Category : Relationships
THE SUBTLE ART OF GIVING A FUCK.
 Tanishqa Batra  
 2 February 2018  

‘I don’t know.’ ‘I don’t care.’ ‘I don’t have emotions.’ ‘I don’t feel things.’It’s cool, it’s in. This is what’s trending. Ask a millennial their thoughts on love and I guarantee you 8 out of 10 will give a nihilistic answer because, in their dictionary of heartbreaks, love doesn’t exist. Love is something that they or should I say, we, like to view as a mythical entity. We’re not sure how it exists, where it exists,if it exists. We see it all around us every day and yet we don’t believe. We have become people who refuse to acknowledge good things because maybe Instagram has taught us that cherophobia is a real thing and why to be happy when you know that you are bound to be sad the next day or maybe the one following that or maybe we’re just scared because all we see around us are failed relationships and hate. God knows that we have plenty and all kinds of hate around us in this world but the only thing stronger, more potent than that is love.I hate to sound like a clichéd chick-flick movie dialogue and say that the love of your life will sweep you off your feet with his grand romantic gestures and amazingly good looks. No. I’m just going to tell you that there are a lot of types of love. It can be the love of a mother for her child, of a friend for a friend, of a dog for it’s human. It can be anything. Love doesn’t have a fixed form. It just takes the shape of whatever vessel you pour it in. Take a look around you the next time you go out. Look at the flowers or the people or the sky. Just look at something and I assure you, you  will see one good thing which brightens up your day and makes you say, maybe it’s not so bad to care after all. 

अपेक्षांचा अपेक्षाभंग ...
 aditya kulkarni  
 23 February 2018  

ऑनलाईन साईटवरून मित्राच्या घरच्यांनी त्याचं ठरवलेलं लग्न अखेरीस मोडलं .कारणं दोन -1. मुलीला मुलाच्या घरच्यांसोबत रहायचं नाही पण लग्नानंतर मुलीचे आईवडील मात्र मुलीसोबत रहाणार .2. पोरीचं शिक्षण , तिची एकूण पात्रता आणि तिच्या अपेक्षा यांची एकत्र तुलना केली तर सगळ्या गोष्टी एकमेकांपासून कोसकोसभर लांब होत्या .मित्राला क्ष म्हणूया .क्ष इंजिनियर झालाय .वर्षाचं पॅकेज काही लाखात आहे .वागणं , बोलणं , रहाणं अतिशय उत्तम. अगदी हरिश्चंद्रानंतरची ही एकमेव पैदाईश आहे की काय असा समोरच्याला प्रश्न पडेल एवढा सभ्य . वयाने माझ्यापेक्षा चार वर्षांनी मोठा आहे .त्याच्यासोबतच्या मित्रांची लग्नं झाली , ते सेटल झाले म्हणून ह्याच्या घरच्यांनी याच्यामागेही लग्नाचा लकडा लावला .अखेर हो- नाही करता साहेब तयार झाले . अगोदर ओळखीत मग विवाह संस्थेत आणि सरतेशेवटी ऑनलाइनवर येऊन गाडी थांबली . जाती - धर्माचं बंधन नसल्यामुळे केवळ सुशिक्षित आणि चांगली असावी एवढीच घरच्यांची अपेक्षा . फारशी शोधाशोध न करता एक मुलगी पसंत पडली . ऑनलाईन पत्रिका एक्सचेंज झाली , ऑफलाइन जुळवाजुळवही झाली . पत्रिका जुळत्ये म्हणून घरच्यांनी पुढची बोलणी करायला सुरुवात केली . अगदी पारंपरिक पद्धतीने 'बैठक' झाली नसली तरी अनौपचारिक भेट घेऊन काही बोलणी ठरली . घरच्यांच्या परवानगीनेच यांच्याही भेटीगाठी सुरू झाल्या .तोपर्यंत महत्वाच्या विषयांवर कमी आणि हवा - पाण्याच्या विषयांवरच त्यांचं जास्त बोलणं व्हायचं . मित्र शांत असला तरी भिडस्त नाही त्यामुळे खाजगीत निवांत भेट झाल्यावर त्याने अगदी स्पष्टपणे त्याच्या अपेक्षा सांगून टाकल्या .त्याचं बोलणं ऐकल्यावर तिनेही वर सांगितलेल्या तिच्या अपेक्षा सांगितल्या . झालं , पुढच्या दोनच दिवसात लग्न मोडलं .या सगळ्यात दोन महत्त्वाच्या मुद्द्यांचा मला उहापोह करावासा वाटतो .1. स्त्री - पुरुष समानतेचा एवढा डंका पिटायचा तर जो नियम त्याला तोच तिलाही का नाही ?2. जोडीदाराबद्दलच्या प्रत्येकाच्या अपेक्षा , स्वप्नं भव्यदिव्यच असतात नव्हे असाव्यातही .मात्र ही स्वप्नं पहाताना आपण जमीन तर सोडत नाही ना ? हे पण कळायला हवं की .दर रविवारी मोठमोठ्या वर्तमानपत्राच्या पुरवणीत वर- वधू पाहिजेत ह्या शीर्षकाखाली ढिगाने जाहिराती असतात . लक्षपूर्वक वाचल्यास लक्षात येईल की स्वतः दहावी -बारावी फार फार तर ग्रॅज्युएट वगैरे होऊन ,  किडुकमिडुक काम करणाऱ्या किंवा जेमतेम महिना भागेल असा व्यवसाय/ नोकरी  करणाऱ्या मुला- मुलींच्या अपेक्षा फक्त देव खाली आला तरच पूर्ण होऊ शकतील .( अमेरिकेची आर्थिक आघाडी - महानगरपालिका- उंदीर मारण्याचा विभाग , प्रकर्षाने आठवण झाली .) याच कारणांमुळे अविवाहित किंवा उशिरा लग्न होणाऱ्या मुलामुलींची संख्याही दिवसेंदिवस वाढत आहे .असो , प्रश्न ज्याचा - त्याचा आहे .मित्राने नाव जाहीर न करण्याच्या अटीवर पोस्ट लिहायला परवानगी दिलेली असल्यामुळे इति लेखनसिमा ...!- आदित्य शेखर कुलकर्णी .

Love Rebooted
 AnKy km  
 25 February 2018  

What is love? This is the question which has been answered so many times by so many people and yet still people say it’s complicated. Love is nothing but a feeling of care, a feeling of togetherness, a feeling of trust, a feeling we all crave for. There comes a time in everyone’s life when we need somebody just to talk, just to be with, to share everything we are going through and that person has got to be the special one. It may be hard to find that someone special but once you find that person let him/her go will be even harder.There was a time when relationships are meant to last longer as compared to the latest trend, and one of the reasons was, purity of love. People in those days believed in love, nowadays true love seems to be a hoax. This is the only feeling which makes you realize that you are not alone, sometimes it’s better to be with someone who loves you rather than the person you love. Simple logic is you can fall in love with a person who loves you but you can’t make someone fall for you. Everyone will eventually fall in love and if you think that the person you love is the right one, never let that person go. Share your feelings maybe he/she have same feelings for you. There are people who say being single is healthy but being in love is the sweetest feeling one can have. Once you fall in love with somebody, you only want more. One of the most important thing about love is it has no forms, but different perspective. We love our family, we love our friends, we love ourselves or we love someone else the only difference is of perspective; you care for all those people, you like hanging with them, you trust them all, and that is love.Well, there are couples who love each other truly, and their love only becomes stronger with time. Relationships have fights and they are healthy because it shows how much the other person loves you, how much he/she cares for you. There’s nothing wrong in fights but blocking each other’s space isn’t right. If you love someone then respect his/her decisions, you cannot force someone to change just for you. Make that person comfortable, confident, independent, special and never leave until nature does. Don’t worry if you fail in love once, just don’t lose your belief, you probably haven’t met the right person yet. Keep trying, keep loving. 

Human Relations
 Lilly Thakur  
 20 March 2018  

All of us read newspapers and watch TV daily so I do. Every person has different choices someone would like to see the sports page first whereas someone may like to see the stock page first. The news that attracts my attention in the newspaper is which is based on human relations it could be on political grounds, social grounds or even personal groundsYou might have seen an advertisement coming these days on television where a boss called Mr. Hari Sadu throws a paper on his colleague the same person spells Hari Sadu asH for Hitler A for arrogant R for rascal and I for an idiot. While the person is spelling his name the face of the Boss just worth looking at the boss’s face becomes blankWhy so?Every person should watch this advertisement honestly and realize – If he is not Hari Sadu in all walks of life?It is very easy to point a finger at others but very difficult to understand that if I am pointing one finger at others at the same time my three fingers are pointing back at me.It is a fact that human relations in all walks of life have been affected badly because of many reasons these days if we try to find out the reasons we may make a huge list.It is not important to know what are the reasons, which are affecting human relations; a rather important thing is how we can improve themI am not a human relations expert but I certainly live in this world and am a part of relationships, therefore, I would like to share my views with you all1- Stress- How many of us feel stress daily? Almost all of us feel stress daily the reasons may be different for each individual. Some of us may be having stress in office may have a Boss like Mr. Hari Sadu. The stress felt in office becomes a part of home atmosphere when the person comes back to home and is gloomy, wife asks the reason why he is sad instead of answering her softly husband shouts back at the wife the anger which should have been given back to boss is thrown at the face of innocent wife who has no fault but since she is wife she has no option and hence she takes it as her fate and that is the first sign of bad relations between husband and wife.The situation could have been handled perfectly if the husband could have left his office stress in office only.We must learn to keep a difference between office and home atmosphere.CHANGE-- The other day I was watching a Sanjay Dutt starrier movie ShaqueHe spoke a very beautiful line—Log Kyun badal jatte hain kamyabi ke sath?Does it happen?Yes it happens almost in 90% casesCan you change your father, mother, brother, sister, wife? Of course you can’t changeBut you can certainly change your selfWe expect a lot from othersOften I hear one line very frequently – eisa mere saath hi quin hota hai mai hi kyun change karun yeh kyun nahi change hote?The answer is very simple-You cant change others better change your self immediately and keep on trying you will find positive results a very slow process but very sure one.FORGET, FORGIVE AND GIVE THANKSIs it very difficult to forgive?Seems yes?No, it is not all one need is courage to accept the facts and a will to understand the reason as to-What made another person to commit the mistake?If we put our selves in other's shoes and try to understand the conditions as to what made him to make this mistake and instead of firing we forget and forgive him the chances are that person will be careful in future and will try not to commit a mistakeForgive many things in others—but nothing in your selfIf you don’t forgive friends a day will come when you don’t have any friendsForgiveness is happiness forgive and forget very simpleBut we do not want to do simple things. We want to complicate our lives, as we become more and more successful. The decision to forgive and forget yourself or someone else is like taking any other decision. One can take it in one second or after going through years of agony and heartburn. The choice is yoursAlso, make a habit of thanking as and when required-How many of us seen Muna Bhai M.B.B.S?If seen then you must be remembering Jadu Ki jhapki?Very effective oneNever hesitate to give Jadu ki jhapki it works wonderfullyCertainly, don’t try with young girls may work otherwiseTRUST AND CONFIDENCE-Trust and confidence are two words we have often say and listen in daily life but do we know how to trust or do have the courage to trust? It is a million-dollar questionAlmost 90% problems today can be solved if we start trustingAsk your self a simple Q- Do you trust your friends, relatives or even employeesNobody will deny it but if we are honest with our selves we will notice we lack thisVery few have the courage to trust and have confidence in relations. Someone find it difficult to admit the mistake or desire thinking if I tell how will other take it.It is a human tendency we assume a lot we assume that if I tell my mistake or my desire to my partner he/she will shout at me and my relations may start becoming worse day by day which results in 1- we suppress our desires2- we try to full fill our desires by hiding these from our partnersIn both the cases, we are the losers In the first case, we killed our desire and become looserAnd in the second case, we have taken the wrong path by hiding it and have started living in an atmosphere of uncertainty that always has a fear what will happen if he/she comes to know?What will happen if someone comes to know and tell my partner?Now you are living a life where neither you can enjoy fully nor you can sleep happilyI have a friend very jolly man is about 100kg in weight loves fun and love to have beer al the time's wife too is very beautiful love to have parties and very talkative once in a party I asked her why don’t you stop this man from drinking too much? She replied he is grown up and knows what is good for him I need not interfere in this. The same answer my friend gave when someone told him that I saw his wife traveling in a car with someone else. He simply replied I know her she won't do anything wrongTHAT IS THE TRUST AND CONFIDENCE WE NEED TO HAVEOne must realize one thing trust is never built in a day it may take full life to build up relations but it will take one second to break the relations if trust and confidence is hurt therefore one must be very careful when trust and confidence is at stakeTo lead a happy life—shak ko relations me nahi aane deejiye share kariye feelings rasta zarur niklega

DEEP IN MY HEART, EMBOSSED LIKE AN ART.
 The Gumnaam Writer  
 21 March 2018  

She was married to a person she never loved. She never had a right to marry the person she loved. Even after all the years of fighting for her unfound love. She got married. Got married to a fake heart. A kind of heart which never came forward, letting the mind do it’s work. A work to undress a soul. With a right on that soul, every night he just used her body as a mode of entertainment. Something known as lust became his only mode of entertainment. Something known as lust became his only mode of living a happy life. Something known as lust became a mode of complete destruction of her life. Every night she felt like her soul is being 'raped'. Every night she saw a person on her bed with those devil horns. Waiting for her to undress herself. Every night she had nothing apart from missing the only person she loved was never made to be with her for a lifetime. All she was left with, was a shattered dream. A shattered love which had went far. So far that it could never be seen. All she could do to stay alive for her child is to keep a curve on her lips and never let that fake happiness disappear. All she could do to stay alive just to see a glimpse of her love was to prove love for her husband who never possessed a heart in him. All she dreamt for was the love which she got from someone who possessed a heart in him just for her. Been years of marriage but still her loyalty never let her fall in love with a person known as ‘her husband' who never possessed a heart. Well people say that sometimes things stolen are never found. Her heart was one of that kind. Which was stolen long back by someone who possessed a heart in him.A right that husband had. To undress her without her wish.A right that husband had. To make a lady, a naked doll. Just for fun.A right that husband had. To call that lady as his, ‘WIFE'. A right that husband had. To make his wife stay in his arms. Naked. For a lifetime.Been years of marriage but still her love for him. The husband. Never existed.Just like a time machine. Which never existed.True love never dies even after ages.Love is just like air. When it comes in front of lust. It’s never visible.©The Gumnaam Writer©The Part Tym HubbyI Be Your Pen, You Be My Words.#smblogcontest

मित्रता - प्यारा सा शब्द
 NEETU Arora  
 23 March 2018  

मित्रता बड़ा ही प्यारा शब्द है, सुनने में भी व निभाने में भी। मित्रता की कोई परिभाषा नहीं है, इसको शब्दों में बाँधा नहीं जा सकता। सच्चा मित्र एक दवा की तरह है जो हमेशा असरदार होता है।बचपन की मित्रता, जवानी की मित्रता, बुढ़ापे की मित्रता- हर उम्र में मित्र की आवश्यकता वैसे ही ज़रूरी है जैसे वातावरण में हवा की।मित्र हमें हमेशा सही राह दिखाता है, सुख दुःख में साथ निभाता है। कृष्ण और सुदामा, अर्जुन और कृष्ण, विभीषण और सुग्रीव की राम से मित्रता- ये मित्रता के अनोखे उदाहरण हैं।मित्र को सुख दुःख का सहभागी माना गया है। एक अच्छे मित्र की पहचान विपत्ति में ही की जा सकती है। तुलसीदास ने भी मित्र की परीक्षा आपत्ति काल में ही बताई है- 'धीरज धरम मित्र अरु नारी, आपद्कालि परखिए चारि।'जीवन में अच्छा मित्र मिलना, सागर में मोती मिलने के बराबर है। लोग तो बहुत मिल जाते हैं पर उनमे से मित्र मिलना बहुत कठिन है और जब वह मिल जाता है तो जीवन के अँधेरे में रौशनी मिल जाती है।भगवान कृष्ण ने सुदामा को गरीब हो कर भी अपनाया एवं सच्चे दिल से उसकी मित्रता को स्वीकार किया। कृष्ण भगवान ने अर्जुन को दोस्ती में उच्च स्थान दिया, हमेशा उनका साथ निभाया, महाभारत में अर्जुन के रथ के सारथी बने तथा उनको जीवन के उज्जवल पक्ष की ओर ले जाने का अथक प्रयास किया। महाभारत युद्ध बिना कृष्ण के जीतना असंभव था।विभीषण रावण के भाई होते हुए भी रावण का विरोध कर के राम के सच्चे मित्र बने। राम रावण के युद्ध में उन्होंने श्री राम का सच्चा साथ निभाया और दोस्ती की अदभुत मिसाल कायम की।"निभाया रिश्ता दोस्ती का जिसने, वो रब के करीब है,रब भी उसको नवाज़ता है अपनी कृपादृष्टि से। "                                                          हमेशा अपने मित्रों को सहयोग ्प्रेम दें, धोखा दे कर मूर्ख न बनाएँ। दोस्ती बहुत ही नाज़ुक ्दिलवाला रिश्ता है, इसे सच्चे मन से निभायें।रहीमदास जी ने बहुत ही खूबसूरती से कहा है ,"रहिमन धागा प्रेम का, मत तोड़ो चटकाए,टूटे से फिर न जुड़े, जुड़े गाँठ पड़ जाए। "दोस्तों, अपने मित्रों को धर्म, जात-पात व पैसे से न तोलें, दिल से दोस्त कोअपनाएँ एवं हमेशा सच्चाई बनाएँ रखे।   

Relationships Today
 Preeti Tal  
 27 March 2018  

What are relationships today? Search your soul and give the answer. I bet you will pick up your Apple or Blackberry to search for the answer. Wish apple and blackberry  had just been fruits instead of laptops and mobiles. Your first instinct would  be to google the answer. But you needn't do that you just have to search within you and you know the right answer. Life today is full of cares and worries .We are in the rat race just to achieve  our goals. What are those goals? A good education  from a elite institution, a high profile job, a comfortable  lifestyle, a financially strong life partner and the perfect,high achiever kids. So to procure all this we are multitasking. There is no time to stand and stare. Conversations  have become  texts, arguments have become   phone  calls  and feelings  have become  status updates. when you are lonely and you need  a shoulder, you call up your loved ones. But today they are devoid of time and each emotion is shared with  an emoticon. If you are happy and you tell your friends  and relatives, they encourage you with a ☺, if you are 😔, if you are 😕 .Relationships  are all about emoticons. No one has the time to socialize  but virtually  we know about each others lives with Social Status  Updates. Which only take seconds updating you about marriages, breakups, hospital visits, birthdays and so on. The true emotions  have been lost, we are technogeeks and technoslaves. In one word  Relationships  are robotic emotions. #smblogcontest

Dear Zindagi
 Harsha Darji  
 10 April 2018  

“DeAr ZiNdAgi” Yes !!! what could be more beautiful, precious, lovable & valuable thing in the world other than 'Life' or 'Zindagi'. Dear Friends, we often tend to run so fast in life, that we have no time to stop & when we realize it’s too late to turn back. We hold loads of grudges # sufferings # pain # complains # unspoken words # un expressed love & much more from being child to being adult & that makes us to stay in the nutshell from which we do not want to step out coz of fear to get hurt again, to face people, to tackle same problems & same circumstances again. We keep running away from our-self, & we start living a life that makes us unhappy at times. Life is too short & all we have is only one life so, we should not let our past bad experience haunt & spoil are present.There are many who do not have good relationship with parents, with siblings & of course wife & husband, but each broken things can be fixed if we make efforts & know how to fix them. Being child we were too immature to understand things, situations, parents, siblings, friends, etc, but now that we have grown up we must learn to accept that all people make mistakes knowingly & unknowingly but we should give them a chance & forgive them.The people that make you unhappy let them go away from your life & you need not to regret. The people that make you happy, that motivates you, encourages you, understands you, listens to your heart, loves you should be valued & should never take them for granted.Speak out as and when need, instead of burying your unspoken words & feelings inside your heart. Our heart does not have habit of carrying such a heavy load. Our heart is precious & should be kept peaceful & happy to enjoy every second & minute of our life.Nothing holds us back except I Me & Myself. Learn to live in present & learn to change your present by improving in all little ways that you can that can make you & you life happy & joyful. Mistakes is our best teacher, so keep falling & keep learning but when you get up learn to move forward in life without turning the pages of unhappy past. You are the writer of you own life, so make the most beautiful painting out of it & give the Title “Love you Zindagi”We shld not feel ashamed of talking on our mental stress, depression, & feeling of being alone to our friends, families & dear ones. Dnt simply live life. Learn to live healthy stress free life. If you are happy frm within, you will see more happiness around you to feel & enjoy. If you are mentally stress free & happy it will help u to forget your past, you will live in present, do enjoy the company of yourself, love yourself, appreciate yourself & make your heart free like butterflies. #smblogcontest

Awaiting for change - Daughter in law
 Harsha Darji  
 10 April 2018  

Daughter in law is said to be laxmi, but still they disrespect her, ill-treat her, does not give space to live or survive & wants her to be perfect in everything from the day one. Every hour its difficult for her to survive coz every hour ppl keep finding faults in her. Just look at yourself, you ppl must be in your 30’s, 40’s & 50’s are you perfect in all aspects. Don’t you make mistakes; don’t you see faults within yourself??? After all she is also a human; she has left her family and has come at in laws place. Make her feel homely & comfortable, make her feel that she is at right place, where she need not to worry. She would get more love & care that she used to get from her parents. If you don’t like that someone disrespect you, than do not misbehave with her. If you treat her with love & affection, you would get more love in returns. Relationship does not mean that daughter in law needs to change herself completely & you ppl still remain the same. Let her be herself. Togetherness brings more improvements instead of pointing her & finding mistakes in each & everything that she does. We are living in 21st century & still if you think woman are only here to do household chores than there is no illiterate person like you though being educated.  There is an old saying “As you sow, so shall you reap”. If this is how you would behave with your daughter in law, than what lessons who would leave behind for your grandson, granddaughter & upcoming generation. She takes all the little initiative to make her husband & her family happy, she has not cooked before, but she is learning, she has not done house hold work, but still she is managing. Appreciate her little efforts & if you can’t appreciate than stop finding faults in her. Each one should take initiatie to improve relationship & make it healthier instead of complaining & arguing with each other, coz all needs the improvement, not only your Daughter in law. #smblogcontest

The yesterday's -She- and today's -She
 Pratik Dhawalikar  
 11 April 2018  

  The yesterday's "She" and today's "She" have not been changed just in time, but this change is consistent and comprehensive compared to yesterday. Today's woman breaks the old bondageand challenge her for the new bondage, and she was already in the sky, but she now had a new model and new opportunities for herself.     Today, "she" is a woman in her family and there are many steps ahead of her husband, and yet her ambition is not to shed the seeds of "female-oriented culture" or to not "attack male-dominant culture", " "It is to cultivate, expand, and bring such equality in thought and action.Women have always been presumed because of male-dominated culture, but today, she has herself rid herself of this culture and ideas and is inspired by the ideas of equality, universal brotherhood.     Today she herself is an inspiration. She has been patiently accepted yesterday and today. She is responsible for the creation of "Good tomorrow" along with other women and men. Today she has a strong positive energy source and confidence. Today, in her thoughts, openness is unqualified. An extraordinary difference is created in her ability to think. Due to these things, "she" today is composed of a separate idea. Her own identity and image have been created today. "She" is the leader in many areas today. Her life is not limited to just her 'housewife', but she is today a "very rich and professional housewife".      Today, women are making their own lives and others along with them. A woman never thinks of herself because she is not primarily her own, but today the woman is thinking of herself,trying to do something new in life, and feel free to welcome this thought. She has made many changes in her own positive changes, her lifestyle is changing, and as a man, you have to respect all those things.Today, the work of the women and the labor of women in the country where there is a diverse culture-like culture and variety of variety has always been given secondary importance. Today's women want to change this thing permanently and should take care of their work as a person and expect them to be respected in the society. In addition, her dream is to be recognized by the "Indian woman" tomorrow all over the world.All these things should be started by every Indian citizen from his own house. Till date, men's society has taken women and given secondary position.      Today every person in the family has supported the "woman" of his family, understanding the restrictions on her, the extra responsibilities of her, and liberated her from her and encouraged her to live her way, whereas India has been named as the country of "Male and Female Culture" in just a few years. And in this case both men and women will be equally involved in this.

સ્વાર્થ ની ભાષા
 prahladbhai prajapati  
 16 May 2018  

સ્વાર્થ ની ભાષા=========અચાનક ઉભરતો પ્રેમ એક તરફી ઉભરતો પ્રેમ , અજાણે થતો એકબીના આકર્ષતો પ્રેમ, ભર જુવાની માં ચમકતી આળોટતી દેહ ની લાલીત્યતા ને રૂપ નો નીરખતો પ્રેમ ,રસ્તા માં , બાઝાર માં , કે મેળા, મેળા માં ,બે યુવાનીઓ ,એક બીજાથી આકર્શાતી, ને આંખો મળતી હોય નૈસર્ગીક કોસ્મિક મળતી હોય  ત્યો જ આકર્ષણ ના અંકુર ફૂટતા હોય છે ને પ્રેમનો ,જન્મ થતો હોય છે  વળી, કોઈ ધનાઢ્ય યુવાની નો ઉમર લાયક ,પુરુષ ,હોય નેસ્વ રૂપવાન સ્ત્રી હોય ,ત્યો ,સંપત્તિ નાં દેખાવના ઓઠા હેઠળ લલચાઈ ,એક બીજા થી આકર્ષાતાં હોય છે ,અહી ,સ્ત્રી ની ,પોતાના સ્વરૂપની ઓથે સંપત્તિની ,લાલચ હોય છે અને જયાં કોઈ વિદ્વાનપુરુષ હોય અને તેની વિદ્વત્તાને ,મોહી ,કોઈ સ્ત્રી ,પોતાના સ્વરૂપની આડ લઇ પ્રેમ કરતી હોય છે ,જયાં કોઈ .પાવરને સત્તા હોય પુરુષ પાસે અને ,તેની આડ લઇ પુરશો ,ભોગ વિલાસ માટે હવસ ભોગ વિલાસ માટે સ્ત્રીને લોભાવતા હોય છે , સાચા પ્રેમ ની શોધમાં  નીકળેલા માણસોના ઇતીયાસ લખાઈ ગયા છે અને આખી જીન્દગી ઝૂરવા  છતાં પ્રેમને પામી શક્યા નથી એવા આપના સમાજ મો ઘણા એ ઉદાહરણો છે , દા .ત.શેણી-વિજાણંદ, હીર -રાંઝા આ સૌના પ્રેમ જીવતા કબરો મો ધરબાઈ ગયા છે , એક બીજા ના ભોગ, વિલાસની ભાષા ને પામવા ,આપણે ,એને જુદા જુદા સ્વરૂપો મો વહેચી દઈ એ છીએ અને એક બીજાની જરૂરિયાતને માન આપી એક બીજાને ઈચ્છા અનિચ્છાએ સ્વીકારીએ છીએ પછી એ સંપત્તિ ની આડ હોય, વિદ્વ્ત્તાની આડ હોય, ફાટ ફાટ ,ખીલતી યુવાની ની આડ હોય એક બીજા ની નબળાઈઓની આડ હોય ,કે એક બીજા નાં સ્વાર્થ ની આડ હોય , આને લગભગ આપણે પ્રેમ નું નામ આપીએ છીએ એક તરફી પ્રેમ જોખમી હોય છે  ઈશ્વરને થતો પ્રેમ પણ અપેક્ષાઓથી  હોય છે .બાકી સમાજ મો થતા બે જીવ વચ્ચે ના પ્રેમમાં કોઈક જગાએ સ્વાર્થ ની બદબૂ તોકોઈ જગ્યાએ હવસની બદબુ તો કોઈ જગ્યાએ  નરી એક તરફી સ્વાર્થની બદબુ  હોય જ છે એશિયાળા જીવન માં કયો કોઈપ્રેમ કરતું હોય છે ,? ત્યો પણ કોઈ ને કોઈ સ્વાર્થ આવતો હોય છે , કોઈ વૃધ્ધ, ને જોઈ , કે કોઈ ગરીબ ને જોઈ , દયાની લાગણી ઉદ્ભવતી , ત્યો , કાયમી કોઈ પ્રેમ હોતો નથી , કદાચ કોઈ ,લાગણી ઉદ્ભવે તો પણ સામે વાળી લાગણી ને માન આપનારની પણ આંતરિક અપેક્ષા હોય છે કોઈ ને કોઈ સ્વાર્થી અપેક્ષા હોય છે , સાચી લાગણી ને પ્રેમ કરનારો લોકો સમાજ થી અળગો જ રહેતો હોય છે ,એવું ક્યોક બનતું હોય છે આ બધાજ  ની પાછળ  એક બીજ ની લગભગ મારા મતે એક હવસ સંતોષવા નીખેવના હોય છે  ને એક બીજાની જરૂરિયાતને પુરી કરવાની ભાવનાનાં નામો જુદા જુદા હોઈ શકે , દા.ત. મોરલ સપોર્ટ, એકબીજાના સુખ દુખ ના ભાગીદાર, એકબીજાની લાગણી ની હૂફ ,પોતાનો હૈયા  હળવો કરની રીત રસમ જગા સમય પ્રમાણે વર્તાતી હોય છે વગેરે વગેરે પ્રેમને નામે જુગાર ખેલાતા હોય છે ને સ્વાર્થની ભાષા બોલાતી હોય છે  

MOTHER-SON BOND
 Preeti Tal  
 19 August 2018  

Mother-son bond