Compassion - In Gita Verse 2.10 O descendant of Bharata, at that time Kṛṣṇa, smiling, in the midst of both the armies, spoke the following words to the grief-stricken Arjuna.
Krishna addressed Arjuna as descendant of Bharata, smiling reminds him his strength and from the family where he is coming gave him certain training and discipline, that Arjuna is so different than this Arunja who is in Grief.
Krishna was very compassionate towards Arjuna. His smile has whispered that he knows that grief-stricken Arjuna, is not the same Arjuna. He has just forgot who he is. But still he is not telling him that what he needs to do or act in this moment. He is not giving any readymade answer, he is giving him only a wake up call and once he will come to his consciousness from his freedom he can choose what he wants. But not in his unconsciousness. Let me explain this through the following story.
This is a beautiful story:
A woman lost her young son; just a few days before her husband had died. Kissa Gautami was her name, and now her only son had died. She was in great despair, naturally; the child was her only hope. Buddha was staying in the town; people said, "Don't cry and don't weep. Why don't you take the child to Buddha? He is so compassionate, he may revive him back to life."
The woman rushed with the dead body of the child. Buddha looked at the woman, told the woman to put the child in front of him and said to her, "Yes, I will revive him, but you will have to fulfill one condition."
The woman said, "I am ready to give even my life. Say any condition and I will fulfill it."
Buddha said, "It is a simple condition, I never make big requirements of people, only small requirements; this is a very simple thing. You just go into the town and bring a few mustard seeds. Just remember one thing: the mustard seeds should come from a house where nobody has ever died."
The woman was in an insane state, she could not see the point. How can you find a house where nobody has ever died? She rushed with great hope and she knew that every house has mustard seeds because that was the only crop the people were growing. The whole village was doing the same work, growing mustard seeds - so there was no problem.
She knocked on many doors, the people said, "A few mustard seeds? We can bring cartloads of mustard seeds, but we cannot fulfill the condition; many people have died in our house. So our mustard seeds won't do."
By evening the woman came to her senses. She had knocked on many doors; gradually she saw the point that death is inevitable - it happens to everybody, that nobody can escape from it. She came back and she was a totally different woman when she came back in the evening. The child was there, Buddha was waiting. He said, "Where are the mustard seeds?"
The woman laughed, fell down at his feet and said, "Initiate me into your path, because I have understood your message, that everybody has to die. Today my son has died, a few days before my husband died, a few days afterwards I am going to die. Before I die I want to see the deathless. Now I am not interested in my child being raised from the dead. Now I am interested in myself in seeing the eternal life."
Buddha initiated Kissa Gautami.
Krishna’s smile was not of sarcasm , it was of compassion. Always remember that compassion is very playful, relax, no advice and give freedom. Also give the other person a chance to understand through their own intelligence. It’s an opportunity to grow the consciousness, transforming objective world into subjective world.