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Latest Procedure of Court Marriage In Lahore Pakistan
 19 September 2019  
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Court Marriage in Pakistan brings a lot of relief not only to the lovers but also for those who want to have arranged marriage in Pakistan. Not only the lovers but decent families have now started to go for Court Marriage services in Pakistan and at the top of all is the city of Lahore. Highest numbers of Court Marriage in Lahore Pakistan have been recorded in the year of 2018. There are many reasons why people now prefer to adopt Court Marriage procedure in Pakistan. Some of the benefits of Court Marriage in Pakistan are given below.1-Procedure of Court Marriage In Pakistan can be done maximum in just two hours so you don’t need to go for a whole day function. Normally arrange marriage takes a lot of time while the Court Marriage in Pakistan takes just two hours. 2-One of the other benefits of Court Marriage in Pakistan is that it is cheap. Normal fee of Court Marriage in Pakistan is about Rs25000 to Rs50000 depending on the skills of a Court Marriage lawyer in Pakistan where as on the other hand people spend millions on just a wedding function. 3-No special arrangements are required to be organized by the spouse all you need to do is to find a competent Court Marriage lawyer in Pakistan and he will do all the necessary arrangements whatever is required. All Court Marriage procedure in Pakistan will be conducted by the lawyer. 4-Services of nikah khawan are also available in Court Marriage services. Most of the people do not now that in Court Marriage in Pakistan you also get licensed nikah khawan provided by the lawyer. 5-You also get legal protection in Court Marriage services where as you do not get any legal protection in arrange marriages in Pakistan 6-No transport services are required to accommodate your relatives all you need to do is to walk in to the lawyer’s office and have your Court Marriage done. 7- No extra people are required for the services of Court Marriage in Pakistan where as in arrange marriage you have to call all your relatives, friends and others to accompany you in the marriage ceremony. 8-In Court Marriage even you don’t have witnesses your Court Marriage lawyer arranges witnesses for you. Normally lawyers charge extra for witnesses also. 9-Privacy of spouse is guaranteed in Court Marriage services in Pakistan for example if you do not want to disclose your marriage then all you need to do is to find a family lawyer and he will make sure your privacy is maintained whereas you don’t get this facility in arrange marriage 10-No extra documentation is required for availing the services of Court Marriage in Pakistan all you need to do is to pick up your cnic or id card and visit the lawyers office who will conduct your Court Marriage. If something is not necessary the lawyer will not ask you to produce. 11-In Court Marriage services your all marriage certificates are registered in two hours whereas it takes weeks to get marriage certificate registered in arrange marriages. 12-Procedure of Court Marriage in Pakistan is very easy all you need to do is to follow the instruction of your lawyer. 13-Procedure Of Court Marriage In Lahore Pakistan is also possible through a family lawyer whereas it is not possible in arrange marriages

Online Marriage In Pakistan / Procedure Of Online Marriage In Pakistan
 2 October 2019  
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Online Marriage in Pakistan brings a lot of relief not only to the lovers but also for those who want to have arranged marriage in Pakistan. Not only the lovers but decent families have now started to go for Online Marriage services in Pakistan and at the top of all is the city of Lahore. Highest numbers of Online Marriage in Lahore Pakistan have been recorded in the year of 2018. There are many reasons why people now prefer to adopt Online Marriage procedure in Pakistan.Some of the benefits of Online Marriage in Pakistan are given below.Online Marriage in Pakistan can be done maximum in just two hours so you don’t need to go for a whole day function. Normally arrange marriage takes a lot of time while the Online Marriage in Pakistan takes just two hours.One of the other benefits of Online Marriage in Pakistan is that it is cheap. Normal fee of Online Marriage in Pakistan is about Rs25000 to Rs50000 depending on the skills of a Online Marriage lawyer in Pakistan where as on the other hand people spend millions on just a wedding function.No special arrangements are required to be organized by the spouse all you need to do is to find a competent Online Marriage lawyer in Pakistan and he will do all the necessary arrangements whatever is required. All Online Marriage procedure in Pakistan will be conducted by the lawyer.https://www.familycaselawyer.com/online-marriage-in-pakistan/Services of nikah khawan are also available in Online Marriage services. Most of the people do not now that in Online Marriage in Pakistan you also get licensed nikah khawan provided by the lawyer.You also get legal protection in Online Marriage services where as you do not get any legal protection in arrange marriages in PakistanNo transport services are required to accommodate your relatives all you need to do is to walk in to the lawyer’s office and have your Online Marriage done.No extra people are required for the services of Online Marriage in Pakistan where as in arrange marriage you have to call all your relatives, friends and others to accompany you in the marriage ceremony.In Online Marriage even you don’t have witnesses your Online Marriage lawyer arranges witnesses for you. Normally lawyers charge extra for witnesses also.Privacy of spouse is guaranteed in Online Marriage services in Pakistan for example if you do not want to disclose your marriage then all you need  to do is to find a family lawyer and he will make sure your privacy is maintained whereas you don’t get this facility in arrange marriageNo extra documentation is required for availing the services of Online Marriage in Pakistan all you need to do is to pick up your cnic or id card and visit the lawyers office who will conduct your Online Marriage. If something is not necessary the lawyer will not ask you to produce.In Online Marriage services your all marriage certificates are registered in two hours whereas it takes weeks to get marriage certificate registered in arrange marriages.

Court Marriage in Pakistan - Advocate Aazad Law Associate
 24 September 2019  
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Court Marriage in Pakistan brings a lot of relief not only to the lovers but also for those who want to have arranged marriage in Pakistan. Not only the lovers but decent families have now started to go for Court Marriage services in Pakistan and at the top of all is the city of Lahore. Highest numbers of Court Marriage in Lahore Pakistan have been recorded in the year of 2018. There are many reasons why people now prefer to adopt Court Marriage procedure in Pakistan. Some of the benefits of Court Marriage in Pakistan are given below.Court Marriage in Pakistan can be done maximum in just two hours so you don’t need to go for a whole day function. Normally arrange marriage takes a lot of time while the Court Marriage in Pakistan takes just two hours.One of the other benefits of Court Marriage in Pakistan is that it is cheap. Normal fee of Court Marriage in Pakistan is about Rs25000 to Rs50000 depending on the skills of a Court Marriage lawyer in Pakistan where as on the other hand people spend millions on just a wedding function.No special arrangements are required to be organized by the spouse all you need to do is to find a competent Court Marriage lawyer in Pakistan and he will do all the necessary arrangements whatever is required. All Court Marriage procedure in Pakistan will be conducted by the lawyer.Services of nikah khawan are also available in Court Marriage services. Most of the people do not now that in Court Marriage in Pakistan you also get licensed nikah khawan provided by the lawyer.You also get legal protection in Court Marriage services where as you do not get any legal protection in arrange marriages in PakistanNo transport services are required to accommodate your relatives all you need to do is to walk in to the lawyer’s office and have your Court Marriage done.No extra people are required for the services of Court Marriage in Pakistan where as in arrange marriage you have to call all your relatives, friends and others to accompany you in the marriage ceremony.In Court Marriage even you don’t have witnesses your Court Marriage lawyer arranges witnesses for you. Normally lawyers charge extra for witnesses also.Privacy of spouse is guaranteed in Court Marriage services in Pakistan for example if you do not want to disclose your marriage then all you need to do is to find a family lawyer and he will make sure your privacy is maintained whereas you don’t get this facility in arrange marriageNo extra documentation is required for availing the services of Court Marriage in Pakistan all you need to do is to pick up your cnic or id card and visit the lawyers office who will conduct your Online Marriage. If something is not necessary the lawyer will not ask you to produce.In Court Marriage services your all marriage certificates are registered in two hours whereas it takes weeks to get marriage certificate registered in arrange marriages.

Relationship
 9 February 2019  
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Surrounding is a key factor in everyone. In my surrounding everywhere marriage is going on.When it comes to my marriage, I'm afraid of marriage and started thinking about lots of things.I'm very much clear about my choices and my family choices but still, I'm in dilemma to get marry andmake a new family.I did some research for that.I found some answers from my heart and some from observing my family & friends and some from media.I asked myself some questions so many times- what is marriage, what is good for me,love marriage or arrange marriage and how I know I got the right person, etc?Different people define it in different ways. Not even sociologists are able to agree on a single meaning.According to me, love is God gifted, it's doesn't matter you got love marriage or arrange marriage,in every marriage life love is essential. It does not matter, you love someonebefore or after marriage, the fact is how much you love him/her, how much you sharing and caring.Marriage and family are key structures in most societies.I am going to share some of the important things to make a healthy marriage  -1.TrustJohn Gottman, one of the nation's foremost  researchers of marriages and families, says that "trust is essential to healthy relationships and healthy communities."If you have strong trust then your relationship is healthy nothing will harm your relationship.2.TogethernessSometimes you do what you like, and other times you do...what the other person likes.Maybe people will understand this is a compromise but it's actually the color of love.You spend time together doing things you both enjoy.Whether that's hiking, food tasting,  watching movies or listening to any song, or even working together.If one spouse is passionate about writing and reading then the other person should make time to read and give some tips to improve.3.Time ApartSometimes, giving space for each other is necessary.It is a boring life to spend 24 / 7 together and can't have separate interests and hobbies.you both understand, and respect, that you need time apart doing what you want to do.4. Attentiveness for each otherEven if u get the best chance for going somewhere or your favorite movie ticket,if your partner is not feeling well or he/she has some important work to do thendon't force.understanding each other's situation is the best part of your relationship.5.SharingSharing small things also gives more pleasure.If your situation is bad, don't hide it,since they will be there to comfort you and help you figure out ways to move on from this bad situation.6. Change OvernightDon't expect each other to change overnight.If your spouse is fat or thin or any bad habits they have then that won't make you feel ashamed or even expect you to change overnight.Make them understand that change is a process, and I will support you along the way.7. Do FightsDo some productive fights with him/her.This means listening to each other, understanding and respecting each other's viewpoints,and finding common ground so that you can strengthen your marriage.8. Value and GoalsShare each other's values and goals.I think it would be boring if a couple had the exact interests or personalities.so respect each other's interest and personality.Don't expect the same personality as yours.Let your spouse know how much you are proud of him/her. Celebrate his/her smallachievements.9. Helping each otherHelp each other to become more successful and to maintain a productive work-life balance. I saw in my family, a spouse is also your biggest strength in helping you achieve your goals and will do whatever they can, to help you overcome obstacles blocking your path to success in work and life. And they're genuinely excited when you succeed.10.Laugh“Against the assault of laughter, nothing can stand.” – Mark Twain.Make your marriage fun and happy. Tell some words which make your spouse cheer up.When life is stressful this the best way to cheer up.11. ListenListen to him/her rather talking more (vise versa).Your spouse needs the gift of your time and attention.When you listen generously, your spouse will feel secure in coming to you with their concerns, hopes, and fears.Once you’ve identified what your spouse is feeling—whether it’s anger, sadness, frustration,anxiety, or excitement—you can adjust your responses based on their emotional state.When our emotions go into a tailspin, it can be difficult to keep communication healthy.One way to build intimacy in your relationship is by sharing your thoughts and feelingswith each other and then responding to those disclosures in a way that makes you both feel good.12.Seek KnowledgeSeek knowledge from each other.You may don't have the same knowledge.The right person is someone who is interested in learning and growing intellectually by constantly seeking knowledge.13. Ask for helpNever hesitate to ask for help.Asking for help is not your weakness.When you ask your spouse for advice or help you're respecting and admitting the fact that they have more experience or skills in an area that you're not that familiar with.14.Financial goalsYou share the same financial goals.Even the greatest of relationship can end in a break up due to financial differences and concerns.You should both be on the same page when it comes to your financial goals, such as how much moneyyou need to live a happy and stress-free life and how you're going to save for retirement.Strong couples create and share budgets, as well as generate financial challenges for themselvesin order to put their finances in order.15.Physical AffectionThe ways in which we can express physical affection vary and more research is needed.Physical affection is related to lower blood pressure & releases feel-good hormones.One of the reasons why hugging, holding hands, and touching feel good to us is that these behaviors elevate our level of oxytocin, a hormone that reduces pain and causes a calming sensation.How important is physical intimacy in a relationship and what does it really mean?It’s an expression of love.Being physically intimate means more than simply heading to the bedroom with your spouse.Physical intimacy can range from eye-contact, holding hands, cuddling, and of course, sex.Physical intimacy involves a deep emotional connection.Having a deep connection to your spouse on this level helps build trust, boosts morale, and has many health benefits.

Where to find the best types of Pakistani wedding dresses?
 5 September 2019  
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Have a look at the total accumulation of marriage dresses with costs, fashioners' subtleties, and determinations to discover valuable inclining pakistani wedding dresses. These wedding dresses are essential in each lady's closet. These lovely designer dresses incorporate prevalent kinds of gathering, for example, Embroidered Dresses, Lawn Dresses, Maxis and Frocks, Cocktail Dresses and the sky's the limit from there. You can purchase online Pakistani marriage dresses, most recent accumulation 2019 as indicated by footwear and match frill for unique events or an outfit for your wedding. Those works of art, present day, in vogue outfits can be worn to go to any events a few times.Well known TYPES OF WEDDING WOMEN'S DRESSES Embroidered Dresses: Every season we see significant changes in style patterns; perfect structure incorporated into architects index highlighting magnificent weaving. There are distinctive sewing styles of the weaved dresses in Pakistan in light of the fact that coordinating the imaginative styles with lovely shading examples makes your outfit look increasingly conventional and social.Lawn Dresses: Now, to the extent most stylish trend pattern is going; either for easygoing events or for formal events like Weddings, EID, and Festivals and for some other formal purposes, this most recent Lawn accumulation 2019 has a great scope of assortment of well known originator like Sana Safinaz, Maria B, Deepak Perwani, Umar Sayeed, HSY and some more.Chiffon Dresses: Looking for a best chiffon dress? Presently scope of ideal unstitched weaved gathering and most recent chiffon texture accumulation 2019 accessible online at affordable.pk. Chiffon wedding outfits accompany weaved top, neck, base, Daman, back, sleeves and sleeve finishes in various styles incorporate Pakistani, Indian, and Asian. These chiffon dresses are extraordinarily intended for Pakistani weddings, which are commonly wealthy in hues with tones according to season. The range is from the easy to the rich marriage chiffon dresses with the adaptability in the work type and highlights. These chiffon wedding dresses lineup likewise incorporate marriage gowns, Shararas, flappers and Ghararas with the scope of shading variety and their messes.These wedding dresses are critical to give you esteem. So what are you hanging tight for? Pick the ideal Pakistani Bridal Dresses accessible available to be purchased online at affordable.pk with Home Delivery and Cash on Delivery administration across the country.Pakistani Wedding Dress With Prices in Rupees Wedding is perhaps the greatest event in Pakistani society and culture, an enormous number of arrangements are made at this occasion of life in which the marriage dresses are unmistakable and exceptionally viewed as, Pakistani wedding dresses contain rich structures which are a blend of different apparel part and embellishments, which make them novel and noticeable for that occasion. Pakistani marriage dresses are nearly high in costs than different dresses being worn at events, which cost in excess of 50 thousand at least. The explanation for the high Pakistani wedding dresses costs in rupees is its thick work of costly adornments and design things, which incorporate bands, top notch weaving, chiffon and silk textures, studded stones. Red is the most loved and customary shading in marriage dresses 2019 crosswise over Pakistan which is likewise made in any shading.At affordable.pk you can find all of the major designs of pakistani wedding dresses that are available in Pakistan.Visit ushttps://www.affordable.pk/women-womens-clothing-pakistani-traditional-clothing-unstitched-fabric-lawn

Where to Buy the best collection of Bridal Wear?
 5 September 2019  
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The designers of Pakistani dresses have contributed a great deal in the style business. The commitment of designers Pakistani wedding dresses collection 2019 is amazing for wedding occasions. Design is the language of your body. Your appearance matters a great deal. The magnificence of your dress is the pride of your character. For marriage dresses, you must be so cognizant as it is the event on which the wedding couple particularly ladies needs to look fabulous, amazing and grand on mehndi, barat and walima day.Our Pakistani style planners have worked a ton in the design business from the most recent quite a few years to make us demonstrate the bearing towards the most recent patterns. The top most famous style creators like Fahad Hussayn, Zainab Chottani, Nomi Ansari, Teena Durrani, Sania Maskatya, Mirusah, Asim Jofa, and Elan have done great work on ladies wear including both easygoing dressing and marriage wedding dresses by and large. Pakistani Wedding Dresses Pakistani Collection 2019 Pakistani top style creators of 2019 propose a tremendous accumulation of marriage dresses on various wedding services including mehndi, barat, walima and nikah capacities. You may discover the majority of the Pakistani wedding dresses accumulation at one spot by visiting our most recent marriage wedding dresses and increasingly most recent one beneath. A dumbfounding, best and a remarkable gathering of bridals wedding dresses by Pakistani lawn suits most famous planners is being exhibited to you. This is no uncertainty a valuable accumulation found anyplace.Asim Jofa Latest Bridal Lehnga DressesAsim Jofa accumulation has an imprint in the market. Here we present probably the most recent wedding dresses of this brand. His dresses for the most part have overwhelming weaving work and lie in the classification of Banarsi. The greater part of the wedding wear articles of asim jofa are intensely weaved chip away at resham utilizing brilliant and grayish shading. They are great in their look and plan due to weaved themes at wedding lehnga and peplum style shirts. They are no uncertainty one of the best accumulation of Pakistan and win the heart much time at off the incline and numerous other design appears.Zainab Chottani Bridal Dresses CollectionZainab Chottani has novel marriage dresses in her accumulation like wow in sound. Her Pakistani wedding dresses are great just as glitzy. The decent shading shades and regal magnificence causes the lady of the hour to wind up look significantly amazing. She thinks of ultra interesting hues like fiery remains dark, light pink and other light hues adorned with Swarovski precious stones, globules, dabka, nakshi take a shot at sleeves and bodice. This style originator renowned for the weaved work everywhere. Its most famous brand among the style circles. Big names picked Zainab Chottani dresses because of every one of these reasons.Interested in buying Pakistani wedding dresses? Browse on to Affordable.pk and select from a wide variety of bridal dresses. If you have any questions contact our customer support and they will guide you through the whole process.

Increasing Extramarital affair
 6 April 2019  

Indian society is giving women the liberty to be sexually active. After hearing of multipartners and wife swapping, the new flavour of the season is of Indian wives dating other men.The syndrome which has become really hip and popular today is ‘my wife’s boyfriend.’ Women today have come out of the four walls of the house and have started experimenting with their sex lives. For many years, the issue of extramarital affairs was thought to be a “woman’s issue” – that is, women dealing with their husbands’ affairs.Today, while large numbers of husbands are still having affairs, there has been a significant increase in the number of Indian wives having affairs.A recent survey done on contemporary marriages by the Tata Institute of Social Science (TISS), Mumbai, has brought to light the fact that there is a rise in extramarital affairs, and couples know and accept their partner’s paramours.But the most surprising finding is that more and more married women are looking for love or rather fun outside marriage. With the work place and the Internet, overscheduled lives and inattentive husbands – it’s no wonder more Indian women are looking for comfort in the arms of another man.Women interact with men more at work. They go for more meetings, take more business trips and presumably participate more in flirtatious water-cooler chatter.These light or intensive flirtations whatever the women opts for give them a self-esteem boost during work hours and don’t rock the boat at home.Gone are the days when cuckolding was a social taboo. Today globalization has spawned an almost experimental outlook towards sex.In an age where porn has hit the streets openly, women today do not hesitate to break the ‘humdrum’ of their lives by experimenting with their sex lives and this experimentation is no longer a man’s prerogative. Today wives are acting on the urge more than ever.With husbands pursuing demanding careers and having no time for the home, or for that matter sex, it has led to wives looking for adventure outside marriage.Husbands are also aware of it, because they know that they cannot give them the time. The neglect of their personal life by husbands has led to women becoming desperate for attention and they don’t mind flaunting their boyfriends.Often we want to hold on to relationships because we do not want to get out of our comfort zone. Even if the marriage is not healthy, we tend to hold on to it for various reasons.Whether through an open relationship or just a fantasy, looking elsewhere is not the root cause of trouble in relationships. Instead it’s the fact that we crave adventure in our humdrum lives and most marriages fail to provide that.Many women say that an affair outside marriage has changed their lives for better because they feel desirable in the arms of somebody else.In addition, when women break out from a truly committed relationship and run free, the question is not what they are running towards, but rather what is it they are running from.In this situation looking for love elsewhere tends to be a life pattern triggered by fears (of commitment, of being loved, of waking up with the same person every morning).Over the years, though the institution of marriage is still alive, there is a sea of change in the relationship between husband and wife. People these days look more for financial security than emotional.“The love and care is definitely there, but passion definitely dies away with years. From having sex once a week, they have sex one a month or may not even for months together. It is high time we accept the fact that everybody needs variety in their sex life,” says Devyani Rao, a stylist with a leading lifestyle magazine.In Indian society, people generally have marriages of convenience. According to Mumbai based psychologist, Dr. Varkha Chulani, “This condition of wives having affairs generally arises in 80 percent of marriages today because there is very little communication with each other. For most women, an inattentive husband is the biggest problem, and husbands too have accepted this situation because they refuse to go through the tedious process of divorce.”While the woman is on the lookout for love outside marriage, she is definitely in no mood to leave her husband. She just wants to have her share of fun.For women who have been married for many years and for whom the whole life is about taking care of their kids and their house life definitely becomes very monotonous for them. It becomes natural for them to look for love outside marriage, just to spice up their life.There are several reasons that men accept this arrangement. Firstly, they don’t want to go through the legal hassle of divorce.Second, after spending so many years of togetherness they get used to each other and just knowingly shut their eyes. Third, it gives the man a green signal to have fun with other women.

Where to Buy the best collection of Bridal Wear?
 6 September 2019  
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A rainy night in august (A short story)
 28 May 2019  
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A Short story:it happened on 29 augustnight.In morning I was in deep sleep, when suddenly my wife come into room and printed kids on my face.wished me"happy anniversary marriage day.I just forgot it.I saw an excitement puzzle on my wife face.then I repeated process and again wished her also.Since midnight occurred heavy rains fall. I get bathed.I was  late already.I have to catch 9.30 thane and wife reminds me something miss.I fumbled my purse but everything OK. I  remember to give her return gift as kiss on lips.I hurried to catch the train . Road was encircled with dirt and water. Reached to station fully jammed with people waiting for the train; but it was already running late.Since two day rains had been poured. It raining cats and dogs;  brought city it's knee,people left home for work, not left hope for return home”Helping hand become God gift from people, volunteer, and social worker get into work to help people who stuck into gutter dwelling, and low-lying area  .rains news flashed on TV channel. People waded their way to knee-deep and waist high water.Rains water was  encircled into low-lying   slum area. Had drilled holes in their wall to allow  water to flow out; Drained water free home.Chowki, shops, roads, streets, subway, Sublime residential areas, restaurants, industrial areas all choked up by water. To drill it flow out water,,bmc installed water soaking machine or sucking machine in every gutter, nallas. Pumps deployed everywhere seen encircle by red Signal marks. Traffic depart stopped all function in the city. Orders traffic police to divert crowd and transport system. Transport line stuck jammed. Street and stranded people rehabilitate.My  boss was watching the live feed and news on TV he ordered half day leave office staff. Rain took strong force. He gushed forcefully everywhere. Trains run late scheduled time. My first wedding anniversary being  happening that day.On my way home, I stood on  the rush hour and  stuck into platform. Platform was crowded with the hordes of commuters  . Even no space to move  in and out. Everyone hurried to reach home. Also I request to god help me to reach home. But fruitless trying was a waste of time.I would have spent on platform whole night if my friend had not come to rescue me to bring his home.the train were stuck on platform.I would have grabbed a taxi and paid any extra amount to reach home.Because I did not want to miss that our first marriage anniversary day celebration moment.Due to heavy rainfall, and my anniversary marriage date fall into same date. My wife called me. Received her Call. Her voice was breaking in between. And suddenly call cut. Network went unavailable.Wife made preparation for me, first marriage night. She decorated bed with careful and fine design memory. She wanted to feel same as a first marriage night;Two married couple meet each other get feeling, Come close, hug each other,  kissed each other, touch each other for playing  lost in old memories.In between my old close friend meet me at crowd  platform. He asked me over to his home tonight. We decided to spend the night at their  house near station areas. I sent MSG to my wife. I said sorry could not come home tonight due to heavy rain made railway line stop. She wailed .understood .but day will pass by, but night will be very hard to pass by…..she spoke a word on phone….she spun in her mind.She reminded  “to get touch with me”Once again she wished me “happy wedding anniversary”Her voice grew serious and took sobbing mood  as a mobile battery signaled low charging arrow. She melted into old memory.The cracking sound of heavy rain made irritating her. Two couple reunited in heaven. She was a  lonely house. Lighting sound made her fear. Drops of rain dripping through walls and roofs. Drops of water oozed over her body. rainwater leaked through concrete  roofs.Rain Water Seeped through Wall. Rain drops Oozed over her body,  made a tingle sensation  of resemble her husband's touch , Forced air feel of husband hand, She could not sleep lonely since marriage. She could not sleep without her husband .mobile saved for accompanying  loneliness. She could share her feeling over it. She could not talk with me. For few minutes, she felt safe fear free. But how pass by night.how. To move without husband,  She could not pass by night. She tried hard to sleep; But she failed. Tried hard  to close d to eyes to but fruitless try. Her memories enabled her to pass out.My wife did not imagine of  my drinks. Meanwhile, my friend brought alcohol bottle and some complimentary snacks.he celebrated our marriage ceremony by drinking wine and made refilling of glass.I drank drops upon drops, cheered up on a life of a long life ..clicked glass whole night.I  got intoxicated.wine inter into my head.I lose my control, it got over my nerve and feeling dizzy.it made feeling of my close  wife,  as alcohol penetrate body I feel my wife near.when sipped drops upon drops, touch of glass sound of wife closeness. . Rains forcefully dashed way everything..even my and her precious moment.rains overlapped night. I  could not sleep without wife since marriage.but I could not do anything but wait for rains stop till morning train run on time...I narrated to.friend. …I drank like a fish and said:“My wife very sensitive and a  heart of glass.”Our marriage first anniversary today, I must accompany her,I must with wife ...but how unlucky am I ! .!!nature hold up our meeting.‘I must in her union, in her hug in her embrace,“But destiny has written different in both head.”“Lighting and rains reunited today”But our unification being separated.‘So , in such moment celebrate your anniversary,“How can it be possible ?..me said, “Rains derailed life”“Make this moment enjoyed, friends said, Use it as a weapon not weakness”.“It's not easy myself... friend ..not easy”.(.wine got hold over his nervous system.)‘My wife is waiting for me, I must go, anyhow.She would make preparation for wedding anniversary.How can you reach home .in such condition railway line and bus all transport services stuck in road.no trains run on track, buses taxi not to be seen on the road running.“Relax, My friend have enjoyed your precious time tonight with wine, drink it in, drink it in!Celebrate the moments of your life,Raise the glass to your bless anniversaryHe made another Pack for me.I  drank once again.my wife called me on the phone, and I soothed her mind by receiving call.she told me  that she wore green Saree, she looked more beautiful and attractive ,she wanted me to close to prim her to touch her Saree feel.in such get up she dressed up in  traditional wear..she wore up  ankle ringlet.I heard and sensed sound of clicking her bangle over phone, and Already I get experienced of same sound.I remember first night when she first time wore ankle and I  heard the sound of it like melody .clicking and foreplay night with my wife joking and chatting, and I remember and lost into old members...I said to her “ I wish, may be with you now”My  friend made another Pack for me .alcohol got hold over My nerves and brain. I  got into intoxicating mood.If I may be today with My wife, how did night pass beautifully?...you don't know ..you can't imagine..my friend ..because is  unmarried.you don't know what is a celestial love is !“Purity is love of marriage.Real love is not in heart but spend in loneliness...my friend”..... I said.“Real love is getting experienced in separation”…..I said.“The best thing one can do in such condition is when It's raining to let it rain.let the rain kiss you let the rains beat upon your head with silver liquid drops” friend said philosophical thought.“Life is short, a couple of jokes”..and nothing less my friend nothing more .have enjoyed this moment more cheerful!!!]]]“Life is full of beauty.notice it, notice the humble bee.the small child , the smiling faces smell the rain, feel the wind live your life to the fullest potential.add light for your dreams”…..friend said to me.For a few minutes, I deeply in thought.said to my in jerking  mood.‘Meeting made in heaven, our heaven precious meeting, two couples meet each other in heaven, going to meet a second time ““you don't know how I do far love my wife”I spend my night with this second wife of wine ““What is different between wife and wine?”Wife and wine starts from some alphabet word. ‘ W’ and ends. With the same ‘how similarity happens between two word each other word...it's miracle or coincidence we call it, one give company in the danger time and lonely seclusion time. One soothe life every day.wife doses love and wine Pack dregs of drought: into lust of world of dukha, trushna sadness unhappiness .wife help us in time of legally friend who diverts us from fall into love of wine..force is abstain from it..why drinker like wine in case of loneliness.One help to forget and one help to remember things”.........I said.Neighbour door being closed. The dark hovered over. Her heartbeats palpitated. Fear took  over face. Her voice as conversation tripped a long time, mobile battery getting run out. She behaved like a child. She feared of dashing air force, jerking window pane, she scared of insects, she tried to ward off scared  insects in rambling all around rooms. Awhile light went off. Power cut off. Dark hovered over the room. Lighting struck. Cloud floating, rain dashing over roofs. Lights flashes, dashed all over door. She was a lonely creature in the room.Her contact with husband trailed away, disconnected.mobile battery run out. She fumbled and forward in dark to find candle near window side. In dim flash of lighting she found it. She struck match, and burnt candle. Flames of candle moved here and there due to wind force. The flickering of candle flames made her comfort. She made her way toward her marriage album photo. She fingers her hand. Flapped page one by one and lost into old member ed, her heart brought old memory of marriage. She dreamed,.rolled and reeled before eye ;her eyes grew dark circle hovering over,....flickering image dancing before her eyes unable to sleep her. Jerking and hissing movement of air. The breaking sound of lighting added to nuisance to her.Rainwater leaked through the roof. Dripping continued. Made  a sound of drip-drip…..!!!.enabled her sleep into night lonely. Dripping through house wall. She put   up utensil on the dripping point..it created horror sound that it scared her. Tinkling sound unable to sleep. Then she put aside utensil and remains   dripping continued instead.It was difficult to pass the whole night by lonely. The crawling insect made her life (miserable) than any other incident. She did not use to it before. The short term visitor crawling at night room when light went off. Whole room looked like a dungeon. They made their way through door scuttling side to prey upon insects.In between suddenly, candle put on the window side blown off with a gushing force. She fumbled in   search of matchbox. It found out of stock only remaining two sticks. Match box sticks run out in her fruitless two try. Room became dark house and residue of insect home. In sudden she falls off over floor unconscious mood. She got fits and dizzy feel. In flip moment went into dreamed;in deep sleep, she dreamed of her husband, and she clutched in her fist. She gripped hard. She placed her whole body over it. Clutched to chest. Twisted and squeezed it. In struggle movement she got bite.but she did not unlatch it. Caught hard unroll last sigh in her life.Following morning when neighbour came to rescue her from unlock door ,she found lying over floor unconscious; and beside album and What seen unbelievable in her hand clutched to chest.’ A snake hood’ strangled to death.They admitted her nearby hospital. She diagnosed snake bite Mark.. She went through unconscious since a month. She took a month to recover from that scary August night....End.......

Get 100% Error-free Translation Work With Öffentlich Bestellter Dolmetscher
 14 October 2019  
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Book Review: Table For One by Neha Bindal
 8 September 2018  

Book Title: Table For OneAuthor: Neha BindalFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 180Language: EnglishPublisher: HALF BAKED BEANSPublishing Date: 20 July 2018ASIN: B07FQ7MWBCTaara Maheshwari, a single woman in her thirties and a successful lawyer, is tough from outside but a die heart fan of romantic movies from inside.She grew up seeking her “happily ever after’ but amid various heartbreaks and culture of modern age short term relationships,her believe in “true connections" got replaced by the comfort of being “emotionally disconnected.”After she turned 31, her parents persuaded her into meeting a guy for marriage who sounded just perfect for her. Acting on impulse,she told her parents that she would meet him only if they let her go on a trip to Europe.As Taara went on to explore the world, she experienced what actually happens when a single Indian girl travels to Europe all by herself. Is it only about dancing, singing or falling in love? What happens after you fall in love? Does love conquer all? Only her story would tell.My TakeThis is the story of protagonist Taara Maheshwari, a successful lawyer in her early thirties still unmarried. She is a confused women, who had encountered some heart breaks and doesn't know what to she wanted in her life. As her parents convinces for an arrange marriage. To which she agreed only if her parents would allow her for solo trip in Europe before marriage. She promised to meet the man once she returned back from the trip fortunately her parents agreed. She thinks it's an escape from marriage and quit her job to fulfill her dream to take a solo trip to Europe. Here her self-exploration starts with travelling diverse destinations, meets different kinds of peoples all around there, sang a song in public, danced crazily, went on trekking,  and many more she explored the Europe. Taara in this trips founds new friends as well as she is attracted towards Fred and was in love with him. To know more what happen next read the book. The book is a bag of emotions of love, heartbreaks, travel, romance, adventure, external love, internal love, self realization, happiness, peace, friends, family, life, and many more.Language is simple crisp and lucid and has the ability to bring live the events narrated in the book. The story flows like a movie and takes the readers on a journey  to Paris, Switzerland and Italy with Taara the every scene is so well written than you can actually get images of them in your mind. Characterization should be have been strong and done better and i don't like the sudden climax. The faced paced and engaging narration. The writer’s words has the capacity to hold the reader till the last page. The storytelling style was different and simply adorable. I loved Taara character through out the book. Characterization should be done better and i don't like the sudden climax. The cover and title is beautifully crafted.We are all taught that the most beautiful part of a fairy-tale is “happily ever after”. But we fail to notice that all fairy tales begin with “Once upon a time”. Once. It all happened. It was all real. Once. No matter who we are, what we do, or where we live, deep inside we all feel incomplete. It’s like we have lost something and need to get it back. Just what that something is, most of us never find out. And of those who do, even fewer manage to go out and look for it. Alone wasn’t just a closed dark room anymore but a whole wide world full of opportunities. I needed to explore and occupy the vastness of the world inside of me, which until now I hadn’t truly understood. Like the houses we build, the sky was also a shelter to few.I'll recommend this book to all the avid reader's.Overall 4/5 StarsGrab the copy here- AMAZON

Honour killing
 1 April 2019  

Honour crimes or honour killings are acts of violence, usually murder, mostly committed by male family members predominantly against female [relatives], who are perceived to have brought dishonour upon the family. A woman can be targeted by individuals within her family for a variety of reasons, including: refusing to enter into an arranged marriage, marrying against the parent’s wishes, choosing lovers or spouses outside of their family's caste and religious community, having extramarital relationships, marrying within the same gotra, being the victim of a sexual assault, seeking a divorce — even from an abusive husband, Some women who adopt the customs (or religion) of an outside group, may also be more likely to be victims. Several cases have been suspected but not confirmed which includes choosing partners of same sex.The acts of violence include public lynching of couples, murder of either the man or the woman concerned, murder made to appear as suicide, public beatings, humiliation, blackening of the face, forcing couples or their families to eat excreta or drink urine, forced incarceration, social boycotts and the levying of fines.Central to the theme of honour and violence is the subordinate position of girls and women in all castes and communities. A woman's chastity is the "honour" of the community and she has no sovereign right over her body at any point of her life. The retribution is particularly swift and brutal if she crosses caste and class barriers to choose a lower-caste man as her partner. The most obvious reason for this practice to continue in India is its rigid caste system and the patriarchal mind set. People from the rural areas refuse to change their attitude to marriage. According to them, if any daughter dares to disobey her parents on the issue of marriage and decides to marry a man of her wishes but from another gotra or outside her caste, it would bring disrepute to the family honour and hence they decide to give the ultimate sentence, that is death, to the daughter, sometimes the son-in-law is also killed as well. Sociologists believe that the reason why honour killings continue to take place is because of the continued rigidity of the caste system. Hence the fear of losing their caste status through which they gain many benefits makes them commit this heinous crime. The other reason why honour killings are taking place is because the mentality of people has not changed and they just cannot accept that marriages can take place in the same gotra or outside one’s caste. Another reason for the increased visibility of such crimes is the trend of more and more girls joining educational institutions, meeting others from different backgrounds and castes and establishing relationships beyond the confines of caste and community. Such individuals, both boys and girls, are being targeted so that none dares to breach the barriers of castes and communities. Significantly, in the majority of cases it is the economically and socially dominant castes that organize, instigate and abet such acts of retribution. Caste panchayats have come to play an increasingly important role in Haryana and elsewhere, especially in situations where political patronage also existsThis tradition was first viewed in its most horrible form during the Partition of the country in between the years 1947 and 1950 when many women were forcefully killed so that family honour could be preserved from the forced marriages during the partition. Women who were forced to marry a person from another country and another religion and when they returned ‘home’ they were killed so that the family honour could be preserved. So, the partition years can be seen to be the beginning of the tradition of honour killing on a large scale.In India, the largest number of cases was reported in Punjab, Haryana and Uttar Pradesh. In Muzaffarnagar district in western Uttar Pradesh, at least 13 honour killings occurred within nine months in 2003. In 2002, while 10 such killings were reported, 35 couples were declared missing. It was estimated that Haryana and Punjab alone account for 10 per cent of all honour killings in the country. According to the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) data related to honour killings, 28 honour killing cases were reported in 2014, 192 in 2015 and 68 in the year 2016. Sixty-five cases of culpable homicide for the motive of honour killing have also been reported between 2015 and 2016. In fact, there is refusal even to recognise this phenomenon. Data for such incidents are seldom available and they would mostly be classified under the category of general crimes. Moreover, most of such cases go unreported and, even when reported, often first information reports are not filed and post-mortems are not conducted.This practice is not limited the rural areas, but it has also been seen recently that even the metropolitan cities like Delhi and Tamil Nadu are not safe from this crime because 5 honour killings were reported from Delhi and in Tamil Nadu; a daughter and son in law were killed due to marriage into the same gotra. So it can be seen clearly that honour killing has a very wide geographical spread.For the eradication of such a inhuman practice, a change in the mentality of the people and a strong law against such a inhuman act, both are essential. Parents should accept their children’s wishes regarding marriage as it is they who have to lead a life with their life partners and if they are not satisfied with their life partner then they will lead a horrible married life which might even end in suicide. Secondly, we need to have stricter laws to tackle these kinds of killings as this is a crime which cannot be pardoned because humans do not have the right to write down death sentences of innocent fellow humans. So far, there is no specific law to deal with honour killings. The murders come under the general categories of homicide or manslaughter. Sometimes the honour killings are also done by a mob and so when a mob has carried out such attacks, it becomes difficult to pinpoint a culprit. The collection of evidence becomes tricky and eyewitnesses are never forthcoming. But ‘Honour Killings’ are against International Law on Human Rights and against United Nation agendas. But still even though we don’t have any law to deal with it specifically in India but we have judicial precedence over it. There are also some bills which are in the latent stage against the honour killings, are planned to be introduced in the parliament sooner.Source: InternetRajabala

StoryMirror in conversation with author Devika Das
 25 February 2019  
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Please give details about your initial education and forming years of life. Army School was the basic foundation of my personality. It helped me in developing an all-around personality as I had a healthy balance of academics and co-curricular activities.How did you get interested in literature? What inspired you to write?  I was a deep observer and used to daydream and keep scribbling lines in my notebook. I wrote my first poem 'For Those At Kargil' as a part of the school's feature in Hindustan Times, Jaipur.What difficulties did you have to face with respect to literary work? Finding the right publisher and spreading the message to the audience takes time. I am patiently trying to build my audience organically. What is your view about the present day literary work? With self-publishing and online portals such as StoryMirror, writers have a platform to showcase their literary work with ease. However, it also gives rise to plagiarism. I still believe that good quality content will attract the right audience. Do you think that the emergence of digital and social media has given a new opportunity to creative writers? Yes, definitely. Writers get instant feedback about their writing style. Please tell us something about your literary work. I have 5 publications under my name. My first novella, '7 Vows of Marriage' is a personal take on the institution of marriage. Reminiscence, published by Blue Rose Publishers is a poetry collection. The recent title 'The Mind Game' is a self-improvement book that helps readers understand the importance of emotional intelligence. What was your first literary work and how was it published? 7 Vows of Marriage is self-published through Amazon Kindle. How many ways literature can contribute to society in future?Literature can help in understanding different perspectives about a topic. Reading literature helps people expand their horizon and broadens their thought process. Where do you see yourself after 5 years in the literary world?Through literature, I want to address several social issues that have cropped up in the modern era. I hope to make a difference in the lives of my readers through my books. What ways would you suggest to build a community for poets?Recitals, open mics, contests, and online journals/newsletters are good methods of building a poetry community. What message would you like to give to aspiring new writers? Be honest with what you write. Try to adopt a new writing style and be unique. Keep reading to improve your vocabulary and take formal education if necessary. Self-learning is the best method for a writer. How was your experience of writing on StoryMirror?  StoryMirror has given me a platform to voice my opinion. The experience has been good so far.Would you like to say something about StoryMirror? Can you organize a quarterly meetup of contributors from the same city? e.g. A Writers' Meetup or something similar.Here is the link to read my content https://storymirror.com/profile/ojm7qq5g/author-devika/followers

Book Review: The Mysterious Widows of Mehboobpura By Anuradha Singh
 27 June 2018  

Book Title: The Mysterious Widows Of MehboobpuraAuthor: Anuradha SinghFormat: Paper BackTotal Number of Pages: 196 pagesLanguage: EnglishPublisher: Notion Press,Publishing Date: 24 April 2018ISBN-10: 1643240498ISBN-13: 978-1643240497Ira is an army Officer wife, posted at Ferozepur Cantonment, she is a passionate teacher.Nimrat is a new admission in her class, a daughter of a queer looking Veer Nari.Ira is worried that Nimrat is not studying well, being passionate about her work, she goes to Nimrat’s house to meet her mother and talk about Nimrat’s poor performance in school at Mehboobpura Pind and is reeled by the look and character of the Pind.She comes across some very devastating information about the Pind and now is hunted by the goons. Ira’s life is in danger. She has to finish these diabolical people or she will be finished.Will Ira be successful in unfolding and further finishing the racket?Will she come out of it unscathed?My TakeThe cover of the book is simple and the title of the book The Mysterious Widows Of Mehboobpura  is thoughtful, and completely justifying the story. They complement each other well and also is according to the story, so it’s a perfect combination.The plot is strong and the author has been able to do full justice to it. The plot covers social evils like drugs, prostitution, human trafficking army, veer nari lifes and struggles. The author has clearly crafted the family life of army officer. The Joy, pride, tears, hardships, separation , skipped heartbeats, the uncertainty and ecstasy.Every chapter starts with a poem which are beautiful and really meaningful.The words were simple and the language is lucid which eased the reading. The book is free from any grammatical errors and has been perfectly edited. The pace is perfect, neither slow nor too fast. It is steady and smooth.The author has portrayed each and every character with utmost significance of their own and every one of them has done justice to their respective roles throughout the story. The characters are well developed and one can easily relate to their actions, reactions, mental agony, outbursts, etc.The book is free from any grammatical errors and has been perfectly edited. If the Punjabi and Hindi dialogues were translated into English it was much better since everyone will not able to understand it. The book has a very powerful message to deliver.My favorite character from the book is Ira. “A charming Army wife, a masterful mother, A multi tasker and a teacher, And now an adventurer?”  Never felt my interest waning. The ending part of the story i enjoyed a lot Kulwinder, Jagtar and Ira together made their attempt successful. With every turning page the curiosity to read further keeps on increasing.You shout at me, tie me and kick me,And harass me, but I will get up…Dreams are my teachersThey show me the way to my destinyDifficult is the way, but strong is my resolve.A valiant soldier he isWho does not know any other wayApart from truth, integrity, righteousnessAnd love for his motherland.Evil will dwell, roam and spread aroundGood will always evoke in some soul, daring… to finish evil.Looking forward to read more works by the author.I personally recommended this book to all readers.Overall 4/5 StarsAbout the AuthorAnuradha is working in the field of academics from past 18 years. She has worked in a variety of schools across India as an English Language teacher. Currently she is working in Nalanda International University. She is also an avid blogger and writes from her heart at www. anuradhastringsofmyheart.comBeing a post graduate in English Literature and then working as a teacher, writing poems, travelogues, articles and then a novel came naturally to her.As an army officer wife, she has experienced and explored India from North to South and East to West as India’s true citizen. She loves every moment of her wandering life and calls herself as the new age gypsy. Hence the backdrop of her first novel is army itself.A mother of two boisterous boys and a charming lady wife of a serving officer, a teacher and a writer, she wears all these varied caps with élan.Grab your copy here- Amazon.in Amazon.com Flipkart Infibeam

Marital rape
 1 April 2019  

**Marital Rape**it refers to unwanted intercourse by a man with his wife obtained by force, threat of force, or physical violence, or when she is unable to give consent. It is a non-consensual act of violent perversion by a husband against the wife where she is physically and sexually abused. Approximations have quoted that every 6 hours; a young married woman is burnt or beaten to death, or driven to suicide from emotional abuse by her husband. The UN Population Fund states that more than 2/3rds of married women in India, aged between 15 to 49 have been beaten, raped or forced to provide sex. In 2005, 6787 cases were recorded of women murdered by their husbands or their husbands’ families. 56% of Indian women believed occasional wife-beating to be justified.While marital rape gets documented in hospitals, cases are rarely registered, since it is excluded from the India Penal Code’s (IPC) definition of rape, says an analysis by Dilaasa, a counselling centre based out of K.B. Bhabha Hospital in Bandra. “Very rarely do patients tell us about marital rape. In a few cases, we see injuries and probe them. They are not aware this is wrong There is a pattern to the silence: women stay quiet about the assault when young, but are willing to report it at a later stage.’In the present day, studies indicate that between 10 and 14% of married women are raped by their husbands. Sexual assault by one’s spouse accounts for approximately 25% of rapes committed. Of the 664 cases, 159 cases were marital rape in 2015 at NGO Sneha’s crisis counselling centre in Dharavi. At Sneha’s counselling centres at KEM and Sion hospitals, of 218 cases of domestic violence received in 2015, 64 women said they had faced marital rape. Dilaasa analysed 13 cases of sexual violence from the emergency rooms of two of Mumbai’s public hospitals, Rajawadi in Ghatkopar, and Bhabha between 2011 and 2014 and found that only in five instances did the police register a case, mostly under Section 498 (A) (domestic violence), or the contentious Section 377 (unnatural offences). Dilaasa’s domestic violence data shows 60% married women report sexual violence, forced sex being its most common form. Dilaasa notes, “In almost all the cases, the police delay the collection of medical evidence from these hospitals and also do not wish to record an FIR. Union Minister Maneka Gandhi said that even if there was a law against marital rape, women won’t report it. According to the latest National Health and Family Survey (NFHS-4) for 2015-16, 5.4% women have experienced marital rape, under this category. But while the data on marital rape in India exists, marital rape as a crime, “does not exist”. And yet 5.4% of married Indian women say they have experienced marital rape. The figure recorded by NFHS-3 for 2005-6 was 9.5%. Sexual violence of course gets progressively worse if the husband is an alcoholic – 66% of married women experienced physical or sexual violence when “husband gets drunk often”. But only 10% of married victims of sexual violence seek help.The situation is worst in Manipur, 55% of married Manipuri women have been victims to these kinds of violence. Sikkim has the lowest number of victims at 3.5%. The National Health and Family Survey records both sexual and non sexual violence. The survey has looked at married women in the age group of 15-49. The highest form of non-sexual violence comes from men slapping women – 25% of women surveyed said they have been slapped. In all, 12% of married women said they have been pushed, shaken and have had things thrown at them. 10% said the husbands have pulled their arms or hair. Another 7.5% said they have been punched with fists or objects and 7% said they have been kicked, dragged and beaten up. More so, 1.5% said they have been choked or burnt and 0.8% said they have been threatened or attacked with guns, knives and other weapons.👉Marital rape may be broadly classified into following two categories:1.Sexual coercion by non-physical means– this form of coercion involves social coercion in which the wife is compelled to enter into sexual intercourse by reminding her of her duties as a wife. This form of coercion entails applying non-physical techniques and tactics like verbal pressure  like include making false promises, threatening to end the marital relationship, lies, not conforming to the victim’s protests to stop, etc.2. Forced sex– this involves the use of physical force to enter into sexual intercourse with an unwilling woman. It can be further classified into the following three categories:i. Battering Rape- this form of marital rape involves the use of aggression and force against the wife. The women are either battered during the sexual act itself or face a violent aggression after the coerced sexual intercourse. The beating may also occur before the sexual assault so as to compel her into sexual intercourse.ii. Force Only Rape- in this form of rape, the husband does not necessarily batter the wife, but uses as much force as is necessary to enter into sexual intercourse with the unwilling wife.iii. Obsessive Rape- this form of rape involves the use of force in sexual assault compiled with perverse acts against the wife. It involves a kind of sexual sadistic pleasure enjoyed by the husband.👉*Marital rape is illegal in 18 American States, 3 Australian States, New Zealand, Canada, Israel, France, Sweden, Denmark, Norway, Soviet Union, Poland and Czechoslovakia. In India, a marriage is a bond of trust and that of affection. A husband exercising sexual superiority, by getting it on demand and through any means possible, is not part of the institution. Legislators use results of research studies as an excuse against making marital rape an offence, which indicates that many survivors of marital rape, report flash back, sexual dysfunction, emotional pain, even years out of the violence and worse, they sometimes continue living with the abuser. For these reasons, even the latest report of the Law Commission has preferred to adhere to its earlier opinion of non-recognition of “rape within the bonds of marriage” as such a provision may amount top excessive interference wit the marital relationship. Rape in any form is an act of utter humiliation, degradation and violation rather than an outdated concept of penile/vaginal penetration. Restricting an understanding of rape reaffirms the view that rapists treat rape as sex and not violence and hence, condone such behavior in India. The importance of consent for every individual decision cannot be over emphasized. A woman can protect her right to life and liberty, but not her body, within her marriage, which is just ironical. Women so far have had recourse only to section 498-A of the IPC, dealing with cruelty, to protect themselves against “perverse sexual conduct by the husband”. But, where is the standard of measure or interpretation for the courts, of ‘perversion’ or ‘unnatural’, the definitions within intimate spousal relations? Is excessive demand for sex perverse? Isn’t consent a sine qua non? Is marriage a license to rape? There is no answer, because the judiciary and the legislature have been silent.👉*India’s parliamentarians just could not find it in them to treat married and unmarried women equally, on matters of rape. “Married women only have the option of using section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, which lays down provisions on cruelty, if they need to allege sexual violence against their husbands,” says Kavita Krishnan, secretary of the All India Progressive Women’s Association.And although Section 377 is known as the law which prohibits “gay sex,” it in fact prohibits “unnatural sex,” an act which can take place between straight people as well. “Sometimes women have used Section 377 if they want to press charges of rape against their husbands,” says Krishnan.Section 375, the provision of rape in the Indian Penal Code (IPC), has echoing very archaic sentiments, mentioned as its exception clause- “Sexual intercourse by  man with his own wife, the wife not being under 15 years of age, is not rape.” Criminal charges of sexual assault may be triggered by other acts, which may include genital contact with the mouth or anus or the insertion of objects into the vagina or the anus, all without the consent of the victim. It is a conscious process of intimidation and assertion of the superiority of men over women.👉*There are many reasons such as husband believe in the superiority of men over women; some domestic issues, demand of women for her right in a marital relationship etc. Therefore, the main reason of this marital menace is a wide spread of gender inequality prevailing in our society. The male-dominated system of social norms where woman whether married or unmarried does not have the equal rights in any which way. It is the biggest weapon in hands of man to exploit the women. The role of traditionally assigned to married women in the society. Indian married women are considered as pativratastri means pure, faithful and obliging women. Thus married women have to follow her husband and fulfil all his requirements. The sexual relationship has been considered as an important part of the marriage, it is a woman’s duty towards her husband and she is not supposed to deny that to him. Her rile must be of submission and surrender. Economic dependence on her husband and in-laws is the reason that married women are unable to protect her from frequent practice of marital rape and she is forced to bear it. There must be strict laws for marital rape and the government should make some rules to reduce this problem.Rajabala

DEEP IN MY HEART, EMBOSSED LIKE AN ART.
 21 March 2018  

She was married to a person she never loved. She never had a right to marry the person she loved. Even after all the years of fighting for her unfound love. She got married. Got married to a fake heart. A kind of heart which never came forward, letting the mind do it’s work. A work to undress a soul. With a right on that soul, every night he just used her body as a mode of entertainment. Something known as lust became his only mode of entertainment. Something known as lust became his only mode of living a happy life. Something known as lust became a mode of complete destruction of her life. Every night she felt like her soul is being 'raped'. Every night she saw a person on her bed with those devil horns. Waiting for her to undress herself. Every night she had nothing apart from missing the only person she loved was never made to be with her for a lifetime. All she was left with, was a shattered dream. A shattered love which had went far. So far that it could never be seen. All she could do to stay alive for her child is to keep a curve on her lips and never let that fake happiness disappear. All she could do to stay alive just to see a glimpse of her love was to prove love for her husband who never possessed a heart in him. All she dreamt for was the love which she got from someone who possessed a heart in him just for her. Been years of marriage but still her loyalty never let her fall in love with a person known as ‘her husband' who never possessed a heart. Well people say that sometimes things stolen are never found. Her heart was one of that kind. Which was stolen long back by someone who possessed a heart in him.A right that husband had. To undress her without her wish.A right that husband had. To make a lady, a naked doll. Just for fun.A right that husband had. To call that lady as his, ‘WIFE'. A right that husband had. To make his wife stay in his arms. Naked. For a lifetime.Been years of marriage but still her love for him. The husband. Never existed.Just like a time machine. Which never existed.True love never dies even after ages.Love is just like air. When it comes in front of lust. It’s never visible.©The Gumnaam Writer©The Part Tym HubbyI Be Your Pen, You Be My Words.#smblogcontest