Arrange marriages have always been an Indian concept, and we Indians have always been praising about it since long, basically because everybody else has been doing the same, or our parents. But here’s what I think, I think it’s a hugely over- rated concept. And let’s just accept it the way it is, it has nothing to do with patriotism.
Why am I saying that?
Well, let me explain.
First let’s understand the concept of marriage. What is it? It’s basically a union of two people, who are going to share the happiness, sorrows, ups, downs, love, and basically everything else in the life with each other for the rest of their lives.
As you just read, it’s pretty tough to choose someone who you have to live your rest of the life with. Here’s what happens in both the scenarios:
In this, the Parents of the Bride/ Groom search for a suitable person ( of the same caste, because same caste ka nahi hua, toh log kya kahengey? ) through basically pictures. That’s the first parameter. Selecting something basically through the looks. Like we select Bikes, Cars, Books, or particularly anything. After selecting a good looking model (Precise word, isn’t it?), The second parameter is meeting them. The Parties concerned meet for the first time and behave with each other as though they are nicest and most amazing person on this planet. Their good habits, their career prospects are basically the thing they talk about, or brag about. Coz, #TryingToImpressEachOther after this, the bride/ Groom decide whether to go in for the marriage or not.
If they say Yes, the marriage takes place after matching the kundlis and all. ( Yeah, coz matching Kundlis is more important than two people actually loving each other. )
Love marriage though is considered as a western concept, I am sure there must’ve been many couples in India, Ancient India too, who went for this. In this two people, who may or may not be of the same caste meet each other and hit off to a good conversation. They basically feel like spending more and more time with each other, they enjoy each other’s company. They argue sometimes, and sometimes go on a romantic dates. They take interest in each other’s likes, dislikes, favorites, habits, issues and basically fall in love with not only each other’s perfection, but also the flaws. Then they get married, after convincing each other’s parents.
As you read the description above, one thing is clear, Arranged Marriages are quite superficial, they begin by pictures, i.e Looks.
Love marriage, it grows naturally. None of the two people in love marriage, know that they are going to fall in love with each other in the beginning. Their connection is more natural and it hits off on the basis of conversation and interest in each other.
However, I am not saying arrange marriages are worst or a bad idea. In fact there are so many couples out there who got married with this concept and are happy. Though there are couples who are unhappy and divorced too.
So basically, marriage is like a lottery ticket, where you may or may not hit a perfect life partner.
But, at least in love marriage you know what that the lottery ticket would offer.
You already know about the person you are going to marry and you have so much of time to evaluate whether that person would keep you happy or not. Whether that person would understand you or not. Whether that person would accept all the flaws you have and appreciate all the amazing traits you possess.
Love Marriage also allows you to have a great love story to live with!
Moreover, It is very blissful to live your life with a person you know and love, isn't it?