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Bhagavad Gita Verse 1.7
 Dhwani Shah  
 26 May 2019  

Change Is Blessing - In Gita Verse 1.7 But for your information, O best of the brāhmaṇas, let me tell you about the captains who are especially qualified to lead my military force.Duryodhana address Dronacharya his teacher and chief of his army, as brāhmaṇas, no respect has been shown towards him who is leading his army. The adjective which is used for him “best of the”, was expression of his anger. If he would have looked at the opposition side’s arrangement as information, he would have entered into his subjectivity, then there would be gratitude in his language.Gratitude is not formality. It is reflection of ourselves how we are looking into the objective world. If we look into the objective world we would dwell on what action is required by us, what resources we have to achieve our goal, how we can manage all our resources to enable us to move closer towards our goal. Our focus in not on the goal but on our present moment’s actions. If we focus on the resources and how to manage it and then take steps to act, you will find that gratitude will arise in you. It will not be a mere formality, but our way of life, being.Objective world gives us the information, pure information whether we can convert it for our good or stuck in it would totally depend on us. Duryodhana instead of taking the arrangements of Pandavas as information, he got stuck in it and could not go into his subjective world. Information and going into our subjective world immediately changes the objective world. As soon as we enter into our subjective world we become part of the universe. Our subjective world we may call it God or we may call it the supreme soul or whatsoever we may like. As Duryodhana was stuck in the objective world, he was anxious and afraid of losing the war etc. Universe registered this as Duryodhana wanted to lose the war.We live a compartmental life, wherein we feel that there is no connection between the objective and subjective world. But we forget that objective world is reflection of our subjective world. It reflects whether we are conscious of our subjective world or unconscious. We are judgemental about everything, we criticize everything, because we are not able to go into our subjectivity and are in a hurry to act. Why was Duryodhana was angry at Dronacharya, because he could not go into his subjectivity after looking at the arrangements of the opposite side, hence he was consumed with anger. Whenever we without going into our subjectivity want to act at that time we are in a hurry, angry, anxious, etc. This is an indication that we are unconscious of our subjectivity.Recollect any incidence in your life when your focus was on what you have and how to start your work to reach the goal - immediately you become calm. Is it not so? Also when you are anxious you become blind towards your resources or not? With minute awareness everything changes.We are afraid of change. If we become aware about our subjectivity immediately we realize that change is a Blessing, nothing to be afraid of.Misery arises because we don't allow ourselves to go into the subjectivity and change to happen. We cling to objectivity, we want things to be static.A man of awareness knows that life is constantly changing. Life is change, it is dynamic. Unless we learn to live our objective life with the awareness of our subjectivity, we cannot become part of change. We will be always divided. We will be in hurry, eagar, anxious etc.What is change - living into objective world and acting from subjective world. This is what our sages were saying to us live in the world but don’t allow the world to touch you, your objective life you need to lives from your subjectivity. Live like a lotus flower.There is only one thing permanent, and that is change. Except change, everything else changes. To live this type of life, to be part of this changing existence with all its seasons and moods, this constant flow that never stops for a single moment, is to be blissful. Then nobody can disturb your bliss. It is your hankering for objective world that creates troubles for you. If you want to live in a life with no change – you are asking the impossible.A man of awareness becomes courageous enough to be part of the changing phenomena. In that very acceptance is bliss. Then all is good. Then you are never frustrated.On the objective world we exist as many. Your personality is different from the personality of your neighbor. But your subjective world is not different. Your subjective world is the innermost center of all. When you reach your subjectivity, you reach to be one.The whole objective world is just the circumference. The center – you may call it God or you may call it the supreme soul or whatsoever you like – but when you reach your own subjective world, you have reached the innermost center of all. And there, all secrets are hidden, in that one. And there, all the mysteries can be revealed to you.You cannot know them beforehand. Until you enter the subjective temple of the one, mysteries will remain mysteries. You can create many theories about them and many philosophies but it is of no use, futile, meaningless. You can philosophise much, but nothing can be concluded. It has happened for ages. Centuries have passed and men have been philosophizing, creating thousands and thousands of philosophies, theories and systems with no result. You can create them, but it is mental. You don’t know.When your action comes from your subjectivity that action is divine. You are not divided. You become vehicle of universe. You allow the universe to act through your body.

Understanding of Behaviors of the Children Who Have Been Abused
 Linda Norwood  
 31 May 2019  
Art

In the present times, the cases of children's abuse are frequent in the community due to the changes of family values and social problems. This issue is important as it touches many people who have children and want to protect them. To understand behaviors of the children who have been abused one should analyze the psychological factors crucial for them. One can distinguish two kinds of abuse: physical and sexual. Children aging from 3 to 14 years old can undergo sexual and physical abusing. The behaviors of the children depend on the kind of abusing, ethnicity, gender and age. Moreover, verbal and non-verbal languages are the ways of revealing the differences between abused children. This research paper intends to study behaviors of the children who have been abused and analyze the psychological factors.Literature ReviewThere are a great deal of discussion posts towards this topic. Majority would agree that children who have been abused have their patterns of behavior that are characterized by non-verbal gestures. In addition, non-verbal behaviors can be the determinants of physical or sexual abuse that is revealed through interviewing. For example, using such method as interviewing it have been revealed the fact of abusing. Moreover, the participants of interviewing were stressed and depressed when they answered the questions about physical and sexual violence. In addition, indicators of physical disengagement and stress were progressing while positive emotions were decreasing. Consequently, non-verbal behavior can tell a lot about physical and sexual abuse of children. Non-verbal behavior includes gestures, body movement, language intonation, facial expressions and eye contact.Different kinds of physical evidence, photographic evidence, medical evidence and eyewitness are the ways of determining children's sexual abuse. These are independent measures that can provoke the necessary feelings, emotions and patterns of behavior of children who have been abused. One should mention that indicators of sexual abuse are diverse. They can include disclosure, sexual awareness, symptoms associated with trauma, fears, anxiety, mood changes, conduct problems and other behavioral changes. Furthermore, data from interviewing children is related to the negative experience that oppresses them and can lead even to suicide. In addition, there are such children who are offenders and admit their participation in sexual abuse. Consequently, they can also feel similar emotions. It is important to determine who is an offender and who is a victim as children are cunning and can hide information.Sexual abuse is harmful to the mental order of children. Younger children are more eager to tell about their stressful situations rather than teenagers who feel somalization, anxiety and depression. Therefore, interviewing should also correspond to ethnical, gender and age differences of children. Kathleen Ratican insists that shame and guilt can prevent children from being totally sincere during interviewing. Furthermore, one can see sexually abused children through their relationships with other people. In addition, abused children can be aggressive and hostile to those who interviewed them supposing them to be enemies. Facilitating disclosure and treatment approaches for helping sexually abused children.Sexual abuse is shameful, embarrassing and private topic for discuss. Thus, not all children can admit being sexually abused and provide the objectivity of interviewing. The factors that restrict the reliability and sincerity of interviews are gender, age and individual characteristics. However, one should not use such improper methods as reinforcement (rewards, punishments), social influence, asking suggestive questions to get the necessary information. Furthermore, sexually abused girls are opener comparing with boys by providing more details. Children between 4-6 years old can also give more information due to their trust and childish naivete?.Researches underline the importance of choosing techniques for interviewing children in sexual abuse cases. It is evident that after such negative experience children lose trust, therefore, it is important to establish the contact with them and provide friendly atmosphere. First of all, it is crucial to distinguish the kind of abuse, the reasons and consequences of the violent behavior. There are common patterns of behavior of children who have been abused. These are negative feelings, reservation, depression and hostility. To reveal the fact of sexual abuse in young children one should use play therapy, for example, dolls. However, there can be false answers where children can lie about their sexual or violent abuse. It can be related to their mental and psychological disorders or desire to attract attention of the adult people. In conclusion, one should say that interviewing is one of the best ways to understand behaviors of children who were sexually and physically abused. Interviewing should also correspond to ethnical, gender and age differences of children. Verbal and non-verbal languages can reveal the necessary information and provoke feelings related to physical and sexual abuse. Gender and age are the most important factors that influence children's answers during the interview. Disclosure, sexual awareness, symptoms associated with trauma, fears, anxiety, mood changes, conduct problems and other behavior changes refer to the types of behavior. One should say that every person has his/her individual characteristics that make him/her opener or more reserved. Consequently, girls can inform more details while interviewing, as they are too emotional. As to boys, they are more reserved and suspicious. Yet young children are the most sincere and trustworthy.