Person working in MNC with more than 50 lacs annual package like to have only one child or remain issue less. Labourers and other lower class of society on other hand with meagre income has more children to contribute to family income. Where is our society heading?. Self centéred and selfish people have only one motive to enjoy life alone. They have no idea to contribute to society, or community. One day there will be domination of labour force, uncivilized persons, criminals etc due to their increasing population, making living of civilized people a hell. This is witnessed in Delhi where crime rate has accelerated due increasing population of certain class who are criminal, uncivilized etc belonging to the surrounding states like up, bihar, Mp.
Love Of My Life by Rohit Sharma is the Story of Virat Singh Rajput, an Ex-Major who accepts the guilt of the murder of three people. Vaishnavi Pandit,Criminal Defense Lawyer who was keen to know the facts of the case, dug the deeper layers of Virat’s heart by mentioning the name of his love Pratishthato know the motive behind these murders. What made a sincere army officer turn to be a brutal murderer? What was the motive behind these murders? What is the motive of Vaishnavi to make Virat acquitted? To know more about this journey of love, romance, patriotism, agony, envy, revenge, give it read guys. The story and narrative style made my reading smooth and easy. The title and cover are quite apt to the plot. Characterization is clean and perfect. The author did a fabulous job.
The plot is gripping and engrossing as it takes the readers into the world of crime, murder, and evil psychopath - Kansa. Forty pregnant women have been murdered along with their unborn children over a long span of time by Kansa. ACP Desai has been given the responsibility to solve this complex mystery.
You Are Whole - In Gita Verse 3.31 Those persons who execute their duties according to My injunctions and who follow this teaching faithfully, without envy, become free from the bondage of fruitive actions.This verse of Krishna we will understand from our routine life.We are living in the family. Family has certain discipline to follow. Without discipline you cannot fulfill everyone's requirements and allow everyone to grow. Now when every member of the family will follow that discipline. Means they will yes and no for the discipline and then only they will act.Family is small and tiny universe. The whole universe through various resources provide us life and it has to see that everything is aligned with each other, so everyone can live and grow. Till animal evolution and from human beings grow in consciousness. The way in which family head carry responsibility of family, universe is carrying the responsibility of everything. When universe decide and create certain circumstances it is for whole and not as fragmented. It looks for everyone’s interest. If our act in that circumstances is an act of our assignment of that moment, our act is not of bandage.Look from different angle. If terrorist comes and to defend yourself and your community, society, nation and world if you kill him, is it wrong? Or you help some helpless lady who has been raped and kill the others are you criminal? No. it becomes your responsibility to act and protect. So in that there is no sin or virtue. There is no bondage in that act. It is from your responsibility towards yourself, community, society, nation and world you acted.Krishna is saying to Arjuna the same thing, you are part of the whole, what the whole decide for this moment your mind cannot understand it. You become self-aware and connect yourself with your subjectivity, so that you are connected with whole, me, and then you will find there is no bondage, but freedom. Bondage exists only in the resistance to growth. Take the example of seed, if it resist to undergo transformation as tree it is bondage but if it allows to transformation as tree there is no bondage it’s freedom, it’s growth. Seed manifesting as tree and tree again merging in seed is whole. Is holy.For Lao Tzu. There is no other holiness. It is not a cultivation of religious ritual and it is not even a cultivation of morality. It has nothing to do with character. Holiness means a life that is whole; a life that has not denied anything, a life that knows no denial, a life that has not said no to anything, a life that accepts, accepts the opposites, a life that doesn’t choose. A life that is choiceless is holy. Holy comes from the same root as whole. If you are whole you are holy, and if you are whole it means you are at the same time life and death also. You don’t hide the fact of death and you don’t try to hide your inner hollowness, emptiness. You don’t try to fill it with rubbish. You enjoy the purity of emptiness also. Nothing is as pure as emptiness, nothing can be – because whenever there is something, impurity enters. Only emptiness can be absolutely pure.But we are so afraid of emptiness. It is so difficult to be alone because one starts feeling one’s emptiness. Then you seek friends, then you seek lovers, and the whole effort from the very beginning is doomed – because a man who is afraid of his emptiness cannot really love. He is afraid. Deep down there is fear. How can he love? When he moves and pretends that he is in love with somebody he is just trying to escape from himself, his own emptiness. He is trying to forget that somewhere inside there is emptiness and nothingness. He is trying to fill that emptiness with somebody’s presence – and the other is also doing the same.Don’t be afraid of this emptiness, connect yourself with this emptiness, through your breath, and you are connected with your subjectivity. You become whole.Krishna tells Arjuna to become self-conscious, connect with your subjectivity, act through your body is whole process like seed to tree and again tree to seed. Don’t resist. You will be whole, holy. In that there will not be any bondage, but your body will be vehicle for this moment’s respond by universe. Whole will act through you.
Chhaupadi (Nepali: छाउपडी )It is a social tradition associated with the menstrual taboo in the western part of Nepal. The tradition prohibits Hindu women from participating in normal family activities while menstruating, as they are considered "impure". The women are kept out of the house and have to live in a cattle shed or in a hut. This period of time lasts between ten and eleven days when an adolescent girl has her first period; thereafter, the duration is between four and seven days each month. As per the social custom, women who are unmarried have to stay six days in the hut, married women having both a son and a daughter have to stay five days, and women who have only daughters will have to live for seven days in the hut. During this time, women are forbidden to touch men or even to enter the courtyard of their own homes. They are barred from consuming milk, yogurt, butter, meat, and other nutritious foods, for fear they will forever pollute those goods. The women must survive on a diet of dry foods, salt, and rice. They cannot use warm blankets and are allowed only a small rug; most commonly, this is made of jute (also known as burlap). They are also restricted from going to school or performing daily functions like taking a bath. They are not even allowed to bathe from the tap, in wells or rivers during that period of time. In some villages, there are separate taps and wells for the women. They are completely barred from going near the temple; if a road is even linked to a temple, a menstruating woman has to choose a different path.This system comes from the superstition of impurity during the menstruation period. In this superstitious logic, if a menstruating woman touches a tree, it will never again bear fruit; if she consumes milk, the cow will not give any more milk; if she reads a book, Saraswati, the goddess of education, will become angry; if she touches a man, he will be sick. There is a strong belief among locals that if women are allowed to stay inside the home during their menstrual period it would bring misfortunes for members of family and the family members will fall sick. Male members of the family believe the custom must be followed to avoid any bad luck. Senior members of families and village elders are firm in this tradition, while the young, educated generation cannot gather the courage to challenge this custom.Reports indicate that more than 90 percent of women in Nepal’s far-western and mid-western districts follow the Chhaupadi tradition, whether due to social pressure or according to their own wishes. As they are compelled to sleep in poorly constructed and dirty huts, these women face health problems and other risks. Woman who live in the huts are always at risk of diarrhea, pneumonia, and respiratory diseases. While living in the isolated huts, they also face the danger of attack by wild animals, snake bite or even abuse and rape by their fellow villagers. Women have died while performing the practice, including two young women in late 2016 who died from smoke inhalation and "carbon monoxide poisoning" from lighting fires to heat the shelters during cold weather.Following pressure from rights activists, last year Nepal’s parliament enacted a law labeling Chhaupadi a criminal act. As per the new law, people who force their family members to live in sheds are subject to legal actions. Nepal’s Supreme Court had directed the government to make laws criminalizing Chhaupadi all the way back in 2005; it took more than a decade to formulate the laws. Now that the laws are in place, the challenge is in effective implementation. It is not easy to implement laws to prevent long- standing customs like Chhaupadi. In comparison to the past, there have been some changes in urban areas but such practices are still rampant in rural areas. In this region, it is very difficult to change the mindset of even educated people. Local politicians and political parties can play a vital role in creating awareness at the local level about the harms of this custom. However, politicians are often reluctant to highlight this issue because they fear of losing the support of common people. Parliamentarians rarely raise such issues in the national parliament; instead they want to conceal such social issues. Some non-governmental organizations at the local level and some government agencies are creating awareness, asking people to shun Chhaupadi, but due to the lack of support and backing from politicians, their campaigns have not been effective.Source: Kamal Dev Bhattarai (Kathmandu-based writer and journalist)Rajabala
I stood at railway platform.the trains were running late. the luggage compartment adjacent lady compartment. No signs of the trains coming announce was showing. Platform was getting crowded .one by one public increases. beggars , sellers, fruit sellers, fish sellers,nostalgic stench spread everywhere. Dirty smell of sweating also mixed with it. women perfumed face looked like a wilted wrinkled face.It Was rumoured of male child stolen cases from the hospital or nursing home. if male child stolen from public places, the voice rose against it. Such like rumour and confusion filled platform.one ragged saree wore woman stood on the platform. waiting for the train. She stood with child. Which was crying at platform. child missing is not new in mumbai like places ....in that case she mocking of breast feeding to chest. she held child into both arms as embrace him like hugging or meet each other position.Climax was going on when. One aged woman looks at her behavior when she realizes that she just play fake role of mother of breastfeeding ..even child...not stop crying.She caught her hand. She fumbled her sareelet to see if she actually covered Child under it. She did not feed children. Her blouse part was close. Women who follow her.she was a ragged woman.she still observing her behaviour her movement was oscillating. Her nervousness was increasing. one by one her heart pounded, her strokes pulsated. moment by moment it increased.Her criminal looks detected on obscured face. now she thought that her plan would be disclosed before public.Handkerchief gangs was there waiting with strolley babysitter.it by used often including woman, standing near luggage box. that people who sells second hand mobile and even theft drifting mobile used to sell at dadar TT station beside.They mostly sells baby toys and suchlike thing.That day ganesh festival was arrived.that hustle and bustle was carrying on platform. train also late. it added confusion fuel into it. Railway under misunderstanding between railway and traveler.Handkerchief gang hurry seemed. Because they have to go first to set up show before ganesh decoration mandal.there collected a lots up people. gathered to see decoration. they traverse at junction.then got off to dadar. And some at thane station. Many couple group divided into them. they parted into couple every station. There they got more crowded. there could sell more things. Lady train announcer blared on speaker. it was extremely sorry for the inconvenience caused to local traveller due to train late going to cst. the train arriving on platform no 2 was late due to some technical problem.it causing local traveller work slow down.faced tomorrow works burden. it added into extra work. No extra expenses given by company. For train late or ...some excuses for worker in decreasing burden of today's not postpone.Some are get tension if delivery not reach on time. it will forfeits us Small business holder also scratching heads because they have no other option but train mediumThey think that goods or order not despatch on the transport it will be cancelled by party tomorrow any how it must reach to party any force any transport medium not in handy as train as it consume low budget to get destinationit is convenient to anybody in budget formBeggar was in tension because they have to reach smart station if he wanted to earn more money Here people already get into tensed so nobody was interested pay alms as money to beggars.So beggar also pray to god to run trains on time.And work run smoothly and fastly and tomorrow.Her suspension grew quickly. her look upon her behaviour ....child not sucking milk from mother breast.....both part are empty ...she never tried even to get tensed on her face. no emotion no any disposition impress upon her faceNo any clue that she is the mother of her child .except she holds child in her enclosed breast.Why she behave like in alarmed.Well middle aged woman was looking every angle into her disposition.She inspected her.she doubted and suspected on her and confirmed her doubt.She screamed at top bottom ofmouth. she clutched her hand tossed her sarees lace hitched and moved away with some brave movement ...she crossed her eye toward public to see that ..it gave sudden movement of attraction at crowd ..as well sarees clad woman shouted at her ...no sooner station did get crowd ..Somebody asked in question remark.....what happen lady.....Middle Class woman said ...show her finger toward ragged woman ...disclosed matter before publicShe said....that woman has abducted child with her ...i follow her since she absconding childShe run away from behind slum locality. When i noticed her i just follow her until last she come station ...she didn't know any ideas that i watched on her....when she waiting i declared and asked her more time ...she was silence and dumb cow felt ....Railway police come ......they both and lady home guard. Caught her both hands brought to inquiry officeWell middle class woman also with her ....some married and unmarried woman added to mob..also support the matterSenior railway officer come .asked Cohered matter rigidlyLarge middle aged gathered nowSome are out of the office to see matter Some parted thinking if matter did worsen the police would be cross examined who with them Som some people was not mingling into this matter instead they get information outside box inquiringSome didn't know what happened platform afraid of police will be make Witness responsible by cross checked more time ....so many people not interfered into such like ....money stealing ..gold snatching ..money pocket picker. .such like matter no people get together to support it and help to police also against people and support to criminal ..most criminals are cigarette and chorus smoker..so police get them released next dayCuriosity viewer,Drew near to what happen on the platformThree star police came to solve matterOn duty railway police indicated main control of incident She was aghast,....! at the surrounding lookers and people police in enquiring mood in their eye seeing Middle aged woman snatching child from her breast Noticed and observed child and screamed out of loud… "A male child"'His face Look like foreigner ...grey hair brown face,'Now matter become worse .it case of child stealing, somebody said,Outsider.Who to blame now ..how to judge it.Such woman must remanded to custody room and still felt her guilty about crime she done..such not done on the spotShe was stretched to inquiry room ...it was shift change of some morning police to be ready to go home and new charge had been surrendered to new duty officer on the time of crime She was alarmed and speaking and murmuring in south indian language ....so nobody understands her languageOne woman come who know her mother tongue she blurred in that language. Tied her hair bunch in grip. Moving her head toward up and down motion and jostling and jerking on the ground .clapped on her mouth very rapidly .but she could not speakShe even say everyone this is my child ......my own ...child .......if this is your child. Why not feed her Child was crying with hunger and weeping very root of stomach..getting swoon due to the stench of hungerOne woman came ahead and held her hand above her blouse part and pressed her milk part with pinch movement in so rapidly it sprank milk everybody oozed milk over breast....She confirmed that she had a child of her own ..but how decide that ..that child belongs to her except she have milk in her breast.....So confused was it is..! How to solve this ...One woman force her to say real story ...after a long pause she took big sighShe rubbed away her sweat dropping from eyelid due to crying eyeShe forward herself ahead and started to narrated her storyOne day she was working as housework and family owner clutched my hand and said that you would get pregnant for baby for a year family heirHe promised me lots up money to give me I was ready to become a surrogate mother. of child to give an heir to that family. and he hired me for a year in his house as penguest wife slept with him ...and one day i got pregnant for him.After eleven month my name was registered in private hospital. for my serving and take care thy appointed private nurse for me to take my care.I gave birth for the first time. I become a mother of a child. I know first time experience feeling of mother what, mother is! I was very excited that time. it was not legally child mother. I gave birth to a child, but it belongs to another mother.in child, as my part was in that just to give birth. child had new mother and father then I took leave that day from child. without feed my breast milk for the first time. nurse feeding child of bottled milk. They banned to give my breast milk to child..if child test it they will be fed on breast alway to child.They put me away from child after child took sigh they never shown me my child face for the first time how it looks.i want to look my child face ..but nobody to listen me that dayBecause i was hired mother of child .....just to give birth ..that my work ...for that i paid for it..But in me one mother was hidden in my inner form ..i could not control that feeling of touch ...it become part of blood ...I left the house the next day after seven day...i was staying in next to building behind near slum areas...also working in that house as female servant ...first time lady owner who possess my baby looks happy and enjoying ..i was working household works that day ...the cries of baby caught by me. it fell on my ears. i could not control emotion.i heaved heart rending sigh ...i could not live without my child ...i nourished into my mother's womb since 12 month and still could not touch him.I want my child ..want my child ...feed milk but ..child could not suck milk ....i tried when houselady was out of house for party and she submitted child authority on me ...but child could not suck breast milk ..i tried hard but failed it.My child could suck milk ...he has a habit of bottled milk ...so that he could not suck breast nipple.it felt him very soft to feel.i am surrogate mother ...i am not his mother...i sold my womb for few money ...sold myself ...What can do for that it was six month for that incident my breast was filling with milk day after day and i have to waste and l collected my breast milk by pressing breast and outthrow it ..How can i live without my child One day in got chance ...nobody in house except me and child ....i took child and fled with him toward railway station This woman saw me when i was running very rapidly and quicklyShe caught me and asked me ...but I refused her said anything ..then she clutched my hand and got rid of her hand by hissed and jerked poisedAll viewers and public hearing and stunned what actually happened.she was just half crouching over foot and pressed child tightly to chest there, standstill and motionless...few minutes everything grew serious atmosphere over face something like great sorrow fell over everyone.Surrogate mother ....said by bystander.New duty officer was late home because his duty hour was over since last two hour.next incharge duty officer was waiting in the line.Now train problem of late is solved ...train coming started on the time now ...people on the platform was now slowly and quickly less crowded seemed.Now platform was totally dispersed with passenger ...
Respected Sirs,SUBJECT :- Cleaning of Society by Confession and Forgiving, Opportunity of Self Punishment or PRAYSCHIT, ReformationDHARM KI STHAPNA, is the hour of need. We are in minus, having numerous problems. How much minus? Unascertainable, endless ? Where to start to overcome these problems, no definite way is visible ? One major problem is of dishonesty. I hereby take liberty to suggest a way to overcome this problem. We may try to build a platform. We may restart our civilization. First, we declare ourselves to be on Zero. At different times, Government had launched Voluntary Disclosure of Income and Wealth Schemes (called VDS, VDIS, VIDS, Amnesty, etc.), first in 1951, second & third in 1965, fourth in 1975 and fifth in 1997. The broad objectives of all the VDSs were to unearth the undisclosed income & wealth, provide opportunity to the past evaders of tax to adopt the path of rectitude & civic responsibility, to mobilize resources and to channelise funds into priority sectors of the economy. Though the financial outcome of the VDSs of 1975 & 1997 might had been good, but, from the present scenario, you can very well visualize that, apart from collection of some earthed money (that too, of individuals own choice), none of the other objectives (in particular, returning to the path of rectitude & civic responsibility) were / have been achieved. Please introduce some more schemes. Scheme – I This time, scheme should be, not to only disclose the undisclosed income & wealth, but, a scheme of confession / declaration of every dishonesty / financial sin, including disclosure of all bad / black money / assets and surrender thereof. Percentage of surrender be fixed. Government will have to assign / designate this work to some department/s, which shall work as fast track courts in every district or even in rural areas, by taking cognizance of confession / declaration, by taking possession of surrendered money / assets, thereby implying compounding of offences, and forgiving / acquitting the declarant. However, such designated courts may have the power not to acquit such declarants, whose cases are linked with our Country’s security and integrity. This scheme be the last opportunity to us to return to the path of rectitude and civic responsibility. From the date of announcement of the scheme, dishonesty be put to strict vigil and immediate & deterrent punishment, which be continued for ever. After the closure of scheme, the non-declarants of bad / black money be searched, that money / assets be seized / disgorged and they be put for time bound trial before the fast track courts. Besides the black money in our Country, it has been reported (as read in newspapers) that the black money of over Rs.25 (some say Rs.70) Lakhs Crores of our Country was stashed in Swiss banks. This staggering amount of black money is a big hole in the national exchequer and the same can be diverted to the Country’s growth. Amazingly, each of 6 Lakhs villages in our Country would get a share of Rs.4 to Rs.10 Crores if the full amount of black money is retrieved, only from Swiss banks. Now is the time for Government to regain the black money, for which, aforesaid proposed scheme may be first used. Scheme – II In criminal cases, guilt may be divided in 5 categories e.g. negligible guilt, minor guilt, middle class guilt, major guilt and very major guilt. Cases may be discontinued / acquitted in the event of negligible guilt. Offences of minor and / or middle class guilt may be decided by consent orders by payments of expenses / costs & monetary penalties to the courts and damages / compensation to the complainants, by the accuseds. Cases of major guilt and very major guilt be decided in a maximum period of 02 years (one year at Lower Court, six months at High Court and six months at Supreme Court). Scheme – III All the civil disputes be first referred to system of jury / arbitration, where jury members / arbitrators, in each dispute, should first work towards an amicable settlement / conciliation and if the parties do not settle amicably, jury members / arbitrators will pronounce Order / Arbitration Award. Thereafter, there may be time bound court proceedings of maximum one year, upto the level of Supreme Court. This had been provided in CPC Amendment Bill of year 2000, which, probably, was put in THANDA BASTA / scrapped. Decree and Execution be clubbed. All, at least by heart, will welcome, these schemes, because they will have the opportunity for GANGA SANAN. Over 3 Crores cases are pending in courts across our Country. Clearing the backlog of cases is one of the biggest challenges. These schemes will substantially reduce the number of cases and will ease the burden of judiciary and all concerned & investigating departments of Government. Only by honesty, all plans of Government will truly reach to goal, including vision of Rural India. When honesty will prevail, there will be action (KARM) and that action will be in right direction & spirit. Government should do it. Victory is where justice reigns. With regards, Sincerely yours
Who is You?This is a basic question on Identity we all ask and l think there are some confusion about finding true identity. We make an identity on how we represent us to ourself or to the world.If we are good at something ,our proficiency in our skills becomes our identity.now let's me question what was your identity when you're born ? That time you didn't have any ,you were just a baby and your intellect was not fully developed to understand what is happening actually.And it is said we have to creat our identity ,we are not born with one, it depends on several stages for different individuals.so its clear there is no absolute identity ,it changes with time.So if something changes with time, should we be attached to it too much? I think no.Think you are a prized athlete,but due to accident ,you lost your both legs what will be your identity then,you can never run.people will forget your name gradually and someone will take your place.If I ask you what are you now,you will say "I am nobody" because you lost your skill of running,the way you represent yourself to the world ,and it's their response,if they give positive response you will call it achievements and you are so emotionally attached to it that you became nothing without it.But your identity should not depend the way you represent to the world and their response to it.May be after you lost your legs you found out you are good at writing also ,and then you identify yourself from athlete to writer,but at least you should keep the zeal inside you to find out,you've lost legs but you are not dead yet.I'm giving you another example think you are a director of a well known company ,and you keep your lifestyle , attitude that way because you want to feel it and want to make it yours permanently but one day the CEO of your company fires you.what is your identity then ,you were a director now you are jobless.Identity should not depend on anybody and no one can take your identity if you don't depend on others this is how we should be? How can this world decide what you are only you should know what you are.We creat identity so it can drive us and in doing so we can achieve something greater and impossible in our life but inside we get crazy and we lose our balance.The audience or viewer will not understand this,they will clap and appreciate you for your achievements but it's you ,you will hurt yourself if you identify yourself.do not do something because it drives you to make things happen,but because it makes you happy.And always remember If society gives you identity they can take it too. You have no control on them so it is not wise to give them power to make your identity.We all know about Ludwig van Beethoven,who lost hearing at the age of 46 .We all remember him as a great musician and many of us dream to be like him,but actually heattempted suicide because he lost the gift which he possessed at the highest.He can't play the only thing he played his entire lifetime,his piano.But afterwards he tried to find meaning in art, painting and writing.We all see how they represent themselves to us but after knowing their personal crisis and feeling their malady,you certainly wont wish to die like them.So don't fix your identity,you can do anything.this is the reason the subject line is "Who is you" not "Who are you".It's not a grammatical mistake.most of you know what your are taught to fit in this world,and in doing that we lose our speciality and become very unaware about the True "You".So there is another "you" hides inside you and I am asking you to reveal that third person "you" inside.Identity creats ego so don't take it too seriously.When we identify ourself with something we try to keep our image what we created at any cost consciously or unconsciously and the protective barrier we creat for that is Ego.So there is no particular identity which you can hold,you can be identified with anything.Thats the reason we have many identities, national identity, social identity , ethnic identity,personal identity and many more.You can be a bad ass criminal ,a beloved father,an escape artist and an immigrant ,you are all untill you decide what you take for yourself.You are nobody but you are not insignificant.The way I see is there should not have any identity, because our abilities are limitless.I believe everyone comes in this Earth for a certain job, we all are special at something and we need to find that, nourish that in time and work on that,which will finally make us happy.There is no absolute identity so there is no need to be attached with one,because you are not your mind neither your body you are gifted with consciousness and awareness about yourself and your surrounding and the more we are aware the more we will understand about Life.Identity is not for human beings,it's for objects because you can't change a object,it's fixed but you can change yourself.Do your job ,make an impact,and live happily ,this should be our purpose.Other things like fame, popularity ,wealth , identity might come or might not.Imagine there are billions of living cells inside you and they are doing their job so you can breathe,so Live well.
Imitation - In Gita Verse 2.54 Arjuna said: O Kṛṣṇa, what are the symptoms of one whose consciousness is thus merged in transcendence? How does he speak, and what is his language? How does he sit, and how does he walk?Arjuna’s query is from the mind. He asked regarding the person whose consciousness is thus merged in transcendence. How he will speak, his language, walk and sit. All this is imitations. Nothing to do with your own transformation. He thinks that by asking this question and then knowledge of all the etiquette if I will follow then I will be back in my consciousness. This is an illusion. Nothing can happen on the contrary we fall more.Arjuna wanted to imitate:Imitation is very easy, and the whole culture and society depends on imitation. Everybody is telling you how to behave, and whatsoever they are teaching you is nothing but imitation. Religious people - the so-called religious people, the priests, the theologians - they are also teaching you, "Be like Jesus, be like Buddha, be like Krishna." Nobody ever tells you, "Just be yourself" - nobody. Everybody is against you, it seems. Nobody allows you to be yourself, nobody gives you any freedom. You can be in this world, but you must imitate somebody.People are imitative and imitation is bound to be unintelligent. They want to do exactly the things which others are doing. That destroys their freshness. Do things in your own style; live your life according to your own light. And even if the same situation arises, be alert to find a new response. It is only a question of a little alertness, and once you have started enjoying... and it is really a great joy to respond to old situations always in a new way, because that newness keeps you young, keeps you conscious, keeps you non-mechanical, keeps you alive.Imitation is a substitute for understanding, and a very poor substitute. If understanding is there, there is no question of imitating or of following: you will follow understanding. Keep this very clear: if you follow your understanding, you will be following me. By and by you will see that your path and my path are running parallel. By and by you will see that you are following me if you follow your understanding. If you follow me and forget your understanding sooner or later you will see that I am gone and you are left in darkness. The real way to follow me is not to follow me but to follow your understanding - then even when I am gone you will be following me. It looks paradoxical but Zen is paradoxical.The characteristic of the first sort of religion is imitation. It insists on imitation: imitate Buddha, imitate Christ, imitate Mahavir, but imitate. Imitate somebody. Don't be yourself, be somebody else. And if you are very stubborn you can force yourself to be somebody else. You will never be somebody else. Deep down you cannot be. You will remain yourself, but you can force so much that you almost start looking like somebody else.With imitation let’s understand a few things about illusion. Illusion means to see as it is not. Truth means to see as it is. Whatsoever we see is illusion, because we involve ourselves in our seeing; our experience does not remain objective, it becomes subjective. Whatsoever is out there, it does not reach us as it is. Our mind distorts it, embellishes it, ornaments it, prunes it – making it bigger or smaller and changing it into many, many forms.The biggest change and the deepest illusion is that we associate ourselves with everything, which in fact we are not associated with at all. As soon as we are associated the reality is lost and the dream projection starts appearing true. For example, we call a thing ‘mine’ – ‘my house’… the house which was there when we were not and which will still be there when we will be no more. Something that can be before I am, and will continue after I am not, which does not disappear with my disappearance – how can it be ‘mine’? If I die this moment my house does not collapse or disappear, in fact it will not even know that I have died – then what kind of association can there be between myself and that house? What is the relationship? Tomorrow someone else will live in that same house and call it ‘mine’. Yesterday somebody else was living in it and he was calling it ‘mine’. Who knows how many people have stuck their ‘I’ on that house, and have passed away? But that ‘I’ never sticks onto the house, and that house does not belong to anybody; the house belongs to itself.In this world everything belongs to its own self. If we can understand this properly, we shall be able to shatter the illusions easily.Arjuna when wanted to imitate he forgets - Each man is born with a unique individuality, and each man has a destiny of his own. Imitation is crime, it is criminal. If you try to become a Buddha, you may become an imitation Buddha. You may look like Buddha, you may walk like Buddha, you may talk like Buddha, but you will miss. You will miss all that life was ready to deliver to you. Because Buddha happens only once. It is not in the nature of things to repeat. God is so creative that He never repeats anything. You cannot find another human being in the present, in the past, or in the future, who is going to resemble you exactly. It has never happened. Man is not a mechanism. He is not like Ford cars on an assembly line; you can produce millions alike, exactly alike. Man is a soul, is individual. Imitation is poisonous. Never imitate anybody, otherwise you will be a victim of the first sort of religion, which is not religion at all.
At least nine persons were killed and scores injured Monday as Dalit anger exploded on the streets in different parts of the country on the day the Centre filed a petition in the Supreme Court, asking it to review its March 20 order that called for changes in the Scheduled Castes and Scheduled Tribes (Prevention of Atrocities) Act.Protesting this alleged dilution of the law, Dalits tried to enforce a Bharat Bandh and its impact was felt most in Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh, Rajasthan, and Punjab. They repeatedly clashed with police and blocked rail and road traffic at several places. In the violence that followed, vehicles and public properties, including police posts, were torched.Places in Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh, Bihar, Jharkhand, Rajasthan, Punjab and Haryana witnessed buses being set on fire, trains stopped, curfews imposed and internet services restricted, even as police cane-charged protesters. The Centre has already filed a review petition against the changes made to the Act by the SC to "prevent its misuse", and Union Law MinisterRavi Shankar Prasad on Monday said the government will argue the matter with “full authority”.But the protests we are witnessing across most of the country are not just over the Act. They are born of an anger that has been gathering momentum over the years — sparked by various incidents and allowed to fester, even aggravated, by an insensitive government.According to the latest available National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) data, crimes against SCs went up by 5.5 percent in 2016 (40,801) over 2015 (38,670). Crimes against Scheduled Tribes saw a spike of 4.7 percent, (6,568 in 2016 over 6,276 in 2015). According to a study of the same data, in India, a crime is committed against Dalits every 15 minutes, and six Dalit women are raped every day.Of these thousands of incidents, some emerged as flashpoints over the past two-three years, witnessing a coming together of Dalits and the emergence of a younger, vocal leadership.Dalit groups across the country have taken to the streets, declaring a “Bharat Bandh” in response to the alleged “dilution” of the Scheduled Castes (SC) and Scheduled Tribes (ST) (Prevention of Atrocities) Act 1989, after the Supreme Court on March 20, 2018, banned automatic arrests and registration of criminal cases under the legislation which seeks to protect members of scheduled castes and tribes against discrimination and abuse.On the one hand, Union law minister Ravi Shankar Prasad, under pressure from both the Opposition and within the NDA announced that the government does not agree with the Supreme Court's decision and has filed a strong, comprehensive review petition. (Opposition leader Rahul Gandhi had said, “It is in the DNA of the RSS/BJP to keep Dalits at the lowest level in Indian society. Anyone who challenges this thought is crushed with violence. Our Dalit brothers and sisters are today on the streets demanding protection of their rights from the Modi Government. We salute them.”)On the other hand, the agitations on the street have taken a turn for the violent.Madhya PradeshAs per reports, the protests have left four dead in Madhya Pradesh's Morena, adding that curfew had been imposed in the area. In Madhya Pradesh, curfew was also imposed in parts of Gwalior and Section 144 (prohibiting assembly of more than four people in the area) in Sagar. Madhya Pradesh's Bhind also witnessed stone pelting and vandalism. Shots were also fired during protests in Gwalior.PunjabIn Punjab, the Amarinder Singh government has stepped up security measures, including deferring the CBSE Class 10 and Class 12 examinations. "Taking cognizance of the letter of the director general (school education), the CBSE decided to postpone all class 12 and 10 examinations scheduled for April 2, 2018, in the state of Punjab," it said in a statement issued late in last night. The Punjab government also ordered the suspension of bus services and mobile internet services.Delhi and Uttar PradeshAs per a PTI report, Dalit protesters squatted on tracks in several places outside Delhi, stopping trains, including the Dehradun Express and the Ranchi Rajdhani, as part of their agitation. Many trains, such as Saptakranti Express, Utkal Express and the Bhubaneswar and Ranchi Rajdhani as well as the Kanpur Shatabdi, were stopped ahead of Ghaziabad in Meerut and Modinagar.Clashes also broke out between the protesters and the police in Meerut, Uttar Pradesh. Mobs also disrupted trains at the Hapur station, where the movement of many goods trains was affected.Other statesAnd not just MP, things are far from calm across the country. In Jaipur, Rajasthan, a showroom was vandalized. In addition, clashes between the protestors and the police broke out in Ranchi, Jharkhand. Protestors in Odisha's Sambalpur blocked the movement of trains. As violence remains unchecked, reports suggest that at least three people, including two policemen, were injured during a “lathi charge” in Ajmer, Rajasthan after the protestors attacked first with stones.Reports also suggest that a youth died in police firing in Alwar and internet services have been suspended in the area. While there has been criticism for the arson, the vandalism, and the violence, the “Bharat Bandh” in general has received the support of many. After all, atrocities against Dalits, Bahujans, and Adivasis in the country have certainly seen a spike — it is hard to deny this sad reality considering the year began with mass violence against Dalits in Bhima-Koregaon.The merits, demerits and the inconveniences of a countrywide “bandh” can debate all day long. What is, however, more important, is to understand the potential harm caused by the Supreme Court in its attempt to “prevent misuse of law”.The SC/ST Act remains in place because of millennia of systemic oppression that continues to make its presence felt even in this supposed “post-caste” India of 2018.
Clay Jensen does not know why Hannah Baker devoted rashness, but he is round to find out. Beforehand she died, Hannah noted a set of cassette tapes, one sideways for each of the 13 reasons she picked to take her life. Each aim narrates to a person.
**Marital Rape**it refers to unwanted intercourse by a man with his wife obtained by force, threat of force, or physical violence, or when she is unable to give consent. It is a non-consensual act of violent perversion by a husband against the wife where she is physically and sexually abused. Approximations have quoted that every 6 hours; a young married woman is burnt or beaten to death, or driven to suicide from emotional abuse by her husband. The UN Population Fund states that more than 2/3rds of married women in India, aged between 15 to 49 have been beaten, raped or forced to provide sex. In 2005, 6787 cases were recorded of women murdered by their husbands or their husbands’ families. 56% of Indian women believed occasional wife-beating to be justified.While marital rape gets documented in hospitals, cases are rarely registered, since it is excluded from the India Penal Code’s (IPC) definition of rape, says an analysis by Dilaasa, a counselling centre based out of K.B. Bhabha Hospital in Bandra. “Very rarely do patients tell us about marital rape. In a few cases, we see injuries and probe them. They are not aware this is wrong There is a pattern to the silence: women stay quiet about the assault when young, but are willing to report it at a later stage.’In the present day, studies indicate that between 10 and 14% of married women are raped by their husbands. Sexual assault by one’s spouse accounts for approximately 25% of rapes committed. Of the 664 cases, 159 cases were marital rape in 2015 at NGO Sneha’s crisis counselling centre in Dharavi. At Sneha’s counselling centres at KEM and Sion hospitals, of 218 cases of domestic violence received in 2015, 64 women said they had faced marital rape. Dilaasa analysed 13 cases of sexual violence from the emergency rooms of two of Mumbai’s public hospitals, Rajawadi in Ghatkopar, and Bhabha between 2011 and 2014 and found that only in five instances did the police register a case, mostly under Section 498 (A) (domestic violence), or the contentious Section 377 (unnatural offences). Dilaasa’s domestic violence data shows 60% married women report sexual violence, forced sex being its most common form. Dilaasa notes, “In almost all the cases, the police delay the collection of medical evidence from these hospitals and also do not wish to record an FIR. Union Minister Maneka Gandhi said that even if there was a law against marital rape, women won’t report it. According to the latest National Health and Family Survey (NFHS-4) for 2015-16, 5.4% women have experienced marital rape, under this category. But while the data on marital rape in India exists, marital rape as a crime, “does not exist”. And yet 5.4% of married Indian women say they have experienced marital rape. The figure recorded by NFHS-3 for 2005-6 was 9.5%. Sexual violence of course gets progressively worse if the husband is an alcoholic – 66% of married women experienced physical or sexual violence when “husband gets drunk often”. But only 10% of married victims of sexual violence seek help.The situation is worst in Manipur, 55% of married Manipuri women have been victims to these kinds of violence. Sikkim has the lowest number of victims at 3.5%. The National Health and Family Survey records both sexual and non sexual violence. The survey has looked at married women in the age group of 15-49. The highest form of non-sexual violence comes from men slapping women – 25% of women surveyed said they have been slapped. In all, 12% of married women said they have been pushed, shaken and have had things thrown at them. 10% said the husbands have pulled their arms or hair. Another 7.5% said they have been punched with fists or objects and 7% said they have been kicked, dragged and beaten up. More so, 1.5% said they have been choked or burnt and 0.8% said they have been threatened or attacked with guns, knives and other weapons.👉Marital rape may be broadly classified into following two categories:1.Sexual coercion by non-physical means– this form of coercion involves social coercion in which the wife is compelled to enter into sexual intercourse by reminding her of her duties as a wife. This form of coercion entails applying non-physical techniques and tactics like verbal pressure like include making false promises, threatening to end the marital relationship, lies, not conforming to the victim’s protests to stop, etc.2. Forced sex– this involves the use of physical force to enter into sexual intercourse with an unwilling woman. It can be further classified into the following three categories:i. Battering Rape- this form of marital rape involves the use of aggression and force against the wife. The women are either battered during the sexual act itself or face a violent aggression after the coerced sexual intercourse. The beating may also occur before the sexual assault so as to compel her into sexual intercourse.ii. Force Only Rape- in this form of rape, the husband does not necessarily batter the wife, but uses as much force as is necessary to enter into sexual intercourse with the unwilling wife.iii. Obsessive Rape- this form of rape involves the use of force in sexual assault compiled with perverse acts against the wife. It involves a kind of sexual sadistic pleasure enjoyed by the husband.👉*Marital rape is illegal in 18 American States, 3 Australian States, New Zealand, Canada, Israel, France, Sweden, Denmark, Norway, Soviet Union, Poland and Czechoslovakia. In India, a marriage is a bond of trust and that of affection. A husband exercising sexual superiority, by getting it on demand and through any means possible, is not part of the institution. Legislators use results of research studies as an excuse against making marital rape an offence, which indicates that many survivors of marital rape, report flash back, sexual dysfunction, emotional pain, even years out of the violence and worse, they sometimes continue living with the abuser. For these reasons, even the latest report of the Law Commission has preferred to adhere to its earlier opinion of non-recognition of “rape within the bonds of marriage” as such a provision may amount top excessive interference wit the marital relationship. Rape in any form is an act of utter humiliation, degradation and violation rather than an outdated concept of penile/vaginal penetration. Restricting an understanding of rape reaffirms the view that rapists treat rape as sex and not violence and hence, condone such behavior in India. The importance of consent for every individual decision cannot be over emphasized. A woman can protect her right to life and liberty, but not her body, within her marriage, which is just ironical. Women so far have had recourse only to section 498-A of the IPC, dealing with cruelty, to protect themselves against “perverse sexual conduct by the husband”. But, where is the standard of measure or interpretation for the courts, of ‘perversion’ or ‘unnatural’, the definitions within intimate spousal relations? Is excessive demand for sex perverse? Isn’t consent a sine qua non? Is marriage a license to rape? There is no answer, because the judiciary and the legislature have been silent.👉*India’s parliamentarians just could not find it in them to treat married and unmarried women equally, on matters of rape. “Married women only have the option of using section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, which lays down provisions on cruelty, if they need to allege sexual violence against their husbands,” says Kavita Krishnan, secretary of the All India Progressive Women’s Association.And although Section 377 is known as the law which prohibits “gay sex,” it in fact prohibits “unnatural sex,” an act which can take place between straight people as well. “Sometimes women have used Section 377 if they want to press charges of rape against their husbands,” says Krishnan.Section 375, the provision of rape in the Indian Penal Code (IPC), has echoing very archaic sentiments, mentioned as its exception clause- “Sexual intercourse by man with his own wife, the wife not being under 15 years of age, is not rape.” Criminal charges of sexual assault may be triggered by other acts, which may include genital contact with the mouth or anus or the insertion of objects into the vagina or the anus, all without the consent of the victim. It is a conscious process of intimidation and assertion of the superiority of men over women.👉*There are many reasons such as husband believe in the superiority of men over women; some domestic issues, demand of women for her right in a marital relationship etc. Therefore, the main reason of this marital menace is a wide spread of gender inequality prevailing in our society. The male-dominated system of social norms where woman whether married or unmarried does not have the equal rights in any which way. It is the biggest weapon in hands of man to exploit the women. The role of traditionally assigned to married women in the society. Indian married women are considered as pativratastri means pure, faithful and obliging women. Thus married women have to follow her husband and fulfil all his requirements. The sexual relationship has been considered as an important part of the marriage, it is a woman’s duty towards her husband and she is not supposed to deny that to him. Her rile must be of submission and surrender. Economic dependence on her husband and in-laws is the reason that married women are unable to protect her from frequent practice of marital rape and she is forced to bear it. There must be strict laws for marital rape and the government should make some rules to reduce this problem.Rajabala