Most people cannot say their self-esteem is very high. This is often preventing us from getting things in life, be it a dinner date, job opportunity or just the one pastrami sandwich we like in the cabinet. But it’s not easy to feel good about yourself and then just let the magic happen. Quite the opposite, building an image of yourself where you’re aware of your worth and focus on the good things about you can be a tedious process.Read more at 5 Simple Habits That Instantly Promote Self-Love and Confidence
Self-love and moving on is easy to say but very hard to do. It isn't about speeding enthusiastically forward so much as it's about having one foot on the gas and one on the accelerator. It's not always yoga, meditation, scented candles, sappy romantic films with a bucket of ice cream.
It wont be wrong if I say that 2017 was a time period, in which I explored myself with many such qualities which were hindering my self-exploration since my birth. On particular rough days, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days, so far is 100% and that’s pretty good. I welcomed a new morning by forgiving everyone, who were the cause of my all these days. Inner peace began, the moment I chose not to allow another event or person or the complete world to control my emotion. When I realized this, I started accepting some of my qualities such as stubbornness, emotional, introvert and caring in a positive way, because of which I had suffered my life in a negative way. I stopped explaining myself, when I realized people only understand from their level of perception. So, I was able to completely come out from the ‘Log Kya Kahenge’ attitude. Me, Myself and My writings… that’s all got at the end.I thank to everyone who were my co-passengers of this journey, my toastmaster family, my Trifecta family, my office colleagues and at last but not the least, my own family, my tiny fishes, flower plants and my cute pug…A special thank goes to you who taught me about meditation and encouraged me to follow my passion. Though some of your words were pinching me like the prickles of a cactus, but I tried to go to the depth of those and took a challenge to make you realize next time that the time has come for you to throw one more prickle word towards me. Thanks for all the comments which were coming from an unspoken and unseen energy, pushing me to climb another step up of the ladder of my life,.Going to start a new year with again some unexpected, unwanted and not much encouraging circumstances. Again, let’s see, how the year 2018 is becoming one more milestone in my self-exploration.
Work In Devotion - In Gita Verse 3.28 One who is in knowledge of the Absolute Truth, O mighty-armed, does not engage himself in the senses and sense gratiﬁcation, knowing well the differences between work in devotion and work for fruitive results.Krishna explains Arjuna that there are two category of people one who is self-unconscious and another is self-conscious.What is difference - self-unconscious person thinks that he is the centre and everything moves around him. The other category of people who are self-conscious, self-realize they know that Universe is center and I am moving around him, I am on the periphery, as I have body.Remember in Bhagavad Gita Verse 3.22, I wrote even when Krishna takes form, body he also act as per what Universe has given him assignment. He drops all his desire and judgement, he will act in devotion for universe. For him also Universe is center and he is moving around it, on periphery.What does devotion mean?Devotion means that you are beginning to experience the divine in matter, that you are beginning to perceive the unmanifest in the manifest, that the formless has begun to be glimpsed shimmering in form.Devotion means that whatever is visible to you, a shadow of the invisible has also begun to appear within it. If you stop at what is visible, devotion will never be born in you. You must listen for the sound of the invisible approaching, you must hear the footsteps of that which cannot be heard. Your senses have to become ecstatic, they have to be thrilled with the joy of that which is beyond all your senses. You begin to perceive the invisible through some hitherto unfamiliar medium – and the name of this medium is devotion. That which cannot be seen directly, which cannot be perceived by the eyes, that too can be seen. The invisible can become visible. The miracle of making the invisible visible is called devotion. Devotion is a kind of alchemy, a kind of science.Perhaps you have never even thought about what happens when you fall in love. When you fall in love, do you see only the bones, the flesh and the marrow of your lover? If that is all you see, then one day you might just as well fall in love with a corpse. No, you have had a glimpse of something else too. Your eyes have begun to enter deep within that person; the inner image of that person has begun to surface. This is what it means whenever you fall in love – whether you understand it or not. The divine has called you from some window.So the first glimpse of the divine always comes through your lover. And one who has never loved can never know devotion, because devotion is love in full flood. Love is like a light shower of rain, devotion is a flood – but the basic natures of both love and devotion are the same. Love has limits, devotion has no limits. Love ends: it is here today, maybe not tomorrow; it comes for a moment and is then lost. It is ephemeral. The world is like the last morning star. Once devotion comes, it stays. Then there is no way to get out of it. Once you have entered it, you have entered it forever. It is not possible to turn back. In love it is possible to turn back, because love is always a little hazy, a little superficial. Devotion goes very deep.So you must understand devotion through love. Love is the first lesson in devotion. You are a husband: you love your wife. You are a father: you love your son. You are a wife: you love your husband, you love your friends. Wheresoever there is love, use it to search further.Krishna tells Arjuna unless right now you realize your self-love, your action cannot come from self-consciousness, from devotion towards universe. Your act will be for the fruits but not as Universe in the center and you are in periphery, moving. Your role changes every moment and according to your present moment’s role act from your self-realization, devotion.
Below is my script, which I had delivered in my club level contest of Toastmaster International speech contest. For the knowledge of the readers, I would like to say that Toastmasters International (TI) is a US headquartered nonprofit educational organization that operates clubs worldwide for the purpose of helping members improve their communication, public speaking, and leadership skills. Writing stories and writing scripts for speeches are two different things. In speeches, the speaker has to take the challenge to involve her audience throughout the speech and she has to communicate everything within 7 mins of her talk. Audience may lose interest if the opening is not good and if the script timing goes beyond 7 mins, then audience may feel bored. So, this script provides some guidelines to a speaker.... Hope the readers will enjoy it:Title: The phoenixOpening:4th Jan1986, Odisha, a girl was born with lots of dreams in her eyes. Dreams to be the best daughter to her parents …. Dreams to be the best Engineer the world has ever seen….dreams to bring a change in the nation …. Dreams to do the best of her life …. N Dreams to be a wonderful wife……………………Everything was going fine as planned until 2014 when this girl caught a disease ………….. her dreams started dying, her faith in love started dying, her trust for her parents started losing and worst of all , she even thought of ending it……Eventually After 2 years of struggle that sweet innocent girl ……died a suffocating death.Body:Good afternoon Honorable Contest Chair, fellow toastmasters and dear guests.In one of those chilly evening on November 2016, she was reborn as an independent woman with self-respect, one who takes her own decisions ……4 years back, life had put her at a turning point where one decision that she took made her disgrace for everyone……… worse even disgrace to her parents. What was that one wrong decision that changed her life………….? What was that disease that killed her happiness…??Her mistake was she decided to say no to domestic violence after marriageShe decided to not tolerate her drunkard husband’s beatings every night, she decided to not tolerate her father in law stopping her to talk to her family members, she decided not to ask her parents for more dowry, she decided not to tolerate her mother in law’s giving her high voltage electric shocks. She had lost her mental peace and freedom, which had huge negative impact on her professional career. How difficult to bear all those? How painful those moments were?? Losing individuality and living means a spiritless life with a moving physical body, that means you are living like a dead body!!!When she looked back to get the ANegative Situation Wisely Experiencing Reversal she could see that she had very little control over what happened. The seasons of her experience had to run their course – severe winter storms, cold and darkness, then the seeds hidden from within started beginning to sprout (very exciting!). The best she could do was ride the waves, which she did with varying degrees of success. She saved all her strength to swim with the tide and to flow with the grace that washed through her days, raising all her quills to defend against invaders. She took this on faith. All she used is a pair of eyes unblinkered by fear, apprehension and prejudice. Fighting with herself went on in each and every moment, hour and day, to come out from her demon created by herself since her birth. To come out from the attitude to care about ‘what will people say?’Transformation was not sweet and bright. It was dark, murky, painful and pushing. A practice in facing our own created demons. A complete uprooting, before becoming. She turned her demons into art, her fears into fuel, her mistakes into teachers and her weaknesses into reasons to keep us fighting. She did not waste her pain, instead recycled her heart!!!Situation in life might had defeated her, burnt her, insulted her, injured her and abandoned us. But, they will not, shall not and cannot destroy her, like a Phoenix she knows how to surrect. Lakshmi Agarwal, JK Rowling, Muniba Mazari and many more are the phoenixes who emerges from the ashes….Now, after 4 yrs, she can see herself as an independent woman who spreads her messages on how to fight with themselves among those women who try to commit suicide due to various reasons whether she is a rape survivor or has become physically disabled and lost her confidence to live her life. She says them “We do not need magic to transform our world. We carry all of the power we need inside ourselves already. The world is full of wonderful things you havenot seen yet. Don’t ever give the chance of seeing them. You are not a victim, you are a survivor. The man who attacked you will cover his face. You wont. While we women get busy in playing our predefined roles, we forget to love ourselves, we forget our worth and we don’t realize that there is so much more we can do for ourselves and for the people around us.”Conclusion:Ladies and Gentlemen,As said by Lao Tzu “New beginnings are disguised as painful endings.”What’s perceived as painful and undesirable, often paves the way for something better – and if not better, at least different. In difference, lies life’s momentum and progress. Traumatic occurrences always have a disguised positive side to them. Hidden opportunities make us more determined and fills us with life-preserving energy. Until we’re jolted out of our peaceful slumber, no epoch event can be expected to happen.Desire changes Nothing, Decision changes Something. But Determination changes Everything.Desire changes Nothing, Decision changes Something. But Determination changes Everything.Over to Emcee…
Why indeed?It’s a common question -Why? Kyun? Por Qué ?A three letter word that can mean a lot when used correctly. We face rejections, happiness, success, and disappointments, but do we ever ask ourselves the question why. Think about it, when your boyfriend broke up with you, did you ask Why? When your boss refused you to be the head of some project, even though you had worked hard for it, did you went up to him and asked Why? Or even when the neighbourhood aunty upturned her nose in disgust after seeing you in shorts and coming home late at night, did you stopped her and asked, Why?No, you didn’t. You just turned away and bitched about them being rude, and that you don’t care what they think.But these are some negative scenarios let’s find something positive.When that guy you had been staring at for so many months and he never noticed you, suddenly comes up and asks you out to the coffee, did you ask yourself, Why? When the boss who had refused you the head position for the last project, praises you and makes you go on a foreign project, did you ask Why now?No, you possibly didn’t, because you were happy that these things happened, and most plausibly you wrote them off as they finally realized the truth that you are great.But if you had waited for a moment and actually thought about Why did these things happen, you might have been surprised.Its true, we read many quotes and motivation speeches asking us to stay hungry, to ask questions. But how many of us actually do that? and What questions should we ask? Only one –WHY?To many, it may seem random and weird but it’s not. I learned this trick in one of the turning moments of my life when I think I needed it very much, and that’s why I want to share it with you all. Maybe reading this post can become an eye-opening and turning moment of someone’s life.We often go through life just like that, we live on the periphery and never delve deeper. When we face disappointments and hardships, we consider it a facet or a point in life that would pass. Or when we get some success, we never sit down to actually analyze and think about why it happened, we just consider it our good luck and About Damn time.But it’s not true, nothing happens according to destiny or the clocks of life. We are not mere puppets run by others, the decisions in our life, the various problems or success we face are the result of our own deeds. And we need to realize and analyze it, ask ourselves and others Why? Because when you do that, you analyze the situation you faced or are facing, you get to know the pros and the cons, the good and the bad.The job interview for which you were rejected, if you had asked the interviewer Why? He might have gotten irritated at first or stumped, but it would have made him consider the pros and cons of hiring you, it would have made him analyze you and think, why indeed? The result might have been anything, he may have reanalyzed you and decided you are actually a good fit, or he may have given you the exact reasons of why you were rejected, which would have helped you in future.So asking questions is important, but asking the right questions is more important. And the best question to ask is Why? Because when you ask this question, you can find the best of the worst situation and possibly a solution to it. For a happy situation, it would help you analyze – what you did right to achieve that success and it would act as a booster in future.Lastly, this simple question is what would differentiate you from being a simple homo sapien to being a successful person.And this is a proven fact. If you read any successful person’s biography or listen to their interviews, they always say, that whenever they faced a failure or a rejection, they asked this question to themselves and to the others, and it helped them analyze and realize what was wrong and what they had to do to make it right. That’s all to it.Next time when you face a problem or success, just take a few minutes and ask yourself, Why? It can do wonders for you, and will not help you deal with depression and hopelessness but will lead you to more success and self-fulfilment.
業界最高レベルのラブドールそれで、あなたが以前に使った非常に持ち運び可能で折り畳み式の等身大のシリコンラブドールと比較して、セックス人形はとても良いですが、あなたは本物の人形を逃したことがありますか？あなたが注文したものは良い質問です、私はアイデアを思いつきました。真の愛の人形、特に本物の人形には内部の骨があります。人間の骨を完全に模倣する組み込みの骨をインストールして変更したことは誰もが知っています。人を特定の固定姿勢にすることはできますが、人を「折りたたむ」ことはできません。クラックする方法は？ダッチワイフの存在感が強いのに比べて、ラブドールやダッチワイフの持ち運びや折り畳みは重要ではなく、正確に折りたたむことができず、持ち運びも簡単ではありません。劣ったいわゆる人形の最大の違い！あなたは簡単な比較をすることができます：折り畳み可能で非常にポータブルなものは何ですか？レインコートのような素材は、見たり、触ったり、触ったりするのが苦手で、見たり、触ったり、使用したりするのが魅力的です。これを理解している友達は理解しなければなりません。自由に折りたたむことができず、持ち運びに不便なものは何ですか？ダッチワイフのタフな外観と比較して、真の愛の人形の最大の利点は、その信頼性にあります。自由に折りたたむことができても持ち運びに便利なため、需要の少ない方にはお勧めできません。どうして？プラスチックの紙や傘の布に引っ掛かりたくない人はいないと思います。さらに、アイワを使用したことのある人なら誰でも、アイワが漏れていることを知っており、頻繁な修理が必要です。あなたが本当の制服ラブドールを買って、それが折りたたまれて持ち運びできると思うなら、私は尋ねるべきです。ポケットをしっかりと持ち、漏れに気をつけて刺してください！上記の文章を読んだ後、あなたは理解すべきだと思います。 「ラブドールリアリティ」と比較して、いわゆるダッチワイフの持ち運びに便利な折りたたみ機能それはどこにある？研究開発、イノベーションの変革、テクノロジー、原材料、フレームワークマテリアル、国家標準の生産、イノベーション、およびヘッド開発。スキンを除いて、スケルトンにはフィラーがありません。実際に使用されている素材は、真の愛の赤ちゃんの肌です。高価なためではなく、耐久性があるため、長寿命です。良い家具や車を買うほど頻繁に買う必要はありませんが、一度買うと二度と買うことはめったにありません。 2回目は、新しい機能を備えた製品、または異なる高さを選択するためのものです。長期的には、これは会社の発展の質にとって非常に重要です。会社は明日消滅するのでしょうか、それとも業界が長期的に発展し続けることを望んでいるのでしょうか。イノベーションを重視し、研究開発、イノベーションの変革、テクノロジー、原材料、フレームワークマテリアル、国家標準の生産、イノベーション、およびヘッド開発。スキンを除いて、スケルトンにはフィラーがありません。実際に使用している素材は、等身大の赤ちゃんにやさしい肌素材です。高価なためではなく、耐久性があるため、長寿命です。良い家具や車を買うほど頻繁に買う必要はありませんが、一度買うと二度と買うことはめったにありません。 2回目は、新しい機能を備えた製品、または異なる高さを選択するためのものです。長期的には、これは会社の発展の質にとって非常に重要です。会社は明日消滅するのでしょうか、それとも業界が長期的に発展し続けることを望んでいるのでしょうか。革新によって方向づけられます。独身男性の孤独に満ちたRZR Dollラブドール。男性を性的にも精神的にも癒す人として、年々注目を集めています。そのような恋人人形の中で、最高の恋人人形はすべて一流の職人によって作られています。数十万円で販売されているだけでなく、絶妙さとリアルさを兼ね備えたラブドールとしても人気があります。これらの恋人人形は、通常のTPE恋人人形よりも間違いなく優れていますが、何十万もの価格はリーズナブルですか？今回は、この高度な恋人人形と普通の恋人人形の違いをご紹介します。魅力だけでなく、お勧めの豪華ラブドールもお伝えします。贅沢な恋人人形はもはや大人のおもちゃではなく、人間の精神的なニーズを満たす芸術作品であると言っても過言ではありません。これらの人形は一般的に高価なシリコーンで作られています。人のように見え、高品質な特性を持っています。シリカゲル特有の臭いも抑えられ、使用しても違和感はありません。また、豪華なラブドールの隅々まで細心の注意を払って設計されているため、ラブドールの表情が豊かで、不気味に感じることはありません。贅沢な恋人人形の人気の一つは、それらがより人間のように見え、美しく作られていることです。シリコーンはTPE以前の恋人JY Doll人形に使用されていましたが、人間の肌に最も近い素材です。材料費は本質的に高いため、シリコンラブドールの製造費も高くなります。ハイエンドの恋人人形に使用されているシリコーンは、医療環境でも使用されており、非常に安全な素材です。二度と使えない素材なので、お届けするシリコンドールは毎回最高の状態です！品質の悪い工場からのリサイクル素材で作られている場合でも、心配はいりません。また、シリコンはTPEよりも強度が高いため、数十年使用しても劣化や変形の影響を受けません。シリコンドールはTPEより少し硬いとよく言われますが、実際に触ってみました。良いシリコーンラブドールは十分に柔らかく、乳首はよく拭かれます！ ！ヘッドデザインは素晴らしいです！豪華なラブドールの頭はシリコン素材でできており、形が簡単で人道的です。だから、どのように見ても、話せる本物の人間のように見えます！肌の色は、デザイナーが時間をかけて作成した人間の肌と99％似ています。 5人の役人の位置は黄金比に従って完全に設計されています。また、肌の毛穴の質感を再現でき、眉毛やまつげにも植毛効果があります。人間に限りなく近い目標を目指して、今日の高級シリコンラブドールTop Sinoはますますリアルになっています。そのような高品質の人形で、職人は最も完璧な仕事を完了するために何十回も型を修正することに時間を費やします。その値は便利です。https://www.angeldoll.jp/gdsinohttps://www.angeldoll.jp/matte-real-life-sexy-love-doll
As young kids and teenagers, we all have had minor and as well as major crushes on our classmates, neighbours, etc. By the time we reach the age of 20 or 25, most of us have been in love at least once in our lives. We have imagined a romantic dinner date and a long term relationship with the person/s. Sometimes, the person we love eventually becomes the only aspect of our life that we actually care about due to which we tend to detach ourselves from regular social obligations. These result in a psychological phenomenon called ‘Obsessive love disorder’. The latter part of this article explains the causes, symptoms and treatments of this disorder.What characterises obsessive love disorder?If you want to be with the person who put you in an abusive relationship or rejected you, then you have the ‘Obsessive love disorder’. When one feels an overwhelming desire or a strong attraction towards a particular person to a degree that he/she becomes controlling and possessive and cannot accept any kind of failure or rejection.What gives rise to obsessive love disorder?The following mental health indicators can imply that the person may have obsessive love disorder:1. Disinhibited social engagement disorder: This means that every person who is extremely outgoing and socialising all the time with random people finds it hard to form meaningful and emotional one on one relationship and thus have obsessive love disorder.2. Reactive Attachment Disorder: It is a condition in which a child is unable to form a secure and loving bond with his/her primary caretakers that can be parents or guardians. Later on, they struggle to form relationships with anyone.3. Borderline Personality Disorder: It is a relatively common mental health disorder which is characterised by unstable mood swings and absurd behaviour. These people can have extreme reactions to situations, inability to control anger, addiction and suicidal thoughts. Some victims of this disorder face obsessive love disorder.4. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: This is caused by obsessive fears that lead to compulsive rituals and practices in daily life. E.g.: the need to wash hands all the time. Due to the constant over one particular behaviour, the person may have obsessive love disorder.5. Relationship Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: This is the same as OCD but it implies the significance of the relationship. The patient becomes so obsessed with her partner that she talks about him all the time, stalks him, etc. Basically, every moment of her life depends on that person.6. Erotomania: This is a rather rare case but it means that you think a celebrity or someone of a really high profile is in love with you when he/she is actually not.Obsessive love disorder Symptoms:If you know anyone facing such problems, you must notify the following symptoms:1. Strong/Overwhelming Attraction: The person feels a strong desire to be with his/her partner all the time. These are the kind of people who say ‘I love you’ too quickly. They have high expected from the relationship sometimes believing false reciprocation of love from the other side.2. Need to Protect the Partner: You feel the constant need to protect your partner and fulfil all his/her wishes even when it is not required. You have a fear of losing the person. There is hardly any personal space left for both individuals.3. Need for validation: You need a constant reminder that you are loved and cared for by the person you are in love with. You call and message the person too many times a day to exhibit your feelings. This behaviour leads to low self-confidence.4. Low self-esteem: Similar to the previous point, this means that the person in the relationship does not feel like himself. Everything seems to fall apart. You start thinking that you are not worthy of being who you are and degrade your personality.5. Contact with Family and Friends: People with obsessive love disorder tend to have the least connection with family and friends. You find it difficult to maintain a healthy relationship with any person apart from the one you have feelings for.6. Unreasonable Jealousy: You cannot tolerate any other person who comes close to your partner or tries to talk to him/her. You stand the thought of another being with the person you love even if the intentions of the relationship aren’t bad.Obsessive love disorder Treatment:If you come across any patient of obsessive love disorder, do not assume the worst or isolate the person from your life. Instead, encourage him/her to visit a psychiatrist or a psychologist and seek professional help. Remind them constantly that they are loved and cared for. Spread awareness about mental health and its relevance in the contemporary world. There is no magical cure to obsessive love disorder but we can give useful advice and take help from people who trained in the field of psychotherapy to make the situation better.Bottom Line:We must make all our brothers and sisters aware of the importance of mental health and obsessive disorders. Let us help the people who have obsessive love disorder instead of stigmatising the very name of it.
What is love? This is the question which has been answered so many times by so many people and yet still people say it’s complicated. Love is nothing but a feeling of care, a feeling of togetherness, a feeling of trust, a feeling we all crave for. There comes a time in everyone’s life when we need somebody just to talk, just to be with, to share everything we are going through and that person has got to be the special one. It may be hard to find that someone special but once you find that person let him/her go will be even harder.There was a time when relationships are meant to last longer as compared to the latest trend, and one of the reasons was, purity of love. People in those days believed in love, nowadays true love seems to be a hoax. This is the only feeling which makes you realize that you are not alone, sometimes it’s better to be with someone who loves you rather than the person you love. Simple logic is you can fall in love with a person who loves you but you can’t make someone fall for you. Everyone will eventually fall in love and if you think that the person you love is the right one, never let that person go. Share your feelings maybe he/she have same feelings for you. There are people who say being single is healthy but being in love is the sweetest feeling one can have. Once you fall in love with somebody, you only want more. One of the most important thing about love is it has no forms, but different perspective. We love our family, we love our friends, we love ourselves or we love someone else the only difference is of perspective; you care for all those people, you like hanging with them, you trust them all, and that is love.Well, there are couples who love each other truly, and their love only becomes stronger with time. Relationships have fights and they are healthy because it shows how much the other person loves you, how much he/she cares for you. There’s nothing wrong in fights but blocking each other’s space isn’t right. If you love someone then respect his/her decisions, you cannot force someone to change just for you. Make that person comfortable, confident, independent, special and never leave until nature does. Don’t worry if you fail in love once, just don’t lose your belief, you probably haven’t met the right person yet. Keep trying, keep loving.
Many, many years ago, a sage was meditating on a Himalayan peak. Majestic dales and solitary vales sprawled around were all aglow with the divine streak.Though the birds chirped songs, and rain poured down in throngs, he was unmovable, lost in a deep trance.In winters, icy cold storms blew and the snow around and over him was all aglow with its chilling primitiveness. His soul but was safe somewhere in the cosy warmth of transcendental realisation.In autumn, wind-fallen leaves sailed down with slumberous tumble, and ripe fruits fell proudly, adventurously for a juicy, pleasant crumble. He still was somewhere else when the nature opened these marvellous jewels from her treasure trove.In spring, wild flowers fully unfurled their fragrance and smile, and honey-bees engaged in dawn to dusk toil. He but was unmoved and transported into a state where the ecstasies of natural bounties don’t mean anything anymore.Summer’s warm days sprayed desultory, eerie uneasiness around, and cool nights proudly embraced this son with his soul heaven-bound. Still it didn’t matter. He was undisturbed and was silently moving on his meditative path.Once it was a full moon autumn night. A fairy was flying amid milky delight. A perfect calmness pervaded the solitary vales. Everything was asleep, bathed in the softest fluffy shades of white. The fairy flew low over the peaks glowing under the moonlight. The seer was lost in his trance in front of his cave, the beauty of nature sprawled around meaningless to him.She saw him and hovered around the sanctimonious air of his sagehood. A small, harmless mischief rustled in her young, innocent heart. She circled in the air above him. Her laughter touched the milky sea around and created soft ripples. Her unbelievably soft dress rustled in the gentle breeze born of her circles. It but did not have any effect on him. He was engrossed too deep in the cosmic balance beyond the sensory contradictions and dualities. The more she looked, the more was the urge in her to bring him back to the beauty of this world, to fetch him from the deep ocean where his soul had dived.His exquisitely masculine physique and persona created tempted sparks on her magic stick. She tried all juicily leering feminine tricks. But her desire-lorn swirls in the air failed to move him even a bit. Helplessly she descended onto the earth. There were almost tears of helplessness in her beautiful eyes. She sat in front of him with those rose-red lips pursed in a heart-breaking frown.Her marvellous eyes were lost in his handsome, bearded, well sculpted face. It was mesmerizing. There was not a single worldly trace on his face. She herself was caught in a trance and lost the sense of time and the laws of the fairyland. The night sped away as if in a jiffy.The day rose. The sun arrived with full earthly delight. There was terror in her eyes. The hope to return to her realm died. She had broken the law of her land by not returning on the same night after the brief terrestrial sojourn. The realisation crashed against her soft self like a thunderbolt. Her utmost sensuous bare shoulders heaved under the tremors of this unpardonable fault. A cry involuntarily tore through her slender throat. And then it was a still bigger violation.His serenely flowing meditative phrase met this sinful, full-stopping dot. His communion with the divinity was broken. His long-closed eyes opened. The world of his penance lay scattered. His fiercely burning eyes stared at the flower in sobs and sighs. Her large, flooded eyes pleaded for mercy. But the fire in his unforgiving eyes was unrelenting and cursing.The fabric of his serenity was torn. The sage thundered, “You proud, vain woman of egoistic beauty, become an ugly bush of thorns!”Mowed down by the spell of his cursing energy, an ugly bush stood in place of that angelic beauty. All shaken and ravaged, he left the place. A thorny branch, meanwhile, got entangled in his loin cloth, as if for meek, pleading forgiveness and brace. He but scornfully jerked it apart and headed to some other place for a new start.Time then took to its heels on swift horses. The seasons changed. The spring’s colourful patterns were rearranged. The summer’s warm kisses melted the snows. The autumn’s harvest uncomplainingly fell to the air’s chiding blows. The winter’s snowy blanket covered the peaks. And rains lashed down in stormy freaks.This pleasant wavering of nature, however, couldn’t shake the sage from the meditative maze high there in the hills. Faraway down the hills, the accursed bush was shrouded in thorny haze. It struggled to sprout fruits and flowers. Even cursing has a testing time against soft, innocent glow of purity. How can something having a fairy core remain ugly and thorny for too long? Her pure soul entombed in that thorny shrine prayed for penance. And see, a flower of her fruits sprouts forth!A flower blossomed among the thorns. So beautiful! It lit up with life among the thorns and deadly pale dark brown branches. It appeared juxtaposed by a miracle, like it had dropped from the heaven and got stuck there. It was the day when the enlightened sage arrived from the north. Contented with his cosmic realisation, he came down the beautiful dale. As he passed the bush, his purified soul sensed the thorny shrub’s plaintive wail. His feet disobeyed him and he couldn’t move. The lone flower among the thorns fell at his feet in holy-most obeisance and greet. He picked it up and was lost in its fragrance.The thorn was ugly. The flower so beautiful and fragrant! What contradiction! Flowery heaven and thorny hell together! The latter born of his cursing condemnation; the flower born of the beauty behind the thorny bars. It was a jolting earthly realisation. Hadn’t he broken the beautifully set laws?Torrents of repentance cut through him. He bid penance at the altar for a long time. His repenting self set around a reformative shrine. His soul drenched in painful chime. He braced the thorns with the love and affection purest of the pure. It gave him bleeding fingers so many times. He caressed and cared for it like it was the beautiful most flowery shrub. He was practicing his penance now, of love, of surrender, of repentance. What else can be bigger than these?When his soul had been salvaged of the sin, nobody could bet against her for a win. There she blossomed in front of him. Beauty, charm and grace filled to the brim. Her smile was forgetting and forgiving. It was the beacon of her penance, of love, of beauty. Inside the stony walls of his heart, a new luminosity was now thriving. The sage embraced her. She, who had been separated from her loved ones, got the earthling she had fallen for. Happiness, bliss and calm opened a new door to the start of a fresh cycle of life, love and humanity.All but the sage had been extinguished by the cataclysm. The lone and forlorn survivor, he had been striking at the doors of heaven with his endless questions. Now there was no more pursuit. The endless had manifested itself in a small sip of love. Now they lived as a man and a woman. New hopes, aspirations and offspring began to thrive.Thus were sown the seeds of another spell and cycle of life, of creation. Their unchecked love in those flowery vales left countless exotic trails. Gurgling brooks gave company to her primordially sensuous laughter. His instinct’s procreating sprouts mingled with the mirthful waters of her receptiveness.
Causeless Act - In Gita Verse 3.18 A self-realized man has no purpose to fulﬁll in the discharge of his prescribed duties, nor has he any reason not to perform such work. Nor has he any need to depend on any other living being.There are two things krishna says to Arjuna, self-realize man, means self-conscious man, he will act as non-doer. He is not looking for any fruits from his act. Another thing he speaks regarding codependency pattern.Look in our life - our life is dependent on others. We are living for others. In the process we have lost connection with ourselves.First thing what Krishna says is with any actions there will be consequences. Means the result, fruits will be there. Unless we drop our desire for the result we will not be able to see what universe has given to us. Look the way in which scientist does their research, they work for their given resources, but they are open for any kind of result. They welcome the result as a new opportunity they are always enthusiastic for their result. They welcomed warmly the end result, in that they don’t bring any kind of their desire. This is the reason why science is growing so fast.But all of us are tethered to some purpose in life, and therefore we are unable to understand Krishna. We live with a goal in life, with a purpose, a motive. Even if we love some one we do so with a purpose; we give our love with a condition, a string attached to it. We always want something in return. Even our love is not purposeless, unconditional, uncontaminated. We never do a thing without motive, just for the love of it. And remember, unless you begin to do something without a cause, without a reason, without a motive, you cannot be religious. The day something in your life happens causelessly, when your action has no motive or condition attached to it, when you do something just for the love and joy of doing it, you will know what religion is, what God is.Either look towards scientist and learn to live the life every circumstances as a resources or understand any religion without getting stuck of follow the words live that way - both are showing same thing how we can live life as non-doer.Other things what Krishna has mention regarding codependency in our relationship.Relationships can be extremely complicated. It doesn’t matter if we are referring to romantic partnerships, friendships, family, or work relationships, it seems that the relationships we have with those closest to us are full of complicated dynamics that can often make even the healthiest of us turn into someone we no longer recognize.And while most of us who are on a personal development quest know that the those people who are the toughest to deal with are our greatest teachers, it doesn’t make the inner workings of our relationships with these people any easier to deal with.The fact of the matter is, the number one indicator as to how “well” we are doing in our emotional evolution process is how well our relationships with others are going. If we realize that every person in our life represents another part of our own self, how well we get along with these people tells us how unconditionally we are loving our own self.The more harmonious our personal relationships are can only indicate how in tune we are with our own self and life in general. And the more rooted in ego we are the more our relationships will be based on codependent tendencies and egoic attachments.Rewire your Dysfunctional beliefs:To recover from codependency, we need to recognise that dysfunctional beliefs exist and we need to replace them with healthier ones. Instead of trying to be “perfect”, we must focus on our natural emotions (which are only appearing in our reality to be embraced and loved like the scared child inside our hearts) we will start to notice a miraculous thing.We are respecting ourselves, naturally. We are accepting and loving ourselves, naturally. We are not beating ourselves up for not living up to an image of how we think we are supposed to be and instead are just completely being ok with who or what we are.We are not scared to have emotions and we trust that they are there to show us something. At the point that we start trusting our own emotions, we begin to form an intimate relationship with our own heart which begins to shift everything. Fear based relationships can no longer exist in this environment.Unless we realize that our relationship is fear based relationship we will not be able to come out of our codependent tendencies.Krishna is saying to Arjuna that if your focus is on your action without any desire for expected result, you will be able to drop your tendency for recognition for your work, acknowledgement of your work, as you did that act because you loved to do that, you recognized your love, out of your sheer joy you acted and in that moment you drop your codependency pattern. Your act is just overflowing with your joy of doing it. No other expectation from that.
Codependency - In Gita Verse 1.27 When the son of Kuntī, Arjuna, saw all these different grades of friends and relatives, he became overwhelmed with compassion and spoke thus.As soon as Arjuna saw different grades of friends and relatives he become overwhelmed, means he become aware of objective world, lost track of his subjectivity. This is Unconsciousness. Whenever we become aware of objective world and become unconscious of self this is Unconsciousness. This is an entry point of codependency.How to recognise codependency:Co-dependent relationships are characterized by a number of things, the main ones being addiction to trying to “fix” someone, depending on another person to be happy, and a feeling of “needing” someone vs. just wanting to be around them, etc.When our fear of losing someone outweighs our fear of losing our own self into them, we can be sure that we are co-dependent. For example, when we have found ourselves forgiving someone time after time, having to “get over” constant feelings of disappointment or frustration out of fear that the person will leave us if we don’t.We are letting fear be the motivator of the relationship which means we have completely become prisoner to their behavior. Roles have been established, and the more we are attached to these roles, the more dependent we are on the other person to reinforce the one we are playing.They need us to reinforce their role and we need them for the same reason. At the point of this happening we are able to establish the boundary between healthy and unhealthy, unconditional love and codependency.As our feelings take a back seat in order to appease the other one, we see how fear of upsetting another person (which goes hand in hand with fear of losing them) sneakily disguises itself as unconditional love and forgiveness.The most important thing to realize here is that the another person cannot make us feel worthy, validated, accepted or loved unless we have unconditionally accepted and loved our own self first.Another person cannot make us feel secure, confident, respected or important if we have not done these things for our own self first. Often, after we have realized that we are not always completely confident, or independent, or fearless we make a mistake that actually ensures we remain a prisoner in a codependent relationship.We try and become who we think we “should” be in order to try and prove to ourselves and the other person that we can be who they want us to be.Unfortunately, this tactic never works for long because to deny a part of our own self is to allow it to persist. What we try to avoid, deny and pretend will continue to pop up in the most inappropriate of times, which becomes another red flag telling us that the relationship is codependent. Healthy relationships need no “strategies.”Loving people that respect themselves and respect one another do not need “tactics” in order to get the other one to act how they want them to.Arjuna even knowing well his role and agenda of the war still become Unconscious towards himself. Verse says - “he became overwhelmed with compassion and spoke thus” - indicates he has become unconscious regarding himself. It don’t mean that he was totally unconscious - in verse Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.14, it says very clearly that before he blew his conch shell he stationed, took his position, indicates that he is self-alert. While in this verse it says that looking all these different grades of friends and relatives, he became overwhelmed with compassion and spoke thus. There is no mention of his self-alertness. In many of my verse I have mentioned repeatedly that to remain self-aware is difficult, but to become Unconscious is easy.When Arjuna addressed Krishna to drive his chariot in the middle somewhere he wanted to see his reality that whether he could remain self-alert, after viewing all his family members and friends, regarding himself or not. He wanted to check before the war started.If we check whether we are self-aware or Unconscious before any act, our act will be connected to our subjectivity. Then our mundane act also will become divine.
The sun had completed its tour for the day,dark mantle sweeping across the sky,strange darkness in city of heart,light of moon filtering in through the gap of curtain and millions of bright stars,thinking a thought ,you know what! At night you can be anybody and no one care who you are!!You can be a Flower which carry a different fragrance,color and beauty for the world.Can be a Wind ,that exist but can't be seen or heard.somethings need to be felt.Can be Sky ,no matter what storms are passing beyond the clouds.It is always blue. Can be Pet which love unconditionally without expectation. Can be a Butterfly which grow, change and find color in .Can be Bird who wants to fly up at the sky wants to touch the high. Can be a Night sky which is important to appreciate, the light. Can be a tree that full of generosity. Can be a Child who teach us to be happy for no reason, busy with something, carefree and living life fully. But when step out from imagination,we are a person of cruel world which has lost it self in self. We are not living we are just surviving. We don't want to change our life because we are afraid to change. We all are busy in rat race of life. We are comparing our accomplishments, our joys, our challenges, feeling, pain to others .I can be anybody but I don't concern myself with Rat race!Nature is our origin and the place where all our subtle needs for beauty, mystery, and adventure are met. And when we feel empty inside and lifeless outside. Nothing seem colorfull then we notice blooming flowers,purple glow in the western horizon ,rain drops,The snow-capped mountains,blue sky,watered lakes, rainbow ,that makes us fall in love with Our self.
Kab mile tum btaoTum btao kab mileKaha milna hai tum btaoPhle decide to karo kab mileOr ek vo waqt hua karta thaJab vo hamse kahte theKab mile tum btaoAbi mile abi mileKoi nai hota,Waqt sb kuch kara deta hai.Pyaar kl bi tha aaj bi hai,Bs priorities change ho jaati hai.
A soft yellow piece, I fill withchosen red words of desirethey wait to make their journeycommitted to convey a thousand longingsimmemorial and never endingremember, if you're not there,with the doors of your heart flung openremember, if my words don't feel welcome,they shall not return;for it is not in their nature to.and the part of me I gave awaywrapped in those wordsthat part,I won't ever get back
Pride - In Gita Verse 2.34 People will always speak of your infamy, and for a respectable person, dishonor is worse than death.Now Krishna is saying that knowing well your assignment if you will not fulfill then for respected person, dishonor is worse than death.Here Krishna speaks about self-respect, person who is conscious towards himself only know what is self-respect. For him Arjuna just in this moment has slipped into his unconsciousness. He was and the probability is very strong to awaken him towards himself. Otherwise Krishna would not have put so much of effort on Arjuna and become his charioteer. So from all the different angles he is trying to give him a call to wake him towards self.Learn to be authentic, integrated individuals with immense self-respect. The word self-respect may create doubts in your mind because self-respect seems to again mean the ego. It is not so. You have to understand both words, self and respect; both are significant.Self is that which you are born with. Ego is that which you accumulate; ego is your achievement.Self is a gift of existence to you. You have not done anything to earn it, you have not achieved it; hence nobody can take it away from you. That is impossible because it is your nature, your very being.Ego is all that you go on accumulating through education, manners, civilization, culture, schools, colleges, universities… You go accumulating it. It is your effort, you have made it, and you have made it so big that you have completely forgotten your real self.To know the real self is enough: the ego falls flat on the ground without any effort to surrender it. Unless the ego falls on its own, without your effort, it is not going to leave you. If you make effort to drop it, and that is what surrender is… All the religions teach surrender, hence I say they don’t understand even the very basics of psychology. Ego has not to be surrendered, it has to be seen. It has to be understood through and through.That is the meaning of respect. It is one of the most beautiful words in the English language. It does not mean what it has come to mean: honor. No – respect simply means re-spect, to look again. That’s the literal meaning of the word; there is no place for honor. Just look again, look back, look deep. Spect means to see, look; re means again. Once, you had known it.Before you entered and became part of a society, a culture, a civilization, you knew it. It is not a coincidence that people go on thinking that their childhood was the most beautiful part of their life. It is a long-forgotten memory, because there have been days in your life, the earliest days, which you cannot remember exactly; only a vague feeling, a kind of fragrance, a kind of shadow is there.If you re-spect, if you look again and go deep into your existence, you are going to find the place from where you started losing yourself and gaining the ego.That moment is a moment of illumination because once you have seen what the ego is, the game is finished.So, drop the ego, because that means I accept the reality of your ego. And how are you going to drop it – you are it. Right now, you are it. The self you have lost far away back in the past. There is a great distance between you and your self. Right now you are existing at the periphery of yourself. That periphery is pretending to be yourself. That pretender is the ego. Now telling the ego, “Drop! Surrender! Be humble!” is simply idiotic.Self-respect and pride are noncomparative; that’s the basic difference.In ego you are always comparing: I am superior to others, I am better than you, I am higher than you, I am holier than you – I am a saint and you are a sinner. Whatever the reason, you are comparing yourself as being superior and reducing the other to being inferior. This is the formation of the ego.But pride is noncomparative. It does not say anything about anybody else. It simply says: I am respectful of myself, I love myself, I am proud just to be – just to be here in this beautiful existence. It does not say anything about anybody else. The moment you go into comparison, you start an ugly game.My respect toward myself is not a hindrance for you to be respectful toward yourself. In fact I would love you to be respectful toward yourself because if you are not respectful toward yourself, who is going to be respectful toward you? If you are not proud of being a human being, the most evolved consciousness in existence, then who is going to be proud of you?And your being proud is really nothing but a gratefulness for all that existence has given to you – it is tremendous. We are not worthy of it; we don’t deserve it. We have not earned it, we can’t claim it. It is just out of the abundance of existence that it has given to us everything. We don’t value what we have because we take it for granted.Krishna is right now just giving Arjuna shock to wake-up towards self. He knows once he will wake up immediately he will know that he was gone into deep sleep and it was wake up call by Krishna. He will come back to his PRIDE.
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The concept of facing mental health problems and seeking help for them in India is highly tabooed. I have had a hard time processing this. In a diverse country like, differently able people, the LGBTQ and so on are not respected and sometimes even condemned. It is an irony in itself, isn't it? Some of the words people use are 'Cursed' or 'Paying for sins in their last birth'. I think mental health patients face a similar problem. People think you don't have a strong character the moment you mention your problem.Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is an important concept in psychology and sociology. The events that lead to the disorder are as follows:1. Stressor: directly experiencing a traumatic incident; second hand by police,counselors etc; learning that someone close has experienced trauma.2. Intrusion in memory: keep thinking about it; flashbacks and nightmares.3. Changes in attitude: nothing seems enjoyable anymore; eating too much or too less; feeling of isolation; lack of participation in activities; negative feelings about everything and everyone.4. Avoidance and Reactions:saying no to parties and getting together; irritated by little things; difficulty concentrating, difficulty sleeping at night; suicide attempts; panic attacks.If these symptoms persist for more than a month, it is PTSD and it needs treatment. The following events can cause trauma in an individual:Childhood issues; divorce and disputes in family; sexual assault or rape; witnessing death of loved ones- accident, suicide or war and so on.Many are not aware of the various treatments for people diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder. First and foremost, we need to be there for such and give them love and support when they facing such problems without overwhelming them with too much attention. Some of the treatments are listed below:1. Selective Serotonin Re uptake Inhibitors (SSRI)- induces positive thoughts, also called 'happy neuro-transmitters'.2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy- assistance provided by a mental health therapist to recover from trauma in a healthy and effective way.3. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)- relatively new psychotherapy treatment to alleviate the distress associated with traumatic memories.Information source:http://theoaktreatment.com Thank you for reading;) Have a nice day.
Be Lotus - In Gita Verse 4.18 One who sees inaction in action and action in inaction is intelligent among men, and he is in the transcendental position, although engaged in all sorts of activities.Just beautiful. Krishna says that in the middle of the world how to not get affected by others and from ourselves also. From others means we should not become anyone's followers and from ourselves means from our identity, judgements, anxiety, opinions, etc. We are not only living in the outer world but also our inner world of our identity, judgements etc.We need to learn to live with others and with ourselves also. Unless we live with others we will not be able to understand our connection with the universe and unless we live with ourselves we will not be able to experience ourselves as part of the universe. Live like Lotus.Let’s understand this verse through Tantra approach:Tantra - to transcend their sexual energy they are with each other and with their sexual energy, full of lust, desire. But unless they melt with each other and find intangible connection with each others, they are not allowed to make love. Once they melt with each other they are able to raise their own sexual energy. In the process they find their own godliness.The Indian Tantra is very scientific. It is the science of how to transform sexual energy into spiritual energy; how to create the dynamo that changes, transforms, transmutes energy; how to move from the lower to the higher; how to move from the earth to heaven. It is a way from sex to superconsciousness. It is all very technicalThe greatest training that is involved and the most difficult problem that arises is that Tantra allows a man to make love to a woman only when man has lost all sexual attraction towards the woman. There is no sexual attraction at all. That is the whole process. The woman becomes almost a mother to you or a sister to you a goddess. She has to be worshipped. In Tantra ritual the woman has to be worshipped as a goddess. And for months together one has to practise that worship.The woman sits naked in front of you on a throne and you worship and you bow down and you pray to her and you create the idea in the deepest core of consciousness that she is just a representative of all womanhood, motherhood. She is a goddess.Day by day, gradually you lose all carnal interest in her. You become auto-hypnotised with your own idea. The day you lose all prurient feelings for her and you can look through her and her body no longer excites you and no notice her body she then becomes luminous, she is just a presence only then does the Master allows you to love her. Now this love will have a totally different quality. There is no sensuality involved in it, no attraction involved in it, no physicality involved in it. It is absolutely spiritual — a meeting of two souls.Now read the above para again and again to understand what Krishna is saying through this verse. The above para says that till the time you give up all the attraction towards woman you are in action, doer, when you have dropped all the attractions you are in inaction. In the Tantra they give practical experience of even when your body action is not there, still you are acting, acting through your desire, your attraction, you are in other words aggressive. In that moment whatever you do will be actions. May or may make love to your woman but still you are in actions. When you have dropped your attraction and then allowed to make love means your act is of Inaction. In my Bhagavad Gita Verse 4.17 blog I have wrote in detail regarding Inaction. Once you become self-conscious and then respond in the present moment is Inaction. So when Tantra allows the man to make love only after they drop all the attraction towards the sex that is Inaction of self-consciousness.Krishna is saying that unless you transcend everything regarding any act, don’t act, once you have transcended act. In that activity you will know bliss, love, ecstasy, and expanded states of consciousness.
Why so scrawny, cat?starving for fat fishor mice . . .Or backyard love?All of us have the innate need to love and be loved. When we are born, we enter the world with a pure expectation of unconditional love.If we look to our relationships to complete us and fulfill our unmet needs for happiness and love, then those relationships often result in disappointment. And, if we believe that those we are in a relationships with are responsible for making us happy and whole, then we create unhealthy expectations that are impossible to meet.This sense of lack can cause us to feel fear whenever other is not satisfying our expectations for attention, affection, and love, which leads to suffering and co-dependency. Such insecurity also causes us to act with jealousy and neediness, or to constantly seek approval. When this behavior becomes compulsive, obsessive, and destructive, it manifests as an addiction.The problem is that we look outside for love and approval, but our relationships reflect back to us what we think and feel about ourselves on the inside. When we are attracted to a person, what we are actually drawn to are the traits we feel we lack and the characteristics we want more of.In order to fulfill our unmet needs for worthiness and love, we must learn to love ourselves fully. What we really seek is to reconnect with that unconditional love lying deep within the heart of our beings. To find true love, we must look inward and reclaim our own self-love.
Book Title: Table For OneAuthor: Neha BindalFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 180Language: EnglishPublisher: HALF BAKED BEANSPublishing Date: 20 July 2018ASIN: B07FQ7MWBCTaara Maheshwari, a single woman in her thirties and a successful lawyer, is tough from outside but a die heart fan of romantic movies from inside.She grew up seeking her “happily ever after’ but amid various heartbreaks and culture of modern age short term relationships,her believe in “true connections" got replaced by the comfort of being “emotionally disconnected.”After she turned 31, her parents persuaded her into meeting a guy for marriage who sounded just perfect for her. Acting on impulse,she told her parents that she would meet him only if they let her go on a trip to Europe.As Taara went on to explore the world, she experienced what actually happens when a single Indian girl travels to Europe all by herself. Is it only about dancing, singing or falling in love? What happens after you fall in love? Does love conquer all? Only her story would tell.My TakeThis is the story of protagonist Taara Maheshwari, a successful lawyer in her early thirties still unmarried. She is a confused women, who had encountered some heart breaks and doesn't know what to she wanted in her life. As her parents convinces for an arrange marriage. To which she agreed only if her parents would allow her for solo trip in Europe before marriage. She promised to meet the man once she returned back from the trip fortunately her parents agreed. She thinks it's an escape from marriage and quit her job to fulfill her dream to take a solo trip to Europe. Here her self-exploration starts with travelling diverse destinations, meets different kinds of peoples all around there, sang a song in public, danced crazily, went on trekking, and many more she explored the Europe. Taara in this trips founds new friends as well as she is attracted towards Fred and was in love with him. To know more what happen next read the book. The book is a bag of emotions of love, heartbreaks, travel, romance, adventure, external love, internal love, self realization, happiness, peace, friends, family, life, and many more.Language is simple crisp and lucid and has the ability to bring live the events narrated in the book. The story flows like a movie and takes the readers on a journey to Paris, Switzerland and Italy with Taara the every scene is so well written than you can actually get images of them in your mind. Characterization should be have been strong and done better and i don't like the sudden climax. The faced paced and engaging narration. The writer’s words has the capacity to hold the reader till the last page. The storytelling style was different and simply adorable. I loved Taara character through out the book. Characterization should be done better and i don't like the sudden climax. The cover and title is beautifully crafted.We are all taught that the most beautiful part of a fairy-tale is “happily ever after”. But we fail to notice that all fairy tales begin with “Once upon a time”. Once. It all happened. It was all real. Once. No matter who we are, what we do, or where we live, deep inside we all feel incomplete. It’s like we have lost something and need to get it back. Just what that something is, most of us never find out. And of those who do, even fewer manage to go out and look for it. Alone wasn’t just a closed dark room anymore but a whole wide world full of opportunities. I needed to explore and occupy the vastness of the world inside of me, which until now I hadn’t truly understood. Like the houses we build, the sky was also a shelter to few.I'll recommend this book to all the avid reader's.Overall 4/5 StarsGrab the copy here- AMAZON
Transcend Duality - In Gita Verse 2.45 The Vedas deal mainly with the subject of the three modes of material nature. O Arjuna, become transcendental to these three modes. Be free from all dualities and from all anxieties for gain and safety, and be established in the self.Krishna says that all the knowledge unless become your own knowing, means unless person becomes capable of transcending, then only you will be able to establish in the self. He is not saying that you follow even the God, he says unless person settels in himself he cannot be liberated first from his animal nature. Means duality.Please understand scientifically, our body has evolved from animal, with the nature of animal. So duality in the form of anxieties, and searching others for our safety. When we as human beings evolved from animal we are born with the seed of consciousness, potentiality to grow in consciousness. When we grow in consciousness we will find freedom and not safety. Freedom for duality, anxiety, safety, anger, etc. This will be the first sign of growth in consciousness.When we go to school at that time teacher doesn’t directly teach us theory they start from alphabet, gradually we learn to make sentences and then it goes on. Same is the process of transcending duality. It will start from where we are. We are at duality, so there is lot of anxiety, anger etc. When you grow in consciousness means gradually you started transcending your duality. First you will transcend duality of anxiety and safety. You will for the first time experience freedom from your animal nature. Suddenly your urge to understand love will arise. But that is also in the crude form. So you will look everywhere else but not towards yourself, as we have always experienced and understood love means from someone, it starts from parents, to brothers and sisters, friends, spouse, children etc. But unless we love our self we cannot transcend love. It will be an ongoing process to grow in consciousness. When love comes we have all the questions regarding sex also. How to transcend the sex energy. As unconsciously after the maturity age we have experience that sex has something more as it gives birth to child, it has life. At the same time it is available and we are capable of sex for certain period of the life only. But certain experiences of ours says that something more is nothing to do with the age. So search for that starts.Do we have to transcend sex before you love yourself?You don’t have to transcend anything. You have to live everything that is natural to you, and live it fully, without any inhibition – joyously, aesthetically. Transcendence will come just by living it deeply.You are not to transcend anything. Remember. Transcendence will come by itself, and when it comes by itself it is such a release and such a freedom. If you try to transcend, you are going to repress, and repression is the sole reason why people cannot transcend; so you are getting into a vicious circle. You want to transcend, so you repress, and because you repress you cannot transcend, so you repress more. As you repress more, you become more incapable of transcendence.Live it out fully, without any condemnation, without any religion interfering with your life. Live it out naturally, intensely, totally – and transcendence comes. It is not your doing, it is a happening. And when it comes by itself, there is no repression, there is no antagonism.You are above all those things that you wanted to transcend – for example, sex. But a real transcendence does not mean that you cannot make love. Of course your love will have a totally different quality. It will not be sexual, it will not be a biological urge, it will not be animalistic; it will be simply a play between two human energies.If transcendence comes by itself, then many things disappear, more or less. But you are not against anything that disappears. You can still enjoy it. For example, in a state of transcendence you are not a food addict, but that does not mean that you cannot enjoy, once in a while, going to a Chinese restaurant.Transcendence makes you free; it does not give you a new bondage: first you were so addicted that you had to go, now you are so addicted that you cannot go. Transcendence means that now all this addiction is gone – you can go, you may not go. You are neither against nor for.You may be smoking. Transcendence does not mean that once in a while with friends you cannot smoke a cigarette. I don’t think that a cigarette, once in a while, will destroy your spirituality. And if it destroys it, then that spirituality is not worthwhile.Krishna is saying that don’t condemn anything don’t run away but use the knowledge to transcend it settles in your subjectivity to deliver assignment of universe.
Dignity - In Gita Verse 2.5 It would be better to live in this world by begging than to live at the cost of the lives of great souls who are my teachers. Even though desiring worldly gain, they are superiors. If they are killed, everything we enjoy will be tainted with blood.This word of Arjuna clearly come from mental laziness. He did not want to think. What I meant by, he did not want to think is - from the objective world one needs to return to the subjective world, which is connected to universe, after the observation of the fact without any judgement, then with connection with universe, which has higher intelligence, in which everything is included from love, one needs to think. That thinking has compassion for self and for others.Buddha also thinks and we too think , then what is the difference. Difference is from where we think. When you think from objective world it is bound to be judgemental, with opinion, etc. But when you return from objective world connected with your subjectivity then your thinking has universal wisdom and compassion in it. When Buddha thinks he didn’t have any agenda and expectations from his thinking. Yes he had a goal, but not an agenda.First thing, never resist the thinking but direction of the thinking needs to be changed. If you change the direction your thinking will become incapable of making you unconscious. With your thinking we become unconscious because our thinking is from objective world without returning to subjective world and connecting with the universe, in the process we follow the thinking. When we connect ourselves with our subjectivity and then think then it is universal thinking and thinking will follow us.What is the difference between thinking from objective world and thinking from subjective world:When thinking is from objective world - it is carrying with it all the emotions, attachments, judgements, opinion etc.When thinking is from subjective world - it is carrying detachments, compassion, self-dignity, etc.Self-Dignity is very humble, very simple, very innocent; it belongs to the trees. When they blossom in spring, you just look and watch their pride, their dignity. Just watch when a peacock is dancing. Those psychedelic colors, and the beautiful dance ... do you think there is any ego? But there is certainly dignity.Dignity is a totally different phenomenon, it is self-respect. Ego is domination over others. Dignity is just standing on your own feet, independent , freedom; it is not domination over others. The moment you start thinking of dominating, you are falling into the trap of the ego. And God is the greatest ego because he created everything, he dominates everything. He is present everywhere, he is all-powerful. And his reflection in the priests ... The pope claims that he is infallible. Now this is ego.A man of dignity, a man of self-respect will not say such things. Certainly he will walk straight with his head raised in dignity. He will not walk like a slave, surrendered, subdued. He will walk like a lion and roar like a lion. But that is your intrinsic energy, your intrinsic power.The power that depends on others creates the ego. The power that comes from within your own sources of life creates dignity. Meditation brings tremendous dignity, a great grace, but not even a shadow of ego is found in it.If you are capable of murdering God, you will certainly be capable of murdering his image in you. In fact, the moment God is no longer there, you will suddenly be surprised. Where has the ego gone? If the moon is not there, the reflection in the lake of the moon will disappear.Egos are reflections of one moon in different ponds, in different lakes, in different oceans, in different rivers - millions of reflections. But just remove the moon and all the reflections are removed. You don't have to remove every reflection. It will take millennia to remove all those reflections. And in fact, if the moon remains, you cannot remove the reflections.Once God is removed, you will simply find your ego is gone. It was the shadow, the reflection of God. And then you will find a totally new phenomenon, a dignity which is not a domination over others, which is not superiority over others. It is simply the joy that existence loves you, that existence creates you, that existence needs you, that you are not accidental. This gives you dignity, this gives you honor, and it is not dependent on others. It comes from your own innermost experience of your being.The moment you find yourself existential, that you belong to the whole cosmos, and the whole cosmos belongs to you, there arises a tremendous splendor in your being - Himalayan peaks of consciousness, Pacific depths of consciousness. That brings you the lion's roar.You realize for the first time you are not a slave.You realize for the first time you are not a created creature.You realize for the first time that existence is your home, you are not an outsider, and existence is nourishing you every moment.There must be a certain purpose, a certain destiny that existence is seeking through you to reach, a certain height of consciousness, a certain height of love, a certain height of compassion, understanding, wisdom, enlightenment. Existence is trying in every possible way to create a buddha in your very innermost being. The moment you are a buddha, there is dignity without any superiority.There is dignity in a rose flower. Do you think it has any power over anybody? It is so delicate, so vulnerable, but it has tremendous dignity. When it is dancing in the sun, in the rain, in the wind, it knows existence has created in him one of the most beautiful things.Dignity arises out of meditation.For Arjuna his words were coming from the objective world and not from subjective world. He is unconscious of self. He has lost his dignity. As soon as we become unconscious towards the self we lose our dignity.
なぜ誰もがダッチワイフを購入する必要がありますか？自分の性的嗜好を探求することは恥ずべきことではありません。セックスは私たちのDNAに深く根付いており、それが私たちが今日まで地球を占領している理由です。誰もがセックスをしたいという衝動を感じています、そしてそれはただの事実です。私たち人間は生殖するように配線されており、性的欲求を持つことはその配線の副産物です。過去数十年の間に、社会は確かに彼らのセクシュアリティを表現するために多くの道を模索してきました。ラブドール画像、ポルノ雑誌やウェブサイトなどの台頭から世界各地での売春宿の出現まで、性的欲求を探求することは今やはるかに簡単になり、これらすべてのものがいたるところに現れています。これらすべてを言っても、dollhouse168多くの人がダッチワイフを購入することに引き寄せられているのは当然のことです。wmdollのダッチワイフは、マスターベーション用に設計された人型の人形です。利用可能なセックス人形のさまざまな種類があります。前述のようなフルボディの人形もあれば、人体の特定の部分にすぎない人形もあります。ダッチワイフの説明現代のダッチワイフはそのリアリズムで知られています。お客様は、シリコーンとTPEの種類から選択できます。 2つを簡単に区別するために、シリコーンは簡単に汚れないため、ほとんどの点でシリコーン人形はより頑丈です。また、保守が容易なバリアントでもあります。一方、TPEはよりソフトなオプションです。 TPEの感触は人間の肌に非常に似ているので、それがあなたの目的である場合は、これが最適な方法です。どちらも目的を果たし、意図されたものに最適です。人形の内部には金属製の骨格があり、現実的な位置を数多く保持できます。これは、人形のセクシーな写真を撮るのが好きな人に最適な機能です。不平を言うことのない仲間ダッチワイフのすごいところは、いつも一緒にいるのが楽しいということです。実在の人物によく似たリアルな機能を備えており、やりたいことが何でもでき、誰も文句を言うことはありません。彼らはたくさんのセックスをしたいが他の人間との取引を嫌う人にとっては素晴らしいことがあります。正直に言いましょう。セックスだけを望んでいる人はたくさんいます。ダッチワイフを持つことは、このようなシナリオで非常に役立ちます。結婚している人も、信じられないかもしれませんが、ダッチワイフの恩恵を受けることができます。研究によると、カップルが別れる大きな理由は、パートナーがお互いに性的に退屈する傾向があることです。セックス人形を使用することは実行可能な解決策です。購入する前に必ずパートナーに相談してください。人形はデザインとサイズが異なります。特に女性モデルの場合、ルックスに関してはたくさんのオプションがあります。オンラインでざっと見ると、ほとんどのデザインが白人に見えることがわかります。市場の大部分が米国とヨーロッパにあるので、これは理解できます。最近、さまざまな民族の人形の需要も着実に高まっており、それは朗報です。私たちは個人的に新しいアジア風モデルを愛していました。彼らも見て美しいです！
Synopsis:.story is about a scrap owner who get in luggage compartment and come across a child mother who struggle to have sit ..clutching handlebar for her safety ...into that a hour journey he go through his own love story when he get along a couple in train ...and scenes rolling over one by one in his memories Kabari 💘Platform was crowded.a woman brought with her a smallbaby cradled her into her womb cave.defending bad eye from public. She covered her child under her saree layer.She pushed her into luggagebox,hanging by shoulder a purse . hair sprawled over forehead partly. She wore saree and put on lipstick to her lips, applied on to baby a eyeliner.liptick smeared lips upper and lower part.Clutching and combing under her cave of breast and baby sucking milk while mother looking support to have sit comfortable.Train moved away fast and rapidly through platform one by one station received.Platform dashing and knocking movement made her uncomfortable before public eye.balanced herself over the toe and one hand clutching handlebar other made support to baby.it was difficult situation to handle baby with one hand , and clutching other to support to save from train movement.she was wobbled and tossed into crowd In Luggage-box...window side space was stuck with poster and ads filled with.It was scraped with finger notched and nailed or scribbling by blade a bunch of message in different language as momentum for mumtaj or mausoleumstuffed boxes filled compartment made it more cumbersome and nuisance..coolly pushed boxes into compartment as train stopped.it made traveller in compartment irritable...in compartment two type person travelling one is. With luggage and without luggage bearing things over head also in train it's called “FATIWALA:....Two party always fought like beast and indian neta ;but nothing was special happened in that cases.and last they gave in.and no more made fuss about ...only pelting of abusive words over each other nobody beaten each other.that was one of the quality of becoming mumbai-indian based people..they bolting abusive words but never knocked down person ,never made enemy last longMeanwhile , a couple got in luggage they seemed south-indian.they had both difference in age groupA girlfriend looked double in age than boyfriend.the gap between them was it could be 10 yrs difference into them.suddenly one scrap -shipowner also got into train luggage between the station.he looked at them with curious eye.he also looking handsome had grey haired made him more foreigner looks.he brought with him old -fashioned coloured tv, well stuffed into carton box wrapped.he was making space near door side adjust his baggage beside corner side. it was heavy material old fashioned coloured tv...he was by professional kabbadi_ owner .so in his nature bargaining is in his blood related business...in his eagle eyed eyesight made him bargain on anything ...even in love matter he never spare it!...if something profitable ..he would never spared it anyhow. he will capture and gulp in money bargain..in second.He adjusted his old tv near corner side but it has been occupied all space of passage so that passenger could not make move or fuss about it..he always used to bring in sugar on his mouth tongue and ice over head , he never get angry on anybody he will take side of cool and make people like that...he always peace-follower in his blood cell.All things shortly and slowly ebbing away and moving like film scenes shots upturned one by one suddenly.When he made himself comfortable he made criticize on a couple.he started narrate his love story about 10 years old when he always used to visit his friend shop near his shop. It was electronics showroom and he always visit his shop ..that shop owner was his school friend so that mostly he would spend his time with him on his cabin.he would talk like partner in company it was mistook by employees that he was actually partner in shop.but one lady employee took it seriously that he was really partner ...he had something belong to it.he daily visited him..in his office a woman employee looking smart and handsome and smart looking beautiful she caught him in her love ...she also love him they both got tough friendship .both got each other phone and discussing on mobile till night...they both spend time on night dinner.used to have lunch in five star restaurant and visited love beach and mostly spend time on talking on the mobile..she once proposed him to marry him ..but he rejected said that he was already married person.but didn't mind his marriage life ..even if he would have father of four child she could adjust with his life even that.She had mistook him .she made fake love with him but he did know it .he said his real story that he was not partner in that shop ..he just to come. To visit his friend to spend time with his friend .I have own kabadi shop near road corner nook.when she heard his real story she got shock and she deleted him from her life always.But he could not forget her and delete her from his life..woman could easily forget past..but man have no courage to forget his last spending time with woman ..he just want to store it always with him.chatting and chatter that frst time spent on beach and had been dinner in one plate ..celebrated each other's birthday ..how could i forget that...could anybody even my wife give me back that moment..nobody shared it nobody ….He could not erased his memory he also saved her mobile number..never mitigated easily i really By my heart felt in love her but she had love for money and could easily caught in her nest and then drawn up easily money from themWhen one day he called her but she could not receive his call..she put it on rejected option him ...but he continuously called her until she could not respond him in msg box….But the she sent on whatsapp message written in message as” who are you...i replied i am gentleman your …Who is that mentalman….she forwarded message in reply and said….and she went offline always from my life option.