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Do School Need To Impart Sex Education?
 Ananya Sanjay Kumar  
 26 February 2018  

Sex education or in broad terms “sexuality education has been a topic of great brainstorming in India lately. Just like every other idea it also has its own set of protagonists and antagonist. While supporters (I’m also one of them) cite “better knowledge about sexual health and well-being” as a reason, opposers bring religion, tradition and culture to support their stand.Sex as we know it has been a taboo in India. People are not comfortable talking about it even though it’s as natural part of life as breathing. You can talk and discuss every other part of the body, their functions, diseases that affect them, the causes and remedies of these diseases but about your reproductive system? NOPE, that makes you mean, ill-mannered, ill-cultured douche and what not. You may find many saying that sex education is an obscene western concept and India with all its culture and traditions doesn’t need it. Yeah right! As if we reproduce by ‘photosynthesis’. Though the list of myths about sexuality and sex education is endless, Here we’ll try to bust some of them.MYTH NO. 1: Sex education teaches children to have sex at an early age.NOPE, It doesn’t teach children to have sex at an early age. It teaches them to understand their reproductive system just like any other part of the body. It teaches them about the changes they’ll be experiencing at puberty and how it’ll affect them. It teaches them how to handle and be at par with these changes. It teaches them about the the social, psychological and biological aspects of a leading a healthy sexual life. It teaches them about sexually transmitted diseases and their prevention, birth control measures, sexual abuse and its prevention etc. A healthy sexual life doesn’t only include the physical act of sex but the overall sexual well-being.MYTH NO. 2: Keeping children away from these things will keep them innocent, well-mannered and cultured.Well, certainly not. Children are always curious to know about everything and it applies to sex as well. Not telling them about these things will make them search for this information through some other medium which includes friends, internet and even porn. Chances are very high that these mediums will give him/her a half-baked truth and fill his head with myths about sex. It will only leave him more confused and disillusioned. I once checked a forum of sexual awareness people often used to ask their questions about sexuality. There I found teenagers asking if watching porn will make them pregnant or applying semen to face will make their skin soft. What do you think is the reason behind all these myths? Just one i.e. not talking to them about sex. That way they don’t get their information from credible sources and accept myths as truth.Not talking to them about it will also make them too naïve to understand the difference between a casual touch and an intent of sexual molestation. As we all know that sexual abuse among children aged 5-12 is a grave problem in India. About 30% of the minors are sexually abused in some forms or the other. That is a very gruesome figure and a great cause of concern. A percentage of these crimes happen because children are not aware about it. Making them aware will definitely reduce these incidents by a great margin.MYTH NO. 3: India doesn’t have cases of teen pregnancy like Europe. Why do we need this?A grossly misinformed statement. Child marriage is still prevalent in many parts of India and it sure results in teen pregnancies. Actually the number of teen pregnancies in India is 62 out of a 1000. This is higher than Europe and America. Educating children about birth control measures will lessen the cases of such pregnancies thus saving many lives in the process as the cases of death of teen mothers while delivering the baby is dangerously high.MYTH NO.4: Children should not be told about things like homosexuality which is against nature. It will make them homosexuals.Homosexuality is not against nature. It is as natural as heterosexuality. Telling someone about it will not make them homosexual. Sexual orientations are decided by genetic factors ant can’t be changed just by knowing about all other orientations. Knowing about it will only make them accept the diversity of orientations and looks look at homosexuals with inferiority.MYTH NO. 5: What about the culture?Our culture never shunned “sex and sexual” from being discussed. In fact we had many scholars like Vatsyayana who did extensive research on this topic. His research is still a source of extensive learning on this subject. It’s the Victorian era moral codes imposed by European colonizers in the disguise of tradition and religion which is confused as Indian culture here. So, the bottom line is that you can educate children/teenagers about sexuality while Indian culture will remain totally safe and sound.

Human Relations
 Lilly Thakur  
 20 March 2018  

All of us read newspapers and watch TV daily so I do. Every person has different choices someone would like to see the sports page first whereas someone may like to see the stock page first. The news that attracts my attention in the newspaper is which is based on human relations it could be on political grounds, social grounds or even personal groundsYou might have seen an advertisement coming these days on television where a boss called Mr. Hari Sadu throws a paper on his colleague the same person spells Hari Sadu asH for Hitler A for arrogant R for rascal and I for an idiot. While the person is spelling his name the face of the Boss just worth looking at the boss’s face becomes blankWhy so?Every person should watch this advertisement honestly and realize – If he is not Hari Sadu in all walks of life?It is very easy to point a finger at others but very difficult to understand that if I am pointing one finger at others at the same time my three fingers are pointing back at me.It is a fact that human relations in all walks of life have been affected badly because of many reasons these days if we try to find out the reasons we may make a huge list.It is not important to know what are the reasons, which are affecting human relations; a rather important thing is how we can improve themI am not a human relations expert but I certainly live in this world and am a part of relationships, therefore, I would like to share my views with you all1- Stress- How many of us feel stress daily? Almost all of us feel stress daily the reasons may be different for each individual. Some of us may be having stress in office may have a Boss like Mr. Hari Sadu. The stress felt in office becomes a part of home atmosphere when the person comes back to home and is gloomy, wife asks the reason why he is sad instead of answering her softly husband shouts back at the wife the anger which should have been given back to boss is thrown at the face of innocent wife who has no fault but since she is wife she has no option and hence she takes it as her fate and that is the first sign of bad relations between husband and wife.The situation could have been handled perfectly if the husband could have left his office stress in office only.We must learn to keep a difference between office and home atmosphere.CHANGE-- The other day I was watching a Sanjay Dutt starrier movie ShaqueHe spoke a very beautiful line—Log Kyun badal jatte hain kamyabi ke sath?Does it happen?Yes it happens almost in 90% casesCan you change your father, mother, brother, sister, wife? Of course you can’t changeBut you can certainly change your selfWe expect a lot from othersOften I hear one line very frequently – eisa mere saath hi quin hota hai mai hi kyun change karun yeh kyun nahi change hote?The answer is very simple-You cant change others better change your self immediately and keep on trying you will find positive results a very slow process but very sure one.FORGET, FORGIVE AND GIVE THANKSIs it very difficult to forgive?Seems yes?No, it is not all one need is courage to accept the facts and a will to understand the reason as to-What made another person to commit the mistake?If we put our selves in other's shoes and try to understand the conditions as to what made him to make this mistake and instead of firing we forget and forgive him the chances are that person will be careful in future and will try not to commit a mistakeForgive many things in others—but nothing in your selfIf you don’t forgive friends a day will come when you don’t have any friendsForgiveness is happiness forgive and forget very simpleBut we do not want to do simple things. We want to complicate our lives, as we become more and more successful. The decision to forgive and forget yourself or someone else is like taking any other decision. One can take it in one second or after going through years of agony and heartburn. The choice is yoursAlso, make a habit of thanking as and when required-How many of us seen Muna Bhai M.B.B.S?If seen then you must be remembering Jadu Ki jhapki?Very effective oneNever hesitate to give Jadu ki jhapki it works wonderfullyCertainly, don’t try with young girls may work otherwiseTRUST AND CONFIDENCE-Trust and confidence are two words we have often say and listen in daily life but do we know how to trust or do have the courage to trust? It is a million-dollar questionAlmost 90% problems today can be solved if we start trustingAsk your self a simple Q- Do you trust your friends, relatives or even employeesNobody will deny it but if we are honest with our selves we will notice we lack thisVery few have the courage to trust and have confidence in relations. Someone find it difficult to admit the mistake or desire thinking if I tell how will other take it.It is a human tendency we assume a lot we assume that if I tell my mistake or my desire to my partner he/she will shout at me and my relations may start becoming worse day by day which results in 1- we suppress our desires2- we try to full fill our desires by hiding these from our partnersIn both the cases, we are the losers In the first case, we killed our desire and become looserAnd in the second case, we have taken the wrong path by hiding it and have started living in an atmosphere of uncertainty that always has a fear what will happen if he/she comes to know?What will happen if someone comes to know and tell my partner?Now you are living a life where neither you can enjoy fully nor you can sleep happilyI have a friend very jolly man is about 100kg in weight loves fun and love to have beer al the time's wife too is very beautiful love to have parties and very talkative once in a party I asked her why don’t you stop this man from drinking too much? She replied he is grown up and knows what is good for him I need not interfere in this. The same answer my friend gave when someone told him that I saw his wife traveling in a car with someone else. He simply replied I know her she won't do anything wrongTHAT IS THE TRUST AND CONFIDENCE WE NEED TO HAVEOne must realize one thing trust is never built in a day it may take full life to build up relations but it will take one second to break the relations if trust and confidence is hurt therefore one must be very careful when trust and confidence is at stakeTo lead a happy life—shak ko relations me nahi aane deejiye share kariye feelings rasta zarur niklega

सणाचे परिवर्तन:काळाची गरज
 Sanjay Raghunath Sonawane  
 28 October 2018  

सणाचे परिवर्तन:काळाची गरजलेखक-संजय रघुनाथ सोनवणेभारतात प्रत्येक धर्मात सण साजरे केले जातात. सण जरूर साजरे करावे, त्यातील आनंद लुटावा ;पण ज्या सणामधून पर्यावर्णाची,मालमत्तेची,मानवाची हानी होत असेल, असे सण साजरे करणे म्हणजे चिकित्सक मनाला फसविणे होय. मग करायचे काय?तर त्या सणातील आवश्यक बदल करणे होय. असे अनेक सण आपण वर्षभरात साजरे करतो. त्यातून नुकसान होते. पण आपण गोंडस प्रथेत बदल करायला तयार होत नाही.व त्याचे परिणाम निमुटपणे सहन करतो.तिळ संक्रांत येते त्यावेळी पतंग उडवण्याचा खेळ खेळला जातो. पण ह्या खेळापायी हजारो पक्ष्याचे जीव जातात. अनेक लहान बालकांचे अपघात होतात. स्री पुरुषांचे तीक्ष्ण मांज्याने हात, पाय, मान कापले जातात.यावर कोण विचार करणार?दसर्याच्या दिवशी आपण सोने वाटण्याच्या नावाखाली आपट्याच्या झाडांची पाने, फांदया तोडून त्या झाडालाउजाड करतो. मग का नाही तुम्ही खरे सोने वाटत?रंगपंचमीच्या दिवशी घातक रसायन, गटाराचे पाणी भरून लहान मुले वाहनांवर, मुलांवर फुगे फेकतात.त्यातून कितीतरी मुलांचे कायमचे डोळे जायबंदी होतात.याला कोण जबाबदार?दिवाळीच्या दिवशी स्फोटक फटाके वाजवून कर्ण कर्कश आवाज बाहेर पडतात.ध्वनी प्रदुषण, वायुप्रदूषण, कचरा यांना निमंत्रण देतो. मालमत्तेचे आग लागून नुकसान होते.सणाच्या नावाखाली रस्ते आडवून रहदारी ठप्प करणेवाढ दिवसाच्या नावाखाली बेकायदेशीर गल्लीतील रस्ते बंद करणे या कडे कोण लक्ष देणार?सामान्य माणसाला वेठीस धरून दादागिरी करून हवे तस्या देणग्या वसूल करणे?कोण आवर घालणार यांना?म्हणून समाज व्यवस्थेला दोष देण्यापेक्षा आपण स्वतः बदलले पाहिजेत. आपल्या कुटुंबापासून सुरवात केली पाहिजे. मनातील भीती काढून टाकली पाहिजे. आपण ज्यावेळी निर्णय घेतो त्यावर ठाम असले पाहिजे. तंटामुक्त देश कसा होईल असे प्रयत्न व्हायला पाहिजे.अशी प्रतिमा जगासमोर आपण निर्माण करू शकतो. अशा प्रकारे गाव, तालुका, जिल्हा, राज्य, देश यांच्यात परिवर्तन होऊ शकेल. हे कार्य शाळांतून, कॉलेज मधून प्रबोधन करून शिक्षकानी पार पाडले पाहिजे. कृतियुक्त सहभाग झाला पाहिजे.वरील सर्व सण आपण अनावश्यक रूढ़ी बंद करून साजरे करू शकतो.आपण सुधारलो की आपली पिढी आपले अनुकरण करेल. अन्यथा नको त्या विळख्यातसापडून, कुणाला तरी घाबरून वर्षानुवर्षे तीच प्रथा विनाकारण चालू ठेवतो.

देश विकासासोबत देश संरक्षण:काळाची गरज
 Sanjay Raghunath Sonawane  
 28 October 2018  

देश विकासा सोबत देश संरक्षण:भारताचे स्वप्न -लेखक संजय रघुनाथ सोनवणे.भारत देश पूर्व-पश्चिम व दक्षिणोत्तर विस्तारलेला आहे. भारताने तंत्रज्ञानात प्रगती केल्यामुळे देशाला एक नवे वैभव प्राप्त झाले आहे. आपल्यावर वेळोवेळी आक्रमण करून शत्रू राष्ट्र आपले मानवी व युद्ध सामग्री नष्ट करत आहेत. त्यांना धड़ा शिकवण्यासाठी भूगर्भ शास्राच्या आधारे ,अंतर्गत वायुसेना, स्थलसेना,नौसेनायांना प्रबळ करून भूगर्भात सज्ज ठेवणे काळाची गरज आहे. लांब पल्ल्याच्या दळण व्यवस्था ,महामार्ग, रेल्वे मार्ग, नदया जोड़ प्रकल्प भूगर्भातून शक्य होऊ शकेल.देशात ओढ़वणाऱ्या अंतर्गत समस्या निवारण जलद गतीने पूर्ण होऊ शकतात. पूर, भूकंप, त्सुनामी, दुष्काळ या आपत्ती निवारण्यासाठी मदत होऊ शकेल.शत्रू राष्ट्राकडून अणु बॉम हल्ला झाल्यास लोकांना भूगर्भातील जागेचा वापर करता येईल. दुष्काळ ग्रस्त भागाला जलद पाणी पोहचेल. प्रदुषणास आळा बसेल. वेळ, इंधन, पैसे यांची बचत होईल. भूगर्भशास्त्र मानवाला विकासासाठी फार मोठी संधी आहे. सौर उर्जेचा वापर भूगर्भ विकासात करता येईल. शत्रूची युद्धसामुग्री आपण सहज नष्ट करू शकतो. भारतातील अती महत्त्वाच्या व लोकसंखेच्या शहराना परमाणू हल्ल्यापासून वाचण्यासाठी भुयारी मेट्रो, रेल्वे मार्ग यांचा विकास करणे काळाची गरज आहे. भारताच्या चारी दिशात विकास करता येईल. नैसर्गीक साधनांचा पुरेपुर वापर करता येईल. वाळवंटी प्रदेश, डोंगराळ प्रदेश, दलदलीचा प्रदेश विकसित करण्याची योग्य संधी आहे. भारताची अर्थव्यवस्था मजबूत होईल. मिलिट्रीसाठी अंतर्गत बंकर उपलब्ध करून देश विकासाबरोबर देश संरक्षण प्रबळ होईल.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.24
 Dhwani Shah  
 9 June 2019  

Go Beyond - In Gita Verse 1.24 Sañjaya said: O descendant of Bharata, having thus been addressed by Arjuna, Lord Kṛṣṇa drew up the fine chariot in the midst of the armies of both parties.As Dhritarashtra wanted every minute report from Sanjaya, Sanjaya informs Dhritarashtra that as Arjuna had Krishna, Krishna drew the fine chariot in the midst of the armies of both the parties.Sanjaya said ‘fine chariot’ - definitely Arjuna’s chariot was very fine, besides the chariot, charioteer was Krishna himself. Everyone was on their chariot then why Arjuna’s chariot was specified as fine? It’s not about the chariot but who is the charioteer makes the difference.All of us have experienced when we are sitting in the car who is in the driving seat matters. With the driver the movement or gesture of the car will change. The body of the car will be same but the gesture will be different. People on the road will also know and accordingly walk.Same with us - everyone of us have similar body but from where the action comes, from mind or from our subjectivity. When action is from the mind it is very superficial and on the surface, through that body, the expression of anger, anxiety, sadness, violence will be expressed. When action is from subjectivity it has depth and on the surface, through the body the expression of silence, compassion, gratitude will be expressed.Why did Arjuna choose Krishna to be his charioteer?When Arjuna and Duryodhana, had both gone to meet Krishna before Kurukshetra, the former went in later, and seeing the latter at his head, he sat at Krishna’s feet. Krishna woke up and then gave them the choice of either his entire Narayani Sena, or he himself as charioteer on a condition, that he would neither fight nor hold any weapon. And he gave Arjuna, the chance to select first, who then chose Krishna as his charioteer. Duryodhan could not believe his fortune, he had wanted the Narayani Sena, and he got it on a platter, he felt Arjuna was plain foolish. Little did Duryodhana realize that while he got the physical powers, the mental and spiritual power was with Arjuna. There was a reason why Arjuna chose Krishna, he was the person who provided the intelligence, the guidance, and he knew the weakness of every warrior in the Kaurava camp.Also Arjuna was the best warrior in the Pandava side, Yudhistir while being the most wise among them, was not exactly a “great warrior”, who could take on Bhishma, Drona, Kripa, Karna, it was only Arjuna who was an equal match to them. Bheem was all brute force, and while that was needed, for physical and mace combat with the likes of Duryodhan and Dushasan, he could not have been effective in handling Bhishma or Karna. Now while Arjuna was the finest warrior ever, he also needed strategic advice, and that was where Krishna came in. Unlike physical combat, battle in archery needed quick reflexes, strategic thinking, planning, and this is where Krishna was an invaluable asset.As per Arjuna’s desire Krishna drew and parked the chariot exactly in the middle he conveyed Arjuna Be In the Middle. Don’t get shattered or stumble.If you can live your life in objective world with awareness then the fundamental, then all kinds of language and knowledge and all your daily activities as you respond to people and adapt to circumstances, through so many upsets and downfalls, whether joyous or angry, good or bad, favorable or adverse - these are all trivial matters, the branches. If you can be spontaneously aware and knowing as you are going along with circumstances, then there is neither lack nor excess.That is one of the most important experiences of Gautam Buddha. He says that if you are just in the middle of any two polar opposites - find exactly the middle, neither less nor excess - if you are exactly in the middle, you will go beyond.The middle is the beyond.If you go to the extreme, then you will start clinging to it; from the extreme you cannot go beyond.That was a great contribution to spiritual science and to humanity, that the middle is the beyond. Just keep yourself balanced in the middle, and suddenly you will see you have gone above both the extremes - neither good nor bad, neither ordinary nor extraordinary, neither knowledgeable nor ignorant.This beyondness is his nirvana. Just to think about it you will feel an immense peace. Just visualize it and you will feel a great silence descending on you. And this is only visualization - what will happen in actuality if you come to the middle? You cannot conceive the ecstasy of it, the blissfulness of it, the benediction of it.By placing the chariot in the middle Krishna hinted Arjuna to go beyond.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.46
 Dhwani Shah  
 27 June 2019  

Be Total - In Gita Verse 1.46 Sañjaya said: Arjuna, having thus spoken on the battlefield, cast aside his bow and arrows and sat down on the chariot, his mind overwhelmed with grief.Sanjaya told Dhritarashtra, Arjuna by saying all regarding his unconsciousness, keeping aside his bow and arrow sat in his chariot with fully grief.Persons like Arjuna when knowing that right now he is totally unconsciousness as part of army and also as an individual who is fighting this war will be representing universe, It's good to keep aside the weapon and come back to consciousness rather than to start the war in unconsciousness.His grief was mentioned as overwhelmed, means, total, overflowing. When we are total in anything, it allows us to drop. Like fruits when they are ripped they drop on their own. Similarly when we are total, even our unconsciousness will drop. There is an intricate relationship between an act and the end result. We always want to have a perfect result for whatever we do, without losing ourselves in the act. Is such an act possible? To understand the fine difference, it is important to examine ‘perfection’ and ‘totality’. Although for many people, perfection is the ultimate goal, it is nothing less than illusion or myth; something which is nonexistent. We are attracted by the very idea of perfection, not realising that it is like a disease which is dangerous and destructive. If not for our obsession with perfection, our action could open the door to a beautiful spiritual journey.Whatever you do, just pour your heart in it, do it with totality. The Bhagavad Gita says that karma is enjoyable if the heart is involved in it. Then there is no karma and kerta; both melt and become one. That is totality. Perfection is myth, while totality is reality.Perfection is a goal somewhere in the future while totality is an experience this very moment, in which your act is transformed into meditation and a beautiful prayer descends in your heart. In fact, there is no future reference or goal for totality; only a routine life style albeit soaked in spiritual fragrance.If you do any work or any act with your whole heart, then you are total, then you are walking on the same path which Kabir and Ravidas chose.The whole idea is to ‘be total’ in everything that you are doing. It doesn’t matter what you do, whether you are making clothes like Kabir or shoes like Ravidas, or cooking food or working on a new design for most advanced spacecraft, or cleaning the floor. The job is immaterial. The focus is that doing is with totality, which is the only way to transform the act into meditation and to transform the doing into a beautiful prayer.To be total in your work is a totally different thing. To be total in your work is not addiction, it is a kind of meditation. When you are totally in your work, your work has a possibility of perfection, you will have a joy arising out of a perfect work.If you can be perfect and total in work, you can be total in no-work — just sitting silently, totally silent. You know how to be total. You can close your eyes and you can be totally in. You know the secret of being total.So to be total in work is helpful in meditation. The workaholic cannot meditate, he cannot sit silently even for a few minutes. He will fidget, he will change his position, he will do something or other — look into this pocket or that pocket, and he knows that there is nothing in those pockets. He will take out his glasses, clean them, put them away, and he knows they are clean.Arjuna practiced totality throughout his life. So in this moment of unconsciousness he was total and realised that it's better to put my arms aside and regain my consciousness before the start of the war.