit, LokLok, WhatsApp,  TouchNote, Between, And all the other apps & gadgets. By using this  application, you can do things altogether like, you can eat together,  can express emotions & feelings, can watch TV shows together &  share your thoughts, can sing a song while the other one is playing an  instrument. You can also try free dating websites in India like Izydaisy.com. So have fun and spend time with each other.3. Do Not Send Constant MessagesAfter all, everyone  wants space for themselves, right? So try to give personal space to your beloved as well. If you are messaging your partner all the time, then  your partner will get irritated & this might ruin your relationship. Instead, know about each other schedule & connect with each other  in free time. You will see that this will refresh both of you & you  can get back to work with full determination.4. Do Not Get Away For A Long TimeYes, please keep this  in mind as well. If you do this, then your partner may feel getting  ignored and no one wants to feel this feeling. You can message them in  advance and tell them that you can't talk for a while and give the  reason. Simple, your partner will understand it & eventually after a hectic schedule, try to talk with your beloved for 5 to 10 minutes if  you can't talk for an hour. This will make feel him or her special.5. Send Greetings & GiftsIt's important to  start a day by sending a Good Morning message and end a day with the  Good Night Message. In between, you can send some beautiful &  romantic strikers to each other using any messaging app. And you can try unique ways to send a gift like you can mail some flowers. And if you  are living in the same state, but not in the same city, then try to send some gifts like T-shirt, Perfume, Watch, and something that your  partner likes.So apply all these ways & use modern technology to improve your long-distance relationship!!

Top 8 Reasons You Should Visit a Therapist
 Galagali Multimedia  
 17 April 2019  

Psychotherapy, counseling, talk or talking therapy, or just a therapy—no matter the name it’s known by, mental health counseling can help people struggling with emotional difficulties, life challenges, and mental health issues.It may take some necessary steps before you decide that you’re ready for therapy or not. You may want to wait and see if time, lifestyle changes, or the support of friends and family improves whatever you’re stressed with.If you experience any kind of emotions or feelings to the extent that they interfere with life, therapy may assist you to reduce their effects. It’s particularly necessary to consider getting help if you feel controlled by symptoms or if they could cause harm to yourself or people around you.1. OverwhelmYou may feel like you have a lot of things to do or too many problems to cope with. You might feel like you don’t even have time to rest or breathe.Stress as well as overwhelm can lead to serious physical health concerns.2. FatigueThis physical symptom many a times results from or accompanies mental health problems. It can be a sign of depression. Fatigue makes you sleep more than usual or sometimes have trouble getting out of bed in the morning.3. Disproportionate rage, anger, or resentment Everyone feels angry many a times. Even passing rage isn’t necessarily harmful. Looking support to deal with these feelings may be a better idea when they don’t pass, are compared to the situation, or if they lead you to take violent or potentially harmful steps.4. Agoraphobia People with agoraphobia fear being in places where they may experience panic attacks or become trapped. In fact few people may become unable to leave their houses.5. Anxious or intrusive thoughtsIt’s quite normal to worry about things from time to time, but when worrying takes up a significant part of your day or causes physical symptoms, therapy can be a better idea to help you deal with it.6. ApathyLosing interest in regular activities, the world around you or life in general can be a sign of mental health issues like depression or anxiety.7. HopelessnessTo lose hope or motivation, or feeling as if you have no future, can indicate depression or another mental health issue. Feeling hopeless after specific intervals, especially after a period of difficulty, isn’t uncommon. But when it exists, it may even lead to thoughts of suicide.8. Social withdrawalMost of the people feel good when they’re able to spend at least some time alone. Introverted people might need even more time alone as compared to that of others. But if you feel distressed with others being around or fear being with other people, therapy can help you understand as well as tell you ways to deal with such kind of feelings.Even if you are unsure, whether you want to commit to therapy or not, many therapists provide a free first session or phone consultation to talk through what you’re dealing with. Depending on your symptoms, they might encourage you to get assistance.

Understanding of Behaviors of the Children Who Have Been Abused
 Linda Norwood  
 31 May 2019  
Art

In the present times, the cases of children's abuse are frequent in the community due to the changes of family values and social problems. This issue is important as it touches many people who have children and want to protect them. To understand behaviors of the children who have been abused one should analyze the psychological factors crucial for them. One can distinguish two kinds of abuse: physical and sexual. Children aging from 3 to 14 years old can undergo sexual and physical abusing. The behaviors of the children depend on the kind of abusing, ethnicity, gender and age. Moreover, verbal and non-verbal languages are the ways of revealing the differences between abused children. This research paper intends to study behaviors of the children who have been abused and analyze the psychological factors.Literature ReviewThere are a great deal of discussion posts towards this topic. Majority would agree that children who have been abused have their patterns of behavior that are characterized by non-verbal gestures. In addition, non-verbal behaviors can be the determinants of physical or sexual abuse that is revealed through interviewing. For example, using such method as interviewing it have been revealed the fact of abusing. Moreover, the participants of interviewing were stressed and depressed when they answered the questions about physical and sexual violence. In addition, indicators of physical disengagement and stress were progressing while positive emotions were decreasing. Consequently, non-verbal behavior can tell a lot about physical and sexual abuse of children. Non-verbal behavior includes gestures, body movement, language intonation, facial expressions and eye contact.Different kinds of physical evidence, photographic evidence, medical evidence and eyewitness are the ways of determining children's sexual abuse. These are independent measures that can provoke the necessary feelings, emotions and patterns of behavior of children who have been abused. One should mention that indicators of sexual abuse are diverse. They can include disclosure, sexual awareness, symptoms associated with trauma, fears, anxiety, mood changes, conduct problems and other behavioral changes. Furthermore, data from interviewing children is related to the negative experience that oppresses them and can lead even to suicide. In addition, there are such children who are offenders and admit their participation in sexual abuse. Consequently, they can also feel similar emotions. It is important to determine who is an offender and who is a victim as children are cunning and can hide information.Sexual abuse is harmful to the mental order of children. Younger children are more eager to tell about their stressful situations rather than teenagers who feel somalization, anxiety and depression. Therefore, interviewing should also correspond to ethnical, gender and age differences of children. Kathleen Ratican insists that shame and guilt can prevent children from being totally sincere during interviewing. Furthermore, one can see sexually abused children through their relationships with other people. In addition, abused children can be aggressive and hostile to those who interviewed them supposing them to be enemies. Facilitating disclosure and treatment approaches for helping sexually abused children.Sexual abuse is shameful, embarrassing and private topic for discuss. Thus, not all children can admit being sexually abused and provide the objectivity of interviewing. The factors that restrict the reliability and sincerity of interviews are gender, age and individual characteristics. However, one should not use such improper methods as reinforcement (rewards, punishments), social influence, asking suggestive questions to get the necessary information. Furthermore, sexually abused girls are opener comparing with boys by providing more details. Children between 4-6 years old can also give more information due to their trust and childish naivete?.Researches underline the importance of choosing techniques for interviewing children in sexual abuse cases. It is evident that after such negative experience children lose trust, therefore, it is important to establish the contact with them and provide friendly atmosphere. First of all, it is crucial to distinguish the kind of abuse, the reasons and consequences of the violent behavior. There are common patterns of behavior of children who have been abused. These are negative feelings, reservation, depression and hostility. To reveal the fact of sexual abuse in young children one should use play therapy, for example, dolls. However, there can be false answers where children can lie about their sexual or violent abuse. It can be related to their mental and psychological disorders or desire to attract attention of the adult people. In conclusion, one should say that interviewing is one of the best ways to understand behaviors of children who were sexually and physically abused. Interviewing should also correspond to ethnical, gender and age differences of children. Verbal and non-verbal languages can reveal the necessary information and provoke feelings related to physical and sexual abuse. Gender and age are the most important factors that influence children's answers during the interview. Disclosure, sexual awareness, symptoms associated with trauma, fears, anxiety, mood changes, conduct problems and other behavior changes refer to the types of behavior. One should say that every person has his/her individual characteristics that make him/her opener or more reserved. Consequently, girls can inform more details while interviewing, as they are too emotional. As to boys, they are more reserved and suspicious. Yet young children are the most sincere and trustworthy.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.25
 Dhwani Shah  
 10 June 2019  

Awareness Of Self - In Gita Verse 1.25 In the presence of Bhīṣma, Droṇa and all the other chieftains of the world, the Lord said, “Just behold, Pārtha, all the Kurus assembled here.”In the Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.24 Krishna parked the chariot exactly in the middle. Indicating Arjuna Be In Middle. Now in the presence of everyone Krishna addresses Arjuna as Parth, besides their relationship they were friends and only Krishna used to call him as Parth. By addressing him as Parth, he conveyed that as a friend I am with you, but you need to hold yourself, come back to yourself. All your family members are assembled here, but not as family, everyone has their agenda. By saying ‘Just Behold’ he said that don’t fall into your personal agenda, remind yourself the agenda of the Universe. You are here in the capacity of human to deliver the agenda of the Universe.Hold, wait - Waiting creates seeing. Patience creates the possibility. Absolute patience creates the absolute possibility to see. In tense, impatient minds eyes are clouded, filled with smoke - they cannot see. When you silently wait, by and by clouds disappear from the eyes, because they are created by impatience. When you patiently wait they disappear. Vision becomes clear, a clarity is attained. You can see. Wait and see - when you wait, and you will see. Seeing will come by itself, on its own accord. You simply wait.If you can wait it means you have dropped the reaching mind, the achieving mind; you have dropped the desiring mind. Only then can you wait. Waiting means now you are here and now, this moment is enough, this moment is all - and suddenly the eyes are clear. No clouds roam in the eyes then - no smoke. The flame burns without smoke. And you see.In this clarity Universe can use you as it’s vehicle. Become vehicle, hold yourself to drop the mind, become empty.What is Emptiness - not escaping but coming into the clearing, seeing the inner sky unclouded, listening to the songs of the birds without distorting. And then again and again you are becoming more and more attuned with the emptiness, Universe, and the joy of being empty. Gradually, you see that emptiness is not just emptiness; it is fullness, fullness of the Universe, a fullness of which you have never been aware, a fullness of which you have never tasted.So in the beginning it looks empty; in the end it is full, totally full, over flowingly full. It is full of peace, it is full of silence, it is full of light, filled with whole existence.When Krishna says just behold to Arjuna; not only observe the outside world but simultaneously watch yourself. Don’t become unconscious regarding yourself. Be alert. Why he addressed him as Parth - as everyone there were calling him including Krishna as Arjuna, but when he called him Parth suddenly so that he can become alert regarding himself.All of us know that whenever we are suddenly addressed by different name, nick name we get a small jerk, in that jerk we drop our mind.Same jerk was given to Arjuna, it was making him alert regarding this moment and his watchfulness. Krishna knew there are all chances that by insightful to see everyone calmly - “Arjuna addressed Krishna please draw my chariot between the two armies so that I may see those present here, who desire to fight, and with whom I must contend in this great trial of arms” - may fall to emotions. By addressing as Parth Krishna gave Arjuna a wake up call, wake up from your unconsciousness, become aware of yourself. Krishna gave a clear message by saying Just Behold - Awareness Of Self.The Dhammapada states, “Awareness is the path of immortality, while unawareness is the path that leads to a life lived in sleep and eventual death. If a person is awake, aware and lives accordingly, he or she becomes a vehicle of Universe.” It further says that this awareness is the difference between life and death, and that we are not alive just because we are breathing, but because we are truly aware.If we are truly aware then the mundane life will become divine. Even your Karma to fight will become divine.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.29
 Dhwani Shah  
 14 June 2019  

Imperfection - In Gita Verse 1.29 My whole body is trembling, my hair is standing on end, my bow Gāṇḍīva is slipping from my hand, and my skin is burning.Arjuna is looking at himself with more alertness and intensity. He is now giving details of where and what symptoms he has in his body.This shows that first he wants to reconnect himself with his subjectivity. As after looking to all his friends and family members who are right now divided. It was very painful and emotional moment for him. If some die it can be understood but if someone is not ready for any kind of mutual understanding, this moments is very painful.Mutual understanding is foundation of all relationships. Everyone has their different thinking, desires, goals, but there is always a way by which everyone can come to a common platform by mutual understanding and support each other. As every one of us are incomplete and imperfect. Unless we work to support each other no one can grow either in objective world or subjective world.'Imperfection' is not a derogatory word, it is almost synonymous with a living flow. Complete, where will you be going? what will you be doing?' Complete means growth has stopped, you have come to your very end. All that was potential has become actual - that's what completion means. Now there is nothing else but to die.Imperfection means there is more still awaiting, much is going to happen. If you accept your imperfection, and you live it in totality. These are two different things. To believe that your imperfection is perfect is utterly wrong. But be total in each moment - when you are imperfect be TOTALLY imperfect. And then out of that totality you start growing.The day you become perfect you are no more needed - the perfect ones are discarded immediately. So life never becomes perfect; it goes on moving. From one totality to another totality, from one imperfection to another imperfection, it goes on, it goes on. Imperfection is simply life, aliveness, growth, evolution. So why go on condemning imperfection?The Vedas say: AMRITASYA PUTRAH - YOU are the sons of immortality, deathlessness. You come out of nectar, you are made of the stuff of which nectar is made - AMRITASYA PUTRAH. YOU are sons of God, daughters of God - it simply means your potential is infinite, it can never be exhausted. Whatsoever you become, you will again find new doors opening, new peaks challenging, new adventures waiting for you, new dimensions calling you forth, invoking, provoking. One never comes to the dead end.God does not mean perfection, god simply means the energy that goes on moving. Each moment, you can be total. And from one totality you can slip into another totality; one totality helps you to be total in another moment. If you were angry totally, then you will be loving totally - the totality in anger helped you to be totally in love.But you are incomplete; everything is incomplete. That's why things are growing, that's why there is so much evolution. God, is an evolving concept.God, to be at all, has to be as imperfect as you are. Then what is the difference between you and God? He is total and you are not total. He accepts his imperfections; you don't accept, you go on rejecting. That is the difference. The difference is not in perfection, the difference is in acceptance. You deny, you reject, you hide, you defend, you remain closed, you are afraid. You never go into anything really, you remain out of it - afraid, fearful, scared, ready to escape if sometimes things become too much. You go only so far.The difference between you and God is only one: he goes UTTERLY into everything. When God dances, there is no dancer, there is only dance - he is so utterly in it. When God loves, there is no lover, there is only love he is so utterly in it. You are never total. Imperfect you are, imperfect is everything - these trees, these birds, these skies, everything is imperfect. But remember, by 'imperfection' is not condemnatory, is praising life.When our focus is on us physically, mentally and emotionally shows that we are not trying to change objective world but want to live in that moment of objective world becoming alert about our emotions and mental limitation is willingness to work on that. Arjuna when he says that “ My whole body is trembling, my hair is standing on end, my bow Gāṇḍīva is slipping from my hand, and my skin is burning” he is not saying from weakness he is courageous to work on his unconsciousness without condemning it. If he will not work on that he will not be able to fight the war and deliver his assignment given by Universe. He turns to Krishna not as a weak human being but as a courageous Individual.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.37-38
 Dhwani Shah  
 19 June 2019  

Sharpening Our Consciousness - In Gita Verse 1.37-38 O Janārdana, although these men, their hearts overtaken by greed, see no fault in killing one’s family or quarreling with friends, why should we, who can see the crime in destroying a family, engage in these acts of sin?Arjuna is alert regarding others greed and he wants to inquire when the other person is overtaken by greed why we should do crime in destroying them and engage in this sin. But he becomes unconscious regarding himself. He is not able to become alert that seeing the greed in the other person is a reflection of his greed. Right now the greed in them shows that his greed of being pious is more important than the assignment of universe.When we are not able to see that the other person is just a reflection of ourselves, it only means we are unconscious of ourselves.This statement of Arjuna is very much appealing to us for only a single reason, that, we don't want to act. This is mental laziness. In my blog Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.8, I have explained in detail regarding mental laziness.As we are mentally lazy and our whole education system is based on giving ready-made answers. Because of those ready-made answers you never develop your intelligence as there is no necessity - you ask the question and a computer(google) can answer them.Unless a question is solved by you yourself, your intelligence will never be sharpened, your consciousness never becomes alert. You go on accumulating ready-made answers in your mind, in your memory, which is simply a load, of no use. In any situation which is fresh and new you will be at a loss what to do, because you don’t have the ready-made answer.You can believe any answer given from outside, but you cannot trust it. You can manage, you can force yourself to believe it because the person who has given it seems to be the right person. But all these are guesses - and a belief is not a trust. Belief is always in somebody else; trust is something that arises in you as a fragrance of your being - as your intelligence sharpening, as your consciousness growing.Whenever we find any reason and explanation for not taking any action, get alert, as you are slipping into the unconsciousness.To keep our consciousness sharp and alert we need to remind ourselves continuously what more I can do? For example while washing the hands if you remind yourself what more I can do, immediately you will be able to focus on washing hands, feeling the touch of water, feeling the sensation in the body. Your whole act of washing hands will give you subtle freshness and enthusiasm. Same act will become act of self-alertness, sharpening your consciousness. The simple reminder to yourself what more I can do has brought you out from your unconsciousness.The act from which you feel freshness and enthusiasm is sharpening your consciousness.I remember a quote by Abraham Lincoln Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.Preparation time is more important than our act.We all watch movies. I recall an interview of Akshay Kumar by Anupam Kher. Akshay Kumar said in that interview that the two minutes of movie which we watch, requires 8-9 hours of shooting and all the other preparations like set, dialogue, lyrics, story, dress selecting, etc are not included in 8-9 hours of shoot. This means for two minutes of a movie it requires minimum of 5-6 days of preparation.Sharpening our consciousness is life time assignment.Pandavas during their life what they have done is practice of sharpening their consciousness. This example will give more clarity. When Arjuna was cursed by Urvashi he accepted it and after the acceptance of the curse he requested her to modify it and she agreed. As he was knowing that only through acceptance without resistance he can transform it. Ultimately the same curse became a blessing during their last year of exile. Unless you sharpen your consciousness you cannot transcend anything. Only through our sharpness we can come out of our unconsciousness and transform unfavourable circumstances to favourable circumstances. As Arjuna throughout his life had practised to sharpen his consciousness and for this reason in his unconsciousness he is turning to Krishna not for any desire but for support in bringing him back to his own consciousness. His turning to Krishna and not to others, shows his willingness to come out of his unconsciousness. Without hiding any of his body sensations, thoughts and emotions he describes to Krishna.

Okinawa: A trip to relax in nature's lap
 S Suman  
 27 June 2019  
Art

Usually, I am the kind of person who is very much attached to his/her personalized room and don't feel comfortable in any other setup. And that is the reason why I avoid trips which requires me to stay in hotels or Airbnb. But, recently I discovered something new about me. In fact, just two weeks back, I, with my friends decided to visit Okinawa (a prefecture in Japan). Okinawa is considered as one of the blue zones in the world. We booked our flights, reserved resorts, packed some of our vegetarian food (some times it's difficult to get vegetarian food in Japan especially if you are not in Tokyo) and started our journey.As per the government norms, Wednesday is considered as no overtime day in Japan so that day, you get the privilege of leaving the office early. So we started our journey on Wednesday evening. Our itinerary was such that we could get enough time to relax instead of just touching every single tourist places. Generally, it is recommended to have a driving license and rent a car to roam around in Okinawa. But since none of us was having an international driving license so we prepared an itinerary to visit those places which can be reached by bus or ship. The best part of traveling in Japan is that you can rely on Google Maps. Okinawa is surrounded by ocean and located in the south, so the place is a bit humid and hot compared to Tokyo (you don't need to wear shrugs or jackets during the spring season).Day 1And the very first day itself weather wanted us to roam in blue and yellow raincoats as it was a kind of rainy day with a thunderstorm (very common in Japan). After getting ready and wearing the nice dress we had to put on raincoats...it was nature's order we can't help it.Okinawa world (Theme park)The moment I stepped into the cave, I was wonderstruck by the beauty of nature and effort of Japanese sculptors who would have carved down that cave. It recalled me of class 6th geography when we had studied about calcium deposits referred to as stalactites and stalagmites. At that time, I used to think that whether in my life will I be able to see these in real or not? And see, it happened!The cave was quite long and it was conveniently designed with proper lightings and pathways so that people can roam around and enjoy the beautiful formations. You can watch some hot springs also running on one side of the cave. I felt like I am in a palace which has been specially designed for tourism but no, all these structures were formed naturally. Nature is beyond our imagination. Just for your information, it takes 3 years for a stalactite to grow by 1 mm.  Also, if you are a person who likes beer then you are most welcome in Okinawa to have a sip of "Habu" snake sake (beer) :P                                                         Snake sake as omiyage (souvenir)!Day 2We started from Naha in the early morning so as to reach Motobu before noon.Emerald Beach (in Motobu)Forenoon and the beautiful beach sounds an amazing combination no?! I don't have any word to explain the beauty of white sand and blue seawater, you can see it by yourself.Meeting the Japanese standard of cleanliness, the beach was extremely clean and beautiful with the spread of white sand underneath the blue seawater, shining like the bed of emerald in the sunlight. I felt that I could spend my days and nights just sitting beside the sea, enjoying the view and listening to the sound of waves hitting the shore (only if I get paid for doing so :P).Churaumi AquariumThis aquarium is considered to have the world's second-largest water tank. This was my second visit to any aquarium, so for me, it was amazing to see small colorful fishes, coral reefs and big fish like a whale shark. You can see a wide variety of aquatic animals here or in fact, you will discover some new aquatic animals which may not be known to you till the date..that is what happened with us.Also, there are some open areas where you can touch small fishes like starfish. You can feel the hard stone-like stiff body of starfish.And, if you are at the correct time then you may get an opportunity to watch the feeding show. Basically, you can see how they feed 55000 kg whale shark by the filter-feeding method. There were many shows but because of time constraints, we couldn't cover up all the shows.The last thing to watch that day was the Dolphin show. I feel that Dolphins are not just fish but they are the sweetest and cheerful creature among aquatic animals. If you are feeling tired or low just get a ticket to the nearby aquarium and watch the dancing Dolphins. Dolphins are like drama queen only, they will definitely cheer you up and seeing their dance and act, you will definitely burst into laughter.Day 3We had kept this day especially to cover up some of the famous beaches which were on the way from Motobu to Naha. Though because of the rain and thunderstorm, we skipped a few and preferred to stay inside the bus.Cape ManzanoAgain, the clean dark blue water hitting the rocks to carve out a beautiful structure. Till that day, I had seen blue water only in painted sceneries, which used to have no relation with real existence. The rock formation near the beach was looking like the head of an elephant. People over there were busy taking photos and selfies while I felt completely lost in paying gratitude to the Creator for such an amazing beautiful creation. I wanted to absorb everything ... the air ... the scenic beauty with blue water, greeneries and rocks all around ... and the mystic sound of waves ...everything was so pacifying to my soul.  At that moment, I wanted to capture all those feelings, senses and emotions in my memory forever.After Cape Manzano, we roam around a few other beaches before taking our final bus to Naha. Thus the closing evening of the trip passed away. We reached Naha airport and took our flight back to Tokyo. Once again continuing life in between skyscrapers.My one-liner for Okinawa  -  Amazingly beautiful place to relax in the lap of nature! My learning -  It is a foolish idea to judge something without exploring it because you never know what transformation can happen next. I discovered that I had a wrong perception about myself and I love long-duration trips. These trips give you the opportunity to create more memories to cherish upon and to daydream sitting in front of your computer at the office desk.Message - Steal a few days from your busy schedule, pack your bags and start your journey to explore yourself. 

Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.1
 Dhwani Shah  
 28 June 2019  

Be Giver - In Gita Verse 2.1 Sañjaya said: Seeing Arjuna full of compassion, his mind depressed, his eyes full of tears, Madhusūdana, Kṛṣṇa, spoke the following words.Arjuna was totally into his unconsciousness, tears started rolling down. At this time Krishna started speaking. Till now he was listening to Arjuna.Now when Arjuna cannot even say anything regarding his unconsciousness, he is fully exhausted with all his logical mind, now in unconsciousness his mind is calm, will be able to hear, so Krishna started speaking.God can whisper to us only when we become calm. Calmness is entry point towards your silence. When you are unconscious and you are exhausted with your logical mind you calm down. Which is not silence but it’s turning towards silence.What is the difference between a real silence and calmness? Calmness is always forced; through effort it is achieved. It is not spontaneous, it has not happened to you. You have made it happen. You are sitting silently and there is much inner turmoil. You suppress it and then you cannot laugh. You will become sad because laughter will be dangerous — if you laugh you will lose calmess, because in laughter you cannot suppress. Laughter is against suppression. If you want to suppress you should not laugh; if you laugh everything will come out. The real will come out in laughter, and the unreal will be lost.So whenever you see a saint sad, know well calmness. He cannot laugh, he cannot enjoy, because he is afraid. If he laughs everything will be broken, the suppression will come out, and then he will not be able to suppress.Look at small children. Guests come to your home and you tell the children, "Don't laugh!" — what do they do? They close their mouths and suppress their breath, because if they don't suppress their breath then laughter will come out. It will be difficult. They don't look anywhere, because if they look at something they forget. So they close their eyes, or almost close their eyes, and they suppress their breath.Nothing can disturb if real silence has happened. Then everything helps it to grow. If you are really silent you can sit in a market, and even the market cannot disturb it. Rather, you feed on the noise of the market and that noise becomes more silence in you. Really, to feel silence a market is needed — because if you have real silence, then the market becomes the background and the silence becomes perfect in contrast. You can feel the inner silence bubbling against the market.There is no need to go to the Himalayas. And if you go, what will you see? Against the silence of the Himalayas your mind will be chattering. Then you will feel more chattering, because the background is in silence. The background is the silence, and you will feel more chattering.If the real happens to you and you are unafraid, it cannot be taken away. Nothing can disturb it. Nothing can disturb it. And if something does, it is forced, it is cultivated; somehow you have managed it. But a managed silence is calmness.Universe is very compassionate, in our unconsciousness it listens, when we are calm it whispers and when we are silent it merges. In all the circumstances it gives, it is with us. It's up to us whether we can receive it or not?When Arjuna calmed down, put his arms aside and overflowing with emotions, he was emptied out of his logical mind. Now he can hear. I am saying hear and not listen.You can hear, there is no trouble about it - but you cannot listen. Listening is totally different from hearing. Listening means hearing without mind; listening means hearing without any interference of your thoughts; listening means hearing as if you are totally empty. If you have even a small trembling of thinking inside, waves of subtle thoughts surrounding you, you will not be able to listen, although you will be able to hear. And to listen to the music, the ancient music, the eternal music, one needs to be totally quiet as if one is not. When you are, you can hear; when you are not, you can listen. Krishna started speaking - knowing well that right now Arjuna will only hear and as per his practice he will be total in hearing, so possibility is that he will turn back towards his consciousness. Krishna started speaking to Arjuna.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.5
 Dhwani Shah  
 2 July 2019  

Dignity - In Gita Verse 2.5 It would be better to live in this world by begging than to live at the cost of the lives of great souls who are my teachers. Even though desiring worldly gain, they are superiors. If they are killed, everything we enjoy will be tainted with blood.This word of Arjuna clearly come from mental laziness. He did not want to think. What I meant by, he did not want to think is - from the objective world one needs to return to the subjective world, which is connected to universe, after the observation of the fact without any judgement, then with connection with universe, which has higher intelligence, in which everything is included from love, one needs to think. That thinking has compassion for self and for others.Buddha also thinks and we too think , then what is the difference. Difference is from where we think. When you think from objective world it is bound to be judgemental, with opinion, etc. But when you return from objective world connected with your subjectivity then your thinking has universal wisdom and compassion in it. When Buddha thinks he didn’t have any agenda and expectations from his thinking. Yes he had a goal, but not an agenda.First thing, never resist the thinking but direction of the thinking needs to be changed. If you change the direction your thinking will become incapable of making you unconscious. With your thinking we become unconscious because our thinking is from objective world without returning to subjective world and connecting with the universe, in the process we follow the thinking. When we connect ourselves with our subjectivity and then think then it is universal thinking and thinking will follow us.What is the difference between thinking from objective world and thinking from subjective world:When thinking is from objective world - it is carrying with it all the emotions, attachments, judgements, opinion etc.When thinking is from subjective world - it is carrying detachments, compassion, self-dignity, etc.Self-Dignity is very humble, very simple, very innocent; it belongs to the trees. When they blossom in spring, you just look and watch their pride, their dignity. Just watch when a peacock is dancing. Those psychedelic colors, and the beautiful dance ... do you think there is any ego? But there is certainly dignity.Dignity is a totally different phenomenon, it is self-respect. Ego is domination over others. Dignity is just standing on your own feet, independent , freedom; it is not domination over others. The moment you start thinking of dominating, you are falling into the trap of the ego. And God is the greatest ego because he created everything, he dominates everything. He is present everywhere, he is all-powerful. And his reflection in the priests ... The pope claims that he is infallible. Now this is ego.A man of dignity, a man of self-respect will not say such things. Certainly he will walk straight with his head raised in dignity. He will not walk like a slave, surrendered, subdued. He will walk like a lion and roar like a lion. But that is your intrinsic energy, your intrinsic power.The power that depends on others creates the ego. The power that comes from within your own sources of life creates dignity. Meditation brings tremendous dignity, a great grace, but not even a shadow of ego is found in it.If you are capable of murdering God, you will certainly be capable of murdering his image in you. In fact, the moment God is no longer there, you will suddenly be surprised. Where has the ego gone? If the moon is not there, the reflection in the lake of the moon will disappear.Egos are reflections of one moon in different ponds, in different lakes, in different oceans, in different rivers - millions of reflections. But just remove the moon and all the reflections are removed. You don't have to remove every reflection. It will take millennia to remove all those reflections. And in fact, if the moon remains, you cannot remove the reflections.Once God is removed, you will simply find your ego is gone. It was the shadow, the reflection of God. And then you will find a totally new phenomenon, a dignity which is not a domination over others, which is not superiority over others. It is simply the joy that existence loves you, that existence creates you, that existence needs you, that you are not accidental. This gives you dignity, this gives you honor, and it is not dependent on others. It comes from your own innermost experience of your being.The moment you find yourself existential, that you belong to the whole cosmos, and the whole cosmos belongs to you, there arises a tremendous splendor in your being - Himalayan peaks of consciousness, Pacific depths of consciousness. That brings you the lion's roar.You realize for the first time you are not a slave.You realize for the first time you are not a created creature.You realize for the first time that existence is your home, you are not an outsider, and existence is nourishing you every moment.There must be a certain purpose, a certain destiny that existence is seeking through you to reach, a certain height of consciousness, a certain height of love, a certain height of compassion, understanding, wisdom, enlightenment. Existence is trying in every possible way to create a buddha in your very innermost being. The moment you are a buddha, there is dignity without any superiority.There is dignity in a rose flower. Do you think it has any power over anybody? It is so delicate, so vulnerable, but it has tremendous dignity. When it is dancing in the sun, in the rain, in the wind, it knows existence has created in him one of the most beautiful things.Dignity arises out of meditation.For Arjuna his words were coming from the objective world and not from subjective world. He is unconscious of self. He has lost his dignity. As soon as we become unconscious towards the self we lose our dignity.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.6
 Dhwani Shah  
 3 July 2019  

Acceptance - In Gita Verse 2.6 Nor do we know which is better – conquering them or being conquered by them. If we killed the sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra, we should not care to live. Yet they are now standing before us on the battlefield.Arjuna is now able to see certain reality - he is not sure of who will win. But by saying “If we killed the sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra, we should not care to live.” his honesty was expressed. He says that if we kill sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra, without them there is no meaning to live the life.Without them there is no meaning to live the life - doesn’t mean that he has any respect or love but he was honest with himself. His entire life has gone in conflict with the sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra, if they are not there then what he will be doing, his life was totally dependent on them. Conflict with sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra.In our unconsciousness it is very difficult to recognise our stuck mess, foolishness.Saying this he accepted that his life is dependent on them as his entire life has gone in conflict. To accept is big challenge needs courage. Once we accept anything our focus shifts from problem to solution.Look at some people who are fighting with their health and spending their time just taking care of their diseases. Look at the set of the people who take appropriate treatment and their focus is on their work and what they are able to deliver, give through their act. What’s the difference - set of people who are always taking care of their health and diseases are people who could not accept the body as whole, holy. Because for them sickness and diseases are not part of the body. So all their life they will have only one agenda that is fighting with the body. This group of people’s focus is on diseases, means problem.Another set of people they accept their body as whole and holy, means with all the possibility of diseases. They don’t fight and spend their time just to prove that they have disease free body. They properly have a check-up for any diseases and take required treatment, medicine, start treating the diseases and work simultaneously. This set of people focus on the treatment means, solution for the diseases.Acceptance has awareness in it. If you accept then immediately your focus changes from problem to solution.Van Dijk, a mental health therapist in Ontario, Canada, shares insights on everything from validating our emotions to being more effective in our lives to getting through a crisis to improving our relationships.We create suffering by not accepting reality. For instance, we say things like “It’s not fair,” “Why me?”, “This shouldn’t have happened” or “I can’t bear it!” Our instinct is to fight the pain, she writes. Normally, this instinct is protective. But in cases of pain, it backfires. We might avoid our pain or pretend it isn’t present. We might turn to unhealthy behaviors. We might ruminate about our suffering, without doing anything about it. We might turn to substances to forget the pain.Instead, the key is to accept your reality. “Acceptance simply means that you stop trying to deny your reality and you acknowledge it instead,” says Van Dijk.Acceptance does not mean that you approve of a situation or that you don’t want it to change. Acceptance is not a synonym for forgiveness, either. It doesn’t have to do with anyone else. “Acceptance is simply about whether or not you want to continue spending so much time and energy experiencing all of these painful emotions about a situation,” she writes.Forgiveness is optional, according to Van Dijk. But acceptance is necessary for moving forward. “We can’t act to change things until we recognize them as they really are.”Acceptance is powerful. Once we accept reality, our anger tends to decrease. The painful situation loses the power it has over us. While the pain doesn’t go away, the suffering does.Focus on the present. Don’t try to accept something in the future, such as “you’ll never have a long-term relationship.” We have no idea what the future holds. Instead, you might work on accepting that you’re currently not in a relationship — if that’s bringing you suffering.By saying and accepting “we should not care to live” he is turning towards his consciousness. In this awareness he says “Yet they are now standing before us on the battlefield.” - means they all want to fight with us. Very faintly he remembers his assignment of universe. They are standing before us and with enmity and we have to fight with them without enmity.

Article - 15
 Harsha Darji  
 8 July 2019  

Our country would complete 73rd independence day in Aug 2019 and we have achieved many mile stones, went through lot of high & lows, have overcome so many challenges till date, the only saddest part that still exists in our country is caste and religion. Our constitution was so well framed by Dr ambedkar, wherein we talk about basic rights and equality of people, but its still a matter of shame coz, equality for all caste and religion exist only on papers. We have never tried to overcome this biggest challenge and have just used the caste and religion for vote bank, to seek admission with bribe on the seats of lower caste, to seek job in govt sector by buying the seat of lower caste and much more. I keep travelling around, and where ever i go i have seen, ppl do not hesitate to ask, which caste you belong to. In south there is village where lower caste has to think alot before passing the village that belongs to upper caste. I have seen even educated ppl residing near or around me talking rubbish about caste and religion. In this 21st century ppl are highly qualified, the only thing that is missing is humanity and we cannot add value to the society unless and until we ovecome our rigid mindset of lower caste, upper caste etc. I would like to share one incident, i got transfered to a particular city and was in need of maid and someone staying near by recommended me a maid, she came to meet me, bt the owner of the house did not allowed her to come inside, coz the maid belonged to lower caste. The other day i asked the owner of my house did any maid came to meet me ?, she said yes, but would you allow 'chamaran' to enter and work in your house. I really felt bad the way she talked, such low minded people do not even think before they speak. The fact is we cant live without this lower caste people or else Our household work would remain still, if these ppl from lower caste do not work for us. The roads and surroundings would have become hell to live, if this ppl who belong to lower caste do not clean it. The drainage would over flow if this ppl stop working. People must learn to respect each other irrespective of the work and profession that one belongs to. No work is small, except the thinking and the mentality that you carry, coz this mentality you are passing to new generation. Wherein the problem of caste and religion would never be solved in our country. We live in a democratic country, where everyone has right of justice, equality and freedom to express. Article 15 has lot to say and it highlights on the current incident that still prevails in most part of our country. Even if we talk about ex chief minister mayavati, she has nt done any work for the ppl of lower caste except using them as vote bank and many other in politics are still using them. The govt should control alter delete the caste system from the country, so that it can lead to equality in income, education, job and most of the problem could be solved by bringing caste system to an end. The standard of living, the education, the income equality, etc of this caste has really not change much in uttarpradesh and many other parts. The movie highlights the heart touching incident, i.e rape of two minor girls who were working as child labor and they wanted the hike of just rupees three. My eyes were teared and i asked myself, in which world are we living ??, that we really do not feel the pain ? how can people be so inhuman ?. One can laugh, giggle, can spread rumours, but cant contribute their emotions, sympathy, empathy to the people around. Such ppl are shame to the society, coz they do not have much to give to the society and its ppl, not even humanity, and neither they add value to anybodys life. Learn to be human first, humanity itself is a biggest religion. We are indians, do not catergorize indians state, caste, religion wise. Try to come above all this. The movie is really worth watching, and ayushman did a complete justice with his character and role. I give 4.5 star to this movie for showing the reality, that our country can never overcome the caste and religion base issue, coz we are passing our rigid mindset and thoughts to the next generation. What we preach our children that is what they give to the society. Enjoy ur weekends with family by watching movie 'Article 15' 👍

Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.15
 Dhwani Shah  
 12 July 2019  

Mind And Consciousness - In Gita Verse 2.15 O best among men [Arjuna], the person who is not disturbed by happiness and distress and is steady in both is certainly eligible for liberation.Now Krishna is reminding Arjuna, during his life he has lived in middle. Did not get disturbed by happiness or distress. Read carefully Krishna is reminding him not praising him.There is a difference in reminding and praising. Why he is reminding Arjuna regarding himself, so that he can become alert and watchful, and not unconscious towards himself. It’s just like a mother waking up the child, whispering and reminding him it’s time to go to school. Krishna is awakening Arjuna from his unconsciousness.He also said that the person who is in the middle is certainly eligible for liberation. Liberation is not after the death. Liberation means liberation from unconsciousness. Person can feel freedom and liberation only when he can become self-alert or self-conscious.By saying Arjuna is eligible means he can be liberated right now if he becomes watchful and self-conscious. Krishna is very specifically told his eligibility, but didn’t say that you are liberated. During his life he has lived in the middle, not disturbed by happiness or distress, at that time he was liberated. But right now he is in bondage.Recollect a time when you were really not willing to use your intelligence, I am not saying intellect, saying intelligence, we are habitual to use our intellect but not our itelligence. Intellect is connected with mind, information of objective world and following it. This will create bondage. When we use our intelligence means our wisdom, which has fragrance of self-alertness, life, we are liberated.Some incident in your life when you felt there is no way out that is the time when you are not using your intelligence but intellect. Your focus is on the problem and not on solution. Whenever our focus is on the problem we are using our intellect and not intelligence.Look at the scientists whenever they are doing any research their focus is on what are the possibilities,they take any object but their focus is on what more possibility is there. They don’t get stuck at the object or at the end result, means expected result, their whole focus is in this moment to find more possibility from that object. They are taking the object and all the information, but do not get stuck over there. Then they look at the object in a different way they change their paradigm from information on the object to possibility from the object. They transcend their intellect to intelligence. In that they find freedom which is first step towards liberation.Now in our daily life we have object as circumstances to act, if we use our intellect means we are only using the information collected from various resources so it becomes bondage or problem. It will create emotions like anger, irritations, anxiety, etc. We will be in misery. Same circumstances if like scientist we take it and think what right now is the possibility for me to handle this circumstance, you will immediately calm down and instead of focusing on the circumstances you will watch the circumstances. Looking the circumstances as possibility, and not as a problem.Everyone of us today is facing the problem of traffic. Specially those who live in metropolitan cities. Either you can look at it as problem or you can think what else you can do while you are in traffic. Even the thought of what you can do while you are in traffic the thought itself will calm you down. What exactly has happened is you have directed your energy from problem to possibility. Problem is tiny, narrow and possibility is vast. Your mind is tiny and consciousness is vast you have turned from tiny to vast - so relaxed. You became capable of transforming your emotions to sensitivity.Now look at Arjuna when for him the war was assignment of universe, Fighting Without Enmity, by that he will be contributor to humanity. He was connected with vast, his consciousness. He was liberated. As soon as he became unconscious towards the self immediately he became miserable. He started thinking in terms of intellect which will appeal to our mind but not to the consciousness. Only living master or person like Krishna will be of help to turn our unconsciousness to consciousness, tiny to vast.The real living master is only a presence. He has no intentions of being a master. His presence is his teaching. His love is his message. Every gesture of his hand is pointing to the moon. And this whole thing is not being done, it is a happening. The master is not a doer. He has learned the greatest secret of life: let-go.The living master has drowned his ego and the idea of separation from existence itself. He is no longer there as a separate entity, he is just a window. You can see through the window the infinite sky and the expanding universe: the sunrise, the sunset, a bird on the wing, the lotus opening its being, releasing its fragrance.The living master is just an immense emptiness.Krishna in this verse by saying these words “the person who is not disturbed by happiness and distress and is steady in both is certainly eligible for liberation” he presents his emptiness, he is giving space to Arjuna to come out from unconsciousness to consciousness.

Best Equipment's for Lifting in industry
 Shirley sim  
 29 July 2019  
Art

If you are in need of a heavy lifter, but you have no idea about it, then you can contact the experts from our industry who will provide their customer a perfect guidance from understanding the problem to choosing the best lifter I the industry for you. Here you can find all types of industrial heavy lifters such as chain hoists,Crane Limit Switch and many others. To reach out the best heavy lifting industrial equipment suppliers you can visit here.Whenever we feel low or depressed, we always expect someone to lift us as high as possible. It is just a gesture of god manners. Lifting has a much effect on everything. It is not just about feelings and emotions. Lifting is everywhere it is in industries and also in other niches. In this modern world everything is gigantic buildings, industries, engineering structures and many more. All the structures and buildings are at great size. Have you ever thought of, how they have constructed these buildings?The answer for this most common question is heavy lifting equipment's. Without these heavy lifting equipment's there will not even a single engineering structure existed in the world. In this article, we will see about the best heavy lifting equipment suppliers. So, without any further due! Let us jump directly into the article.Our Equipment'sThe organization has all types of heavy lifting equipment's so that their customer does not have to feel disappointed. The lifting supplier organization offers different types of heavy lifting equipment's which are needed for the industries. From the feedback from customers, the organization has the best quality assured equipment's. Some of the important heavy lifting equipment's which are most commonly used in the industries are.Air Chain Hoist and Air TrolleyElectric Chain HoistElectric and Diesel HoistsConveyor SystemsElectric Wire Rope HoistsPortal GantryApplicationsIf a constructing organization has planned to build a great structure, then they will be in need of lifting heavy items to place on the top, to create a structure. To do so, we may require an Electric Wire Rope Hoist, to hoist heavy engineering items to higher levels. Like theses many their components which are useful in lifting heavy weights can be found in heavy lifting industrial organizations. Here, all types of industrial lifters are available.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.41
 Dhwani Shah  
 7 August 2019  

Our Role - In Gita Verse 2.41 Those who are on this path are resolute in purpose, and their aim is one. O beloved child of the Kurus, the intelligence of those who are irresolute is many-branched.Krishna is saying those human being who had understanding of the purpose of human birth - GROW IN CONSCIOUSNESS - this is the assignment of universe to human beings. Once you become self-alert you realize your assignment of the universe, you will start living in this objective world but acting from your subjective world.The person who has realised this will be always enthusiastic to act or not, to act for that person of realization life is a play he is only playing his role. His focus will be how to play in totality. He will be total in his act. Like an actor when he is acting in movie and he has to murder someone or he has to fight war with someone he knows that he is playing his role and unless he is total role will not be successful. So what he does is without any kind of emotions he plays his role, as he knows that by murdering or killing someone in the war is not going to make any difference in his personality nor will it dent it. But if he plays his role fully that will give him fame and further opportunities.Same is in our real life - we are just playing our role given by Universe. For that we need the objective also. From the objective world we get certain circumstances in that circumstances we need to play our role. While playing the role we need our intelligence - for strategy, how and when to use the resources, how to increase our resources through our actions, - with the intelligence we need qualities like wait, watchfulness, balance, acceptance, looking into the present moment’s requirement we need to change our decision etc.Now if we play our role in objective world which is nothing but the screen of cinema, as soon as we have finished our role of that moment we need to allow other things to come on the screen. If in all this synchronicity will happen then you will find that in the middle of the world you are unaffected by the objective world. He will become participant in this world. For him nothing like sin or virtues . Everything is divine for him.Synchronistic events provide an immediate religious experience as a direct encounter with the compensatory patterning of events in nature as a whole, both inwardly and outwardly.The law of synchronicity has to be understood. This is one of the greatest contributions of Carl Gustav Jung to modern humanity: the law of synchronicity.Science is based on the law of causality. The law of causality is mechanical. You heat water to a hundred degrees – it evaporates. Where you heat it is irrelevant – in the temple, in the church, in the mosque, it doesn’t matter; in India, in Tibet, it doesn’t matter. If you heat water to a hundred degrees, it evaporates; the water has no say in it. The water cannot say, “Today I am not feeling like it.” Or, “Today is Sunday and I am on a holiday, and I am not interested in becoming vapour.” Or, “Today I am not in the mood, and you can go on heating and heating and I will not evaporate.” Or, “Today I am suddenly feeling very generous towards you so I will evaporate at fifty degrees. I will favour you.” No, the water has no choice. The law is mechanical, it is causal. If you create the cause, the effect has to follow. And it is without any exception.The credit goes to Carl Gustav Jung. The law has been known down the ages, but nobody had named it exactly. He called it ‘the law of synchronicity’. It suddenly happened to a scientist: A scientist a hundred years ago was staying in an old house. In that old house there were two old clocks on the same wall. He was surprised to see that they always kept exactly the same time, second to second: “Old clocks, and so perfect? Not even a single second’s difference?”Being a scientist he became curious. He put one clock five minutes back, and after twenty-four hours in the morning when he looked again, they were again keeping the same time. Now it was a great puzzle. He enquired… nobody had changed, nobody had touched anything. He tried again and again, and again and again they would come to the same rhythm. Then he tried to find out: “What is happening? – something strange. They are disconnected!”Then he observed more minutely and he came to conclude: “The vibration of one clock, which is more powerful, the bigger clock, goes through the wall – just the vibration – and keeps the other clock in tune. It is a subtle rhythm. Nothing is visible.”That was the beginning of a new phenomenon… then many many more things happened. And by the time Carl Gustav Jung started working on how things happen in consciousness, he came to conclude that the vibe of one heart, if it is powerful enough, can change the rhythm of another heart — just like the bigger clock was changing the smaller clock.The vibe is invisible. There is not yet any way to measure it, but it is there. It is not tangible, but it functions. It is not causal.The way in which one heart can change the rhythm of another heart same way when you live in the objective world and act from your subjectivity there aries a rhythm, synchronicity of objective world and subjective world, the whole environment will change around you. It has been said that in the 3 kilometers of radius of Buddha and Mahavira everything will become non-violence. Even the wild animal will become friendly.Now our objective world is visible but subjective world is invisible. If we act in objective world from our subjectivity, our actions will be aligned with universeal direction, from that act you will not be in the vicious circle of sin or virtues but simply play your role and in that always you will find there will be more opportunities and growth is possible.Krishna says Arjuna who realize themselves as a human being they just play their role. So come back to your subjectivity and just play your role.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.52
 Dhwani Shah  
 17 August 2019  

Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.52Creative Act - In Gita Verse 2.52 When your intelligence has passed out of the dense forest of delusion, you shall become indifferent to all that has been heard and all that is to be heard.Krishna through this verse says that when we are passing through the whole process of seed to tree and tree to seed again at that time we pass through the whole process of mental and emotional trauma. Similar to a seed we when it is in the process of growing into a tree it just dissolves into the earth. Similarly we should allow everything to happen without interference. In the process of growth we pass through our emotions and knowledge which we think as real.Our pain is not for the growth but when we pass through all this emotional and mental knowledge to which we think is real and permanent, to give up and dissolve into the universe becomes difficult, this is pain for us. As we resist to dissolve like seed in the earth. Our resistance is the real cause of our pain.Once you drop the resistance and become flow then everything changes, we become creative in our act and ready to see life as a whole and not as compartmental, not as death and birth. Like I have written in Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.51, Your physical, metal and emotional pain will be there but you will be indifferent. A mother giving birth to a child, with all the pain how relaxed and joyful she is . In our daily life we come across so many things but we try not to pay any attention. If we pay minute attention and think then at least our life will be changed. With physical, mental and emotional pain we will become indifferent. We will become flow and part of the existence.The whole problem is rooted in the desire of attaining a permanent meaning for life. Life is not a problem at all, but we expect things which are against the fundamental law of life and then we are in trouble. Life is constantly changing and it is good that it is constantly changing; that’s its beauty, its splendor. If it were permanent, static, it would not be life but death and it would be utterly boring. It would stink because it would be stagnant. And the mind is constantly asking for something permanent. The mind desires for permanence, and life is impermanence.Hence if you really want to be blissful you have to live the impermanent life as it is, without any expectation, without any imposition on your part. Flow with life. It changes — you change with it. Why bother about a permanent meaning? What will you do with a permanent meaning?And meaning exists only when something functions as a means to some other end. Life is not a means to some other end, it is an end unto itself, hence really it cannot have any meaning. That does not mean it is meaningless, it simply means it is transcendental to meaning or no-meaning. Those words are irrelevant.What is the meaning of a rose flower? And what is the meaning of a sunset? What is the meaning of love? What is the meaning of beauty? There are no meanings because they are not means to anything else. A sunset is simply beautiful just for its own sake; it has no utility, you cannot use it as a commodity. A car has meaning, a machine has meaning, a house has meaning, but what is the meaning of a rose flower? There is no meaning in it, but because there is no meaning in it it has tremendous beauty. A machine, howsoever meaningful, is never beautiful; it can’t be — it is a commodity, it is utilitarian; it is not poetry.Life is poetry, life is a song, life is a dance.Krishna is saying to Arjuna right now what pain you are undergoing is like seed to tree and tree to seed. Both times seed and tree undergo pain but still they don’t resist the flow, they become indifferent to pain exactly like mother becomes indifferent to the whole pain with all the trauma and simultaneously allows the birth of the child. Become indifferent brings quality of creativity to the activity you are doing. So you can fight the war as a creative act.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.53
 Dhwani Shah  
 18 August 2019  

Divine Consciousness - In Gita Verse 2.53 When your mind is no longer disturbed by the flowery language of the Vedas, and when it remains fixed in the trance of self-realization, then you will have attained the divine consciousness.Krishna tells Arjuna once you are indifferent to all the pain and no longer disturbed by pain, the first thing is you have realized the Veda but not stuck to it’s language. You have gained courage to be with yourself and allowing the existence to take possession of you. Here you are self-realized. You are no longer a separate entity in the universe but part of its whole play of the universe. You are ready to change, you are ready to die, you are ready to take birth, you are ready to play your role. You have surrendered to Universe. By surrendering to the universe you transcend self-realization to divine consciousness, Enlightenment.Enlightenment is a simple realization that everything is as it should be.That is the definition of enlightenment: everything is as it should be, everything is utterly perfect as it is. That feeling...and you are suddenly at home. Nothing is being missed. You are part, an organic part of this tremendous, beautiful whole. You are relaxed in it, surrendered in it. You don't exist separately – all separation has disappeared.A great rejoicing happens, because with the ego disappearing there is no worry left, with the ego disappearing there is no anguish left, with the ego disappearing there is no possibility of death any more. This is what enlightenment is. It is the understanding that all is good, that all is beautiful – and it is beautiful as it is. Everything is in tremendous harmony, in accord.Enlightenment simply means an experience of your consciousness unclouded by thoughts, emotions, sentiments. When the consciousness is totally empty, there is something like an explosion, an atomic explosion. Your whole insight becomes full of a light which has no source and no cause. And once it has happened, it remains. It never leaves you for a single moment; even when you are asleep, that light is inside. And after that moment you can see things in a totally different way. After that experience, there is no question in you.Enlightenment means being fully conscious, aware. Ordinarily we are not conscious and not aware.When one is enlightened one is conscious, but one is not conscious of consciousness. One is perfectly conscious, but there is no object in it. One is simply conscious, as if a light goes on enlightening the emptiness around it. There is no object, there is nothing the light can fall upon. It is pure consciousness. The object has disappeared; your subject has flowered into totality. Now there is no object — and hence, there can be no subject. The object and subject both have disappeared. You are simply conscious. Not conscious of anything, just conscious. You are consciousness….…He is not conscious about enlightenment; he is simply conscious. He lives in consciousness, he sleeps in consciousness, he moves in consciousness. He lives, he dies in consciousness. Consciousness becomes an eternal source in him, a non flickering flame, a non wavering state of being. It is not an attribute, it is not accidental; it cannot be taken away. His whole being is conscious.What is enlightenment? Coming to understand, coming to realize that you are not the body. You are the light within; not the lamp, but the flame. You are neither body nor mind. Mind belongs to the body; mind is not beyond body, it is part of the body - most subtle, most refined, but it is part of the body. Mind is also atomic, as body is atomic. You are neither the body nor the mind - then you come to know who you are. And to know who you are is enlightenment…. Enlightened means you have realized who you are.Once Arjuna gains divine consciousness then there is no question of suffering, pain, trauma. He will be just conscious and in that he will allow the whole war to happen as if it is happening in a movie. Where the warriors are just part of the war without any pain, identification, meaning, expectations, desire to win or lose. He will just act his part in the war as totally indifferent.