Consolations - In Gita Verse 2.28 All created beings are unmanifest in their beginning, manifest in their interim state, and unmanifest again when annihilated. So what need is there for lamentation?
Krishna is again reminding Arjuna, that when you will be able to see the presence of universe the body will disappear and when you will see the body presence the universe will disappear.
Like in Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.39, I had explained that in the seed tree is present but by dissecting it you will not find it. By allowing it to grow you will find it. Again the whole tree will disappear in the seed.
This is law of nature then why you are interfering in it. Why so much of grief. We are all here just to disappear sooner or later. Life is very precarious, accidental, any moment anybody can go.
So don't be worried about what happened, there is no why. All the answers that can be given to your why will be nothing but consolations to somehow rationalise a thing which is mysterious, but which by rationalising we hope to console ourselves. Krishna is not interested in consoling, because it is a dangerous game this consolation. It will keep Arjuna hidden behind buffers.
This should make you understand the dreamlike quality of life. Life is made of stuff called dreams. We may be seeing a beautiful dream but it can be broken by any small thing - just a noise and the dream disappears. It may have been a sweet dream and one feels hurt and one wants to close one's eyes and continue dreaming - but now nothing can be done.
Rather than finding explanations and consolations, always look at the naked truth. It is sad, it hurts, it is painful: see it, that it is so, but don't try to somehow whitewash it. All explanations and all philosophies are nothing but efforts to whitewash things which are not white, which are very dark and mysterious.
When such moments come, they are of tremendous significance because in these moments, awakening is possible. When unavoidable war with relatives, it is such a shock; you can awaken in such a shock; rather than crying and wasting the opportunity. After a few days the shock will be shock no more: time heals everything. After a few years you will forget all about it. By the end of your life it may look as if you had seen it in some movie or read about it in a novel. In time it would have faded and faded so far away that only an echo - catch hold of it right now. This is the moment when it can help you to be alert, awake. Don't miss the opportunity; all consolations are ways of missing opportunities.
Never ask "why". Life is without any "why" and death is without any "why". The "why" cannot be answered, need not be answered. Life is not a problem that can be solved, neither is death. Life and death are both parts of the mystery which knows no answer. The question mark is ultimate. So all that can be done in such situations is that one should awaken, because these shocks can become a breakthrough. Thinking stops, the shock is such that the mind goes in a blur. Nothing seems to be meaningful, all seems to be lost. One feels an utter stranger, outsider, uprooted. These are tremendously significant moments; these are the moments when you enter into a new dimension. And death is one of the greatest doors that opens into the divine. When somebody is at war with their own people, who may die, it is almost the death of yourself, as if you had died, a part of you has died.
So just see that life is a dream, that everything will disappear sooner or later, dust into dust. Nothing abides here. We cannot make our home here. It is a caravanserai, an overnight stay and in the morning, we go. But there is one thing which is constantly there and permanently there - that is your watching, your witnessing. Everything else disappears, everything else comes and goes, only witnessing remains.
So witness this whole thing. Just be a witness, don't become identified. Don't be a identify with Arjuna. Just be a witness, a silent watcher and that watching will help tremendously, that is the only key which opens the doors of mysteries. Not that it solves anything, but it makes you capable to live the mysterious, and to live it totally.
Krishna says that just witness the war which was unavoidable, don’t be a prey to grief but deliver your assignment.