A girl/women is the most complicated species on the planet earth. Well we all can agree to that..!! Have you ever seen a jumbled rubix cube? Yes exactly.. that is how a women's brain should look like. The are zillion self contradicting thoughts going on all the time. There is family, work, food, sex(yes we do think about sex..less then food though).Let me start with the most complicated one's first: LOVE ♥Our love for family is surreal, its like you touch my family and i will kill you. When it comes to the love of other gender, its very easy for us to get attracted to someone, but really difficult to keep holding the attraction and we always make the first move. Guys may think that they have initiated it but actually it just our dirty little mind games we like to play in the starting of a relationship. A girl always knows the next move of a guy & decides weather to encourage it or diminish it. A yes is always a yes for us but you need to concentrate on the NO. It may be a firm no, or a no which means maybe yes, or a no where you need to persuade a little to make it yes.Anger/Depression/Crying all of these go hand in hand. It starts with anger, changes to depression with time and the final result is crying to take it all off your chest. Though alcohol plays a part too in making things more miserable or may be lighter(depends on the amount of consumption).Well the last but not the least most prominent thing on a girl's head : Jealousy why god why? why didn't you made me thinner like my sister. You do tina has bigger boobs not me? why am i not as fair as kareena? why are hairs not as straight as neha? Well it never ends. This list goes on and on and on. Nonetheless we can never sustain in a world without girls and neither do we want so. #werock#dontmindme#loveall#smblogcontest
Self-love and moving on is easy to say but very hard to do. It isn't about speeding enthusiastically forward so much as it's about having one foot on the gas and one on the accelerator. It's not always yoga, meditation, scented candles, sappy romantic films with a bucket of ice cream.
Jab aakhri vaqt usse bicchad rahe the!Platform ko aage badhte hue kos rahe the!Khadi hui train se dur bhaaag rahe the!Jab corner me baith kar rona chaaha..To aaate-jaate log ghur rahe the!Kyaa ajib halaat the vo b kambakht!Hum khud apne aap ko sambhaal nai paa rahe the!Jab nai rok paae rona...To sochne lage kaash vo vaapas aa jaae lene k lie!Kaash koi pu6le-why r u crying?Or hum bol de-I wn to go with him!Or vo khud hume uske paas 6odke aa jaae!!!Par bs vo ek khwaab tha-jiski koi haqeeqat na thi!!!Or fir ek train or taxi ne humare raaste badal diye!Usi raste se vapas aana pada jis raaste ne us taq pahonchaaya tha!Bade badnasib the vo pal jisne hume usse dur kar diya!!!Aahista se sab samet kar jab use yaad kiya...To laga jaise vo vahi tha-mere saath-mere paas!Or bol raha tha-Jaldi milenge..take care baby!!!!🤗🤗Bahot haseen hoti h esi yaade..Jinke bharose hum zindgi bitaate h!Bus vahi hoti h-Jo sirf humare or unke darmiyaan hoti h!!!😑
2:50 amThe world is planning to have a good night and here I am fighting my internal demons.Playing my favorite track to distract myself, otherwise, I will give up again. I could feel those things coming back to me, those wounds which were never healed and probably could never be.I am different they say, I can't make eye contact with people and often fail in building a conversation with them and for this they bully me but my Mossi says that I am no different and I ask myself then why I always stay alone and no one comes to me.I gave up on everything no motivation to do anything. As soon as I close my eyes all I could see is my whole life moving in front of my eyes like a movie.People say you don't try to fight for yourself, but they don't actually know what it feels like to be defeated every time you stand for yourself. They don't know about the nights I stay awake just to calm myself down, they don't know about the nights I puke just because taking medicines for my anxiety is not my cup of tea.My lips had frozen and my hands had shivered when I had tried to gulp down the sleeping pills and poison.After crying for hours about my miserable life I often dial computerized voice number when I need to cry and speak my heart out.Today, as I empty the sleeping pills and bottle of poison, my lips don't freeze, my hands don't shiver and I finally know I am not going to be like this for the rest of my life.But wait, who cares? No one right? Everyone loves to advise you for free but no has the courage to stand by your side and say I am there for you no matter how worse your condition.
" Rukh Zindagi ne mor lia kesa , humne socha nhi tha kbhi esa. Ata nhi yakeen kya se kya ho gya , kis tarah mei tujhse yuh bewafa ho gya. Insaf kar do ,mujhe maaf kardo." It's 2:45 am, the silence around me is bliss, no noise, the lyrics are taking me to a different world and I started fighting my internal demons. We often tend to neglect our mental health. One of the most common illness that is overlooked is depression. People think depression is sadness. People think depression is crying. People think depression is dressing in black. But people are wrong. You toss and turn in your bed so that sinking feeling in your stomach goes away, but it doesn't. You wish your mind could just stop thinking, just for a moment, so you can trick your mind into falling asleep but it doesn't. It hasn't for 3 months now. You remind yourself of happy memories, but there don't seem to be any. The more you try to remember, the more miserable it feels. The worst part is, you don't know what caused this storm. Could it be the recent heartbreak? Or the fact that you've lost all your friends? Is it that you've lost all confidence in life. And that's what keeps you up all night. There's a sense of permanence in turmoil. It doesn't seem like it's ever going to be okay. Days aren't really days; they are just annoying obstacles that need to be faced. And how do you face them? Through drinking, through smoking, through drugs, through cutting. When you're depressed, you grasp on to anything that can get you through the day. Everything's going wrong all at once. With every step you take, your world collapses a little more. Nobody knows what you're going through, no matter how much they pretend to. They can't see what's hiding behind your smile. How can they not? You know what depression really feels like? Nothingness. It feels empty - zilch. There's nothing inside you, nothing around, nothing to look forward to. Nothing to fall back on. Nothing that you can see.
It's 4 am and unlike other nights, I stayed up last night. No, not because I'm in love with my best friend. And not at all because I'm a crying mess, I've been here before, you know. I've often been told that I'm a devil with a cute smile, that I'm a charmer wizard with innocent eyes. And I'm like, what? Just because I respect every girl and treat them right, am I that bad.
I stood at railway platform.the trains were running late. the luggage compartment adjacent lady compartment. No signs of the trains coming announce was showing. Platform was getting crowded .one by one public increases. beggars , sellers, fruit sellers, fish sellers,nostalgic stench spread everywhere. Dirty smell of sweating also mixed with it. women perfumed face looked like a wilted wrinkled face.It Was rumoured of male child stolen cases from the hospital or nursing home. if male child stolen from public places, the voice rose against it. Such like rumour and confusion filled platform.one ragged saree wore woman stood on the platform. waiting for the train. She stood with child. Which was crying at platform. child missing is not new in mumbai like places ....in that case she mocking of breast feeding to chest. she held child into both arms as embrace him like hugging or meet each other position.Climax was going on when. One aged woman looks at her behavior when she realizes that she just play fake role of mother of breastfeeding ..even child...not stop crying.She caught her hand. She fumbled her sareelet to see if she actually covered Child under it. She did not feed children. Her blouse part was close. Women who follow her.she was a ragged woman.she still observing her behaviour her movement was oscillating. Her nervousness was increasing. one by one her heart pounded, her strokes pulsated. moment by moment it increased.Her criminal looks detected on obscured face. now she thought that her plan would be disclosed before public.Handkerchief gangs was there waiting with strolley babysitter.it by used often including woman, standing near luggage box. that people who sells second hand mobile and even theft drifting mobile used to sell at dadar TT station beside.They mostly sells baby toys and suchlike thing.That day ganesh festival was arrived.that hustle and bustle was carrying on platform. train also late. it added confusion fuel into it. Railway under misunderstanding between railway and traveler.Handkerchief gang hurry seemed. Because they have to go first to set up show before ganesh decoration mandal.there collected a lots up people. gathered to see decoration. they traverse at junction.then got off to dadar. And some at thane station. Many couple group divided into them. they parted into couple every station. There they got more crowded. there could sell more things. Lady train announcer blared on speaker. it was extremely sorry for the inconvenience caused to local traveller due to train late going to cst. the train arriving on platform no 2 was late due to some technical problem.it causing local traveller work slow down.faced tomorrow works burden. it added into extra work. No extra expenses given by company. For train late or ...some excuses for worker in decreasing burden of today's not postpone.Some are get tension if delivery not reach on time. it will forfeits us Small business holder also scratching heads because they have no other option but train mediumThey think that goods or order not despatch on the transport it will be cancelled by party tomorrow any how it must reach to party any force any transport medium not in handy as train as it consume low budget to get destinationit is convenient to anybody in budget formBeggar was in tension because they have to reach smart station if he wanted to earn more money Here people already get into tensed so nobody was interested pay alms as money to beggars.So beggar also pray to god to run trains on time.And work run smoothly and fastly and tomorrow.Her suspension grew quickly. her look upon her behaviour ....child not sucking milk from mother breast.....both part are empty ...she never tried even to get tensed on her face. no emotion no any disposition impress upon her faceNo any clue that she is the mother of her child .except she holds child in her enclosed breast.Why she behave like in alarmed.Well middle aged woman was looking every angle into her disposition.She inspected her.she doubted and suspected on her and confirmed her doubt.She screamed at top bottom ofmouth. she clutched her hand tossed her sarees lace hitched and moved away with some brave movement ...she crossed her eye toward public to see that ..it gave sudden movement of attraction at crowd ..as well sarees clad woman shouted at her ...no sooner station did get crowd ..Somebody asked in question remark.....what happen lady.....Middle Class woman said ...show her finger toward ragged woman ...disclosed matter before publicShe said....that woman has abducted child with her ...i follow her since she absconding childShe run away from behind slum locality. When i noticed her i just follow her until last she come station ...she didn't know any ideas that i watched on her....when she waiting i declared and asked her more time ...she was silence and dumb cow felt ....Railway police come ......they both and lady home guard. Caught her both hands brought to inquiry officeWell middle class woman also with her ....some married and unmarried woman added to mob..also support the matterSenior railway officer come .asked Cohered matter rigidlyLarge middle aged gathered nowSome are out of the office to see matter Some parted thinking if matter did worsen the police would be cross examined who with them Som some people was not mingling into this matter instead they get information outside box inquiringSome didn't know what happened platform afraid of police will be make Witness responsible by cross checked more time ....so many people not interfered into such like ....money stealing ..gold snatching ..money pocket picker. .such like matter no people get together to support it and help to police also against people and support to criminal ..most criminals are cigarette and chorus smoker..so police get them released next dayCuriosity viewer,Drew near to what happen on the platformThree star police came to solve matterOn duty railway police indicated main control of incident She was aghast,....! at the surrounding lookers and people police in enquiring mood in their eye seeing Middle aged woman snatching child from her breast Noticed and observed child and screamed out of loud… "A male child"'His face Look like foreigner ...grey hair brown face,'Now matter become worse .it case of child stealing, somebody said,Outsider.Who to blame now ..how to judge it.Such woman must remanded to custody room and still felt her guilty about crime she done..such not done on the spotShe was stretched to inquiry room ...it was shift change of some morning police to be ready to go home and new charge had been surrendered to new duty officer on the time of crime She was alarmed and speaking and murmuring in south indian language ....so nobody understands her languageOne woman come who know her mother tongue she blurred in that language. Tied her hair bunch in grip. Moving her head toward up and down motion and jostling and jerking on the ground .clapped on her mouth very rapidly .but she could not speakShe even say everyone this is my child ......my own ...child .......if this is your child. Why not feed her Child was crying with hunger and weeping very root of stomach..getting swoon due to the stench of hungerOne woman came ahead and held her hand above her blouse part and pressed her milk part with pinch movement in so rapidly it sprank milk everybody oozed milk over breast....She confirmed that she had a child of her own ..but how decide that ..that child belongs to her except she have milk in her breast.....So confused was it is..! How to solve this ...One woman force her to say real story ...after a long pause she took big sighShe rubbed away her sweat dropping from eyelid due to crying eyeShe forward herself ahead and started to narrated her storyOne day she was working as housework and family owner clutched my hand and said that you would get pregnant for baby for a year family heirHe promised me lots up money to give me I was ready to become a surrogate mother. of child to give an heir to that family. and he hired me for a year in his house as penguest wife slept with him ...and one day i got pregnant for him.After eleven month my name was registered in private hospital. for my serving and take care thy appointed private nurse for me to take my care.I gave birth for the first time. I become a mother of a child. I know first time experience feeling of mother what, mother is! I was very excited that time. it was not legally child mother. I gave birth to a child, but it belongs to another mother.in child, as my part was in that just to give birth. child had new mother and father then I took leave that day from child. without feed my breast milk for the first time. nurse feeding child of bottled milk. They banned to give my breast milk to child..if child test it they will be fed on breast alway to child.They put me away from child after child took sigh they never shown me my child face for the first time how it looks.i want to look my child face ..but nobody to listen me that dayBecause i was hired mother of child .....just to give birth ..that my work ...for that i paid for it..But in me one mother was hidden in my inner form ..i could not control that feeling of touch ...it become part of blood ...I left the house the next day after seven day...i was staying in next to building behind near slum areas...also working in that house as female servant ...first time lady owner who possess my baby looks happy and enjoying ..i was working household works that day ...the cries of baby caught by me. it fell on my ears. i could not control emotion.i heaved heart rending sigh ...i could not live without my child ...i nourished into my mother's womb since 12 month and still could not touch him.I want my child ..want my child ...feed milk but ..child could not suck milk ....i tried when houselady was out of house for party and she submitted child authority on me ...but child could not suck breast milk ..i tried hard but failed it.My child could suck milk ...he has a habit of bottled milk ...so that he could not suck breast nipple.it felt him very soft to feel.i am surrogate mother ...i am not his mother...i sold my womb for few money ...sold myself ...What can do for that it was six month for that incident my breast was filling with milk day after day and i have to waste and l collected my breast milk by pressing breast and outthrow it ..How can i live without my child One day in got chance ...nobody in house except me and child ....i took child and fled with him toward railway station This woman saw me when i was running very rapidly and quicklyShe caught me and asked me ...but I refused her said anything ..then she clutched my hand and got rid of her hand by hissed and jerked poisedAll viewers and public hearing and stunned what actually happened.she was just half crouching over foot and pressed child tightly to chest there, standstill and motionless...few minutes everything grew serious atmosphere over face something like great sorrow fell over everyone.Surrogate mother ....said by bystander.New duty officer was late home because his duty hour was over since last two hour.next incharge duty officer was waiting in the line.Now train problem of late is solved ...train coming started on the time now ...people on the platform was now slowly and quickly less crowded seemed.Now platform was totally dispersed with passenger ...
My Rating : 3 / 5I am a not very usual reader of self-help books but I read them time to time. The last self-help book which I read was “You can win” by Shiv Khera in 2009. After that, I did not get chance to read them. Robin Sharma’s Who Will Cry, Whenyou Die might be one of few self-help books which I have selected for myself. I haven’t got chance to read Robin Sharma best-selling book “The monk who sold Ferrari” but luckily one of my roommate having this book. Confession: I haven’t bought that book but took it on loan from my friend. Might be I will steal from him because that book is simply Awesome.Robin Sharma has written many books on the subject of leadership, self-help, professional guidance, and spirituality. he himself claimed the constant student of philosophy and mentioned that he has amide interest of changing the lives of millions.Irrespective of his attractive writings, he runs the seminars, performs personal classes for high table peoples around the world through his company.This book contains many heart touching topics related to Life, discipline, and leadership. This book is mostly a call for people who don’t want to regrate in their life. I would like to discuss the personal lesson which I vow to follow after reading this book.Write a journal for yourself.It might seem like a crazy idea but I think everyone must try this once in their life. I used to write personal diaries from 2005 to end of 2009. But after being in Job and same monotonous life sucked up my passion for reading, writing and learning for few years. I took the vow to relive my habit of reading in 2014 and that year I have completed 50 books and almost reading more than 12000+ pages. In the year 2016, I also promise to my self that I will start writing and I am doing it from 2016 to till now through this blog.Now I feel that, while these two habits change my life tremendously, this book remind me about my third habit for writing journals for myself. I am a great fan of fountain pens and paper white crispy dairies. I have good fountain pen but next week I am going to buy a diary for talking to myself.Learning Tough loveThis is might be the most difficult thing to do. But I am going to learn tough love with my life. I am not allowing my laziness to fill my days with excuses and crying about things cant be change. I am going to stick with myself (Mind and Body). I remember that one of my European friends told me thatIndians are great people with lot’s of potential but they lack consistency and discipline.I agree with my European friend. Indians even after having so much energy, fail to channelize that power because we believe that breaking the rule is normal. We (as an Indian) don’t believe in the firm and steady lifestyle while we believe that things get settle down eventually. That’s where we are weak and we lack focus.I personally need to reinstate that focus in my life. It can be started with minor but permanent changes. Like I have started to wake up 6:00 AM anyhow. I vow to get into bed around 11:00PM. I have told myself that I will read minimum one hours daily. Eat almonds for my health.Having a book all the time with meThis is one of the ideas which I like most. I mean how many of us notice that we waste our time by sleeping, chatting and gossiping during the day. How many of us waste their hundred hours by standing at lines, watching TV’s shows rather than having a book which can give us million dollar ideas like this one did to me.I am not saying that everyone must have the book and read it unconsciously. But I am saying that use the time which is being wasted in your life.My Mantra is simple: Life is short, Read !!Original Blog
Don’t Follow - In Gita Verse 3.29 Bewildered by the modes of material nature, the ignorant fully engage themselves in material activities and become attached. But the wise should not unsettle them, although these duties are inferior due to the performers’ lack of knowledge.Krishna tells Arjuna that as soon as you become self-unconscious immediately you will find anxiety, anger, tubulances, you will become bewilder, you will not know how to act and you will try to follow your intellect who will guide you to imitate. In the process you will not be able to respond to the present moment.Imitation is a substitute for understanding:Let me tell you one anecdote first. When Rabbi Nor, son of Rabbi Mordekai, assumed the succession after his father’s death, his disciples noted that there were a number of ways in which he conducted himself differently to his father, and asked him about this. ‘I do just as my father did,’ he replied.’ He did not imitate and I do not imitate.’Meditate over this anecdote. He said, ‘I do just as my father did. He did not imitate and I do not imitate.’ If you really understand Joshu, Bodhidharma or Osho, you will not imitate — because Osho have not imitated, because Bodhidharma never imitated anybody.Joshu used to say to his disciples, ‘If you utter Buddha’s name, go and rinse your mouth immediately.’ Joshu also used to say, ’If you meet the Buddha on the way, kill him immediately.’ And he used to worship Buddha every day.Ordinarily Zen looks puzzling, but it is clear-cut. It is following Buddha. When Joshu says, ‘If you meet the Buddha on the way kill him,’ he is a right disciple because that was Buddha’s essential message. When Buddha was dying, his last utterance in this world was, ’APPO DEEPO BHAVA’ — ‘Be a light unto yourself.’Don’t follow anybody. Anand was crying, weeping because Buddha was leaving the body and he said to Buddha, ‘You are leaving and I have not yet become enlightened. What about me? What will happen to me? The world will be absolutely dark for me — you were the light. And now you are going. Have compassion on us.’ Buddha opened his eyes and said, ‘APPO DEEPO BHAVA. Be a light unto yourself, Anand, nobody can be a light for you.’Means this cannot be taught but you have to learn.When Joshu says,’Kill the Buddha if you meet him on the way,’ he is a true follower of Buddha. In Zen, following is very, very delicate. Great intelligence will be needed if you want to be a follower of Zen. It is very easy to be a Christian or a Hindu; it is very mathematical. To follow Zen it is very, very delicate and poetic — because the very following means not following; because that is the message of the Zen Masters, don’t follow.This is going to happen. If details are so important, this is going to happen. Zen Masters have not given any details. They simply impart their awareness and say, ‘You be aware. Awareness will show you the way in each moment. What is needed, you will know. Respond knowingly, alert, that’s all.’ How can it be decided beforehand what you should do? Who knows? Each circumstance is so unique that it is difficult to decide. And people who decide always encage humanity, imprison humanity.Zen is a path of liberation. It liberates. It is freedom from the first step to the last. You are not required to follow any rules; you are required to find out your own rules and your own life in the light of awareness.Krishna very compassionately tell Arjuna that in you self-unconsciousness you will be imitator and univers don’t want imitators. Universe wants everyone to respond to the present moment, Universe gives every moment new opportunity to celebrate that moment with fresh respond, he don’t repeat and he don’t want you to repeat. As Universe consider you and honour you as part of it. Just full of joy respond to present moment.
Q: Please give details about your initial education and forming years of lifeA: I have done B. Pharm and MBA from NMIMS, Mumbai, with almost three years of corporate experience.Q: How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?A: Writing was always my passion. The form of art which is closest to my heart. I stared writing poetry early 2017. The poets that inspired me and my poetry in Robert Frost and John Keats.Q: What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work?A: I feel the difficulty is managing time for writing. Creative writing needs time to develop. As Lisa See, an American writer and novelist says “Read a thousand books, and your words will flow like a river.”Q: What is your view about the present-day literary work?A: Present-day literary is innovative, personal and straight forward and beautiful in its own way. But personally, I love the charm of the classics like ‘DAFFODILS’ by WILLIAM WORDSWORTH or ‘THE ROAD NOT TAKEN’ by ROBERT FROST Q: Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers?A: Yes, I’m a blogger which helps in showcasing my work globally and get feedback and comments from the strangers across the globe are motivating me to keep writing. So yes, social media gives an opportunity to share my work as well as learn from others.Q: Please tell us something about your literary workA: I write poems and prose about love and life usually with ciphers, this is the writing style which I am learning and interested to grow with. I draw inspiration from nature, the books I read, places I visit and people in meet. Proses I usually characterize by the use of full sentences and paragraphs that tend to proceed uninterrupted in a linear fashion until they are complete to give description to develop concrete, complete ideas, aiming to leave the reader with his own interpretation of it. Whereas poetry, on the other hand, I write in nonlinear fashion, using fragments of thoughts, feelings, and images to convey a certain message to the readers aiming to generate feelings which I hold while writing. Like smiling together with the reader or crying with the pain that the poetry holds.Q: What was your first literary work and how was it published? A: I started my journey initially with articles related to real life events or current events, which grew into short stories and novels. But I truly find myself now as a poet. I enjoy getting lost in time when I’m writing, liking living in a completely different universe.My poems are published in WordPress and StoryMirror. Q: How many ways literature can contribute to society in future?A: Literary works serve as a food for thought and encourage imagination and creativity. Exposing oneself to good literary works, is equivalent to providing one with the finest of educational opportunities. On the other hand, the lack of exposure to good literature is equal to depriving oneself from the opportunity to grow. Literature allows you to understand and experience systems of living and other worlds. We get a view of the inside looking out, a personal view and insight into the minds and reasoning of someone else. We can learn, understand, and appreciate it; and that how society can grow. Q: Where do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?A: In 5 years, I see myself to be a more matured writer with my few poetry books published. And to be growing in people’s heart.Q: What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets?A: Develop a place where poets can share there works and get feedbacks from fellow like minded poets. This will not only give more opportunity to grow but also to learn from each other, like a writer’s club.Q: What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers?A: Follow your heart, take risk, and have courage to take the road least traveled. Q: How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror? A: It is a very good platform for both readers and writers. Writers get a platform to share their work and get recognition for it whereas readers get good content to read and learn. Q: Would you like to say something about StoryMirror? A: Keep going strong. Wish you all the success as your success is your writers’ success. Here is the link to read my content https://storymirror.com/profile/4hkaj7vg/shrestha-mukherjee/poems
Consolations - In Gita Verse 2.28 All created beings are unmanifest in their beginning, manifest in their interim state, and unmanifest again when annihilated. So what need is there for lamentation?Krishna is again reminding Arjuna, that when you will be able to see the presence of universe the body will disappear and when you will see the body presence the universe will disappear.Like in Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.39, I had explained that in the seed tree is present but by dissecting it you will not find it. By allowing it to grow you will find it. Again the whole tree will disappear in the seed.This is law of nature then why you are interfering in it. Why so much of grief. We are all here just to disappear sooner or later. Life is very precarious, accidental, any moment anybody can go.So don't be worried about what happened, there is no why. All the answers that can be given to your why will be nothing but consolations to somehow rationalise a thing which is mysterious, but which by rationalising we hope to console ourselves. Krishna is not interested in consoling, because it is a dangerous game this consolation. It will keep Arjuna hidden behind buffers.This should make you understand the dreamlike quality of life. Life is made of stuff called dreams. We may be seeing a beautiful dream but it can be broken by any small thing - just a noise and the dream disappears. It may have been a sweet dream and one feels hurt and one wants to close one's eyes and continue dreaming - but now nothing can be done.Rather than finding explanations and consolations, always look at the naked truth. It is sad, it hurts, it is painful: see it, that it is so, but don't try to somehow whitewash it. All explanations and all philosophies are nothing but efforts to whitewash things which are not white, which are very dark and mysterious.When such moments come, they are of tremendous significance because in these moments, awakening is possible. When unavoidable war with relatives, it is such a shock; you can awaken in such a shock; rather than crying and wasting the opportunity. After a few days the shock will be shock no more: time heals everything. After a few years you will forget all about it. By the end of your life it may look as if you had seen it in some movie or read about it in a novel. In time it would have faded and faded so far away that only an echo - catch hold of it right now. This is the moment when it can help you to be alert, awake. Don't miss the opportunity; all consolations are ways of missing opportunities.Never ask "why". Life is without any "why" and death is without any "why". The "why" cannot be answered, need not be answered. Life is not a problem that can be solved, neither is death. Life and death are both parts of the mystery which knows no answer. The question mark is ultimate. So all that can be done in such situations is that one should awaken, because these shocks can become a breakthrough. Thinking stops, the shock is such that the mind goes in a blur. Nothing seems to be meaningful, all seems to be lost. One feels an utter stranger, outsider, uprooted. These are tremendously significant moments; these are the moments when you enter into a new dimension. And death is one of the greatest doors that opens into the divine. When somebody is at war with their own people, who may die, it is almost the death of yourself, as if you had died, a part of you has died.So just see that life is a dream, that everything will disappear sooner or later, dust into dust. Nothing abides here. We cannot make our home here. It is a caravanserai, an overnight stay and in the morning, we go. But there is one thing which is constantly there and permanently there - that is your watching, your witnessing. Everything else disappears, everything else comes and goes, only witnessing remains.So witness this whole thing. Just be a witness, don't become identified. Don't be a identify with Arjuna. Just be a witness, a silent watcher and that watching will help tremendously, that is the only key which opens the doors of mysteries. Not that it solves anything, but it makes you capable to live the mysterious, and to live it totally.Krishna says that just witness the war which was unavoidable, don’t be a prey to grief but deliver your assignment.
Wash your utensils with this dish-cleaner and sparkle your relationships…There is saffron in the soap…There is chocolate in this shampoo… there are almonds in the face cream!Drink this tea and refresh your relationships…Drink this soft-drink and live without fear…What fools are we, at times!!!All along, some of us have wasted our time; many precious years of life, trying to find out how to lead a perfect life… Probably, you too must have spent hours, trying to understand relationships, love and life. How stupid we have been… All we could have done is to switch on the Television, and sit before it with total faith. Yes, with total faith in our advertisements!!! We could have had the keys to all that we ever wanted in life. The key to beauty; to success; to a happy family life; the key to popularity and the key to health and blossoming relationships—all could have been at our feet in a matter of a few hours… How very silly of us, that we work hard and undergo ordeals and struggles, to fulfil our aspirations!God, bless us. We know not how innocent we are! The noble companies and even nobler advertising agencies are crying hoarse, and trying to better our lives. And, we don’t take them seriously? Using music, Bollywood stars and attractive photography—they spend crores trying to make all our dreams come true, and we do not take the ads seriously?Didn’t they tell us…Spray this deodorant and girls will fall head-over-heels in love with you…Eat this cereal and your husband will start noticing you…Add this in your children’s milk and they will become great scientists!Use this fairness cream and the most handsome and eligible bachelor will be at your feet…If you drink a particular beverage daily, your Boss will be impressed and you could take a trophy home for outstanding performance…It is all so clearly stated. The world of TV Ads is a great teacher. Just sit down… relax… and carefully watch the ads. We can learn how to magically swirl ten mouth-watering dishes—one or two each for every family member and yet, not a drop of sweat shall we shed or a strand of hair move. How? Because the secret, as we would learn, would lay in the dish-washing soap!Have you not seen the ad which teaches us that if we use a particular washing-powder, husband and wives would love each other more? How? Because, the clothes would become softer and so would the hands of the lady….But, what if the washing powder is used by the maid? Would her husband love her more, or ours???? Women, take note of this puzzle!!!Oh no! How much time have we wasted trying to seriously think on some matters, whereas the solutions and lessons were all so very simple!Had we known this secret earlier, we would have had the pleasure of seeing our mothers always young, fresh and happy despite their daily laborious chores. We could have had friends drooling over our looks, and we could have made smarter choices!!! Our brain could have been sharper; our nails and hair glistening; our clothes smarter; our body odour captivating; our sleep peaceful; our taste buds rejuvenated and of course, our relationships, happier. How innocent we have been… Imagine, the key to freedom from pimples, wrinkles, and fine lines was just a remote away!Use this tooth paste-- dance and swirl and live happily thereafter…Take a loan from our bank and we will help you discover the real ‘you’…This toilet cleaner will sparkle your bathroom and your life…There are easy and readymade formulae for increasing the growth of the brain of our children… There are easy solutions for killing germs in ten seconds!! And then, our children would never fall ill even if they gulp pizzas or burgers daily. Wish we could have sat before the televisions with total faith…. We could have given our children filtered water (using modern complicated processes) and they could have topped in their respective classrooms.Are you one of those who were searching in vain for means to raise your self-esteem? Well, did you not know that with a certain brand of tea, courage and confidence comes; and with a certain soft-drink—come tumbling out clever and creative ideas? A certain can of paint is what it takes or perhaps, a bathroom-freshner to raise your esteem in the eyes of your neighbours… Ha, how easy it is, isn’t it?Watch the Advertisements for solutions to all your problems… for answers to all your questions!!! It is not too late.Ah, by the way—have you been looking for a way out to please your in-laws? Oh, ohhh…. All you had to do was prove your intelligence by using a particular mosquito coil, and pride would have surfaced in their eyes and they would have hugged you happily!!!
Don’t Judge - In Gita Verse 3.26 So as not to disrupt the minds of ignorant men attached to the fruitive results of prescribed duties, a learned person should not induce them to stop work. Rather, by working in the spirit of devotion, he should engage them in all sorts of activities.Krishna tells Arjuna it's a big responsibility as you grow in your consciousness not only towards yourself but towards others as it becomes your responsibility that ignorant people don’t become prey of any belief, attachments.In my blog Bhagavad Gita Verse 2.10, I wrote regarding Kissa Gautami, who went to Buddha in despair. Buddha has choice through his action that he can make Kissa her followers, means she will believe her blindly, by giving life to her son. But he did not do that. Even though Buddha was capable of doing that. But he asked her to bring Mustard Seed from a house where nobody has ever died, by which at the end of the day she own her own realize that eternity of life, she got initiation from Buddha. Buddha has not made her follower but seeker.Imagine when someone comes to us for any help how eager we are to exhibit our capability. This is not a sign of maturity. Mature person takes pain on himself and guide others to take their decision, they don’t need any kind of rewards for that. As mature person known that everyone is like him to take his or her responsibility.To grow old is not to grow up; to become old is not to become mature. Maturity has nothing to do with old age, nothing to do with age at all. Maturity has something to do with becoming more and more conscious, becoming more and more silent and aware, becoming more and more watchful of what you are doing and why, where you are going and why.Maturity is another name for realization: you have come to the fulfillment of your potential, it has become actual. The seed has come on a long journey, and has blossomed. Maturity has a fragrance. It gives a tremendous beauty to the individual. It gives intelligence, the sharpest possible intelligence. It makes him nothing but love. His action is love, his inaction is love; his life is love, his death is love. He is just a flower of love.Take incidence from Krishna’s life - Krishna and Putana.When Putana was taking baby Krishna on her lap, both Yashoda and Rohini were present, but they did not forbid her because she was so beautifully dressed and because she showed motherly affection towards Krishna. They could not understand that she was a sword within a decorated case. Putana had smeared a very powerful poison on her breasts, and immediately after taking the baby on her lap, she pushed her breast nipple within His mouth. She was hoping that as soon as He would suck her breast, He would die. But baby Krishna very quickly took the nipple in love. He sucked the milk-poison along with the life air of the demon. In other words, Krishna simultaneously sucked the milk from her breast and killed her by sucking out her life. Krishna is so merciful that because the demon Putana came to offer her breast-milk to Him, He fulfilled her desire and accepted her activity as motherly. But to stop her from further nefarious activities, He immediately killed her. And because the demon was killed by Krishna, she got liberation. When Krishna sucked out her very breath, Putana fell down on the ground, spread her arms and legs and began to cry, "Oh child, leave me, leave me!" She was crying loudly and perspiring, and her whole body became wet.As she died, screaming, there was a tremendous vibration both on the earth and in the sky, in all directions, and people thought that thunderbolts were falling.Putana came to Krishna with her bed intention but as she offer her milk without any resistance, judgement Krishna accepted her as mother and not only drank the milk but he liberated her, gave her Moksha. We always accept others with our judgements. This is the difference. Krishna or Buddha or any mature person they don’t accept others with their judgements or with any kind of fear.When one grows in maturity they are not only liberate themselves from all the attachments but they liberate others from their attachments. I gave two examples one is Kissa gautami and Buddha, which may be very much appealing to you as it fits in your belief system, but Krishna from every act of his was guiding us without any attachment, judgement when you act not only you librarte but other also liberate from their attachments. Also remember that each circumstances are different and always give us fresh opportunity to act from non-attachment. Look at to Arjuna when he was non-attach towards the war he was alert but as soon as he caught up in attachments he was in grief, mercy, helpless, etc.Krishna reminds Arjuna his maturity and responsibility to liberate many people from their attachments. As for war, we have a lot of judgements, we all can see that when war was taken from non-attachment and with attachment what difference in Arjuna. As soon as Arjuna became judgemental regarding war he caught up in attachments. Non-attach person surrenders himself to all the present moments act without any judgement.
Karma Yoga - In Gita Verse 3.7 On the other hand, if a sincere person tries to control the active senses by the mind and begins karma-yoga without attachment, he is by far superior.Krishna here gave distinction of Karma Yoga. In Bhagavad Gita Verse 3.3, Krishna explain us Gyan Yoga and Bhakti Yoga. In this verse he speaks regarding Karma Yoga. Till we are alive in the body, our body will act, there will be action through our body. But when we act, from where our actions come, that makes the whole difference.Just recollect moment in your life when you are angry your action is anger, when you are loving your action is loving, affectionate, if you replay your this incidence again and again you will realize that you were unconscious when your anger or love emotion was present in your action. You were self-unconscious. Even if you realize such a small thing you will find certain space is opening in you, which is you may name as empty like canvas.But like in our education unless we were introduced ‘A’ we will not know the ‘A’, the same way this empty space is who we are, not introduce to us. So we are unknown and ignorant towards self. Many times during the day we come across this space but because we have not got proper education to recognize ourselves we are unknown to this. Krishna says unless you act from this empty space, which has got no judgements, emotions, thinking, your act cannot come from non-attachment. This empty space is our subjectivity, our soul. We are ignorant regarding our empty space as all the religion has taught us scriptures but not introduce us this space, which is Who We Are.What Krishna says you don’t have choice for action but you have a choice whether you want to act from your unconsciousness or consciousness, your attachments or non-attachments. If your actions are from non-attachment then you are liberated.To Karma Yoga, Sufis call it “the watcher on the hills.” The valleys go on changing but the watcher remains on the top of the hill. Sometimes the valley is dark and sometimes the valley is light and sometimes there is dancing and singing and sometimes there is weeping and crying – and the watcher sits on the hill-top and just goes on watching.By and by the content of consciousness does not matter only consciousness becomes significant. That is the essential foundation of all true religion. And this is the understanding of the Sufis.There are four ways to approach truth, to be connected with truth.The first is known in the East as karma yoga – the way of action. Man has three dimensions in him: action, knowing, feeling. So three ways use these three directions: action, knowing, feeling. You can act, and you can act with total absorption, and you can offer your act to God. You can act without becoming a doer. That is the first way – karma yoga: being in action without being a doer. You let God do. You let God be in you. You efface yourself.In this, the path of action, consciousness changes the content. These two things have to be understood: consciousness and content. This is all that your life consists of. There is something which is the knower in you and something which is the known. For example, you are listening to music. Now two things are there: whatsoever music plays will be the content, and whatsoever you are inside, listening, watching, that is the consciousness. You are looking at instruments, through which music is played. Then instrument in your eyes is the content and you, who are looking at that instrument in the eye, are consciousness – the object and the subject.On the path of action, consciousness changes the content That is what action is. You see a rock. Somebody may stumble upon it – because it is getting dark, night is falling. so you remove the rock from the path. This is action. What have you done? Consciousness has changed the content.On the path of action, content is important and has to be changed. If somebody is ill and you go and serve him and you give him medicine, you are changing the content. If somebody has fallen in the river and is drowning, you jump in and you save him from drowning. You have changed the content.Action is content-directed. Action is will – something has to be done. Of course, if the will remains ego-oriented, then you will not be religious. You will be a great doer, but not religious. And your path will be of action but not towards God. When you allow God to become your will, when you say, “Let thy will be mine,” when you surrender your will to the feet of god and his will starts flowing through you, then it is the path of action – karma yoga.The goal of karma yoga is freedom, moksha – to change the contents so much that nothing antagonistic is left there, nothing harmful is left there; to change the content according to your heart’s desire, so that you can be free of limitations. This is the path of Jainism, yoga, and all action-oriented philosophies.Krishna tells Arjuna that you will be librearated if you do your part of action align with the universal will, God’s will, your act will be non-attached. So just focus on your assignment of the Universe, Fight Without Enmity.
Insightful Act - In Gita Verse 3.21 Whatever action a great man performs, common men follow. And whatever standards he sets by exemplary acts, all the world pursues.Read very carefully what Krishna says, he says a great man means the person who has courage to be with himself. They carry big responsibility, on their shoulder, as 99.99% of the people are imitatore, without any understanding they follow. As right now everyone’s eyes on Arjuna, what action he will take. They will not use their intelligence why and under what circumstances you took decision and then acted on that. They will just follow him blindly.Look after the Buddha and Mahavira without any insight many people become sannyasins. They become a burden to society, they did not want to take responsibility for themselves and their family so to run away from the responsibility they took sanyas. They were escapist.When I am saying they run away from their responsibility, I would like to explain by the following incidence when after enlightenment Buddha met his wife Yashodhara.When Buddha became enlightened, the first thing he said to his disciples was, ‘I would like to go to Yashodhara and talk to her.’ His wife….Ananda was very much disturbed (Anand was disturbed because he is followed Buddha’s word to become sanyasi). He said, ‘What is the point of your going back to the palace and talking to your wife? You have left her. Twelve years have passed.’And Ananda was a little bit disturbed also, because how can a Buddha think about his wife? Buddhas are not expected to think that way.When the others had left, Ananda said to Buddha, ‘This is not good. What will people think?’Buddha said, ‘What will people think? I have to express my gratitude to her, and I have to thank her for all the help she gave me. And I have to give something of that which has happened to me – I owe that much to her. I will have to go.’Read both Ananda and Buddha’s words carefully, Ananda wanted to follow something, decorum, rules, while Buddha through his self-awareness wanted to act. Buddha is not follower. He is not identified with his sanyas.He came back. He went to the palace. He saw his wife. Certainly Yashodhara was mad! This man escaped one night without even saying anything to her.She said to Buddha, ‘Couldn’t you have trusted me? You could have said that you wanted to go, and I would have been the last woman in the world to prevent you. Couldn’t you have trusted me even that much?’ And she was crying. Twelve years of anger! And this man had escaped like a thief in the middle of the night – suddenly, without giving a single hint to her.Buddha apologized and he said, ‘It was out of non-understanding. I was ignorant, I was not aware. But now I am aware and I know – that’s why I have come back. You have helped me tremendously. Forget those old things, now there is no point in thinking about ‘spilt milk’. Look at me! Something great has happened. I have come home. And I felt my first duty was towards you: to come, and to convey, and to share my experience with you.’The anger gone, the rage subsided, Yashodhara looked out through her tears. ‘Yes, this man has changed tremendously.’ This was not the same man she used to know. This was not the same man, not at all; this looked like a great luminosity… She could almost see the aura, a light around him. And he was so peaceful and so silent; he had almost disappeared. His presence was almost absence. And then, in spite of herself, she forgot what she was doing – she fell at his feet and she asked to be initiated.Rabindranath has written a poem about this incident when Buddha comes.Yashodhara asked him one thing. ‘Just tell me one thing,’ she said. ‘Whatever you have attained… I can see you have attained, whatsoever it is. I don’t know what it is – just tell me one thing: was it not possible to attain it here in this house?’ And Buddha could not say no. It was possible to attain it here in this house. Now he knew. Because it has nothing to do with forest or with town, with family or with ashram – it has nothing to do with any place; it has something to do with your innermost core. It is available everywhere.When Kabir, Nanak, Osho reach to their Buddhahood they understood where everything in the society has gone wrong, by taking the sanyas. They created new path through their experience and insight, they asked the people to do mediation, don’t renounce but mediate wherever you are, and without mediation, without your own insight even if you will become sanyasi you will be carrying the world with you wherever you are. With meditation living in the world you will be untouched by world.Krishna tells Arjuna that person of your stature, to whom many people will like to follow but they will be misguided by their unconsciousness. So please be self-aware and remember that it’s not only the war but many other responsibility universe has given to you. There will be many people will follow you, so come out of your self-unconsciousness and act from self-consciousness, in this war by fulfilling your assignment of the universe Fight Without Enmity.