Category : Life
Optimism for you!
 Aman Upadhyay  
 24 January 2018  

Optimism!

BY WHOM I AM INSPIRED
 Rasmi Rekha Tripathy  
 30 January 2018  

I am inspired by every step of my life, every moments of nature and every natural object. Moreover, I am inspired by my failure. I think getting inspired at every moment is in the subconscious mind of everybody. When a child starts walking, he falls many times before its success. At the dawn I think ah! There is again another new hope after a dark night. The bright light of Sun ray and the calm beams of moon inspire me to be impartial to everybody. When I see the flying birds, the animals gazing in the field, I think they are having nothing with them. Still they do not deviate from their nature. So, why should I, where I have a roof on my head, a monthly salary to meet my basic needs? The same thing I think in my office (which is a small cabin, where there is no electricity). In the midsummer, when day to day life is disturbed due to excess heat, I do manage by a small hand fan to avoid sweating. But at the same time when I see the trolley pullers with load of vegetables or groceries or some other things, I get inspired. My situation looks negligible before them. When I do listen the song of calmness and sound of quietness in the darkness of night my heart fills with pleasure. I feel the beauty of night. The fragrance of scented flowers fills my heart with pleasure. If there is no darkness, how could these beauties of nature would have come? A red ant gathers food for the rainy season; small white ants could make an anthill. So, why can not I struggle?My parents inspired me in every step of my life. They always tell me to march forward, not to look behind. My siblings give the assurance of their presence at every step of my life. And the sentence, “I am with you” being told by my dear one gives me the feeling that I am not alone. There are so many inspiring hands with me.The flowing river tells me that I have a great aim ahead to meet. If there is power in the small wing of the birds to touch the sky, why not my strong legs could march forward? If the tiny droplets can make a large ocean, if the little sands help to make a big desert, why can not I helpful for the society?Last but not the least I am inspired by my failure. Because failure is the pillar stone of my success. My mother always tells that Bheemas (a character of Mahabharata, one among the Pandavas) are defeated in the first war. In my course of life, when I meet with failure at any time, the voice of my parents inspired me to march forward, in the hope of betterment in future.

અતિ ને ના મળે ગતિ
 Hiral hemang thakrar   
 9 February 2018  

"આજે હોમ મેઇડ ચોકલેટસ બનાવી રહી હતી,થોડો કોકોપાવડર વધુ પડ્યો ને બધું કડવું થઈ ગયું.ત્યાર થી વિચારી રહી છું સંબંધોમાં શું વધું થયું?કે અચાનક કડવાહટ પ્રસરી ગઈ. "અતિશયોક્તિ, અતિરેક, અતિશય, વધું હોવું, અનહદ, આ બધાં એક જ શબ્દના સમાનાર્થી છે. દરેક વસ્તુનું એક પ્રમાણ હોય છે જો એનાથી વધું થાય તો એની વિપરીત અસર થવાની જ. *પ્રેમિકા ના પ્રેમ નો અતિરેક એના પ્રેમી ને એના તરફ નિષ્ફીકર બેધ્યાન બનાવી દે છે.*અતિશય લાડ માં ઉછરેલુ બાળક સ્વચ્છંદી ને જિદ્દી થઈ જાય છે. *વારંવાર આવતાં દુઃખ ને તકલીફો મજબુત માં મજબુત મનુષ્યને કમજોર બનાવી દે છે. *અતિ ગુણવાન વ્યક્તિમાં પણ દોષ તો છુપાયેલા હોય શકે.*ભરેલા પાત્ર માં વધારાનું પ્રવાહી ઉમેરતા જાઓ તો એ છલકાઈને બહાર જ પડવાનું. "અતિ ને ના મળે કદી ગતિ" જો આ વાત દરેક ની સમજ માં આવી જાય ને તો ઘણાં ખરા અંશે પરિવર્તન શક્ય બને છે. દરેક સંજોગો દરેક વસ્તુ એના નિયત માપ અનુસાર થતી રહે તો દુઃખ તકલીફો ઉભાં જ ના થાય. પણ આ માનવ મન છે ને બહું ચંચળ છે જે મળે તે ઓછું જે લાગે હજી થોડું વધું મળી જાય તો કેવું સારું. બસ આમાં જ અટવાયા કરે છે ને ચાર દિવસ ની જિંદગી પૂરી થઈ જાય છે. 

દીકરો દીકરી એક સમાન
 Hiral hemang thakrar   
 12 February 2018  

"અરે રે બિચારીને દીકરો જોતો હતો પણ ફરીથી દીકરી જન્મી" આવા સહાનુભૂતિ ભર્યા શબ્દો જ્યારે પણ કોઈને માટે બોલતા સાંભળું છું, કેટકેટલાં પ્રયત્નો કરું ખુદને શાંત રાખવાનાં પરંતુ મારાથી થોડું ઉગ્ર તો થઈ જ જવાય. કહેવાતા આ મોર્ડન સમાજની આવી માનસિક પંગુતા ક્યારે દૂર થશે? આશ્ચર્ય ની વાત છે 'દીકરો દીકરી એક સમાન' ની વાતો કરવાવાળા 21 મી સદીના લોકોની વિચારસરણી 18 મી સદી જેવી. દિકરીનાં જન્મ સમયે મોટાભાગના પરિવારોમાં તો જાણે શોકનું વાતાવરણ ઉભું થઈ જાય છે. જરા જઈને કોઈ સમજાવોને સાહેબ જન્મનાર બાળક પોતાનું પ્રારબ્ધ લખાવીને જ આવે છે. જન્મ આપનારી જનેતા માટે બંને એકસમાન હોય છે તો આપણે કોણ હોઈ શકીએ? દીકરા દીકરી માં ભેદ કરનારા????? 

शादी में फिजूल खर्च
 Manisha Joban Desai  
 13 February 2018  

शादी में फ़िज़ूल खर्चआज का विषय आनंदित घटना के साथ ज़रूरी बदलाव के लिए भी हमें सोचने पर मजबूर करता है।विवाह-शादी में बंधनेवालो के सपनो की उड़ान ही कुछ अलग होती है ।सदीओ से चले आ रहे इस रिवाज़ को सब ख़ुशी-ख़ुशी अपनाते है,ये सोचकर के शादी तो एक बार करनी है और वह प्रसंग यादगार रहे जाए।पहेले के समय में और अभी लोगो के रहन-सहन और ज़िन्दगी के प्रति सोच में काफी परिवर्तन आया है।एक तरफ से देखा जाए तो ये सभी उत्सव जो हम मनाते है उससे व्यापार में तो बढ़ावा होता ही हे।जैसे गहने से लेकर खाने तक के खर्च से हमारे कारण कोई और कमाता है जैसे दुसरो की वजह से हम कमाते है ।हम हमारे देश में लघुउद्योगो को बढ़ावा देते है ।शादी के समारोह में होनेवाले हर खर्च हमारे समाज के बिज़नेस का एक हिस्सा है ।और अब जब लड़का लड़की खुद अपनी कॅरियर बनाते है और खुद के आनंद के लिए खर्च करते है ।गरीब की लड़की की शादी के लिए हमारे यहाँ आर्यसमाज और रजिस्टर विवाह की सुविधा है ही ।शादी के वकत धार्मिक विधियाँ इतनी खर्चाण नहीं है लेकिन बिन ज़रूरी खाने की वेराइटीज वगैराह पर खर्च नहीं होना चाहिए ।शादी के वकत खरीदी गयी चीज़ें तो काम आनेवाली ही है ,लेकिन डेकोरेशन वगैराह में भी जिसको री-यूज़ कर सके ऐसे आयोजन होना चाहिए।कितने लोग शादी के वकत काफी दान भी करते है, ज़रूरियातमंद को गिफ्ट भी देते है।लेकिन अगर कोई सिर्फ़ अपने स्टेटस के लिए सामनेवाले को खर्च करवाए ये ग़लत है।आज लाइफस्टाइल इतना बदल गया है कि हमारा युवा जनरेशन पश्चिमी स्टाइल से प्रभावित होकर पार्टियाँ रखते है ,जब कि आप अगर जाने तो विदेशी लोग अपनी शादी पर बहोत काम खर्च करते है।वहाँ सब अपनी कॅरियर और घर वगैराह बनाने में ज़्यादा ध्यान  रखते है ।हमारे भारत में महिलाए काम करने नहीं जाती इस विचार से प्रेरित शादी के वक्त ज़्यादा खरीदी की जाती है कि हमारी बेटी को किसी चीज़ की कमी नहीं रहे ।और दहेज़ भी इसी सोच का नतीजा है कि औरते बेटे के ससुराल से शादी के वक्त चीजे डिमांड करके अपनी इच्छाए पूर्ण करती है ।अपने सर्कल में सबको दिखने के लिए भी बहु से चीजे डिमांड की जाती है।लेकिन ये सब खर्च बचाने के लिए पैसेवाले लोग भी समूहलग्न में भाग ले तो काफी खर्च बच सकता है।-मनीषा जोबन देसाईSent from Yahoo Mail on Android

প্রবচনে নারী
 Soma Dutta   
 22 February 2018  

বাংলায় নারীদের সম্পর্কে বেশকিছু প্রবাদ-প্রবচন লক্ষ্য করা যায়।এগুলি প্রাচীন হলেেও আজও প্রাসঙ্গি্ক ও আধুনিক।নারী জাতির মধ্যে সবার আগে যিনি,তিনি হলে্ন আমাদের প্রিয় গর্ভধারিনী মা।এই মা কে নিয়ে সবচেয়ে জনপ্রিয় প্রবাদটি হল 'ভাগের মা গঙ্গা পায় না।'এর অর্থ অত্যন্ত সহজ।আরো তিনটে জনপ্রিয় প্রবাদ-'মাতৃবৎ পরদারেষু' , 'মায়ের গলায় দিয়ে দড়ি, বউকে পরাই ঢাকাই শাড়ি,'এবং 'মায়ের চেয়ে মাসির দরদ বেশী।'বউকে জব্দ করার জন্যও প্রবাদ সৃষ্টি হয়েছে'হলুদ জব্দ শিলে,বউ জব্দ কিলে।'কয়েকটি লৌকিক ছড়ায় নারী চরিত্র অসাধারনভাবে ধরা পড়েছে।যেমন-         'নিম তিত, নিশ্চিন্দে তিত,তিত মাকাল ফল          তার চেয়ে তিত কন্যে বোন সতীনের ঘর।'অথবা          'তুফানে যে হাল ধরে না,সেই বা কেমন নেয়ে           কথা পাড়লে বুঝতে পারে না সেই বা কেমন মেয়ে।'নারী বিষয়ে কোন বক্তব্যের সমর্থনে আর নিষেধে এই প্রবাদগুলির ব্যবহার হয়ে থাকে।তবে প্রবাদ গুলি কেবল নারীকেন্দ্রিক বিষয়ে আবদ্ধ নয়,এ যেন পিতৃতান্ত্রিক সমাজে নারীকে নৈতিকতার বেড়াজালে আবদ্ধ রাখা।

A Child-star to a Superstar
 Aman Upadhyay  
 25 February 2018  

The first female superstar of the Indian Cinema, Sridevi (bornShree Amma Yanger Ayyapan), passed away last night. As soon as the news came, it was mandatory to check if it was some kind of rumor. But, to our utter grief, it was true. And true to such extent that we are still taken aback to witness the ‘Hawaa-Hawai’ star, go too soon at the age of 54. She broke our hearts for the first time when she played an autistic child-woman in Kamal Haasan-starrer ‘Sadma’ (the Sadma lullaby is still one of the most cherished memories from my childhood) and yet again she has left us in tears. The only difference is that this time she has left us heartbroken forever. It’s just so unfair that the versatile actress had a cardiac arrest and left us. We all watched her with awe, in ‘Himmatwala’ doing ‘Naino me Sapna’, in Yash Chopra directed ‘Lamhe’, in ‘Roop Ki Rani, Choro Ka Raja’, in ‘Nagina’ and ‘Nigahein’ as the snake-lady, and in the iconic roles she played in five Indian languages. ‘Judaai’, ‘Khuda Gawaah’, ‘ChaalBaaz’, ‘Mr. India’ and ‘Chandni’ are some movies that would not have had the fame they have if Sridevi was not a part of them.A special mention for her last but not the least, ‘Mom’ where she showed that she was still the same Sridevi that we then fell in love with when she proved herself yet again. It’s been heard that she has played a guest appearance in Shahrukh Khan’s ‘Zero’ which is up for release in December this year.Sridevi in her entire career displayed that simple yet the heart-warming, beautiful smile that could melt a man of any age.Here’s to a stunning superstar, a mother, an icon, an inspiration, and an artist - may you find peace wherever you now are. And you’ll be missed. Always.

રૂપ સ્મ્રાજ્ઞીનીને શ્રદ્ધાંજલિ
 Kunjal Chhaya  
 25 February 2018  

ભારતીય ફિલ્મ જગતની તેજોમય દીવડી ઓચિંતી ઓલવાઈ ગઈ.જેની અદાકારી અને રૂપના કામણની કાયલ હોય એવી ત્રણ પેઢીની લોકપ્રીય અભિનેત્રી શ્રીદેવી ગત રાતે દુબઈમાં પારિવારિક લગ્ન પ્રસંગે હાજરી આપવા ગયેલ અને હ્રદયના તિવ્ર હુમલાને તાબે થઈ એના કાંતિવાન દેહે પરમાત્મની શરણાગતિ સ્વીકારી લીધી. અંતિમ તસ્વીરની ઝલક ટી.વી. સમાચારો અને ઈન્ટરનેટના માધ્યમો દ્વારા જોવા મળી જેમાં લગ્નસરામાં શોભનીય લાગે એવાં આભૂષણો અને ભારતીય જાકજમાળવાળાં પરિધાનમાં એવોની સદેહે ચોપન વર્ષની આયુમાં પણ ઉત્કૃષ્ઠ મરમરની મૂર્તિ સમ લાગતાં હતાં. પતિ બોની કપુર અને દીકરી ખુશી એ સમયે સાથે હતાં. બીજી પુત્રી જાહ્નવી હાલ ભારતમાં જ છે અને એમનો પાર્થિવ દેહ દુબઈથી મુંબઈ લવાશે એવા સમાચાર સૂત્રોની યાદીમાં છે.આ ક્ષણે, એમની યાત્રા તરફ નજર કરીએ તો નાનપણથી જ ભારતીય શાસ્ત્રીય નૃત્યમાં જેમણે પારંગતતા હાંસલ કરી હતી અને સાવ બાળપણથી જ કચકડે જેમના અભિનયના આયામો ઝળક્યાં હતાં એવાં આ શ્રીદેવીનું અસલ નામ અમ્મા યંગર અયપ્પમ હતું. તેઓની બાળ કલાકાર તરીકે તમીલ ફિલ્મોથી શરૂઆત કરી હતી અને હિન્દી ફિલ્મમાં ૧૯૭૧માં જૂલી ફિલ્મમાં મુખ્ય અભિનેત્રી લક્ષ્મીની નાની બહેનના પત્રમાં પદાર્પણ કર્યું હતું. સદમા, ચાંદની, ગુમરાહ, ચાલબાઝ, મી.ઈન્ડિયા, નગીના અને ખુદાગવાહ જેવી ફિલ્મો એમની યાદગાર છે. હાલમાં, આવેલ અને ખૂબ વખણાયેલ ફિલ્મો ‘ઈગ્લિશ વિંગ્લીશ’ અને ‘મોમ’ના પાત્રને બખૂબી નિભાવ્યું હતું. અંતિમ સફર તરીકે, શાહરૂખ ખાનની આગામી ફિલ્મ ઝીરોમાં એમને સજીવન જોઈ શકાશે. કેટલાંય ફિલ્મી અને સામાજિક એવોર્ડ મેળનાર આ અભિનેત્રી કેટલીય અભિનંય વાંછુઓની આદર્શ રહી છે અને રહેશે. વડાપ્રધાન મોદી સાહેબ, એમના સમકાલિન અભિનેતા રજનિકાંત, ધર્મેન્દ્ર – સૌંદર્ય સામગ્રી હેમા માલીની અને આજની ચહિતી અભિનેત્રી આલિયા ભટ્ટ વગેરે અનેક હસ્તીઓએ એમને ઠેરઠેર શ્રદ્ધાંજલિ અર્પણ કરી છે. સૌથી વધુ એમની ફિલ્મના પડદે એમના દેર અનિલ કપુર અને ૠષિ કપુર સાથે જોડી જામતી. હાલમાં ખૂબ લોકપ્રિય થયેલ સિયલ ‘યે ઉન દિનો કી બાત હૈ’માં નેવુંના તબક્કામાં એતો યુવા હૈયાંમાં રાજ કરતાં એવું સ્પષ્ટ અણસાર આવે છે. હોળીની ઉજવણીની શરૂઆત કરવા જઈ રહેલ આજના રવિવારની સવારે શ્રીદેવીના અવસનના સમાચારે સૌને વિચારતાં કરી દીધાં કે હે પ્રભુ, તારા દરબારમાં કેવી લીલા છે આ, સઘળું અહીં ક્ષણભંગૂર જાણે !સૌંદર્ય અને કલાની જેની પર અસિમ કૃપા રહી એવા આ અભિનેત્રીને શબ્દાંજલિ.કુંજલ પ્રદીપ છાયા ‘કુંજકલરવ’

Pessimism and negativity in our daily lives
 Ekta Bhatnager  
 25 February 2018  

How many times have we heard people say ‘be optimistic and positive in life’? I know I have, whenever things have not been going as I expect them to, there will always be someone giving you a little pep talk on being positive. It is human nature to fall prey to negative thoughts and be pessimistic because, we cannot be happy at all times. Things will always not fall in place and there will be times when you need to work harder than you already are.It is at these stressful times that you should ask yourself... do I really let such negative thoughts take over me...yes! Embrace your failures, your insecurities and your pessimistic attitude instead of just running away from it.Pessimism and negativity can take a toll in your life. They make you irritated, agitated, and restless and can even lead to anxiety and depression. Negativity drains you off all your energy and can have a physical setback to your body. Such thoughts not only affect you but also people around you. Who wants to be with someone who is always brooding and is a pessimist?Have that moment of brooding, of being sad, of letting all your negative thoughts getting to you, but know how to come out of it.Once you have had that moment of pessimism, it is time for you to gear up and overcome the setbacks in your life. Let that moment go away and be motivated to get some action going in your life.How can you do away with such negativity in daily life?What are the sources from where you get such negative thoughts? Are they television, music, a colleague at work, social media? Replace these sources with something better and fun.Stop blowing up small or medium sized issues. Exercise regularly or just take a walk outside in the fresh air and you will feel refreshed. Be grateful for the things that you have in life instead of brooding over what you want or do not have.If negative thoughts are still bothering you, let it out. Talk to someone trustworthy, share your feelings and then see how light you feel.Switching to positive thoughts is a conscious decision. You just need to replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. They will energize you, increase your productivity at work and most importantly make you feel happy and content.

The Timeless Link Between Writing and Running and Why It Makes for Better Work
 Suchismita Sahu  
 26 February 2018  

There is a lot of mythology about a writer’s life and routine, and very little of it is true. It’s one reason why that famous misquote from Hemingway is so popular, “There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.”If Hemingway ever did say such a thing, his meticulously edited, and ironically, handwritten manuscript pages at the John F. Kennedy Library speak much more loudly. There are some 47 alternative endings for Hemingway’sA Farewell To Arms, written by his hand alone. Hemingway rewrote the first part of the book, by his own count, more than 50 times.In truth, like many ventures, writing is a long hard slog. It’s more akin to a marathon of effort than a sprint of inspiration. Not that writing is a miserable profession. It isn’t. If one learns to cope with it properly, it’s quite wonderful and any who gets to do it for a living is blessed. But the coping is key. For many writers, that coping comes in a form rather appropriate to the analogy I gave above: Writers cope with writing by running.My routine goes something like this: After the hectic office hour, I begin to slow down and eventually become stuck. Accepting that any more time spent would be throwing good effort after bad, I change, put on my running shoes, and go for a run.Depending on whether I’m writing from my home or my office, my run will be one of a few prescribed courses. I run because I love it. Because it’s good exercise. It’s the only exercise I’ve ever really been good at.. But I run for another reason, the same reason that many writers apparently run: it makes me better at my job.There are many writers who run. Of course, there is Murakami, who in addition to his beautiful fiction, is best known in the running community for his book What I Talk About When I Talk About Running. Malcolm Gladwell has been a competitive runner since high school (and recently told Tim Ferriss that he begins every morning by checking out Letsrun.com. Novelist Don DeLillo told the Paris Review how after writing for four hours, he goes running to “shake off one world and enter another.” Joyce Carol Oates, in her ode to running, said that “the twin activities of running and writing keep the writer reasonably sane and with the hope, however illusory and temporary, of control.” Lawrence Block, creator of the Matthew Scudder series was not only an avid runner, but a competitive walker too (more on that in a minute).Professional writers quickly learn one reality of the job: you have more bad days than good. It’s the rare day that the writer finds that the words come out exactly the way they were in their head. In fact, it’s usually the opposite — one is disappointed, distracted, struggling, committed but unproductive. It’s a special day when the flow is pure and uninterrupted, when one doesn’t stop somewhere short of where they’d like to be.But exercise — especially running — is the opposite. A run is almost always good, and if you don’t take your phone, hardly ever interrupted. If you set out to run five miles and five miles is within your capabilities, you will accomplish that goal. It’s rare that one leaves their house for a run and somehow doesn’t make it back. In this way, running is predictable, dependable, satisfying and thus a counterbalance for the mercurial muses of the creative professional.The writer Shelby Foote, who I gather from the copious of images of him in a bathrobe, slippers and smoking a pipe, wasn’t much for running, once joked about all the things he discovered for his books “while looking for something else.” As a researcher, I can attest to that. As a runner, I can also say that most of my biggest breakthroughs as a writer came after I had stopped writing and gone running. There’s no race, there’s only a runnerJust keep one foot in front of the otherAs a runner, the real race is getting up and running every single day. Life is the marathon. The same is true in writing. A lot of people sit down to write a book. Many don’t make it past that point. Plenty get something finished, but are intimidated by the maze that is publishing, promoting, selling. And of the relative few that make it through there, only some have the stamina to start the next one. To make it a career.Murakami once described running as “both exercise and a metaphor.” This is true. The life of a running writer is marathon within a marathon within a marathon. The training and the participation in each one of these races makes us better at the other. He also said, in an interview a few years ago:“Without a solid base of physical strength, you can’t accomplish anything very intricate or demanding. That’s my belief. If I did not keep running, I think my writing would be very different from what it is now.”This has always been true, even before our modern culture of exercise. Diogenes Laertes in his famous Lives of Eminent Philosophers tells us that the philosopher Chrysippus trained as a long distance runner before he discovered Stoicism. One can only imagine the influence this training had on Chrysippus, and how it put him in a position to understand a philosophy based on self-discipline, inner-control and endurance. The saying in the ancient world was that “But for Chrysippus, there had been no Porch.” (the stoa in stoicism) But for many miles of running, would there have been a Chrysippus?There are plenty more philosophers, writers, and poets who have found the same benefits in not just in running but in walking. For centuries, thinkers have walked many miles a day because they had to, because they were bored, because they wanted to escape the putrid cities they lived in, because they wanted to get their blood flowing. In the process they discovered an important side-effect: it helped them make better work. As Nietzsche would later say: “It is only ideas gained from walking that have any worth.” Thoreau, another avid walker, claimed, “the moment my legs begin to move my thoughts begin to flow.”Lawrence Block, a prodigious writer and author of more than a hundred books, traded in marathons for day long distance walking races in his 60s. This activity, he says, is quite similar creative process. He told screenwriter Brian Koppelman on Slate’s The Moment, “either writing or distance walking would be a bad idea for someone who doesn’t have much of an inner-life.” The novelist Helen Dunmore gave The Guardian a list of rules for creating fiction. The best one? “A problem with a piece of writing often clarifies itself if you go for a long walk.”

રોજનીશી - Dairy
 Kunjal Chhaya  
 27 February 2018  

રોજનીશી લખવાની હું જરા પણ હિમાયતી નથી. એ તો જાણે આપણો સથવારો હોય સંગાથ હોય એવું એ ક્ષણે લાગે જ્યારે આપણે એમાં રોજિંદા મનોભાવો ઠાલવતાં હોઈએ. એ તો મને એક ઘાતક પરિબળ લાગે. રખેને વર્ષો પછી એ અગાઉ લખાયેલ ઉર્મીઓ અને લાગણીઓ જૂનાં પીળાં પાનામાં સચવાઈને મળી આવે, વંચાય ત્યારે એ બધું જ વંટોળ બની ફરી આંખે ઊડે ! સ્મૃતિઓને પાંખો આવે, સુખદ હોય કે દુઃસહ એ સઘળું માંડ વિસરાયેલું ફરીથી ખડું થાય ! શાને? જે વીતી ચૂક્યું એ વાગોળવુંય શાને? નથી ભાવિનું પડઘમ આપણાં હાથમાં નથી ભૂતની ઝાલર આપણાં કાંડે કે એને વર્તમાનના ડંકાના ફિટકારથી વગાડી શકીએ. તો શું જરૂર? એ મહાપરાણે સમાયેલા ડંખો કે પછી રહીરહીને સાતા પામેલ મીઠી ખંજવાળો આપણે સંગ્રહી રાખીએ એપણ શબ્દસઃ !અંગત ક્ષણોની મીઠડી યાદો કે પછી જીવાયેલ કડવા અનુભવો, સ્વગત થયેલા રહસ્યો જો કોઈ અન્ય વાંચે તો? સ્વનો બળાપો, ઉહાપોહ કે ફરિયાદો જે ડાયરીના પાનામાં કંડારાઈ ગયાં એ તો હવે દસ્તાવેજ થઈ ગયાં. એ ક્યાં અકબંધ રહ્યાં જેમ તમારાં મનમાં જ રહ્યાં હોય એમ?જાણે કે જાતનો જીવ સદગતિએ પામ્યો પછી શું એ પાના મૌન ધારણ કરશે ખરાં? એ તો ચોક્કસ અન્યોને ચાડી ખાશે તમારા મનોજગતની. એ નિસંદેહ છે.હા, જો તમે ઇચ્છતાં હોવ, તમારી પેઢી કે તમારાં આત્મિયજનો તમને વાંચે, તમારી વાતોને સમજે તો ચોક્કસ લખો. એવું લખો જે સાર્વજનિક ઉપયોગિતામાં પરિણમે. બાકી, એ બનાવો કે અણબનાવો જે તમારા પોતાના છે એજે જાહેર ન કરવાં હોય તો ડાયરી ન જ લખો. હા, જાત સાથે વાતો કરવામાં પાગલપન લાગતું હોય તો લખો અને એને તમારી જ હયાતીમાં વિસર્જિત પણ કરતાં રહો. એક પછી એક વર્ષ જેમ આગળ વધે એમ એ ડાયરીનો પણ સંગ્રહ ન કરી નવી દુનિયાને સ્વીકારતાં જવું એવું પણ વલણ રાખી જ શકાય. નહીં તો આ પ્રક્રિયા આપને વધુ વિચલિત કરશે. શાને એવું થવા દેવું?કુંજલ પ્રદીપ છાયા #કુંજકલરવ

मरणाचेही भांडवल करणारे गारदी
 Abasaheb Mhaske  
 28 February 2018  

निवडणुकीची घोषणा होताच नेते मंडळी जागी झालीझाडून कामाला लागले , करूया म्हटले मोर्चेबांधणी जाहीरनाम्याची घोषणा झाली  , आनंदाची बरसात झाली त्यांनी  स्वप्नाचा गाव दावंला , आम्हीही हुरळून गेलो पोळ्याचा  बैल सजवावासणाला , मतदार हि सजला आश्वासनाच्या पावसानं कधी सहानुभूतीनं भिजला हा हा म्हणता निवडणुकीचा धुराळा उडाला ...मतदार सवयीप्रमाणे पुन्हा एकदा बावळा झाला नानाविध झेंड्याखाली पुन्हा एकदा गुदमरला गेला जाती पातीच्या राजकारणालाच आपसूक बळी पडला कामा  पुरता मामा , कळंला ना  त्याना राजकारणी कावा खाण्यापिण्यासाठी गुलामी पत्करून  जिंदाबाद , मुर्दाबाद गरजला  सत्तेसाठी घेऊन झोळी ,लाजत आली  कमळाबाईतळ्यात - मळ्यात करीत सावध झाला  धनुष्य बाणपटरी सोडून रेल इंजिन निघालं आश्वासनांचा धूर सोडतघड्याळ म्हणाल  हात मिळवणी करावी कि करावा  टाटा तुम्ही आम्हाला वोट द्या , आम्ही फक्त चोट देवू पाहिजे तर  गांधीछाप देऊ  पाच वर्षे तोंड न दावू , पाय पडतो तुमच्या ,फक्त एकदा निवडून द्या भाऊ स्वातंत्र्याने  सत्तरी ओलांडली तरी  उघड गुपित आम्हाला  कधी कळलेनाहीज्याच्या हाती ससा, तोच इथे  पारधी , मरणाचेही भांडवल करणारे  गारदीआबासाहेब म्हस्के  

ଯିବେ ସବୁ ଗାଡି ଜାଗା ଗୋଟିଏ
 Rasmi Rekha Tripathy  
 28 February 2018  

ଯିବେ ସବୁ ଗାଡି ଜାଗା ଗୋଟିଏକେବେ ପହଞ୍ଚିବ ଜାଣିଛି କିଏ?😢😢😢ଦିବଙ୍ଗତ ଅଭିନେତ୍ରୀ, ସୁନ୍ଦରତାର ପ୍ରତୀକ, ଅନେକ ସଫଳ ଚଳଚ୍ଚିତ୍ରର ସଫଳ ନାୟିକା ତଥା ହିନ୍ଦୀ ଚଳଚ୍ଚିତ୍ର ଜଗତର ପ୍ରଥମ ସୁପର୍ ଷ୍ଟାର୍ ଅଭିନେତ୍ରୀ ଶ୍ରୀଦେବୀଙ୍କ ଶବ ଯାତ୍ରାର ଫଟୋ ସହ ଦେଖିଲି ଫେସ୍ ବୁକରେ । ଥରିଗଲା ହୃଦୟ । ମନେ ପଡିଗଲେ ଅଫେରନ୍ତା ରାଇଜକୁ ଚାଲି ଯାଇଥିବା ଅନେକ ପ୍ରିୟଜନ । କୋରି ହୋଇଗଲା ହୃଦୟ। ଥରିଗଲା ମନ । ଜୀବନର ଏକମାତ୍ର ସତ୍ଯ : ଜନ୍ମ ହେଲେ ମୃତ୍ଯୁ ନିଶ୍ଚିତ । ତଥାପି ବି ମଣିଷ ମାୟାଗ୍ରସ୍ତ ହୁଏ। ମିଛ ବଡେଇ କରେ।ତୋର ମୋର ସୀମା ରେଖା ଭିତରେ ଆବଦ୍ଧ ହୋଇଯାଏ । ମନ ଗ୍ରହଣ କରିବାକୁ ରାଜି ହୁଏନା ଏହି ଭୟଙ୍କର ସତ୍ଯକୁ।ଏତେ ବଡ଼ ଅଭିନେତ୍ରୀ । ଏତେ ସୁନ୍ଦର। ଅନେକ ସଫଳତାର ଅଧିକାରୀ ଶ୍ରୀଦେବୀ । ଭାରତୀୟ ବୟସ ମାନଦଣ୍ଡକୁ ଦେଖିଲେ ଚଉବନ ବର୍ଷଟା କିଛି ବି ନୁହେଁ । ତଥାପି ବି ମୃତ୍ଯୁ କେଉଁ ଛଟକରେ ଆସି କବଳିତ କରିନେଲା ପ୍ରାଣ ।ଟୀକା ଗୋବିନ୍ଦ ଚନ୍ଦ୍ରର ପଦଟିଏ ମନେ ପଡେ:ସେହି କାଳ ଯମ ବଡ଼ ଦାରୁଣରେନ ଜାଣଇ ଦୁଃଖ ସୁଖବାଛି ନବ କଞ୍ଚା ରଖିବ ପାଚିଲାଦେବ ସେ ଦାରୁଣ ଦୁଃଖରେ କୁମର.....ପ୍ରାର୍ଥନା କରୁଛି ତାଙ୍କ ଅମର ଆତ୍ମାର ସଦ୍ ଗତି ହେଉ ଓ ଭଗବାନ୍ ତାଙ୍କ ପରିବାରକୁ ଏ ଦୁଃଖ ସହିବାକୁ ଶକ୍ତି ଦିଅନ୍ତୁ ।

ଯିବେ ସବୁ ଗାଡି ଜାଗା ଗୋଟିଏ
 Rasmi Rekha Tripathy  
 28 February 2018  

ଯିବେ ସବୁ ଗାଡି ଜାଗା ଗୋଟିଏକେବେ ପହଞ୍ଚିବ ଜାଣିଛି କିଏ?😢😢😢ଦିବଙ୍ଗତ ଅଭିନେତ୍ରୀ, ସୁନ୍ଦରତାର ପ୍ରତୀକ, ଅନେକ ସଫଳ ଚଳଚ୍ଚିତ୍ରର ସଫଳ ନାୟିକା ତଥା ହିନ୍ଦୀ ଚଳଚ୍ଚିତ୍ର ଜଗତର ପ୍ରଥମ ନାରୀ ସୁପର୍ ଷ୍ଟାର୍ ଅଭିନେତ୍ରୀ ଶ୍ରୀଦେବୀଙ୍କ ଶବ ଯାତ୍ରାର ଫଟୋ ସହ ଦେଖିଲି ଉପରୋକ୍ତ କବିତା ଦୁଇ ଧାଡି ଫେସ୍ ବୁକରେ । ଥରିଗଲା ହୃଦୟ । ମନେ ପଡିଗଲେ ଅଫେରନ୍ତା ରାଇଜକୁ ଚାଲି ଯାଇଥିବା ଅନେକ ପ୍ରିୟଜନ । କୋରି ହୋଇଗଲା ହୃଦୟ। ଥରିଗଲା ମନ । ଜୀବନର ଏକମାତ୍ର ସତ୍ଯ : ଜନ୍ମ ହେଲେ ମୃତ୍ଯୁ ନିଶ୍ଚିତ । ତଥାପି ବି ମଣିଷ ମାୟାଗ୍ରସ୍ତ ହୁଏ। ମିଛ ବଡେଇ କରେ।ତୋର ମୋର ସୀମା ରେଖା ଭିତରେ ଆବଦ୍ଧ ହୋଇଯାଏ । ମନ ଗ୍ରହଣ କରିବାକୁ ରାଜି ହୁଏନା ଏହି ଭୟଙ୍କର ସତ୍ଯକୁ।ଏତେ ବଡ଼ ଅଭିନେତ୍ରୀ । ଏତେ ସୁନ୍ଦର। ଅନେକ ସଫଳତାର ଅଧିକାରୀ ଶ୍ରୀଦେବୀ । ଭାରତୀୟ ବୟସ ମାନଦଣ୍ଡକୁ ଦେଖିଲେ ଚଉବନ ବର୍ଷଟା କିଛି ବି ନୁହେଁ । ତଥାପି ବି ମୃତ୍ଯୁ କେଉଁ ଛଟକରେ ଆସି କବଳିତ କରିନେଲା ପ୍ରାଣ ।ଟୀକା ଗୋବିନ୍ଦ ଚନ୍ଦ୍ରର ପଦଟିଏ ମନେ ପଡେ:ସେହି କାଳ ଯମ ବଡ଼ ଦାରୁଣରେନ ଜାଣଇ ଦୁଃଖ ସୁଖବାଛି ନବ କଞ୍ଚା ରଖିବ ପାଚିଲାଦେବ ସେ ଦାରୁଣ ଦୁଃଖରେ କୁମର.....ପ୍ରାର୍ଥନା କରୁଛି ତାଙ୍କ ଅମର ଆତ୍ମାର ସଦ୍ ଗତି ହେଉ ଓ ଭଗବାନ୍ ତାଙ୍କ ପରିବାରକୁ ଏ ଦୁଃଖ ସହିବାକୁ ଶକ୍ତି ଦିଅନ୍ତୁ ।

Stepping out of my cocoon
 Ipsa Arora  
 2 March 2018  

“Hello dad, my internship location is a different city, 2000 kilometres away! My friends are planning to book train tickets and it will take nearly 36 hours to reach.” I was blabbering on the phone standing in the corridor outside my classroom. I was expecting my dad to say, “Never mind. Both of us will book our flight tickets, I will take you there, meet your office people, book you a hostel for two months, talk to the hostel warden, check food facilities and everything else and ensure that you are in the best of your comfort zone.” Instead, he said, “Yes, go ahead. You also book your ticket along with your friends.” I was frozen for a minute. “But dad, it is a 36 hour long journey!” I said. “Yes, that’s okay. If your friends don’t want to go by air, you go with them by train. It will be fun.” He tried to comfort me. I stood there for another few minutes wondering how I would manage all of it on my own. I had never stepped out of home without my parents’ guidance and that was my cocoon I refused to step out of.Now, I was being given only 18 days to prepare myself for this 2 month long journey far away from home. My batch mate booked train tickets for 5 of us who were going and I was glad that at least I escaped one task. I was extremely nervous. 18 days passed with the blink of an eye. The away-from-home mission started with the train journey, the second of my life so far. But like my friends and my parents had said, the journey was fun. 5 of us immediately bonded and endured our 36 hours playing dumb charades and other games. We reached early morning and stepping foot on a different land comprising of different people, speaking a different language and most importantly, me being away from my parents was like being on an expedition for me.But now, when I recollect those days, I feel those were among the best days of my life and I cherish each memory I have of that place. Roaming on the streets with luggage and hunting for a hostel, negotiating with the hostel warden for the fee and settling my things in the wardrobe were the first few things I did on my own. At home, I was a spoilt child and had never entered the kitchen except for taking food or keeping my utensils in the sink. In the hostel, besides taking food from the kitchen, I washed my utensils, packed mine and my friend’s lunch and even warmed milk on the stove in the middle of a night for a friend who had hurt her foot and couldn’t walk. I even learnt to wash clothes, iron them, withdraw money from a bank, go grocery shopping, interact with people not knowing my language and so many other things I couldn’t have done staying in my own city at my own home.At the internship, my boss assured me that it was a safe city and I could travel around for events and work. I managed to do 18 events in the two months, a number the company was yearning to reach in the two years they had been operating for. Everybody appreciated my work at office.I learnt to not only take care of my own self but of my friends too. They had started teasing me by calling me mommy, the one who was always worried if everybody was eating well, was in their respective rooms before the deadline at night, was reaching office on time, etc. I also became the accounts in charge for the 5 of us, who owed whom how much and why, I kept a record of all of it.Being a strong and chirpy girl most of the time, at some other times I broke down too, on the day of my childhood friend’s wedding when I could not be her bridesmaid, when my grandmother suffered a minor heart attack and I couldn’t be there beside her bed and sometimes, just like that, not knowing why.But overall, I am glad that I went there stepping out of my cocoon. I learnt a lot of household chores, a lot from my internship, made a lot of new friends and most importantly, learnt a lot about my own self!

12 reasons that tell you why is it great to be single
 Ipsa Arora  
 6 March 2018  

Being single is sometimes considered lonely and less fun but at other times singles know that it is a blessing to them. Single status denotes freedom, liberty, no restrictions and more of solo fun. Let us look at 12 things every single should be happy about:You can spend more time with yourself-You can go on solo trips and explore around various holiday destinations. You could even spend time watching your favourite shows or movies till late in the night- you don’t have to spend every night pampering somebody on the phone! Weekends can be lazy as you want them to be. Spend time yawning in your bed, nobody is going to insist you to go out for shopping!You can spend more time with your besties- Every person in a relationship often hears these words from his/her best friends- “You are not giving time to us now. You have changed dude.” Being single you don’t have to face any such problem. You would never have to miss out any of your friend’s party, birthday or hangout plan.Live rich!- No hefty shopping budgets. No spending huge amounts on gifts every now and then. No getting scolded from parents for burning a hole in their pockets. Save all your earnings and your parents earnings for a bright future or even spend it for pampering your own self.No spies behind you- Chill! There is nobody spying on you 24x7. You don’t have to keep someone informed about each and every thing you do in your day. Nobody is going to call you every now and then and inspect about where you are, with whom and why? No need to send mushy good morning and good night messages to someone.No guess games- Girlfriend is in a bad mood, probably because of her boyfriend. She replies to his text by saying ‘hmm’, ‘okay’, ‘fine’. The boyfriend goes back in time to the day they met and starts thinking from that day what made her upset. No don’t have to play any such guessing games. You can just relax and go about doing whatever you want to.No forced choices- Boy likes blue, grey and black coloured clothes only. No fourth colour. His girlfriend forces him to wear a bright orange shirt. He cringes, cries but ultimately gives in. He steps out of his home the next day wearing that bright coloured T-shirt. Nobody can meet the awkwardness he faces. But you, you are free to wear any colour you wish you. Ah what a smile when you step out of your home!No cheesiness in your life- you don’t have to send or receive cheesy messages to or from anyone. You don’t need to tolerate any baby, honey type cheesy stuff. Live your life simply because simplicity is the best.No lies- You don’t have to lie to anyone about where you are, what you are doing or who you are with. You don’t have to hide anything from anyone. Be your own self, live the way you like.You are the master of your life- You don’t need to take permissions from anyone for anything and everything you do in your life. Nobody is going to get angry on you for doing something without informing them.Hang out with your opposite gender friends without anyone getting possessive for you or insecure about your friendship. You know after all that you two are best friends and nobody can take that place in your life.You can flirt with whoever you want to without anyone seeing it and running after you to kill you. Healthy and harmless flirting is good for health after all.Don’t control your emotions- You don’t have to control your emotions and beware of your mood every single time. You can be happy, sad, upset, angry or whatever you feel like. You are not answerable to anyone.Already feeling relaxed and happy about being single? You must be observing a lot of your friends not sure about where their relationship is going. Their major problem in their life is around their relationship only. You on the other hand have no such troubles and are living a happy and content life, aren’t you? 

Everything you should know while chasing your dream
 Vaibhav Datar  
 7 March 2018  

While chasing a dream that is closest to your heart, there will be times when you will be overwhelmed by its magnitude and a little bit of self-doubt will start creeping into your mind. The uncertainty about fulfilling that dream can be unnerving but help is at hand.You can get support from life coach training in Mumbai to understand ways of fulfilling a chosen dream. However, check out the following tips that will help you to overcome these feelings and lead you to success.Do not hesitate to admit that you are a newbie in a particular field, especially when you are starting out. There will tons of things you won’t know but that is normal and you will have to take the learning curve. If you have a dream of becoming a writer, there will be many hurdles till you are able to begin the journey. But the fun and excitement of learning new skills is simply unbeatable.Remember that setbacks are a part of the process and you will experience quite a few while chasing your dream. Setbacks are not failures and are a part of the learning. In fact, if you expect them, they become easier to tackle. When you are learning something new, it is bound to be difficult till the time you master that skill. We often feel depressed when things do not go as per plans but the unexpected is always a part of the journey.You may have invested a lot of time and money in your dream and the expenses could cause you some sleepless nights. If you enrol yourself for executive coaching you will learn that a bad experience can teach you a lifetime of lessons. While there are no guarantees of success, you could probably surpass your own expectations at times and do better than you hoped to.

The Phoenix
 Suchismita Sahu  
 8 March 2018  

Below is my script, which I had delivered in my club level contest of Toastmaster International speech contest. For the knowledge of the readers, I would like to say that Toastmasters International (TI) is a US headquartered nonprofit educational organization that operates clubs worldwide for the purpose of helping members improve their communication, public speaking, and leadership skills. Writing stories and writing scripts for speeches are two different things. In speeches, the speaker has to take the challenge to involve her audience throughout the speech and she has to communicate everything within 7 mins of her talk. Audience may lose interest if the opening is not good and if the script timing goes beyond 7 mins, then audience may feel bored. So, this script provides some guidelines to a speaker.... Hope the readers will enjoy it:Title: The phoenixOpening:4th Jan1986, Odisha, a girl was born with lots of dreams in her eyes. Dreams to be the best daughter to her parents  …. Dreams to be the best Engineer the world has ever seen….dreams to bring a change in the nation …. Dreams to do the best of her life …. N  Dreams to be a wonderful wife……………………Everything was going fine as planned until 2014 when this girl caught a disease ………….. her dreams started dying, her faith in love started dying, her trust for her parents started losing and worst of all , she even thought of ending it……Eventually After 2 years of struggle  that sweet innocent girl ……died a suffocating death.Body:Good afternoon Honorable Contest Chair, fellow toastmasters and dear guests.In one of those chilly evening on November 2016, she was reborn as an independent woman with self-respect, one who takes her own decisions ……4 years back, life had put her at a turning point where one decision that she took made her disgrace for everyone……… worse even disgrace to her parents. What was that one wrong decision that changed her life………….? What was that disease that killed her happiness…??Her mistake was she decided to say no to domestic violence after marriageShe decided to not tolerate her drunkard husband’s beatings every night, she decided to not tolerate her father in law stopping her to talk to her family members, she decided not to ask her parents for more dowry, she decided not to tolerate her mother in law’s giving her high voltage electric shocks. She had lost her mental peace and freedom, which had huge negative impact on her professional career. How difficult to bear all those? How painful those moments were?? Losing individuality and living means a spiritless life with a moving physical body, that means you are living like a dead body!!!When she looked back to get the ANegative Situation Wisely Experiencing Reversal she could see that she had very little control over what happened. The seasons of her experience had to run their course – severe winter storms, cold and darkness, then the seeds hidden from within started beginning to sprout (very exciting!). The best she could do was ride the waves, which she did with varying degrees of success. She saved all her strength to swim with the tide and to flow with the grace that washed through her days, raising all her quills to defend against invaders. She took this on faith. All she used is a pair of eyes unblinkered by fear, apprehension and prejudice. Fighting with herself went on in each and every moment, hour and day, to come out from her demon created by herself since her birth. To come out from the attitude to care about ‘what will people say?’Transformation was not sweet and bright. It was dark, murky, painful and pushing. A practice in facing our own created demons.  A complete uprooting, before becoming. She turned her demons into art, her fears into fuel, her mistakes into teachers and her weaknesses into reasons to keep us fighting. She did not waste her pain, instead recycled her heart!!!Situation in life might had defeated her, burnt her, insulted her, injured her and abandoned us. But,  they will not, shall not and cannot destroy her, like a Phoenix she knows how to surrect. Lakshmi Agarwal, JK Rowling, Muniba Mazari and many more are the phoenixes who emerges from the ashes….Now, after 4 yrs, she can see herself as an independent woman who spreads her messages on how to fight with themselves among those women who try to commit suicide due to various reasons whether she is a rape survivor or has become physically disabled and lost her confidence to live her life. She says them “We do not need magic to transform our world. We carry all of the power we need inside ourselves already. The world is full of wonderful things you havenot seen yet. Don’t ever give the chance of seeing them. You are not a victim, you are a survivor. The man who attacked you will cover his face. You wont. While we women get busy in playing our predefined roles, we forget to love ourselves, we forget our worth and we don’t realize that there is so much more we can do for ourselves and for the people around us.”Conclusion:Ladies and Gentlemen,As said by Lao Tzu “New beginnings are disguised as painful endings.”What’s perceived as painful and undesirable, often paves the way for something better – and if not better, at least different. In difference, lies life’s momentum and progress. Traumatic occurrences always have a disguised positive side to them. Hidden opportunities make us more determined and fills us with life-preserving energy. Until we’re jolted out of our peaceful slumber, no epoch event can be expected to happen.Desire changes Nothing, Decision changes Something. But Determination changes Everything.Desire changes Nothing, Decision changes Something. But Determination changes Everything.Over to Emcee… 

Depression In Life
 Rahul Yadav  
 9 March 2018  

" Rukh Zindagi ne mor lia kesa , humne socha nhi tha kbhi esa. Ata nhi yakeen kya se kya ho gya , kis tarah mei tujhse yuh bewafa ho gya. Insaf kar do ,mujhe maaf kardo." It's 2:45 am, the silence around me is bliss, no noise, the lyrics are taking me to a different world and I started fighting my internal demons. We often tend to neglect our mental health. One of the most common illness that is overlooked is depression. People think depression is sadness. People think depression is crying. People think depression is dressing in black. But people are wrong. You toss and turn in your bed so that sinking feeling in your stomach goes away, but it doesn't. You wish your mind could just stop thinking, just for a moment, so you can trick your mind into falling asleep but it doesn't. It hasn't for 3 months now. You remind yourself of happy memories, but there don't seem to be any. The more you try to remember, the more miserable it feels. The worst part is, you don't know what caused this storm. Could it be the recent heartbreak? Or the fact that you've lost all your friends? Is it that you've lost all confidence in life. And that's what keeps you up all night. There's a sense of permanence in turmoil. It doesn't seem like it's ever going to be okay. Days aren't really days; they are just annoying obstacles that need to be faced. And how do you face them? Through drinking, through smoking, through drugs, through cutting. When you're depressed, you grasp on to anything that can get you through the day. Everything's going wrong all at once. With every step you take, your world collapses a little more. Nobody knows what you're going through, no matter how much they pretend to. They can't see what's hiding behind your smile. How can they not? You know what depression really feels like? Nothingness. It feels empty - zilch. There's nothing inside you, nothing around, nothing to look forward to. Nothing to fall back on. Nothing that you can see.

IN$iDe the He@d of a girl
 Nandita Rani  
 11 March 2018  

A girl/women is the most complicated species on the planet earth. Well we all can agree to that..!! Have you ever seen a jumbled rubix cube? Yes exactly.. that is how a women's brain should look like. The are zillion self contradicting thoughts going on all the time. There is family, work, food, sex(yes we do think about sex..less then food though).Let me start with the most complicated one's first: LOVE ♥Our love for family is surreal, its like you touch my family and i will kill you. When it comes to the love of other gender, its very easy for us to get attracted to someone, but really difficult to keep holding the attraction and we always make the first move. Guys may think that they have initiated it but actually it just our dirty little mind games we like to play in the starting of a relationship. A girl always knows the next move of a guy & decides weather to encourage it or diminish it. A yes is always a yes for us but you need to concentrate on the NO. It may be a firm no, or a no which means maybe yes, or a no where you need to persuade a little to make it yes.Anger/Depression/Crying all of these go hand in hand. It starts with anger, changes to depression with time and the final result is crying to take it all off your chest. Though alcohol plays a part too in making things more miserable or may be lighter(depends on the amount of consumption).Well the last but not the least most prominent thing on a girl's head : Jealousy why god why? why didn't you made me thinner like my sister. You do tina has bigger boobs not me? why am i not as fair as kareena? why are hairs not as straight as neha? Well it never ends. This list goes on and on and on. Nonetheless we can never sustain in a world without girls and neither do we want so. #werock#dontmindme#loveall#smblogcontest

Life, love and living
 Sandeep Dhaiya  
 13 March 2018  

Many, many years ago, a sage was meditating on a Himalayan peak. Majestic dales and solitary vales sprawled around were all aglow with the divine streak.Though the birds chirped songs, and rain poured down in throngs, he was unmovable, lost in a deep trance.In winters, icy cold storms blew and the snow around and over him was all aglow with its chilling primitiveness. His soul but was safe somewhere in the cosy warmth of transcendental realisation.In autumn, wind-fallen leaves sailed down with slumberous tumble, and ripe fruits fell proudly, adventurously for a juicy, pleasant crumble. He still was somewhere else when the nature opened these marvellous jewels from her treasure trove.In spring, wild flowers fully unfurled their fragrance and smile, and honey-bees engaged in dawn to dusk toil. He but was unmoved and transported into a state where the ecstasies of natural bounties don’t mean anything anymore.Summer’s warm days sprayed desultory, eerie uneasiness around, and cool nights proudly embraced this son with his soul heaven-bound. Still it didn’t matter. He was undisturbed and was silently moving on his meditative path.Once it was a full moon autumn night. A fairy was flying amid milky delight. A perfect calmness pervaded the solitary vales. Everything was asleep, bathed in the softest fluffy shades of white. The fairy flew low over the peaks glowing under the moonlight. The seer was lost in his trance in front of his cave, the beauty of nature sprawled around meaningless to him.She saw him and hovered around the sanctimonious air of his sagehood. A small, harmless mischief rustled in her young, innocent heart. She circled in the air above him. Her laughter touched the milky sea around and created soft ripples. Her unbelievably soft dress rustled in the gentle breeze born of her circles. It but did not have any effect on him. He was engrossed too deep in the cosmic balance beyond the sensory contradictions and dualities. The more she looked, the more was the urge in her to bring him back to the beauty of this world, to fetch him from the deep ocean where his soul had dived.His exquisitely masculine physique and persona created tempted sparks on her magic stick. She tried all juicily leering feminine tricks. But her desire-lorn swirls in the air failed to move him even a bit. Helplessly she descended onto the earth. There were almost tears of helplessness in her beautiful eyes. She sat in front of him with those rose-red lips pursed in a heart-breaking frown.Her marvellous eyes were lost in his handsome, bearded, well sculpted face. It was mesmerizing. There was not a single worldly trace on his face. She herself was caught in a trance and lost the sense of time and the laws of the fairyland. The night sped away as if in a jiffy.The day rose. The sun arrived with full earthly delight. There was terror in her eyes. The hope to return to her realm died. She had broken the law of her land by not returning on the same night after the brief terrestrial sojourn. The realisation crashed against her soft self like a thunderbolt. Her utmost sensuous bare shoulders heaved under the tremors of this unpardonable fault. A cry involuntarily tore through her slender throat. And then it was a still bigger violation.His serenely flowing meditative phrase met this sinful, full-stopping dot. His communion with the divinity was broken. His long-closed eyes opened. The world of his penance lay scattered. His fiercely burning eyes stared at the flower in sobs and sighs. Her large, flooded eyes pleaded for mercy. But the fire in his unforgiving eyes was unrelenting and cursing.The fabric of his serenity was torn. The sage thundered, “You proud, vain woman of egoistic beauty, become an ugly bush of thorns!”Mowed down by the spell of his cursing energy, an ugly bush stood in place of that angelic beauty. All shaken and ravaged, he left the place. A thorny branch, meanwhile, got entangled in his loin cloth, as if for meek, pleading forgiveness and brace. He but scornfully jerked it apart and headed to some other place for a new start.Time then took to its heels on swift horses. The seasons changed. The spring’s colourful patterns were rearranged. The summer’s warm kisses melted the snows. The autumn’s harvest uncomplainingly fell to the air’s chiding blows. The winter’s snowy blanket covered the peaks. And rains lashed down in stormy freaks.This pleasant wavering of nature, however, couldn’t shake the sage from the meditative maze high there in the hills. Faraway down the hills, the accursed bush was shrouded in thorny haze. It struggled to sprout fruits and flowers. Even cursing has a testing time against soft, innocent glow of purity. How can something having a fairy core remain ugly and thorny for too long? Her pure soul entombed in that thorny shrine prayed for penance. And see, a flower of her fruits sprouts forth!A flower blossomed among the thorns. So beautiful! It lit up with life among the thorns and deadly pale dark brown branches. It appeared juxtaposed by a miracle, like it had dropped from the heaven and got stuck there. It was the day when the enlightened sage arrived from the north. Contented with his cosmic realisation, he came down the beautiful dale. As he passed the bush, his purified soul sensed the thorny shrub’s plaintive wail. His feet disobeyed him and he couldn’t move. The lone flower among the thorns fell at his feet in holy-most obeisance and greet. He picked it up and was lost in its fragrance.The thorn was ugly. The flower so beautiful and fragrant! What contradiction! Flowery heaven and thorny hell together! The latter born of his cursing condemnation; the flower born of the beauty behind the thorny bars. It was a jolting earthly realisation. Hadn’t he broken the beautifully set laws?Torrents of repentance cut through him. He bid penance at the altar for a long time. His repenting self set around a reformative shrine. His soul drenched in painful chime. He braced the thorns with the love and affection purest of the pure. It gave him bleeding fingers so many times. He caressed and cared for it like it was the beautiful most flowery shrub. He was practicing his penance now, of love, of surrender, of repentance. What else can be bigger than these?When his soul had been salvaged of the sin, nobody could bet against her for a win. There she blossomed in front of him. Beauty, charm and grace filled to the brim. Her smile was forgetting and forgiving. It was the beacon of her penance, of love, of beauty. Inside the stony walls of his heart, a new luminosity was now thriving. The sage embraced her. She, who had been separated from her loved ones, got the earthling she had fallen for. Happiness, bliss and calm opened a new door to the start of a fresh cycle of life, love and humanity.All but the sage had been extinguished by the cataclysm. The lone and forlorn survivor, he had been striking at the doors of heaven with his endless questions. Now there was no more pursuit. The endless had manifested itself in a small sip of love. Now they lived as a man and a woman. New hopes, aspirations and offspring began to thrive.Thus were sown the seeds of another spell and cycle of life, of creation. Their unchecked love in those flowery vales left countless exotic trails. Gurgling brooks gave company to her primordially sensuous laughter. His instinct’s procreating sprouts mingled with the mirthful waters of her receptiveness.

મારો ફેવરીટ સમય – સુર્યાસ્ત
 Jalpa Makwana  
 13 March 2018  

આખા દિવસમાં જો મને કોઇ સમય ગમતો હોય, જ્યારે હું શાંતિનો અનુભવ કરું તો એ છે સુર્યાસ્તનો સમય. હા, એ સમય જ્યારે એક બાજુ દિવસનાં અંતની તૈયારી હોય છે ત્યારે બરાબર એ જ સમયે હું મારા ભગવાન સામે બેસીને આવનારા દિવસોની પ્રાર્થનાં કરતી હોવ છું.હજું થોડું અજવાળું હોય છે જ્યારે હું મારા પ્રાર્થના રૂમમાં જઇ મંદિર સામે બેસી, દિવાની જ્યોત જલાવી, આંખો બંધ કરીને હાથમાં માળા લઇ એના પારા ફેરવવાની શરૂઆત કરું છું. બાજુનાં બારણામાંથી ઠંડો આહલાદક પવન વાતો રહે છે જે મારા શરીરને સ્પર્શે છે, જ્યારે મારી બંધ આંખો પર એ પવન વાય છે એ અહેસાસ ખરેખર આખા દિવસનો થાક ઉતારતો હોય એવું લાગે છે. મનમાં ભગવાનની આસ્થા તથા ભવિષ્યની ચિંતા લઇ બેસતિ હું, ધીમે ધીમે આ ધીમા પવનની લહેરકીઓ સીધા મારા હ્દયમાં સોસરવી નીકળીને મને ઠારવાનો પ્રયાસ કરતી હોય એવું લાગે છે. મારી સામે બળતો દિવો એ જ મારામાં ફરીથી પ્રાણવાયુ પુરતો હોય એવું લાગે છે. એ દિવાની જ્યોત જે પવનમાં હિલોળા ખાવા છતાં ટકી રહે છે ખરેખર મને કાંઇક વિશ્વાસ અપાવતી હોય એવું લાગે છે. આવા વાતાવરણમાં દિવસનો થાક તો શું પણ મનથી મરેલાઓને પણ જીવાડી દે.  હું માળાનાં પારા તો ફેરવતી હોવ છું મનમાં ભગવાનનાં નામ લેવાતા હોય છે, પણ એવું તો ના કહી શકું કે હું એમા સતત લીન થઇ જાવ છું કારણ કે સાઇડમાં તો ભગવાન સાથે મારી વાતો થાતી હોય છે. મારી ફરીયાદો, પ્રાર્થનાંઓ તથા બીજા વીચારોની આપ-લે થાતી હોય છે. પણ એકદમ શાંત મગજે મારા ભગવાન સાથે ચર્ચા જ કરતી હોવ છું. આ સમય છે જ્યારે દિવસનો મારા મનનો થાક ઉતારવાનો હોય છે અને આવનારા દિવસની તૈયારી કરવાની હોય છે અને એટલા જ માટે હું અને મારા ભગવાન પ્લાનિંગ કરતાં હોઇએ છીએ કે હવે આગળ ઉપર કેમ ચાલશું. જેટલી મને ચિંતા હોય છે એટલી સામે એમને પણ તો ચિંતા હોઇ છે. પણ બેય સાથે ચાલશું કોર્ડીનેશનમાં તો કોઇ પણ મુશ્કેલીનો સામનો ચોક્કસ કાઢી લેશું. આફ્ટર ઓલ સર્વ શક્તિમાન દેવતા મારી સાથે હાજર છે. દુનિયાનાં સર્જક મારી સાથે છે. દુનિયાને ચલાવવા વાળા મારી સાથે છે. શક્તિ આપનારી મારી માતાજી પણ મારી સાથે જ છે ને. તો ચિંતા કરવાની શું જરૂર છે. બધું જ ઠિક થઇ જાશે. એક દિવસ બધું જ એના ઠેકાણે પડી જાશે. બસ મારે થોડી રાહ જોવાની છે જે હું કરી શકીશ. બસ આવા જ વિચારો કરતી જ્યાં સુધી મારા હાથ દુખવા નો લાગે ત્યાં સુધી માળા ફેરવતી હું થાકુ એટલે મારી આંખો ખોલું છું. અને દિવસ આથમી ગ્યો હોય છે. વાતાવરણ શાંત અને ઓલો ઠંડો ધીમો પવન હજી વાતો જ હોય છે. લગભગ રૂમમાં અંધારાને લીધે કાંઇ દેખાતું નથી હોતું પણ મંદિરમાં બળતો એ દિવો મારા ભગવાનનાં દર્શન કરાવે છે અને મને વિશ્વાસ અપાવે છે કે બધી બાજુ અંધારું ભલે રહ્યુ, ભલે બધા રસ્તાઓ બંધ રહ્યા પણ આ રસ્તો ખુલ્લો જ છે મારા ભગવાન મારી સાથે જ છે. 

Day At University
 Pappu Yadav  
 14 March 2018  

It was another normal day at University. We were standing on the verandah outside our class. And all of a sudden I saw a girl, gosh she was damn pretty.Literally, I stared her for 5 to 6 mins, she noticed me and it became awkward for both of us.We are backbenchers and that too teenager, we have a bad habit of addressing a beautiful girl as " Maal ".That day too one of a friend called me said, " Bhai dekh kya maal h ".That day something got into me and I became furious and replied, " Dubara esa bola toh marunga.The best part was, She heard me say that. " Bhai ki izzat bar gayi larki k nazar m " We stood there for around 90 minutes exchanging smiles. I was like " Yr smile mil rha h matlb ab apna scene bnega.After college I followed her to her house. In between Clge and her house she stopped at 2 places.1) Panipuri wale bhaiya.Girls and Panipuri still a better love story released by our Bollywood nowadays.I too joined her and said to the Panipuri wale bhaiya , " Jis type ka woh kah rahi hai , wesa hi bnaiye ". I don't know if she heard me or not but suddenly she started saying, " Bhaiya aur theeka." And I was like aaj toh lgne wali hai apni. And I swear next morning I realized pyar k chakkr m bhot buri tarah lg gayi.2 ) Recharge shop.As soon as she stopped there I started wondering " Sala jio k zamane m kon recharge krwata h ".I too followed her to the shop and took a recharge of 50 of Airtel. Jio hote hue Airtel m recharge, pyar m kya kya krta hai insaan .Finally, she reached home. That evening again I went to that colony but she was nowhere to be found. I was disappointed. I returned home and started wondering how should I start a conversation. After 4 hours I came up with a plan. I thought of attending a class in her section and would ask her for a pen. " Purana tareeka hai , par hmesa kaam krta hai". As there's a saying Old is Gold.After hours of practice, I was all prepared. I entered the class, sat behind her but felt as if she was ignoring me. And so I dropped my plan and silently moved out of the class after the period was over. I felt bad for a couple of days but then I thought, " Bhai life m chaiye izzat " so I stopped noticing her or looking at herDays passed and I was back to normal. One day I was standing outside her class talking to my friends. And you will be surprised to know what happened next .I caught her clicking my pictures and she was so dumb she didn't even turn the flashlight off . Girls are so smart after all.I was on cloud nine and we started talking. Now we used to meet on a regular basis. It was all going really smoothOne fine evening I asked her out, she agreed.We talked for almost 2 hours and then I suddenly proposed her out of nowhere." Will you be my better half till death do us apart. "She blushed and said, " I am all yours".I was about to kiss her suddenly a voice from the backside," Uth Jah nalayak dophar k 2 baj rahe hai ".It was my Maa.And I realized it was just a beautiful dream.I smiled again And then I said to Maa ," Maa aap toh sapne m bhi kisiko kiss krne nhi deti ".

ચકલીબેન ચકી ચિનમીનનો પત્ર
 Naren Sonar  
 14 March 2018  

વ્હાલા નરેન,તારી વ્હાલી ચકી ચિનમીનની યાદ,જો પહેલથી જ કહી દઉં છુ તને કે આ વખતે ફરી તું ૨૦ માર્ચના રોજ ચકલી દિવસ ઉજવવાનું ગતકડું ઉભું ન કરીશ. અરે મને ખબર છે કે તું અને તારા મિત્રો ખરેખર મનપૂર્વક એની ઉજવણી કરે છે પણ બધા થોડી એવા છે. એ તો ફોટો પડાવી નામના મેળવવાની જ મહેચ્છા ધરાવનારા હોય છે. મને ખબર છે કે ચકલી દિવસ ઉજવવાની તૈયારીમાં લાગી ગયો જ હોઈશ. પણ આ વખતે હું નથી આવવાની. અમે બધા એબ્રોડ જવાના છીએ. જો અમને કોઈ સારું સ્થળ જ્યાં સ્વાર્થ પ્રચુર લોકો નહી હોય, મોબાઈલના ટાવરો નહી હોય, ફક્ત ને ફક્ત અમો પક્ષીઓ અને જંગલના બંધુઓની જ વસ્તી હશે એવી જગ્યાએ કાયમ માટે સ્થાયી જવાનું વિચારી રહ્યા છે. આપણા બાળકોને ચકા ચકીની વાર્તા કરતા મોબાઈલની ગેમ્સમાં વધારે રૂચી લાગે છે. ધીરે ધીરે વારતાઓમાંથી પણ અમને તમે લોકો કાઢી નાખો એમ બને. અમને પણ અમારું સ્વમાન વ્હાલું છે તેથી કોઈ કાઢે એના કરતા જાતે જ સમજી વિચારીને નીકળી જવામાં જ સૌનું હિત છે.તારી અમારા પક્ષીઓને પાણી પીવડાવવાની વ્યવસ્થા કરવા બદલ અમે તારા અને તારા મિત્રોના આભારી છીએ પણ ખરું કહું નરેન હવે નથી સહન થતું. આ તોતિંગ બિલ્ડીગો પર લાદેલા મોબાઈલ ટાવરોના ખતરનાક વેવ્સ અમને મારી નાખવા માટે પાછળ પડ્યા છે. અમારી સહન શક્તિ આ વિકરાળ ખતરનાક વેવ્સના રાક્ષસ સામે હારી ગયા છે.હું આ માટે તને કે તમારા મિત્રોને જવાબદાર નથી ગણતી. પણ બધા થોડી સમજે છે ? એમને મન તો એમનો સ્વાર્થ જ સર્વસ્વ છે.તારા વ્હાલા ચકા કાકા મને કહેતા હતા કે આપણે આવી રીતે કોઈને કહ્યા વગર જતા રહીશું તો નરેન અને એના મિત્રો ચિંતા કરશે માટે તું એને પત્ર લખી જણાવી દે કે હવે અમે વધુ અહી નથી રોકાવવાના.આ ભારતની ભૂમિ સિવાય બીજે બધે પણ આવી જ સમસ્યાઓ છે તેથી અમને નવું રહેઠાણ માટે નવું સ્થળ શોધવાની ખૂબ તકલીફ પડવાની છે એ પણ જાણીએ જ છીએ પણ શું કરીએ અમારા બાળ બચ્ચાઓના સારા ભવિષ્ય માટે અમે સ્થળાંતર કરવા માટે દિલગીર છીએ.પણ તમે લોકો અમારી ૨૦ માર્ચે રાહ ન જોતા પણ બીજા પક્ષીઓ જે અહી જ છે અને કોઈ કારણસર અમારી સાથે આવી નથી શકવાના એમની માટે તમે તમારા પ્રયત્નો ચાલુ રાખજો. એમની સાથે અમે પણ સંમ્પર્કમાં રહેવાના જ છીએ તેથી તને જયારે મારી સાથે તારા વિચારો જણાવવાની ઈચ્છા થાય ત્યારે તું પત્ર લખી મોકલજે કોઈને કોઈ આવતા જતા અમને પહોચતો કરશે.તારી જાણ ખાતર કે અમે લોકો હાલ સ્થળાંતરની પ્રકિયામાં વ્યસ્ત છીએ એટલે સૌનો સમ્પર્ક કરવામાં અમારો મોટાભાગનો સમય નીકળી જાય છે અને અમારું સરનામું પણ અનિશ્ચિત હશે માટે તું ટેલીપથીથી યાદ કરીશ એટલે હું ગમે ત્યાં હોઈશ તારી પાસે આવીને મળી જઈશ.પત્ર છોડતી જાવ છું. મારો માળો થોડો જર્જરિત થઈ ગયો છે. એને તું તારી આવડતથી રીપેર કરી કોઈ પક્ષી મિત્ર માટે ઉપલબ્ધ કરાવી રાખીશ.તમે લોકો બહુ યાદ આવશો. ખાસ કરીને તું કારણ કે તારા અને મારા તો એકમેક પ્રત્યેના ઋણાનુબંધ છે.અમે બધા ઘણી બધી યાદો લઈને અમે ઉડી રહ્યા છીએ પણ મનોમન રડી રહ્યા છીએ.બીજું એ વાતનું પણ દુઃખ છે કે ઘરોમાં નથી અમે માળા બાંધી શકતા કે નથી હવે કોઈ ઘરમાં પિતૃઓના ફ્રેમમાં મઢેલા ફોટા. નવો યુગ બધું જ ત્યજી રહ્યો છે. ફોટા ત્યજતા હતા ત્યાં સુધી તો સમજાયું કે નહી ગમતા હોય પણ હવે તો જીવતા જાગતા વડીલો પણ ત્યજાવવા માંડ્યા છે ત્યાં અમો પંખીઓની શી વિસાત !?આમ પણ અમે ફક્ત માળો નથી બાંધતા પણ જે ઘરમાં અમે રહીએ છીએ એ ઘરના સભ્યો સાથે અમારી દોસ્તી પણ સારી એવી હતી. તારી જ વાત કરું તો તું કેવો વાટકીમાં ભાતના દાણા લઇ અમારા વડીલોને ચણ આપતો હતો. અમને બધું જ કહેતા અમારા વડીલો. સારું છે અમારે ઘરડા ઘર નથી.ચાલ આવજે પ્રભુ સૌને સદબુદ્ધિ આપે.લી, તારી ચકી ચિનમીનનરેન કે સોનાર 'પંખી'

Dheere se aa ja ri akhian me nindia aa ja tu aa ja …………….
 Lilly Thakur  
 15 March 2018  

All of us might have enjoyed this song in our childhood, mother caressing hair and singing Lori to make us sleep.Great were those days, to tension, no stress of any kind, we were safe in hands of parents.The other day I was sitting on my lawn, watching a sparrow feeding her child, the child was very small and I could clearly see the joy the child was having while sparrow was feeding. While I was watching this scene all of a sudden a question came to my mind—Will this child remember his mother after he is able to fly?Ans is very simple once the child sparrow gains health and is able to fly, he will fly leaving mother behind and—Yehi zindgi ka dastoor haiThe same applies to many of usAnother question came to my mindARE WE CIVILISED??We claim to be civilized but actually, we are not civilized.Had we been civilized was there any need for old age homes?Why we felt the need of old age homes?The reason is very simple we have gained education but we have not cultivated sanskars which are the backbone of any civilized family, society, and nation.In past we were having a joint family where the head of the family was in command of the family and command gets shifted automatically to next senior person after the death of command holderWe do not have this system nowadays hence families are breaking and leading to old age homes/ help age /help in suffering etc etcThe main reason which comes to my mind is perhaps we do not have tolerance power –I have witnessed many cases of divorce which could have been avoided had one partner showed some signs of tolerance and other partner respected that tolerance but that did not happen because we are civilized and know our rights and do not want to bow our heads.We have forgotten with how many troubles our parents have brought up, gave us education and made us what we are today.The irony is parents bring up children but when parents are old all children together can’t take care of parents.Recently I watched BAGHWAN movie a very well made movie. I think all of us might have seen that movie I need not go in details but that question still haunts meAre we civilized? If we are--We have to pay back the debt which we are carrying on our heads, of the love and affection which we enjoyed in our childhood—Dheere se aa ja ri akhian me nindia aa ja tu aa jaa

Are you chasing your goals or merely its means?
 Manoj Arora  
 16 March 2018  

Have we got mixed up with our goals and the means to achieve those goals? Most of us have. Wake up before time runs out !...Unhappy and frustrated with recent exam results at school, my elder one was desperately looking forward to something that could soothe her mind. It is not only about kids and exams, it could be you and your career, you and your business, your life, your relations, your passion. Whatever be it, in most cases we seemed to have mixed up with our life's goals and the means to achieve those goals. Don't believe me? Look out for yourself."Dad, now don’t tell me that results do not matter. I know that efforts are more important. But still I am not feeling good...", said a disappointed Arushi."Well, the fact is that results do matter. However, they are not in our control. Our efforts also matter. The beauty of focusing on the efforts is that efforts are always in our control. In any case, let me share with you a story of one of my friends in the United States - that should probably make you feel better...""William Richards was one of my colleagues when we were in the USA. We call him Bill. And you know people there - they are so fond of taking long breaks from the mundane job, and going on for adventures like biking, hiking, boating, flying, and what not.""Ah! Those US days...", remarked Arushi with a glee in her eyes."Yeah...so, this guy – Bill, took a three-week vacation after we signed a new contract with the client. All of us had worked very hard for this, and we all deserved a break. Bill decided to walk up the mountains.""Ok...Is it around the same time we went to Disney World?", inquired Arushi."Yes, exactly, we also took that 3-week break..OK, so when Bill was back after 3 weeks,he explained me about an incident that was strangely disturbing for him.""What was that?""Bill told me that during one of the days when he was climbing one of the toughest peaks. That day was particularly rough for him. He had been climbing since last 6 hours and it was late in the afternoon already. He was literally sweating in the snow, his legs were paining, his shoulders were aching...He was finding it really tough. But of course, he did not have a choice at that time. While all that was happening, he heard a noise of a helicopter quite close to him. When the sound of the whirling helicopter blades increased further, he just looked up and was amazed to see what he saw.""What was there?""It was one of his friends and his neighbor Ronnie on the helicopter...Ronnie was a rich man, also fond of mountains.""Ah ok..""They waived at each other, and then Ronnie shouted that he was going to the M4 peak...Bill said he was too...""OK..."Ronnie then waived Bill to come over to the helicopter and he offered to throw the ladder down to pick him up. Bill was confused whether he should take this offer."C’mon Bill. We have the same goal. We can use his helicopter as a means to achieve this goal faster. What are you thinking? I started just 15 min back and we will be there at the M4 peak in next 5 minutes.""Then, did Bill accept his friends offer?""No, Bill did not. And whether Bill accepted the offer or not is irrelevant. The strange part was this. At that moment, Bill said that he definitely felt very frustrated, sad and hopeless.""That’s obvious Dad...Bill has been climbing for hours together and was in pain. His friend did all that in 15 minutes - just because his friend could afford to rent a helicopter.""It is not obvious my child. It is the core issue.”“Issue, what issue?”“Here is what the issue us. If Bill felt sad seeing his friend go past him and reach the peak in no time with least effort, then I am sorry to say that Bill has got completely messed up with his goals and the means to achieve the goal.""How?""OK. what do you think was Bill’s goal?""To reach the mountaintop.""Again, we always get it wrong here. That is the issue. We get so messed up. Think again why did he take the vacation? At that point when Ronnie was waving at him, Bill thought that reaching the top is the goal and climbing are the means to achieve the goal, while actually, it is exactly the reverse. Think. The climb is the goal and the mountaintop is the means that help him achieve his goal. Did he not take a break to enjoy a few days 'climbing'? The objective was always to climb and enjoy the climb. Now, having said that, remember that the mountaintop is also important, but just as a means. If there was no top, then there would be no climb.""Hmmm....quite interesting.""If he was clear about the goal (climbing), would he be frustrated to see his friend reaching the top faster?""Perhaps, no !""Definitely no. Who reaches the top faster and with how much effort - all this would cease to matter if the goal is to climb. It is just how we look at things. In fact, he should be satisfied that he is already achieving his goal of climbing - which cannot be accomplished in any way via a helicopter.""Interesting Dad....""And now tell me what is your goal when you study - to learn new things and acquire knowledge or to score marks?"Arushi went in thinking mode. It is this self-introspection only that was going to set her perspective right. I let her take her time. After some time, I had to trigger it.."So, let me make it absolutely clear to you. Marks are not the goal at all. Marks are just a means - that help you focus on your main goal - which is to acquire more knowledge, and become wiser. While striving to achieve more marks, your goal is to become knowledgeable and wise – and not the other way round. Let there be no doubt about this. Do not mess up your childhood days in this confusion. Do not do the same mistake that Bill did." "Wow, this does give me a different perspective. But that is not how our teachers and classmates think. They look highly on us only when we get good marks.""Yeah, that is how it is always going to stay - perhaps. They have messed up their lives, and we cannot go and correct everyone around us. It is not feasible. But my advise to you would be not to just follow the herd. The entire herd may be headed to hell."“I get that Dad…I definitely feel better..”Arushi got it. I got it a few years back. Some of you may get it with this post. Some will never get it. Doesn't matter. The end is the same for everyone. But hold....reaching the end of our life is not our goal. Reaching the end is just a means - a reminder - for us to improve, become better, possess more mental strength, exhibit more happiness, elevate someone's life - and these are our goals. Do not get messed up between the goal and the means.On a vacation trip remember that the goal is not to reach the destination, but to enjoy the in-between moments - waiting at the airport, the cab ride with family, the meal at the hotel, the dance party, the scuba dive, the isolated hour at the beach. In a job or a business, the goal is not to reach the next level - but to impact as many people, experience awesome time and relations on the journey. "You always had a goal of financial freedom....", remarked one of my readers."The goal was never to be financially free, Freedom is only a means to reach our goals - of doing what we love doing – writing, planting trees, spending time with children and spouse, taking care of parents, meeting friends - and having an enjoyable life.", I responded.CheersManoj AroraOfficial Website | My Mission

BORN FREE TO LIVE IN A CAGE
 Padmini Ravindran  
 16 March 2018  

  All over the world, countries celebrate their independence day with great pride and gusto showcasing their strength and progress to be admired and awed by people. However, I wonder at times are we; human beings really free or liberated? Do we enjoy freedom in true sense? I’ll keep my thought process limited to India without going to the other parts of the world.Every human being according to me is free only at the time of birth. A baby has no worries about projecting the “right public image” and is happy doing anything and everything he wants to. As we grow, we are caged, shackled in many chains by the society- Social, cultural, emotional and lately technological.It starts when the baby (I’ll use ‘She’ as a pronoun as it encompasses ‘he’ too J!) is hardly a toddler. Parents love to show off his/her talents without any consideration for his/her moods and fancies. She has to sing or dance and entertain the relatives who are often least interested. Then there is a marathon for the best school in the city. The kid is again forced to mug up the likely questions to be asked at the interview, learn to behave in a certain manner at the age when she just wants to be left on her/his own.    Once at school the comparison starts with all the other children. Every parent wants the child to be the best - marvelling at studies, sports, debates and elocutions, arts, theatre, social etiquette and so on. In short she has to be a Superwoman, while the mothers sweat over every small detail like deciding what hobbies are “in”, what vitamin supplements to give the child for super-built body and extra-intelligent brain, what kind of clothes are in vogue for kids and so on. All advertisements put the pressure on parents to make a scientist/ doctor/ engineer or any professional (Please note that none off the advertisements think much of artists or farmersL! No wonders farmers have remained the most vulnerable lot in our “agrarian” economy for decades!). The harried parents, in turn pass on this frenzied madness on to their children. Every parent dreams of having a super successful child prodigy, irrespective of own talents that he has passed on in the child’s DNA at birth. We want our children to follow the career chart we have created for them taking in consideration the status, social acceptance, and money it will yield. What the child’s interests are is totally ignored.Once the school and college marathon is over and youth gets a plum job, then the other social pressures build up. A girl must learn to be graceful, super talented at juggling home and demanding career, must be having all the socially accepted attributes like – fair, tall, slim, social yet home-loving, educated yet sacrificing, modern yet with traditional values and the list is endless.This brings me to the fairness obsession in our country where most girls are bound to be wheat complexioned due to our geographic and climatic conditions. Having a dusky complexion is looked down upon and if you have a darker skin only God or fairness creams save you! I find the advertisements so ridiculous when a girl dreaming of a great career has to rely on fairness creams to prove her mettle! If she wants to remain single by choice then hell breaks loose. If she marries then her womanhood is not considered complete till she delivers a baby. Why I wonder, in a free country it becomes a privilege of all and sundry to barge into couple’s bedroom and discuss why are they not having kids and what could be wrong with them. Can we not let the parents decide when they want to bring in a life that is going to be their responsibility till they are alive?Men on the other hand are forced to bring home a handsome pay package and comparisons of how much comforts and luxury a neighbour can afford to give his wife vis- a -vis the poor husband becomes a main topic of contention. Once they become parents they too merrily join the same rat race that their parents had joined to ruin them.These are some of the socio-cultural shackles I strongly feel about. Emotional shackles too are somewhat intertwined in these as usually our Indian society loves to emotionally blackmail their loved ones to follow their commands. Log kya kahenge is the most dangerous epidemic that has been afflicted by Asian psyche. Social approval is a bug that has bitten all of us. Imagine the emotional state of a young girl when she is more than often rejected because she is NOT fair, slim or beautiful. She is most often an easy prey to depression. I wonder why we give so much importance to external attributes while totally ignoring the more important ones like nature, intelligence, compatibility etc. in a life partner. Are we shopping here for a curio to beautify home or wanting someone with whom we can share our lives! And same things go for men too - what with markets flooded with anti-balding treatments and all those fairness creams for men? He too is expected to earn well, be qualified with the most lucrative degree, have a macho figure etc. I often hear young girls asking for well sculpted men as their life partners. SO now the fire has reached even the other side of the society. At a young age he’s expected to offer all the comforts and luxuries when he’s still building his career!Added to all these cages, the worst shackle is the technology. We think human being created technology for comforts but today it has totally backfired on us impacting every aspect of the society. Just look around and see for yourself what have smart phones done to our lives! The downfall that started with the idiot box and further fuelled with the internet has been completed by the smart phones. Phones are getting smarter and humans are getting dumber. I’ve nothing against technology and if used sensibly it can be a great boon. We can now reach the entire world in a split second. Emails have become a passé with the advent of other more powerful and faster means of communication. Often Facebook and twitter has helped in reuniting people or in sending across a useful message. Today I too am saying what I feel thanks to this technology. We can surely not ignore the good things. However, we can’t turn a blind eye to the damage it does to our most profound institutions of marriage, family and society as a whole.  Families are fast disintegrating today as each one is happy to be in his on anda cell created by his Laptop, smart phone, personal TV or a tablet, and is constantly in his world with his headsets on. Cheating in marriages has never been so rampant and easy with the right to privacy. Virtual affairs ruin many marriages as one doesn’t understand that virtual love is bound to appear “perfect” and it’s only when you actually start life together you need to adjust and understand. Recently, a study revealed how social skills are being affected in this generation that spends most of its time in the virtual world. Family time is unheard of with each one immersed in his on virtual world. We forget that though wired from all sides we are not robots but human beings who are bound to need emotions like warmth, love and touch to thrive. The older generation who is not very tech savvy feels the brunt the most. They are mostly treated like a piece of furniture. The youth has no connect with parents leave alone grandparents. In our desire to connect across miles we have been disconnected from our own family.Family outings, dinners and gatherings do happen surprisingly even today but the most time and attention is hogged by these smart phones. Family time has become a joke with each member immersed in one’s cell phone- exchanging messages. Checking face book updates, updating status and so on.The family vacations are more for clicking selfies and check-ins to let the whole world on social media know the exotic place one is heading to. There have been many stand up comedies, what’s app forwards and tongue in cheek cartoons aimed at this but I feel we are quick to ignore these warning bells and laugh it off merely as a humour. So many have lost lives clicking selfies at dangerous spots but we are too slow to understand the implications. Are we really a generation of dimwits and our cell phones smarter than us? Only God save us in such situation…!All pictures Courtesy- https://unsplash.com

Priyanka, A Savior Girl.....
 Umasankar Sahu  
 20 March 2018  

It was 15th March. On her way to Ganesh market, Priyanka found a poor puppy that was passing through the middle of the road and at the same time a girl from opposite side, just came with her two-wheeler and was about to hit that puppy. But Suddenly Priyanka threw everything, jumped and took that puppy away but unfortunately, that two-wheeler hit her that brought her many injuries CV. Still, she forgot about her and curiously searched that puppy and asked the nearby public, “if the puppy is okay if it needs medical help …..”The Puppy raised it's head without making any voice and looked at Priyanka because it was really asking for help. Priyanka was worried about that puppy wherever she herself was badly injured by that two-wheeler. Priyanka reached home with many injuries. After seeing her in such condition, her Mumma badly cried as she was loving her a lot. Dady also came from work and called a doctor to home….her friends came to see her … and all were angry as well as made her fun by saying why she was going to save such a street sided puppy..! But no one was able to read her heart …! In real when Priyanka met that puppy, it had no such name tag or belt tied around its neck. Then It was very dirty and thin but instead of all, it was also very cute. She thought it is a stray dog but unknowingly she went and saved the puppy! Wanted to take it and make it a normal, healthy, happy, Puppy which in reality gives her an opportunity to give life, which was never…..!Priyanka sometimes says "I honestly believe that God sees these creatures being seen by animals as to how anyone can spend in human form! If You have performed well and we must hope that a lot of People will go ahead and learn from you...This is one of the reasons that she comes forward to save them, because dogs are the best friends of humans, and as she said being a valuable animal to get a good life….# Umasankar Sahu #smblogcontest

Traces to look for Indian Youth Writers
 saurabh pant  
 22 March 2018  

In the world of global competition, desperation to prove and a virtual asset to involve upon; Indian authors find it a tedious task to prove rise and perform according to their family challenges and expectations of their own support rising ahead. However, there is a way to solve the desperate thirst and help yourself to become a better author if you are a youth and belong to India willing to rise as a writer/author in the demanding culture of the competitive environment in the gust and proving prosperity of the writing. What the Youth from India needs to acquire is the understanding that writing is an art or a passion and not a money-spinner business which they suppose it to be generally in present circumstances. They have to believe in them rather than believing the economic consequences to turntable ahead. What is more to it that they must take virtual personal writing training and learn the skill and art of writing in their early ages? People around the world today starts to write from age of 14 or 16, But even after publishing many books at such age they only become personally perfect at the age of 21-22 thus the Indian youths have to express themselves with global output open to them, but they need to require an understanding of proper balance that can help them generate proper writing calibre rather than search of the money-spinner responses. Today youths are told that what their future goals can be and how to cherish the similar passion all across the world and similar to it happening in India, thus what youths need to learn as rising writers that they not lose their patience and perfect their duration to be a better author. They can ask for a durational period from their parents and work accordingly to become an accomplished star in the field of writing by obliging such duration in perfection, standardizing and maintaining a grip on the skill and art of writing indeed. It takes time to become a nurtured author even in the 21st century and by such virtue, an author has to accomplish himself/herself to be in the potentiality of proper writing skill so he/she can achieve. Thereby take the time to perfect yourself and don't be ashamed of having such time taking experience, You need to learn ups and downs of writing and once you are done so, You may find that you are a much more matured author than you used to be at the age of 14/15 when you began your writing dream indeed... 

'रिश्ते' एक खट्टा मीठा अनुभव
 NEETU Arora  
 22 March 2018  

जब बच्चा पैदा होता है तब रिश्तों से घिर जाता है। सब उसे प्यारा सा नाम देते हैं। उसके जन्म लेने से ही मामा-मामी, चाचा-चाची, ताऊ-ताई, भाई-बहन. माँ-बाप कितने रिश्ते जुड़ जाते हैं।हर रिश्ते की अपनी सुखदअनुभूति है, अच्छे बुरे कुछ दौर से गुज़रते हैं ये रिश्ते।जब एक लड़की की शादी होती है तो वह कई नए रिश्तों से जुड़ जाती है। जेठानी-देवरानी, सास-ससुर, पति, देवर-जेठ, नए रिश्तों से जुड़ना समाज का नियम है। इन नियमों के दायरे में हम समाज से जुड़ते हैं।माँ-बेटी का रिश्ता सबसे प्यारा व अनूठा है।दोनों अपने दिल की हर बात बिना किसी लाग-लपेट के बाँटती हैं।यह निःस्वार्थ रिश्ते का मज़बूत बंधन है।पति-पत्नी के रिश्ते में दो अनजान लोग एक पवित्र बंधन में बंध जाते हैं और हर सुख-दुःख के साथी होते हैं। अपने जीवन का हर पल साथ गुज़ारते हैं। दोनों का रिश्ता जन्म-जन्मांतर का माना जाता है।वहीं माँ-बेटे का रिश्ता कितना ख़ूबसूरत होता है। बेटा जब बड़ा होत है, माँ अपनी भूमिका ज़िम्मेदारी से निभाती है।अपने बेटे को बड़ा करने में अपना हर क्षण समर्पित करती है। उसके लिए अपनी इच्छाओं को भी दबा देती है। जो उसे पसंद, वही माँ को पसंद।रिश्तें तो बहुत हैं, इनको जितनी गहराई से देखा जाए, इनकी ख़ूबसूरती व बदसूरती दिखाई देती जाती है। रिश्ते कभी मीठे तो कभी खट्टे।'जीवन बड़ा अनमोल है, रिश्तों को बिखरने मत दें बन्दे,बड़ा अनमोल खज़ाना है, जितना हो समेट लें। 'हमारे बड़े छोटों से रिश्ते सुखद हो इसके लिए हमारी भूमिका बड़ी महत्वपूर्ण है क्योकि जितना इसकी डोर को पकड़ सको मज़बूती से उतना ही रिश्ता मीठा रहेगा।जीवन में सुख-दुःख, हार-जीत, ऊँचाई-निचाई कई पहलु हैं, उन्हें अपने ढंग से अच्छे रिश्तों में बाँधना व निभाना ही जीवन की सच्चाई है।'अपनी कोशिश को कभी कम न कर बन्दे,तलाश कर अपनी ख़ूबसूरत पहचान को,एहसास अच्छे रिश्तों के दिल में जगा के रख। '  

जीवन एक उलझन
 NEETU Arora  
 25 March 2018  

सायरा, नायरा दो बहनें, अपनेमम्मी-पापा के साथ बहुत ही मधुर एवं शांत जीवन व्यतीत कर रही थी। बचपन में दोनों का मिल कर खेलना, स्कूल जाना, दादी से गप्पे मारना, बचपन कैसे बीत गया पता ही नहीं चला।फ़िर कॉलेज, दाखिले की भाग-दौड़, समय बीतते पता ही नहीं चला। दोनों बहनें बड़ी हो गयी। माँ-बाप को शादी की चिंता हुई। सायरा के लिए लड़का ढूँढ़ना शुरू किया। काफ़ी भाग-दौड़ के बाद एक जगह बात पक्की हो गयी। लड़का अच्छा था, एक महीने के अंदर ही धूम-धाम से शादी हो गयी।सायरा विदा हो कर अपने घर चली गयी। माता-पिता भी खुश थे लेकिन भाग्य को तो कुछ और ही मंज़ूर था। जिस लड़की की इतनी शान-शौकत से शादी की उसे लड़के वालों ने १५ दिन में ही वापिस भेज दिया। देखने वाला, सुनने वाला हर कोई हैरान। ये क्या हुआ, कुछ समझ नहीं आ रहा था। क्या कारण है जो लड़की घर वापिस आ गयी।  पड़ोसियों व रिश्तेदारों की खुसुर-पुसुर शुरू हो गयी। समझ नहीं आ रहा था कि इतनी सीधी लड़की के साथ ऐसा कैसे हो सकता है। सहानुभूति बहुत थी पर कारण और भी अंधकारमयी था। सारी बात जान्ने पर पता चला कि सायरा बीमार रहती थी पर उसके माता-पिता ने बताया नहीं लड़के वालों को। शादी के बाद पता चलने पर उन्हें बहुत क्रोध था कि झूठ क्यों बोला। दोनों तरफ के रिश्तेदार इक्खट्टे हुए, सारा मामला साफ़ था। हर बार लड़के वाले ही दोषी नहीं होते, लड़की वालों का भी दोष होता है। आपसी समझौते से दोनों पक्षों ने मामला सुलझाया। सायरा वापिस घर आ गयी।सारा मामला साफ़ था पर एकांत में सोचने पर मजबूर हो जाता है इंसान की हर बात रौशनी में रख कर की जाती तो लड़की व लड़के दोनों की ज़िन्दगी ख़राब न होती। ज़िन्दगी ऐसे न उलझती जैसे अब उलझ गयी।इसे किस्मत का नाम देंया एक गलत निर्णय का नतीजा, कुछ कह नहीं सकते। अजीब उलझन में फसी है ज़िन्दगी।

जीवन की परिभाषा
 NEETU Arora  
 26 March 2018  

भरा-पूरा परिवार, चार बहनें, एक भाई, माँ-बाप के साथ सुखमय जीवन। बचपन कैसे बीत जाता है पता ही नहीं चलता। बच्चों का बचपन, जवानी, पढाई-लिखाई, करियर इन सब के बीच में बच्चे कब बड़े हो जाते हैं पता ही नहीं चलता।चारो बहनें व भाई की पढाई पूरी हो गयी। भाई पिता के व्यापार में लग गया। अब माँ-बाप की ज़िम्मेदारी थी कि सबकी अच्छे घरों में शादी हो जाये। ईश्वर ने सब कुछ अच्छा किया और एक-एक कर के चारो बहनें अच्छे घरों में ब्याह दी। भाई की भी अच्छे घर परिवार से लड़की मिल गयी।वक्त कैसे बीता पता ही नहीं चला।सब भाई-बहनो के बच्चे हुए और देखते ही देखते बड़े हो गए। सब अपनी ज़िम्मेदारियाँ बखूबी निभा रहे थे।जीवन तो एक चक्र है, माँ-बाप बूढ़े हो गए, पिताजी बीमार रहने लगे। एक तो बुढ़ापा ऊपर से बीमारी, काफी मुश्किल समय आ गया। सब भाई-बहनो ने एक जुट हो कर पिता की सेवा की, इलाज करवाया परन्तु काल का चक्र तो रुकता नहीं, पिताजी का बीमारी के चलते देहांत हो गया। ऐसा लगा की सारा परिवार बिखर गया। जिन माँ-बाप ने अपने बच्चों को माला की तरह पिरो कर रखा था, टूट कर बिखर गया और उसका कारण था पैसा। जब तक पिताजी थे, सारा काम एवं जायदात सँभालते थे। उनके मरते ही सब भाई-बहनो की निगाहें पैसों पर थी। रिश्ते को टूटते बिखरते देर नहीं लगती। वही हुआ, सबको अपनी पड़ी थी, सब अपने घर में अच्छे थे पर पैसों की चाह ने सब बिखेर दिया। रिश्तों के बीच में पैसा आ गया। रिश्तों की मर्यादा सब भूल गए थे। ऐसा लगा रिश्ते इतने खोखले कैसे हो सकते हैं। उस माँ की तो सोचो जो समझ नहीं पा रही थी कि इस तरफ जाऊँ या उस तरफ। जो परिवार एक खुशहाल परिवार माना जाता था, वह टूट कर बिखर गया।माँ-बाप बच्चों की परवरिश में पूरा जीवन लगा देते हैं पर औलाद बिखेरने में सिर्फ एक पल लगाती है। इसे जीवन की कड़वी सच्चाई कहे या कुछ और, समझ से बाहर है इस जीवन को समसझना। क्या इसी को जीवन की परिभाषा कहते हैं?     

‘उनके पास अपनी कोई कहानी नहीं होगी’
 Gulab Chand Yadav  
 26 March 2018  

मैं 19 से 25 फरवरी 2018 के दौरान छुट्टी पर गाँव में था। एक दिन मुंबई से मेरे मित्र हंसराज जी का फोन आता है और वे पूछते हैं कि मेरी मुंबई वापसी कब होगी। कारण पूछने पर उन्होंने बताया कि वाराणसी से हमारे साझा मित्र एवं एम.ए. में सहपाठी रहे राजकुमार जी एक विवाह समारोह में शामिल होने के लिए 24 फरवरी को मुंबई आ रहे हैं, इसलिए उनकी इच्छा है कि थाना में 25 या 26 फरवरी की शाम को अपनी मित्र मंडली किसी जगह जुटे और गपशप के बाद आसपास के किसी होटल में डिनर किया जाए। वे यह कार्यक्रम 25 फरवरी की शाम को रखना चाहते थे किंतु मेरी मुंबई वापसी 25 फरवरी की देर शाम को होने के कारण उन्होंने यह कार्यक्रम 26 फरवरी की शाम को रखने का निश्चय किया।मेरे और राजकुमार के अलावा उन्होंने और किन-किन सहपाठी मित्रों को आमंत्रित किया है, यह मैंने नहीं पूछा। मुझे तो इस बात से ही खुशी हुई कि एक लंबे अरसे के बाद हम लोग मिलेंगे, हालचाल होगा, जमकर ठहाके लगेंगे और हम एक साथ बैठकर चाय/कॉफी पिएंगे और खाना खाएंगे। मुंबई जैसे महानगर में ऐसा अवसर मिलना या अवसर निकाल लेना किसी चमत्कार से कम नहीं माना जाता। यह बात इस महानगर के बाशिंदे अच्छी तरह से जानते और मानते हैं। संयोग से मैं 5 फरवरी से 2 मार्च 2018 तक छुट्टी पर चल रहा था, अतः इस कार्यक्रम से मुझे कोई दिक्कत नहीं थी।       हंसराज जी ने बताया था कि 26 फरवरी को शाम 6.30 बजे हम लोग थाना स्टेशन से थोड़ी दूर स्थित तलावपाली तालाब के पास छत्रपति शिवाजी महाराज की मूर्ति के सामने स्थित परिसर में मिलेंगे और गपशप करेंगे। मैं शाम को करीब 5 बजे अपने घर (शांति पार्क, मीरा रोड) से मीरा रोड स्टेशन के पास स्थित टीएमसी बस स्टॉप पर पहुँचा और आते ही पाया कि थाना जानेवाली बस खड़ी थी जिसमें बाईं ओर मुझे एक विंडो सीट मिल गई। थोड़ी देर में कंडक्टर आया और मैंने टिकट कटा लिया। 5 मिनट बाद बस चल पड़ी। अभी मैं घर से महज 2 किलोमीटर दूर ही आ पाया था कि मेरे मोबाइल की घंटी बज उठी। देखा दूसरी ओर मित्र अनिल सिंह थे।       अनिल इस समय आंध्र प्रदेश में पूर्वी गोदावरी जिला में एक राष्टीयकृत बैंक की शाखा में शाखा प्रमुख के रूप में तैनात हैं। इनका परिवार यहीं कांदिवली के ठाकुर विलेज इलाके में रहता है जहां इनके छोटे भाई भी अपने परिवार और माताजी के साथ रहते हैं। अनिल बीच –बीच में छुट्टी लेकर मुंबई आते रहते हैं। अनिल ने मुझसे कहा कि मैं आगे फाउंटेन होटल बस स्टाप पर उतर जाऊँ क्योंकि वे भी अपनी कार से थाना ही जा रहे हैं, अतः मुझे पिकअप कर लेंगे। मुझे भी यह प्रस्ताव अच्छा लगा क्योंकि वहाँ से हम साथ – साथ बोलते – बतियाते जाते और इस प्रकार से समय का सदुपयोग भी हो जाता। अनिल मेरे पुराने दोस्त हैं और मेरा इनसे परिचय अगस्त 1986 से है जब मैं कुछ महीने एम. ए. (अर्थशात्र) का विद्यार्थी था और हम मुंबई विश्वविद्यालय के कालीना परिसर में लेक्चर अटेंड करने जाया करते थे। फरवरी 1987 में एक सरकारी बीमा कंपनी में अनुवादक की नौकरी मिलने पर मैंने ड्रॉप ले लिया और जुलाई 1987 में एम.ए. (हिन्दी) में प्रवेश लिया जिसके सुबह के बैच की कक्षाएं मुंबई वि.वि. के फोर्ट  परिसर में चलाई जाती थीं। अनिल सिंह ने अपनी पढ़ाई जारी रखी और फरवरी 1988 में वे भी उसी बीमा कंपनी में अनुवादक के रूप में भर्ती हुए। जुलाई 1988 में अनिल ने भी एम.ए. (हिन्दी) में प्रवेश ले लिया यानी एम.ए. (हिन्दी) में आप मुझसे एक साल जूनियर थे। मुझे आज भी याद है, मेरी एम.ए. की किताबें और मूल नोट्स आपने ही मेरी परीक्षाएँ समाप्त होते ही आग्रहपूर्वक मुझसे मांग लिए थे।       अनिल शुरू से ही मनमौजी, खिलंदड़ और जिंदगी को फक्कड़ अंदाज में जीनेवाले व्यक्ति रहे हैं। कालीना परिसर में 5 लोगों का हमारा एक ‘पूरबिया गुट’ था जिसमें मेरे अलावा, अनिल, एक और अनिल सिंह (जो बिहार से थे), अरविंद त्रिपाठी और वीरेंद्र तिवारी (इतिहास में एम ए के छात्र) शामिल थे। लेक्चर के बाद अक्सर हम कैंटीन के सामने वाले लॉन की हरी घास पर घंटों अड्डा जमाते और आगे की योजनाएं और सपने साझा करते, खूब हंसी-मज़ाक और टांग-खिंचाई करते और अपनी टूटी-फूटी और बेढब अँग्रेजी में प्रोफेसरों की नकल उतारते। हम सभी निम्न मध्यमवर्गीय परिवारों से थे, अतः हमारी जेबें भी अमूमन खाली ही रहतीं। हम कैंटीन में नास्ते-चाय के लिए बैठते तो अपनी फटेहाली का रोना रोते और दूसरे से बिल चुकाने की चिरौती – विनती करते अथवा अपनी-अपनी जेबें झाड़कर कलेक्शन जुटाते। मुझे याद है ज्यादातर अवसरों पर बिल मैं ही चुकाता क्योंकि कैंटीन चलने का प्रस्ताव अक्सर मेरा ही रहता और दूध का पारिवारिक व्यवसाय होने के नाते मेरी आर्थिक स्थिति थोड़ी बेहतर थी। मेरी अनिल से जब भी मुलाकात होती है, आज भी हम वर्ष जुलाई 1986 से मई 1989 के उन दिनों को यादों को ताजा कर दो चार ठहाके जरूर लगाते हैं।       हमारी कार घोडबंदर रोड से थाना शहर की ओर तेज गति से दौड़ी जा रही थी। हम गायमुख से थोड़ा आगे ही पहुँच थे कि आज की हमारी चौपाल की उत्सव मूर्ति यानी अग्रज राजकुमार सिंह का कॉल आता है और वे बताते हैं किइस समय वे मुलुंड के अरुण शर्मा जी के साथ है और थाने के लिए निकलने वाले हैं। मैं आज की चौपाल में शामिल होने वाले अन्य मित्रों के बारे में उनसे पूछता हूँ तो वे बताते हैं कि हंसराज के अलावा खारघर से निर्मल, और कल्याण से धर्मराज भी आ रहे हैं। जबकि अंबरनाथ के साथी हृदयनारायण गांव में होने और खारघर के डॉ. श्यामबाबू अवस्थ होने के कारण नहीं आ पा रहें हैं। यानी हम 7 लोग थाना के तलावपाली संगम में भाग लेने वाले थे. मेरी यादों की रील रह-रहकर फ्लैश बैक मोड में चली जा रही थी। वर्ष 1987 से 1990 तक का वह समय याद आता है जब हम सभी एम.ए. (हिंदी) के छात्र थे और परीक्षा पासकर अपनी अपनी आजीविका और कैरियर को और बेहतर बनाने की जद्दोजहद में लगे थे। हमारे सहपाठियों में एक और जहां 21 साल के युवा थे दूसरी और 40-45 के अधेड़ भी थे। इनमें क्लर्क, अनुवादक, अध्यापक, प्राइवेट नौकरी वाले और कुछ किसी भी तरह का रोजगार ढूंढ रहे साथी शामिल थे। लगभग 15-20  लोगों का हमारा एक बड़ा समूह था जिसके निर्विवाद अगुआ राजकुमार जी थे क्योंकि एक तो उनका लंबा ऊँचा कद, रोबदार आवाज और दूसरे अपने बैंक की यूनियन का पदाधिकारी होने के नाते उनके प्रति स्वाभाविक सम्मान हमारे मन में जगह बना ही लेता था।      चलिए इस ‘सतरंगिया मित्र मंडली’ के अन्य सदस्यों के बारे  में भी अत्यंत संक्षेप में आप सबको बताता चलूँ। राजकुमार जी मेरे जिले (जौनपुर) के ही आशानंदपुर गाँव के मूल निवासी हैं जो मेरे गांव से मात्र 9-10 कि.मी. दूरी पर है और इनके गाँव से 4-5 कि.मी. दूरी पर मेरी मझली बुआ का गाँव तुलसीचक है। मैं जब भी गाँव जाता हूँ तो अपनी मझली बुआ के गाँव अवश्य जाता हूँ। अतः हर साल मेरा राजकुमार जी के गाँव जाने का योग बन ही जाता था। मैं उनकी माताजी और पिताजी से भी अवश्य मिलता था। मुंबई में तब आप जोगेश्वरी के बहरामबाग इलाके में रहते थे। जब एम.ए करने बाद आप अपने बैंक में राजभाषा अधिकारी के रूप में पदोन्नत हुए तो आपका कोलकाता तबादला हो गया। तब से मुंबई का साथ जो छूटा तो बस छूट ही गया। आप कोलकाता से पटना, लखनऊ, आजमगढ़ और अंत में बनारस स्थानांतरित हुए और वर्ष 2016 में वरिष्ठ प्रबंधक पद से सेवानिवृत्त होने पर बनारस में ही सेटल हो गए हैं। आपकी 4 बेटियाँ और 2 सुपुत्र हैं। चारों बेटियाँ विवाहित है और अपने-अपने परिवार में सुखी हैं। बड़े बेटे का भी विवाह हो गया है और उसे 3 साल का एक बेटा है। छोटे सुपुत्र दंत चिकित्सा में एमडीएस की पढ़ाई की पढ़ाई कर रहे हैं और भगवतकृपा रही तो बर्ष 2018 के अंत में या 2019 के पूर्वार्द्ध में इनके विवाह का योग बन सकता है। राजकुमार जी से मिलने मैं कोलकाता, पटना भी जाता रहा और बनारस में तैनात होने पर तो हर यात्रा में इनसे अनिवार्य रूप से भेंट होती ही है। राजकुमार जी यारों के यार और ज़िंदादिल इंसान हैं। संबंधों को सहेजना और उन्हें बनाए रखना आपकी खूबी है।      आज की हमारी चौपाल के सहयोगी अरुण शर्मा जी आजमगढ़ के मूल निवासी हैं और हममें सबसे वरिष्ठ अर्थात 71 वर्ष के हैं। किन्तु अपनी अच्छी फिटनेस और प्रसन्नचित्त स्वभाव के कारण 60 वर्ष से अधिक के नहीं लगते हैं। आप साइकिल निर्माण  से जुड़ी सार्वजनिक क्षेत्र की एक कम्पनी में अधिकारी थे। किन्तु नब्बे के दशक में निजीकरण/उदारीकरण की आँधी के चलते अनेक सरकारी कंपनियों की तरह आपकी कंपनी में भी ताले लग गए और शर्मा जी को 53 वर्ष की उम्र में ही वीआरएस लेना पड़ा। किंतु कर्मठ और उद्यमशील शर्मा जी ने प्राइवेट कंपनी ज्वाइन कर ली और वहां लगभग 12 वर्ष तक कार्य करने के बाद अलविदा कहा। मित्रों से मिलते तुरंत भोजपुरी भाषा में गँवई सरलता के साथ वार्तालाप करना आपकी एक ऐसी खास विशेषता है जो आज बहुत कम लोंगों में देखने को मिलती है। आपकी दो बेटियाँ है जो विवाहित हैं और इकलौता बेटा भी विवाहित है और अच्छी नौकरी में है। बहू भी शिक्षिका है। बेटे-बहू के साथ आप सुखी रिटायर्ड जीवन बिता रहे है।       अवध बिहारी निर्मल यानी हम सबके लिए केवल ‘निर्मल’ जिंदादिल और विनोदी स्वभाव का साथी है। जिन्दगी और भाग्य ने इन्हें कई बार मुश्किलों में डाला। कई लोगों ने इनकी सीधाई और सरलता का गलत फायदा उठाकर ठगी की और इनके द्वारा उधार दी गई राशि को डकार गए। किंतु इस भाई ने इन घटनाओं की चुभन और नकारात्मकता को अपने भीतर नहीं आने दिया और अपनी इंसानियत, अपनी सामाजिकता और अपने परोपकारी स्वभाव को आज भी कायम रखा है। हम मित्र इन्हें कई बार सतर्क, दुनियादार बनने और अपने घर-परिवार तक ही सीमित रहने की सलाह देते रहे है किंतु यह भाई अपनी फितरत से बाज नहीं आता और अनचाही मुसीबतों/आफतों को दावत देता रहता है। अगर कोई मित्र, रिश्तेदार या सहकर्मी आधी रात को किसी परेशानी में पड़ने पर निर्मल को याद करे तो यह साथी आधी रात को भी मदद के लिए आगे आने से नहीं हिचकेगा। निर्मल स्वास्थ्य मंत्रालय के अंतर्गत आने वाले मुंबई स्थित एक संस्थान में हिन्दी अधिकारी है और खारघर में रहता है।       हमारे मित्र धर्मराज मिश्र जी अप्रैल 2017 में लंबी सेवा के बाद भारतीय बैंक संघ से सेवानिवृत्त हुए हैं। आपका शांत स्वभाव, मितभाषिता और मिलनसारिता आपको खास बनाती है। जीवन में संघर्ष करते हुए कालबादेवी के एक मारवाड़ी सेठ के यहां 300 रूपये वेतन पर टाइपिस्ट के रूप में नौकरी शुरु कर आईबीए में वाइस प्रेसिडेंस ग्रेड से रिटायर होने की आपकी यात्रा भी कम प्रेरक नहीं है। एक ऐसा व्यक्ति जिसने आठवीं कक्षा के बाद अंग्रेजी विषय नहीं लिया था। मैट्रिक परीक्षा दो प्रयासों में पास की हो और इंटर, बीए की परीक्षा प्राइवेट परीक्षार्थी के रूप में मैं उत्तीर्ण की हो वह व्यक्ति आगे चलकर अपने स्वाध्याय, लगन और अभ्यास से एक दक्ष अनुवादक बन जाता है और अपने संस्थान के प्रकाशनों के लिए कुशलता से संपादन सहयोग भी देता है। एमए परीक्षा आपने प्रथम श्रेणी में उत्तीर्ण की और अपने संस्थान में राजभाषा अधिकारी के रूप में पदोन्नत किए गए। आगे चलकर आपने अपनी संस्था के सामान्य विभाग के दायित्व भी सफलतापूर्वक सँभाले। आपके दो पुत्रियां और एक पुत्र हैं। एक बेटी और इकलौते बेटे का विवाह हो गया है और दूसरी बेटी के रिश्ते के लिए प्रयास जारी हैं. मित्रों के सुख-दुख में सहभागी होना और सहयोग के लिए सदैव तत्पर रहना आपकी विशिष्ट खासियत (यूएसपी) है।       हमारी इस चौपाल के सूत्रधार और मेजबान हंसराज जी इंडियन औवसीज बैंक की कल्याण शाखा के प्रभारी (मुख्य प्रबंधक) है। आपने बारहवीं (विज्ञान) करने के बाद मुंबई के एक प्रतिष्ठित तकनीकी संस्थान से वस्त्र प्रौद्योगिकी में 3 वर्षीय डिप्लोमा किया था और कुछ अरसे तक मुंबई की एक नामी टेक्सटाइल कंपनी में सुपरवाजर के रूप में नौकरी भी की। किंतु शिफ्टों में ड्यूटी और अबौद्धिक माहौल आपको रास नहीं आया और आपने प्रतियोगी परीक्षा पास कर बैंक की सेवा ज्वाइन कर ली। बैंक में राजभाषा के क्षेत्र में कैरियर की अच्छी संभावना और अपने रुझान को देखते हुए आपने 1987 में हिन्दी विषय में एम ए करने का निर्णय लिया और हमारे बैच के साथी बने। हंसराज भी हँसमुख स्वाभाव के जिंदादिल व्यक्ति हैं। पढ़ाई में आपकी हमेशा से रुचि रही है। आपने भारतीय बैंकिंग एवं वित्त संस्थान की 2 परीक्षाएं भी पास की हैं। एम.ए. परीक्षा आपने प्रथम श्रेणी में उत्तीर्ण की थी। बैंक की सेवा के दौरान आपका भी कोलकाता, नासिक, वापी, पुणे, नई दिल्ली तबादला हुआ। किंतु आपने मुंबई के अपने पुराने साथियों से हमेशा संपर्क बनाए रखा। आप जब कभी मुंबई आते तो पुराने साथियों से अवश्य भेंट करते। आपने चर्चगेट के सम्राट होटल में हम मित्रों को कई बार दावत दी। कुछ महीने पहले ही आपकी मुंबई वापसी हुई है और आप थाना स्थित अपने बैंक क्वाटर्स में रहते है। आपका इकलौता पुत्र शशांक आईटी इंजीनियर है और अमेरिका में नौकरी करता है। दिसंबर 2017 में शशांक की शादी हो गई है और बहू भी सॉफ्टवेयर इंजीनियर है। आपकी श्रीमती भी कुशल गृहणी और अच्छी गेजबान हैं। आप दोस्तों से मिलने –जुलने, उनके सुख-दुःख में सहभागी होने और साथियों की मदद करने में हमेशा आगे रहते हैं।       ‘संतोष यह आपने क्या किया? थाना शहर में जाने के लिए हमें बाईं तरफ के रोड से होकर जाना था और आप भिवंड़ी-नासिक की ओर जाने वाले फ्लाईओवर पर चले आये?’ अनिल ने कुछ रोष से ड्राईवर से कहा तो लगा कि वह भी हमारी बातों में मशगूल हो गया था जिसकी वजह से रास्ता चूक गया। पिछले 10-12 वर्षा में मुंबई से सटे थाना शहर का मानों कायाकल्प ही हो गया है। पहले कापूरबावड़ीया मानपाड़ा के आगे रिहाइशी बस्तियाँ कम और कंपनी-कारखाने ही अधिक हुआ करते थे। लोग घोड़बंदर रोड से शाम को पैदल जाने से हिचकते थे। किंतु एक-एक कर लगभग सभी कारखाने-कंपनियां बंद होती गईं अथवा अन्य शहरों में स्थापित/स्थानांतरित कर दी गईं और रियल इस्टेट की बढ़ती मांग के चलते इन कंपनियों की ज़मीनों पर बड़े-बड़े आलीशान रिहाइशी और कमर्शियल कॉम्प्लेक्स और माल बन गए। आज घोड़बंदर रोड से गुजरते हैं तो सड़क के दोनों ओर 25-30 मंजिलो के टॉवरों की कतारें दिखाई देती हैं और लगता है जैसे हम किसी यूरोपीय देश के बड़े शहर से होकर गुजर रहे है। दो दशकों पहले 5-6 लाख की आबादी वाले झीलों-तालाबों के इस शहर की आबादी अब 20 लाख से ऊपर हो गई है किंतु अधिकांश तालाब लुप्त हो गए है। फिर भी गनीमत है कि येऊर पहाड़ी से एक तरफ और दूसरी ओर समुद्री खाड़ी से घिरे होने के कारण इस नगर में अब भी काफी हरियाली मौजूद है जो आँखों (और मन को भी) को बहुत सुकून देती है।       खैर! कुछ कि.मी. की अतिरिक्त यात्रा कर और थोड़ा सा लांगकट लेकर दो-तीन जगह पूछते –पाँछते हम तलावपाली यानी जांभली नाका पहुँच गए और एक निरापद जगह पर कार पार्क कर शिवाजी महाराज की प्रतिमा की ओर पैदल ही चल पड़े। सबसे पहले हम दोनों ही यहाँ पहुँच थे। कुछ देर बात अरुण शर्मा और राजकुमार जी आए और अंत में हंसराज, धर्मराज और निर्मल एक साथ आए। संभवतः धर्मराज जी हंसराज की कल्याण शाखा में गए होंगे और दोनों एक साथ थाना आए होंगे जहाँ उन्हें निर्मल मिल गया होगा।       हम सातों साथी जब जुटे तो लगा कि कैलेडर की तारीख 30 साल पीछे जाकर किसी तारीख पर ठहर गई है। यूँ लगा जैसे हममे से किसी को नई नौकरी मिली हो या किसी को पदोन्नति मिली हो और हम मरीन लाइंस के‘बलवास’ या ‘सुरुचि’ होटल या चर्चगेट के सम्राट होटल में दावत के लिए एकत्रित हुए हैं। वही उमंग, वही उत्साह और एक-दूसरे की उसी तरह टाँग खिंचाई और मस्ती-मजाक। सब कुछ जैसे फिर से साकार हो उठा था। आज की इस चौपाल में हमारी पुरानी स्मृतियाँ थीं, गुजरे जमाने के सुनहरे पल थे., खट्टे-मीठे अनुभव थे। ‘जो भी है क्या कम है’ का दर्शन भाव था और जीवन को भरपूर जी लेने की ललक और प्यास थी। हम जहाँ बैठे थे, उसके इर्द-गिर्द कई युवा जोड़े और युवातियों के झुंड भी मौजूद थे जो हमरी भदेस बातों, गँवई हँसी-मजाक और अनायास और ज़ोर से लगनेवाले ठहाकों से अक्सर चौंके उठते थे और हमारी ओर हैरत और गुस्से से ताकने लगते थे। लेकिन हमें उनकी फिक्र कहां थी?      शुभम सरोवर होटल में स्वरूचि भोजन करने के बाद और ‘टिपटॉप स्वीट्स’ की रस मलाई और रसगुल्लों का भोग लगाने के बाद हमारी चौपाल कुछ देर के लिए फिर से सड़क पर जमीं क्योंकि हम एक अरसे के बाद मिले थे और चाहते थे कि और ज्यादा वक्त एक साथ बिताया जाए। किन्तु हमें विदा होना ही था क्योंकि अगले दिन किसी को सुबह काम पर जाना था तो दो मित्रों को फ्लाइट पकड़नी थी। तलावपाली की यह शाम हमारी सुखद स्मृतियों में अपनी जगह बना चुकी थी।       मैं, अनिल और राजकुमार वापसी में कार में साथ थे और हमारी चर्चा अब घर-परिवार विशेष रूप से आज की युवा पीढ़ी की ओर मूड गई। हमने महसूस किया की हमारी पीढ़ी के संघर्षों, सपनों, समाजिकताओं और पारिवारिक मूल्यों की तुलना में आज की पीढ़ी के सपने और जीवनशैली बिलकुल अलग है। विकास और आधुनिकता के साथ कदमताल करते महानगरीय जीवन शैली में यह तो होना ही था। अगर आज की पीढ़ी ज्यादा आत्मकेंद्रित और सुविधाभोगी दिखाई दे रही है तो उसके लिए हम सब भी कुछ कम जिम्मेदार नहीं हैं। हमारे दौर में माता-पिता से केवल यह अपेक्षा की जाती थी कि वे अपने बच्चों की ठीक-ठाक परवरिश कर दें और उन्हें पढ़ा- लिखा दें, बाकी बच्चे जानें और उनका भाग्य जाने। हममें से लगभग सभी ने अपने बचपन और किशोरावस्था में अभाव झेले हैं। हम बारोजगार बाद में हुए, विवाहित या बाल-बच्चेदार पहले हुए। हमारे संयुक्त परिवार थे, अतः वैयक्तिक आकांक्षाओं का क्षितिज्ञ लगभग अनुपस्थित ही था। किंतु आज हम स्वयं चाहते हैं कि हमारे बच्चों को संघर्ष न करना पड़े, अभाव न झेलना पड़े। हम कर्ज लेकर और अपनी इच्छाओं को ताक पर रखकर बच्चों को पढ़ा रहे हैं। उनकी नौकरी की चिंता में गले जा रहे हैं और उनके लिए बड़ा घर-फ्लैट खरीदने/बनाने के चक्कर में अपनी जीवन भर की कमाई को होम कर हे हैं। हम चाहते हैं कि अपने पोते-पोतियों का भविष्य भी सुरक्षित कर दें ताकि अंतिम यात्रा का जब बुलावा आए तो कोई पछतावा न हो।       मैं पिछले दिनों अपनी एक वरिष्ठ सहयोगी से, जो कुछ ही महीनों में सेवानिवृत्त होने वाली हैं, बातें कर रहा था तो उन्होंने बताया कि यूरोपीय और अमेरिकी देशों में लगभग हर व्यक्ति अपनी वसीयत में अपनी संपत्ति/ जमा पूंजी में से अपने बच्चों के लिए 30-40 प्रतिशत से ज्यादा हिस्सा नहीं छोड़ता है। शेष 50-60 प्रतिशत धन वह समाज की भलाई और अन्य परोपकारी कार्यों में लगी स्वयंसेवी संस्था/संस्थाओं को दान कर जाता है। वहां व्यक्ति मानता है कि यदि यह धन उसने खुद अर्जित किया है तो उसके उपयोग और बँटवारें का फैसला भी वह खुद करेगा और अपने देश-समाज को भी प्रतिदान में यथासंभव अवश्य देगा। जबकि हमारे देश में एक-दो उद्योगपतियों को छोडकर वड़ा से बड़ा धनकुबेर भी सिर्फ अपने परिवार (जो ज्यादा बड़ा नहीं होता है) के बारे में ही सोचता है। वह चाहता है कि वह और उसका परिवार दुनिया के सबसे बड़े अमीरों में गिने जाए। देश और समाज और यहाँ की बदहाली- बेकारी से उनका न के बराबर सरोकर होता है। मानो वह मानता है कि यह काम तो सिर्फ सरकारों का है वे ही देखें।       व्यक्ति जब अभावों और संघर्षों की भट्टी में तप कर अपनी मंजिल पाता हैं तो उसकी सुखानुभूति सदैव उसके चेहरे और आचरण में प्रतिबिंबित होती है। हौसले और मेहनत से ही ग्रेस मार्क के साथ साधारण अंकों के साथ एम.ए. (अर्थशास्त्र) करने वाले अनिल सरकारी बैंक में ऊँचे ओहदे पर पहुँचते हैं। मुंबई की बेस्ट की क्लर्की छोडकर राजकुमार सिंह बैंक की सेवा में आते हैं और सन 2002 में रोड एक्सीडेंट में सिर पर गहरी चोटें लगने और दाहिने हाथ में फ्रेक्चर के चलते एक समय कलम तक पकड़ पाने की असमर्थता के बावजूद अपने ऊंचे मनोबल से फिर उठ खड़े होते हैं और अच्छे पद पर पहुँचकर लंबी सेवा के बाद सेवानिवृत्त होते हैं। इंजीनियरिंग की पढ़ाई के बावजूद हंसराज सिंह बैँक की सेवा में आकर अपनी कर्मठता से मुख्य प्रबंधक बनते हैं। कम अंकों के बावजूद अवध बिहारी निर्मल सरकारी दफ्तर में अधिकारी ग्रेड़ में नियुक्त पाते हैं। 8वीं कक्षा के बाद स्कूल में अँग्रेजी विषय न पढ़ने के बावजूद धर्मराज मिश्र बैंकिंग संस्था के अच्छे पद पर पहुँचते हैं और 11वीं कक्षा में ‘प्रमोटेड’ तरीके से पास होने वाला मेरे जैसा कोई ‘पगला’ भी अपनी मंजिल तय कर लेता है। 10 गुना 15 फीट के विक्रोली के चाल वाले कमरे से सफर शुरू करने वाले अनिल सिंह आज कांदिवली के 5000 वर्गफुट के दीर्घाकार फ्लैट तक पहुँचते है तो इसके पीछे उनकी कड़ी मेहनत, सपने देखने की प्रवृत्ति और संकल्प की ही निर्णायक भूमिका रही है।       मुझे नहीं लगता है कि हमारे बच्चों को यह पता भी होगा कि उनके पिता को बस के किराए का पैसा दोस्तों द्वारा चाय पर खर्च करवा दिए जाने के कारण कई बार कालीना से कुर्ला/सांताक्रुज स्टेशन तक पैदल जाना पड़ा था। अपनी- अपनी जेबें झाड़कर हम 6-8 रूपये जुटाते और यूनिवर्सिटी के कालीना परिसर के गेट के सामने भेलपुरी का खोमचा लगाने वाले लालजी से कहते, ‘भईया, इतने पैसे में जितनी भेल बन सकती हो बना दो और हम सबको पुड़िया बनाकर दे दो।‘ वह मुस्कुराकर हमें देखता किन्तु कभी निराश नहीं करता था। शायद वह हमारी औकात या लाचारी बखूबी भाँप लेता था।  इस प्रसंग पर अनिल टिप्पणी करते हैं कि हममें से हरेक साथी के पास अपने-अपने बचपन, किशोरावस्था और युवावस्था के शुरुआती दौर की अनेकों कहानियाँ, तजुर्बे और यादें है जिन्हें हम कभी-कभी अकेले में याद करते हैं, गुनते हैं और उनमें खो जाते हैं। किंतु आज के हमारे बच्चों के पास ऐसी कोई कहानी शायद ही हो। वस्तुतः इनके पास कोई कहानी नहीं होगी। कहानियाँ तो सिरफिरों के पास होती हैं, भटकने वालों के पास होती हैं, अभावों में भी मस्त रहने वाले फक्कड़ों के पास होती हैं, दोस्तों के बीच बैठकर हँसी-ठट्ठा करने वालों के पास होती हैं।       इस सदी के आठवें-नवें दशक में हमारी खोलियों /कमरों में जगह भले ही कम हुआ करती थी किंतु फिर भी 6-8 लोगों का परिवार राजी-खुशी से मजे में रह लेता था क्योंकि तब हम सबके दिल बड़े होते थे और हम सामूहिकता और भाईचारे की परंपरा का मन से निर्वाह करते थे। किंतु आज शायद ऐसी स्थिति नहीं है। फ्लैटों के दाम करोड़ों में पहुँच गए हैं और उनके क्षेत्रफल भी कई गुना बढ़ गए है किंतु लगता यहीं है कि हमारे दायरे और सोच में लगातार संकुचन आता जा रहा है और हम मानो अलग-अलग टापू में रहने लगे हैं औरों से बेखबर....., अपने और अपने निजी परिवार में मस्त। ऐसे में कहानियों और किस्सों के लिए अनुकूल मिट्टी और खाद-पानी मिले भी तो कैसे? इसलिए हमें इन किस्से-कहानियों के लिए अपने जीवन में खिड़कियों और झरोखों की गुंजाईश अवश्य बनाए रखनी चाहिए क्योंकि कहानियों के बिना जीवन, जीवन नहीं रह जाता बल्कि रसहीन, रंगहीन और लयहीन हो जाता है। गुलाबचन्द यादव (ईमेल: gcyadav.mumbai@gmail.com)*****

He,who uses humanity to justify His sins.
 Gunika Grover  
 31 March 2018  

To help further understand, analyse these.Charles Siebert, “An Elephant Crackup”. The New York Times Magazine. 8th October 2006, 1-19Anupama Rao, “Death of a Kotwal: The Violence of Recognition.” In The Caste Question: Dalits and the Politics of Modern India, Anupama Rao, University of California Press,241-264. Man is in the forever need to make himself advanced and supreme. In a rut to reach the top of his own and exceed others’ capacity, varied levels of living are created. The greedy supreme Man reaches the Elite level, while the other exceptional humans and non-humans fall at the subaltern specie level. This paper argues how when these Elite humans, subject to disruption over the subordinate, find humanity those groups to justify their heinous acts. By attributing and hence destroying affection,empathy, courage and other similar key features to the subalterns, humans try to shift the blame of being the cruel and corrupt over to them. Coexistence of individuals in any group of the living leads to a natural bond of affection and connectivity. Owing to the constant greed of Man to advance, He takes it upon himself, to intervene in the subaltern lifestyle and produce disharmony to reach the top. Siebert in his essay confirms how animals are most comfortable in their natural habitat and admonish any kind of trespassing. He claims that, “Elephants, when left to their own devices, are profoundly social creatures”(5). Their intricately organized community is a symbol of compassion; a common characteristic of the humane. After considering this, the Man gets an instinct to steal such a trait common to him from any specie which is unknown. Upon action, he goes as far as redeveloping their habitats and lifestyle. And hence a sudden challenge of disbalance is created. He indulges in a series of gruesome acts such as hunting, poaching and culling to extract resources off of the non Human, and thereby extracting the humanity off of them. Upon disruption, elephants too rumble in protest. In a maze on who should reach the top, be free and unique, the companionship is lost. Rao expels similar ideas and expresses how exertion of power by the the ones in authority and rule over a minority group renders discontent and division in a unified community. She reflects the incident and writes, “In fact they were dependent on Ambadas. With the entry of the Shiv Sena two years ago , the first seeds of discord were sown.” (252). The community which had recognized representatives and leaders collectively, was now to be in a state of separated opinions because Man in power imposed himself to disturb a tranquil habitat. The police and press, even after submission of members of the Elite party who were thought to be the convicts of Sawane’s murder, the meek humans didn’t settle for the punishment but encouraged further investigation. This act of refusal to admit defeat and crime committed plants seeds in the hearts of the natives from the subaltern to quit their humanity and battle the Human-Monster. Where in both the cases, the Elite Human intervention was out of greed and power, the distortion created rendered the Dalit’s powerless and elephants in pain. In an attempt to make the world rosy for existence where Man leads, he paints the universe with colours of dissatisfaction and disbelief.In the world where survival of the fittest runs parallely across species, when Man subjugates, he also invokes the emotion of liberation. Humans, owing to their intelligence and constant greed for power and knowledge have called up for a battle from many species unlike his. In Siebert’s essay one can witness a history of disturbance caused by man in the world of elephants. He writes, “It is not leaving without making some kind of statement, one to which scientists from a variety of disciplines,including human psychology,are now beginning to pay close attention”(3). In the need to justify his acts of cruelty and show domination, He attributes a sense of bravery and courage to the rogue species but diminishes their struggle infront of himself. While practicing another selfish act, of creating priviledges for self and obscuring others, the human race dissects on the basis of caste. By introducing differentiated humans, Dalits, form the subaltern group which revolts against the Upper castes, the superiors further impose authority over them. Rao realizes this difference and remarks, “However the resilience of everyday practices of stigmatization also conditions Dalits’ continued quest for social justice and dignity”(263). On one hand where social stigmas are created within this segregated society, there is still an ongoing revolt to attain equity with the Upper Caste Humans. When the media, the legislation, the judiciary see the uneasiness of living caused to Dalits and asserts politics into it, the Hindus reward it by calling it a courageous monotonous deed and a part of their lifestyle. Thereby signifying that the atrocities are nothing but a similar humane act which they are bound to deal with. After interfering with these subaltern groups and categorizing their actions as a testimony of the struggle to regain their individuality, the Man belittles their movements and produces the need to explore these species through his eyes of humanity.In order to upgrade their behaviors and functions, the Humans wish to understand other species and create an environment of empathy to gain their trust. This need to gain belief stems from spheres of the subordinate groups when they are disrupted by the Human intervention. Anupama Rao expounds on the Kotwal murder case by sharing the impact created by various findings gathered and reported by institutions. In reality, where the elites formed the face of the state and recognized it as ‘progressive’, they themselves gave birth to caste and encouraged discrimination. Rao expresses the urgent upheaval caused and says, “On September 6, the DIGP and the PCR Cell in Bombay demanded that special police officers be sent to investigate untouchability in the villages mentioned in the Maharashtra Times and Times of India articles” (251). Close investigations were then to be charged as a classic way of repenting the wrong done by the authoritarian humans to create a sense of understanding in the minds of the aggrieved specie. At times in order to make themselves more involved with other species, humans prove themselves to be in the same shoes as others. Siebert after having conversed with Abe reaffirms, ““Elephants are suffering and behaving in the same ways that we recognize in ourselves as a result of violence,”she told me”(8). By recognizing an emotion as strong as violence and equating this feeling in their lifestyle, Humans empathize with the elephants to realize their(elephant’s) individuality in relation to themselves. However the cause and effect of disruption maybe, Man declares self to have dealt with same. After perturbing the non animal’s to the animal’s peaceful lifestyle,empathy shown in relation to their own makes up a successful defensive measure against the barbarism caused.In this ever evolving cosmos, peaceful survival of different species of living beings has taken a backseat. Where species apart from the Elite race unknowingly reflect traits of humanity, Man has learned to extract these subalterns away from traits personal to his. To achieve this, he adopts a series of tasks of ignorance, intervention, destruction and further violence which make the subaltern species ultimately either give in to acceptance or lose their space of existence on this planet. At the summit of this volcano still, Man stands waving his flag of repentance and justification. He started the war and never lets anyone contest or win. With others’ hands tied and his limbs free, the monstrous volcano of humanity erupts. Now he waves the flag for peace.  

EARTH DAY- 22nd, April
 Suraj Kumar  
 3 April 2018  

International Mother Earth Day (or Earth Day)The Earth Day is celebrated on 22 April 2018 each year to celebrate the Mother Earth. Thus, Earth Day is to remind us of the importance of maintenance of the life balance.History:●US senator and environment enthusiast: Gaylord Nelson was the driving force behind the celebrations.●The idea came to Senator Nelson on witnessing the infamous 1969 oil spill in California.●The spill took a toll on the ecological system of California and the Outlook of the nation itself.●Driven by the desire to involve the youth in the cause of the environment. ●It was due to the reason that an ideal date i.e. 22 April was chosen (between the spring break as well as final examinations).●Initially, the event had just 20 million supporters and by the 90s the figure swelled up to 200 million.●Then came the path-breaking legislation in form of Rio Declaration of 1992. This legislation put more effort into economic, social and environmental reforms. ●Today, the figure of the followers is estimated to be beyond 1 billion.  As a result, each year volunteers gather to plant trees, ensure cleanliness of the vicinity and achieving success through sustainable goals. Earth Day 2018 Theme:Leading the process of change is the Earth Day Network. It has been decided to dedicate the celebrations this year to End Plastic Pollution.The organization is creating and finding support for ensuring utility. creating support for a global effort to eliminate single-use plastics along with global regulation for the disposal of plastics.  EDN will educate millions of people about the health and other risks associated with the use and disposal of plastics, including pollution of our oceans, water, and wildlife, and about the growing body of evidence that decomposing plastics are creating serious global problems.From poisoning and injuring marine life to the ubiquitous presence of plastics in our food to disrupting human hormones and causing major life-threatening diseases and early puberty, the exponential growth of plastics is threatening our planet’s survival. EDN has built a multi-year campaign to End Plastic Pollution.  Our goals include ending single-use plastics, promoting alternatives to fossil fuel-based materials, promoting 100 percent recycling of plastics, corporate and government accountability and changing human behavior concerning plastics.EDN’s End Plastic Pollution campaign includes four major components:Leading a grassroots movement to support the adoption of a global framework to regulate plastic pollution;Educating, mobilizing and activating citizens across the globe to demand that governments and corporations control and clean up plastic pollution;Educating people worldwide to take personal responsibility for plastic pollution by choosing to reject, reduce, reuse and recycle plastics, andPromoting local government regulatory and other efforts to tackle plastic pollution.Earth Day Network will leverage the platform of Earth Day and the growing interest in the 50th Anniversary of Earth Day in 2020 as a catalyst for global action.Education is the foundation for progress. We need to build a global citizenry fluent in the concepts of climate change and aware of its unprecedented threat to our planet. We need to empower everyone with the knowledge to inspire action in defense of environmental protection.Environmental and climate literacy is the engine not only for creating green voters and advancing environmental and climate laws and policies but also for accelerating green technologies and jobs.may be hard to imagine that before 1970, a factory could spew black clouds of toxic into the air or dump tons of toxic waste into a nearby stream, and that was perfectly legal. They could not be taken to court to stop it.How was that possible? Because there was no EPA, no Clean Air Act, no Clean Water Act. There were no legal or regulatory mechanisms to protect our environment.In spring 1970, Senator Gaylord Nelson created Earth Day as a way to force this issue onto the national agenda. Twenty million Americans demonstrated in different U.S. cities, and it worked! In December 1970, Congress authorized the creation of a new federal agency to tackle environmental issues, the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency.Earth Day began in America in 1970 as a day to celebrate the planet and encourage people to be more environmentally friendly. It is now an annual event and is widely regarded as the beginning of the modern environmental movement. Activities associated with the day often include planting trees, raising awareness about recycling, volunteering for green projects, and reducing the number of energy people consume. Earth Day is supported by a host of celebrities, including Leonardo Di Caprio, Emma Watson, Miley Cyrus and Matt Damon. Earth Day has become one of the most widely celebrated environmental events across the globe. On this day, events are held worldwide to increase awareness and appreciation of the Earth’s natural environment. Currently, it is celebrated in more than 192 countries each year. It was originally celebrated at Spring Equinox around 21 March every day but now the United Nations has designated 22 April as the International Mother Earth Day. Earth Day Network coordinates this annual day across the globe.Earth Day is all about appreciating the uniqueness of our planet Earth with its incredible biodiversity. On this day various national and international activities are conducted to understand the biodiversity and how should we protect our nature – plants, animals, and environment.Today, Earth Day Network (EDN) works with numerous partners and communities in more than 192 countries to raise the environmental concerns and diversify and mobilize the environmental movement. Apart from this, a large number of communities celebrate Earth Week and create awareness among other people regarding environmental issues.Various Earth Day FactsEarth Day Flag is called Ecology Flag. It was created by cartoonist Ron Cobb and was first published in the Los Angeles Free Press on 7 November 1969. The Ecology symbol resembles Greek letter theta and is a combination of the letters “E” and “O” taken from the words “Environment” and “Organism,” respectively. The flag consists of thirteen alternating-green-and-whites stripes with a symbol on the left-hand side. Earth Day Anthem is a universal song associated with Earth Day. Its lyrics are set to the tone of Ludwig van Beethoven’s “Ode to Joy” melody on which the official anthem of the European Union is based.“Joyful joyful we adore our Earth in all its wondermentSimple gifts of nature that all join into a paradiseNow we must resolve to protect herShow her our love throughout all timeWith our gentle hand and touchWe make our home a newborn worldNow we must resolve to protect herShow her our love throughout all timeWith our gentle hand and touchWe make our home a newborn world.”Earth Day became an international event on 21 March 1971, when UN’s Secretary-General U Thant spoke about it at a Peace Bell Ceremony at the United Nations in New York City. Since then, the United Nations Earth Day ceremony continues each year on the day of the vernal equinox (March 20th or 21st), with the ringing of the UN Peace Bell at the very moment of the equinox.More than 20 million people and thousands of local schools and communities participated in the first Earth Day of the United States that took place on 22 April 1970. This huge turnout made the first Earth Day as the largest organized celebration in the history of the United States. The success of Earth Day helped to influence the United States’ government to create stronger laws to protect the environment.Earth Day Network, the organization behind the Earth Day movement, works with over 22000 partners in more than 192 countries worldwide to raise environmental concerns. Today more than 1 billion people participate in earth day activities each year to make it one of the largest movements on earth.Earth Day 2000 combined the ambitious spirit of the first Earth Day with the international grassroots activism of Earth Day 1990. This was the year when Earth Day used the Internet to expand its reach and organize activists across several continents. The message was loud and clear and it proved invaluable domestically and internationally.In the year 2009, United Nations officially renamed Earth Day as International Mother Earth Day.On Earth Day 2012, more than 100,000 people rode bikes in China to reduce CO2 emissions and save fuel.Every year on April 22, men, women, children, groups and communities all around the world gather together and put all their efforts to collect garbage, plant saplings, encourage people to go for recycling, sign petitions and discuss issues to save this planet from depleting resources.In few places, earth day is celebrated throughout the week to expand its reach so that more people take part and put their efforts to preserve the environment.Earth Day SignificanceEarth Day is a day dedicated to increasing awareness about the Earth, its issues, and problems. Today, more than 1 billion people now participate in Earth Day activities each year, making it the largest civic observance in the world. As a result of this remarkable event, various policy agreements and acts are sanctioned such as Clean Air Act, Clean Water Act, Endangered Species Act, and many others.Earth Day has gained significant significance in the past. This is due to the fact that people have been witnessing the shortage of food, skyrocketing fuel prices, increased global warming and changing weather patterns. It is a day that acknowledges the importance of our planet. People come to know about the contemporary environmental issues such as global warming, depleting resources etc. Both adults and kids become conscious about the strategies and tactics which they can adopt in day-to-day life to ensure cleaner environments.Various suggestions are brought to light about recycling, energy conservation, increasing plant and tree growth, save water, respect nature, reduce toxins in the air, keep the environment clean, reduce air pollution, planting trees and flowers to increase oxygen and love and respect towards all animals who inhabit the earth. There are small ideas with the huge impact such as – plant a tree every year, switch off the light when not in use, use recyclable bags for grocery shopping etc. presented during Earth Day celebrations.Apart from the individual households, even companies are encouraging their employees to contribute their part when it comes to saving this planet from degradation. Making use of public transportation, carpooling to reduce pollution, switching off AC after office hours, motivating people to take less printouts, using renewable sources to generate power, allowing employees to engage in tele or video conferencing, using CFL lights  and bulbs, extracting geothermal energy to heat up office buildings are few of the initiatives companies are taking to save energy and make this planet safe for our future generations.On the transportation side, companies are now manufacturing and selling hybrid and electric cars that do not make use of petrol or diesel to run. New technologies are coming in which are making these cars at par with that of cars running on petrol and diesel.If people implement some of these and make changes in their behaviors towards Mother Earth, then we would be able to make our planet a much better place to live in – also for coming generations.

World Autism Acceptance Day
 Suraj Kumar  
 3 April 2018  

World Autism Acceptance Day is an internationally recognized day on 2 April every year, encouraging the Member States of the United Nations to take measures to raise acceptance about people with autism throughout the world. It was designated by the United Nations General Assembly resolution "62/139. World Autism Acceptance Day", passed in council on 1 November 2007, and adopted on 18 December 2007. It was proposed by the United Nations representative from Qatar, Her Highness SheikhaMozah bint Nasser Al-Missned, Consort of His Highness Shiekh Hamad Bin Khalifa Al-Thani, the Emir of the State of Qatar, and supported by all member states.This resolution was passed and adopted without a vote in the UN General Assembly, mainly as a supplement to previous UN initiatives to improve humanrights. Since its inception autism awareness and research around the world has increased as a resultWorld Autism Day is also one of only four official health-specific UN Days.The day itself brings individual autism organizations together all around the world to aid in things like research, diagnoses, treatment, and overall acceptance for those with this neurological variance.The original resolution had four main components:·the establishment of the second day of April as World Autism Awareness Day, beginning in 2008·invitation to the Member States and other relevant organizations to the UN or the international societal system, including non-governmental organizations and the private sector, to create initiatives to raise public awareness of autismThe ·encourages Member States to raise awareness of autism on all levels in society·asks the UN Secretary-General to deliver this message to member states and all other UN organizations.2 April 2008The first Autism Acceptance Day was highly mandated and hosted by the UN branches around the world. The highlighted events were held at the United Nations Headquarters in New York. The events hosted by the UN includes a panel discussion sponsored by Qatar and the UN representative responsible for the resolution, along with the World Health Organization. In addition, there was a briefing held for NGO's on topics relating to autism acceptance. Both of these events focused on personal efforts for acceptance raising and eliminating negative stigma associated with autism. In addition, there were highlights on the struggles of Autistics to be accepted and the importance of better understanding this neurological variance.World Autism Awareness Day in EuropeIn Europe the international association Autism-Europe runs a campaign every year, focusing not only on awareness but also on fostering a greater understanding of autism. Autism-Europe’s campaigns to date have therefore focused on things such as employment for people on the autism spectrum, discrimination, neurodiverse societies and accessible products, services and communities.Autism-Europe’s member organizations, of which there are more than 80, also commonly work on the same campaign, and promote it in their respective countries.The Power of One MarchThe Power of One March is The National Autism Awareness March and is a unique night-time march in Washington, D.C., on World Autism Awareness Day, which is 2 April 2016. The march aims to unify the autism awareness community and provide a time of healing and peace around the globe. Attendees may choose which organization they want to march for with proceeds of LED bracelet sales going to the organization of their choosing.OntarioAutism Ontario celebrates World Autism Awareness Day by "Raising a Flag" for autism. Municipalities around Ontario raise a flag to raise awareness for autism in their region.Onesie WednesdayIn 2014 WAAD coincided with Onesie Wednesday, a day created by the National Autistic Society to encourage people in England, Wales and Northern Ireland to show their support for anyone on the autistic spectrum. By wearing a onesie or pyjamas, participants are saying, "it’s all right to be different".United StatesIn a 2015 Presidential Proclamation, President Obama highlighted some of the initiatives that the US government was taking to bring rights to those with autism and to bring awareness to the disorder. He highlighted things like The Affordable Care Act, which prohibits health insurance companies from denying coverage based on a pre-existing condition such as autism. He also pointed out the recent Autism CARES Act of 2014, which provides higher level training for those who are serving citizens on the autism spectrum.

દીકરી - વ્હાલનો દરિયો અને સ્નેહની સરિતા
 Shital Desai  
 3 April 2018  

દીકરી એ વ્હાલનો દરિયો નહિ,પણ સ્નેહની સરિતા છે. દરિયામાં તો માત્ર ને માત્ર ખારાજ જ રહેલી છે. જયારે સરિતા તો હરહંમેશ મીઠાશને જ વરેલ છે. દરિયામાં ઉચ્છુર્ગલતા અને ઉછાછણુપણું, છીછરાપણું તથા અભિમાન અને ગર્વિતા રહેલા છે. જયારે નદી એ તો સ્નેહ, પ્રેમ અને અનન્ય એવી સમર્પિતતાનું પ્રતિક છે સરિતા એ શૈલેજા-શૈલપુત્રી અને શૈલઆત્મજા છે. જે સદૈવ સાગરને સમર્પિત થવાને ઉત્સુક અને તત્પર છે.સાગરમિલન માટે તત્પર એવી સરિતા એક વખત તેના પિતૃગૃહે નીકળ્યા પછી ક્યારેય પણ એના પિતૃગૃહ પરત ફરતી નથી કે એના પિતાનું મુખ પાછી વળીને જોઈ શક્તિ નથી. સાગર મિલનને ઉત્સુક એવી સરીતા સાગરમાં પોતાની જાતને સંપૂર્ણપને ઓગળીને પોતાની મીઠાશના સ્વતંત્ર અસ્તિત્વને અને સ્વતંત્ર ઓળખને પણ જડમૂળથી વિલોપ કરી દે છે અને સાગરની ખારાશને પોતાની ઓળખ અને પોતાનું અસ્તિત્વ બનાવી દે છે. સરિતાની સંપૂર્ણ સમર્પિતતા અને એના અસ્તિત્વ અને ઓળખની મીઠાશને પ્રાપ્ત કર્યા પછી પણ સાગર પોતાની ખારાશ છોડીને સરિતાની મીઠાશને અપનાવી શકતો નથી. સરિતાની જેમ જ દીકરી પણ સંપૂર્ણ સમર્પિત થઈને પોતાનું સ્વતંત્ર અસ્તિત્વ અને ઓળખને વિલોપીત કરી દે છે. ઓગાળી દે છે. દીકરીએ ઘરના ઉંબરે મુકેલ દિવાસમાન છે કે જે ઘરની અંદર અને ભાર એમ બંને તરફ પ્રકાશ પાથરે છે અને છતાં એ દીવાની સ્વયંની નીચે તો એક પ્રકારનો ગૂઢ અંધકાર જ છવાયેલ છે એમ જ દીકરીને પણ પૈતૃકગૃહ અને સ્વસુરગૃહ એમ બંને પરિવારોની જવાબદારી વહન કરવાની અને બંને પરિવારોને ઉજાગર કરવાની અને બંને કુળના સંસ્કારોને દિપાવવાની કળા જન્મજાત હસ્તગત હોવા છતાં પણ એ દીકરીના સ્વતંત્ર અસ્તિત્વ અને સ્વતંત્ર ઓળખ તો ગૂઢ અંધકારમય જ હોય છે. અને એની સ્વતંત્ર ઓળખ અને અસ્તિત્વ તો અમાવસ્યાના ઓઠા હેઠળ જ રહેલ હોય છે અને જવાબદારી અને દાયિત્વનું ગ્રહણ અને સદૈવ ગ્રસી રહ્યું છે અને રીતરસમોના ધુમ્મસ હેઠળ એની ઓળખ અને અસ્તિત્વ ઔસબિંદુમાફક ક્યાંય ઓઝલ થઇ ગયેલ હોય છે. દીકરીને તો હરહંમેશ અન્યનો પડછાયો અને પડઘો બનીને જ સંતૃપ્તિ માનવી પડતી હોય છે પરંતુ એ દીકરીના મનોજગતમાં તો પોતાની એક આગવી ઓળખ અમીટ છાપ અને પોતાનું આગવું અને સ્વતંત્ર અસ્તિત્વ ઉભું કરવાની અદમ્ય એવી રહેલી ચાહત રહેલી જ હોય છે. એના મનોવિશ્વમાં અન્યના ઉદાહરણ કે અન્યોએ ચીતરેલા ચીલાચાલુ ચીલા ઉપર ચાલવાનું નહિ. પરંતુ અન્યોને માટે પોતાનું ઉદાહરણ પુરૂ પાડવાની વણખેડાયેલ માર્ગ ઉપર પોતાની આગવી અને અનન્ય અને નીતનવી એવી કેડીઓ પોતાના આત્મબળના પ્રભાવે દાન્કારવાની તમન્ના રહેલી જ છે એને અન્યનો પડછાયો કે અન્યનો પડઘો બની માત્ર જ બનીને નથી રહેવું. એને તો આકાશને આંબવું છે અને પોતે જ પોતાની સંગત અને સોબતને માણવી છે અને પોતે જ પોતાના ઉદાહરણ બનવું છે. મુક્ત ગગનમાં વિહાર કરવા ઇચ્છનાર દીકરીને આકાશ તો પુરૂ પાડવામાં આવે છે પણ એની પાંખો કાપીને એને પરાસ્ત કરી એની પાસેથી એ આકાશ ઝુંટવી લેવામાં આવે છે. એનું વ્યત્ક્તિત્વ, અસ્તિત્વ અને ઓળખ તો સદૈવ જવાબદારીઓ, ફરજો, દાયિત્વ, રીતરીવાજો-રસમો=સમાજ અને નીતિનિયમોના પાંજરામાં નજરકેદ થયેલ હોય છે અને પાંજરૂ આખરે તો પાંજરૂ છે, ભલે પછી એ પાંજરૂ સુવર્ણનું કેમ ન હોય અને હીરામોતી અને રત્નોથી જડિત કેમ ન હોય! કહેવા પૂરતા તો દીકરીના બે ઘરો છે અને તે બબ્બે ઘરોની રાજરાણી અને માલકિન છે પરંતુ વાસ્તવમાં તો આ બંનેમાંથી એક પણ ઘર એનું હોતું નથી એ એક કટુ અને દર્દસભર સત્ય છે. આ બંને ઘરો પૈકી એક ઘર એનું પૈતૃઘર છે જ્યાં તેનો જન્મ થયો તેનું બાળપણ તાસણ્ય અને યુવાનીનાં કેટલાક વર્ષો વીત્યા, જ્યાં તે ચાલતા-બોલતા શીખી, જ્યાં તેના અસ્માનો અને સ્વપ્નાંઓ તાણા-વાણાની જેમ ગૂંથાયેલ છે. જે એના અને એના અસ્તિત્વથી અભિન્ન છે. અને બીજું શ્વસુર ગૃહ કે જ્યાં કુમકુમ પગલા થકી પ્રવેશી તેણે સમગ્ર જીવન વ્યતિત કરવાનું છે. પરંતુ આ બંને પૈકી  એક પણ ઘર તેનું હોતું જ નથી તેથી જ દરેક દીકરીએ લગ્ન પહેલા જ પોતાની સ્વતંત્ર આર્થિક ક્ષમતા અને સદ્ધરતા પ્રાપ્ત કરવી તેમજ પોતાની આર્થિક ક્ષમતા થકી સ્વયંને માટે સ્વયંનું ને માત્ર સ્વયંનું જ કહી શકાય તેવું ઘર ખરીદી લેવું જોઈએ. જેથી સ્વમાનભેર અને ગર્વ પૂર્વક પોતાને માટે પોતાનું ઘર હોવાનું અનુભવી શકે અને અન્યોને જતાવી શકાય.ગર્ભપાત-અર્બોશન કે હત્યા ફક્ત ભ્રુણની જ થતી હોય છે એવું નથી. જીવનની દરેક ક્ષણે અને જીવનનાં અંતિમ શ્વાસ સુધી દીકરીનો ગર્ભપાત, અર્બોશનઅને હત્યા નિરંતર થતી રહેતી હોય છે. ગર્ભપાત, અર્બોશન અને હત્યા થાય છે એની ભાવનાઓની, એની લાગણીઓ, માન્યતાઓની એના ગમા-અણગમાઓની, એની ઓળખ અને એના વ્યક્તિત્વની એના અસ્તિત્વની એની સ્વતંત્રતની, મનની મોકળાશ અને હળવાશની શારીરિક અને માનસિક પ્રસન્નતા અને શાંતિની પણ હરદિન હરક્ષણ હત્યા નિરંતર થતી જ હોય છે અને આ વણજાર વણથંભી રીતે અવરિત જીવનપર્યાંત ચાલુ જ રહે છે. તેને હરદિન હરક્ષણ તેનું મૃત્યુ થતું જ રહેતું હોય છે. અને હર એક મૃત્યુ માંહેથી એને ફરી એક વખત ફોનિક્ષ પક્ષીની જેમજ પોતાની જ રાખમાંથી ઉત્પન્ન થવું પડતું હોય છે. ફરીથી એક નવા જ મૃત્યુના મિલનના કાજે.દીકરી તો જીવનનું ભારણ નહી પણ જીવનનું કારણ છે અને જીવનને તારનાર છે દીકરી તો જીવનબાગનો ગુલમહોર છે દીકરી તો પારીજાત અને રાતરાણી સમી છે જે જીવનને સતત પોતાની મહેકથી મહેકાવતી રહે છે. દીકરી તો સુરજ સમાન તેજસ્વી છે. જે પોતે અવિરત સળગતી રહીને જીવનને પ્રકાશિત કરતી રહે છે. દીકરી તો ધૂપ્રવી અને કપૂર છે જે પોતાના અસ્તિત્વ અને ઓળખને મિટાવીને પણ જીવનની પ્રત્યેક પણને પોતાની ધુમસેરો થકી મઘમઘ કરતી જ રહે છે.દીકરી તો દીવાદાંડી છે જે અમાવસ્યાની કાજલઘરી કાળરાત્રિએ તોફાની સમુદ્રની મઝધારમાં જળના વિપરીત પ્રવાહ અને પવનની વિરુધ્ધ દિશામાં એ ખલાસી વિના પણ નૈયાને કિનારે પહોંચાડે છે.દીકરી તો પિતાનું અસ્તિત્વ છે પિતાનું હૈયું છે પિતાના શ્વાસોચ્છવાસ છે દીકરી માતાનું પ્રતિબિબ અને માતાપિતાના અસ્તિત્વ, વ્યક્તિત્વ, વિચારો અને સંસ્કારો, જીવનના દ્રષ્ટિકોણનું દીકરી માતાપિતાના હૈયાનો હાર છે. દીકરી પીતાન હિમ્મત છે તો માતાની ટેકણ લાકડી છે. દીકરી એ તો મહેંદીના પાન સમાન છે જે પોતાની સ્વતંત્ર અને આગવી ઓળખ અને પોતાનું સ્વતંત્ર આગવું અને અનન્ય અસ્તિત્વ સંપૂર્ણપણે ગુમાવીને પણ અન્યોના જીવનમાં અવિરતમેઘધનુષી રંગો ભરતી જ રહે છે દીકરી એ ચંદન સમાન છે જે પોતે સતત ઘસાતું રહેતું હોવા છતાં અન્યોને તો શ્વાસ જ પ્રદાન કરે છે. દીકરી શેરડીના સાઠા જેવી નિર્મળ છે જેને સતત કાપતા રહેવા છતાં પણ અન્યોના જીવનમાં મીઠાસ પ્રતિપાદિત કરવનો પોતાનો ગુણ ક્યારેય પણ છોડતી નથી.દીકરી એ કોઈ વસ્તુ, શો-પીસ કે ફર્નિચર નથી કે જેને અન્યને દાનમાં આપવાની હોય એટલે કન્યાદાન એવો શબ્દો તો સદંતર અસ્થાને જ છે પરંતુ લાગણી વેદી ઉપર અગ્નિ સાક્ષીએ પિતા જયારે પોતાની દીકરીનો હાથ એના ભાવી જમાઈના હાથમાં સોંપે છે ત્યારે એનામાં એક વિશ્વાસ મુકે છે, કે જે આજ સુધી જાંજરની ઘુઘરીઓ થકી પોતાના સમગ્ર ઘર અને જીવનને ઝંકૃત કરતી, ઝરણાની જેમ ખડખડ વહેતી મારી આત્મજા મારા જીવન આકાશ ને કોકિલ કંઠથી કલરવથી જીવંત અને ભર્યુંભર્યું બનાવનાર એ મારી દીકરી કે જે મારૂ અને મારા પરિવારનું અભિમાન મારી જવાબદારી મારી નિયતિ મારી ગરિમા અને મારું માન-સન્માન રહી છે. એ દીકરી હવે આપના પરિવારની ઈજ્જત અને મોભો છે અને એના આત્મ ગૌરવ, આત્મ સન્માન  અને સ્વાભિમાન ને ઠેસ કે હાનિ ન પહોંચે અને એની ગરિમાને હાની ન પહોંચે એ હવે આપનું કર્તુત્વ છે અને દાયિત્વ છે. એને માત્ર અને માત્ર રીતરીવાજો અને ફરજોમાં કેદ કરવાને બદલે એનો આત્મવિકાસ સાધવાની તકો પૂરી પાડવી અને મુક્તપણે વ્હ્ર્વાને મુક્ત ગગન સોંપવું અને એના માટે એની માં મર્યાદા આત્મવિશ્વાસ, આત્મસન્માન, સ્વમાન અને સ્વભિમાન ને માન આપવું અને એને વિચારો એની માન્યતાઓ ગમા-અણગમાઓ એની સંવેદનાઓ, સ્પંદનો, લાગણીઓ અને ભાવનાઓને એની એક સ્વતંત્ર અને આગવી તથા અનન્ય ઓળખ તેમજ અલગ અને આગવા અસ્તિત્વનો સ્વીકાર કરી એને યથાયોગ્ય ગૌરવ અને મન-સન્માન પ્રધાન કરવા એનાં આત્મવિશ્વાસ, આત્મબળને ખંડિત ન કરતા એમાં ઉત્તરોત્તર વધારો નિરંતર અને અવિરત થતો રહે એવા પ્રયાસો કરવા, એની હિંમત બની રહેવું, એની પૈતૃકગૃહે અધૂરી રહેલી ઈચ્છાઓ અને સ્વપ્નોને સાકાર કરવાનો અવિરત પ્રયત્નો કરવા તેમજ સુખ એને પિતૃગૃહે પ્રાપ્ય નથી થઈ શક્યું એ સુખ તેમજ જે સુખ અને શાંતિની એ હક્કદાર છે એ સુખ, શાંતિ અને નિરંતર અને અવિરતપણે મળતાં રહે એ હવે આપનું દાયિત્વ છે. અનંતકાળથી ઋજુતા અને મૃદુતાને વરેલી દીકરી સ્વભિમાન અને કાલિકા પણ બનવાનું સામર્થ્ય અવશ્ય ધરાવે જ છે તેથી એનાં સંસ્કાર, સહનશીલતા અને ધૈર્યને ક્યારેય પણ કસોટીની એરણ ઉપર ચઢાવવાનું ભૂલ કરશો નહીં અને જો તેવી અને જો એવી ભૂલ કરશો તો તમારી માત્રને માત્ર પશ્ચાતાપ સિવાય કંઈજ બાકી રહેશે નહી. મારી લાડકવાથી દુધમાં સાકર ભલે તેમ પોતે ઓઝલ થઈને મીઠાસ ધોળવાનો ગુણ તો ધરાવે જ છે પણ અગર આપ દૂધમાં પડેલ માખી માફક એને કાઢવાનો પ્રયત્ન કરશો તો પછી એ રાની લક્ષ્મીબાઈ બનીને રણશીંગુ, ફૂંકતાપણ એ અચકાશે નહી અને આપની સામે યુધ્ધે ચડી આપને પરાસ્ત કરવાનું સામર્થ પણ એની પાસે છે જે તેથી જ મારી દીકરીમાં સરસ્વતિ, લક્ષ્મી કે શક્તિને નિહાળવી કે પછી એનામાં ચંડિકા અને કાલિકાનું નિરૂપણ અને આરોપન કરવું એ માત્ર અને માત્ર આપના જ હાથની વાત છે અને એની પસંદગીનો અવકાશ પણ આપના જ પક્ષે છે.દીકરી એ સાપનો ભારો, અભિષાપ કે વિષનો પ્યાલો નથી, પરંતુ દીકરી તો નીલકંઠની જેમ સ્વયં વિષપાન કરીને જગત અને અન્યોના જીવનમાં અમૃતની લાહણી કરે છે અને એમના જીવનને ચિરકાલીન અમરત્વ પ્રદાન કરે છે. દીકરી એ ખરેખર ગર્વ અને અભિમાન, સ્વાભિમાન, આત્મસન્માન, આત્મગૌરવ આત્મબળ અને આત્મવિશ્વાસ જ છે અને નહિ કે એનાથી કઈ જ ઉતરતું નથી.

Ek Guzaarish.....
 Sneha Chauhan  
 15 April 2018  

Na jaane vo kaisa badnasib din tha...Jo ek masooom se uski zindgi 6in k le gaya...Koi ku6 b na kar paaya-kyunki zamaana bs sab dekhta rahe gaya!!Kya kasoor tha us nanhi si zindgi ka..Abhi to duniya dekhi b na thi usne!Bachpan k daaman se hath 6udaaya b na tha..Or vahi itni dardnaak maut ne apni or khinch liya!Jab koi nahi tha..Ek andhere kamre me...Jahaa uski har ek saans ko noch liyaa jaa raha tha...Uski maasoom duniya ko tabaah kiya jaa raha tha...Un nanhi si aakho ko ji bhar k rulaaya jaa raha tha...Mummy- Papa-Koi bachaao ki chikh se jab pura kamra apna dard bayaan kr raha tha...Us 6oti si kali ko bina khile hi koi murjhaa raha tha...Koi or to nahi tha..uski aawaz sunne ko!Par ye uparvaala kyu us waqt chup tha???Galti kya thi us maasoom ki-jise abhi rishto ka b pataa nahi tha..Or jaat k naam par uski zindgi 6in li gai...Insaan to vaise b hevaan ban chuka h-Par kya bhagvaan ko b us 6oti jaan par taras nahi aaya hoga!!!Kisko sahi kahe ab is puri duniyaa me!Ye sochna b ek sawaal ban gaya h...Har din se dar lagta h..Jab hr ek gali 6odkar ek jaan apni maasoomiyat ghumaati h!!Vo 6oti jaan kisiki beti..kisiki bahen..kisika sab ku6 b to thi na..Fir kyu use esi sazaa mili- jisko us sazaa ka naam taq na pataa tha!!!Jawaab to shayad uparvaale k paas b nahi hoga-Jab us bacchi ko gale lagaaakar-uski maa ne pu6a hoga-kis jurm ki isko ye sazaa mili!!!Jab tamaasha puri duniya ne dekha-To uparwaala b kyu na dekhe!!!Fir b ek 6otisi guzarish h..Bus jab duniya me bheja h-to jine ka haq b to do!Jin naazo se palkar bade hote h-Un naazo ko samajne taq pahochne to do!!Koi to galti hoti nahi un nanhi jaan ki..To sukoon se unko duniya me jine to do!Esa gunaah to uparwaala b maaf nahi karta...To bus usi khauf me hume apna thoda jine ka haq to do!Ab sazaa esi honi chaahie gunaah ki..K puri duniya dekhe-us tabaahi ko!Fir jab b kabhi koi esi soch soche...To uski ruh b zindgi se 6utne ko taras jaae!!!

हद हो गई बातें ,बातें ,बातें
 Aasim Anmol  
 2 May 2018  

बातें न हों तो कितना सूना सूना लगेगा। है न ? सुना है देश का विकास बातों से होता है। बातें ही देश के विकास का प्रतीक होती हैं। यानी बातों की भी सरकार होती है। बातों का क्या है करते जाओ। सुनने वाले के कान तो खुले ही होते हैं। इस लिए बातें करने वाले अच्छी तरह जज कर लेते हैं कि कुर्सियों पर बैठकर ज्यादा मशक्कत करने की जरूरत नही है। जब बातों से ही देश चलाया जा सकता हो। तो बातें करने की अपनी हसरतों को पूरा किया जाना पहली प्रायरोरिटी होनी चाहिए।                 यहाँ बातें ही बिकती हैं। कहीं भाषण बटते हैं। इन्ही चीज़ों में महसूस कराया जाता है कि यही विकास है। और हम भी कितने ज्ञानी हैं कि आसानी से विकास रुपी बातों के इस ठन्डे ठन्डे झरनों के नीचे बैठकर पांच साल नहाने का आनंद उठाते रहते हैं। यहाँ बातों का अमल ही बड़ा कमाल का है। जो अमल नही होता यहाँ वही घोषित कर दिया जाता है। अमल करने और करवाने वाले बड़ा उम्दा दिमाग रखते हैं।                जब बातें इंटरनेशनल हों। और सुनने वाले का कोई नेशनल - वेशनल ही न हो। तो बातों का विकास हौसले की उड़ान भर लेता है। बातों का रूप भी माशूका की तरह होता है। जहाँ मीठी तथा लुभावनी बातों का मुँह खुला। जनता जनार्दन आशिक बनकर बातों पर फ़िदा हो जाती है। बातों ने ही हर मसले को जन्म दिया है। बातों ने ही हर विरोध को पोषित किया है। जहाँ बातें बनने की होती हैं। वहां बातें ही बात को बिगाड़ देती हैं।                 समाज हो या परिवार इन बातों ने ही पतन की तरक्की में चार चाँद लगाएं हैं। बातें न हों तो इंसान अपनी पुश्तैनी बातों का ज़र्रे बराबर भी विकास नही कर सकता। बातें ही हमारी पहचान हैं।बातें ही हमारे इनाम हैं।बातें ही शादियों का डाइवोर्स हैं। बातें ही मोहल्ले के दादा होने की प्रतीक हैं। बातें ही बीमार कुंठित लोंगो का इलाज़ हैं।             बातें ही खुशियों का उपहार हैं। सोचिए बातें न होतीं तो बड़े बड़े राष्ट्रीय मंच न होते। बातें न होती तो नेता न होते। और नेता न होते तो बातें कब की दफ़न हो गई होतीं। बातों का अपना अलग वक़ार होता है । बातें औरतों की पहचान हैं। बातें जब होती हैं ,तो बातें ही होती हैं। बातें रुकने की रुकने की परंपरा नही निभातीं। बातें हर हाल में अपनी बातों को मनवाने की सलाहियत रखती हैं।           बातें घर घर को आबाद कम नकारात्मक ढंग से बर्बाद ज्यादा करती हैं। बातें जहाँ चाहती हैं ,वहां अपने झंडे गाड़ देती हैं। बातें अपनी बातों से मीडिया से रिश्ता बनाकर चौथे स्तम्भ को मजबूत करती हैं। बातें सियासी दलों में हौसला पैदा करती हैं। कोई दल दलबदल हो जाए तो बातों का बहुत बड़ा योगदान होता है। बातें ही सियासत और सियासतदानों को सियासत करना सिखाती हैं। बातें ही विरोध का स्वर तय करती हैं। आंदोलनों को मजबूत करती हैं।          .  बातें ही इस संसार को जोडे रखती हैं। बातें ही बातों की गरिमा बनाए रखती हैं। बातें हैं तो सब कुछ है। बिना बातों के बातों की हस्ती के माएने ही क्या ? बातें हैं तो सब कुछ और बातें नही तो कुछ भी नहीं । तो कीजिए न बातें यहाँ हर इंसान सुनने के लिए बेकरार है।        आसिम अनमोल 

सज़ा की गूँज
 Aasim Anmol  
 2 May 2018  

कमाल की बात है न। सज़ा में भी सज़ा पाने वाले को प्रभावी पुरुष होने से ख़ुशी मिलती है। सज़ा में सहजता होती है। सज़ा में कोर्ट की गूँज होती है। जो देश भर में मीडिया और चैनल बनकर फैलती है। गूँज का असर इतना व्यापक होता है। रोके से भी नहीं रुकता। सीधे सबको बता देता है कि उम्र क़ैद की सज़ा हो गई है। इसी लिए सज़ा याफ़्ता इंसान सज़ा पर अब ज़्यादा रोना धोना नहीं करता । बल्कि अच्छे दिनों की तरह खुश रहकर उसका आशीर्वाद पाने के लिए उत्सुक रहता है।                     सज़ा मुंसिफ को सुनने तक ही सज़ा रहती है। बाद उसके सज़ा खुशहाली में औपचारिक तौर पर परवर्तित हो जाती है। इधर सज़ा पाने वाले के अंदर हिम्मत और हौसले का संचार भरता है। उधर फैसला सुनाने वाले जज साहब की सुरक्षा बड़ा दी जाती है। देश में सज़ा भी बड़ी अद्धभुत चीज़ बनती जा रही है। सज़ा की सुनवाई से सज़ा पाने वाला मायूस नहीं होता। न हीं सज़ा का अपराधवोध करता है । उसके द्वारा अपने व्यग्तिगत ग़ुमान से क़ानून के हो चुके निर्णय के उपरांत अपने मानसिक फ़ैसले की गरमाहट में अच्छे दिनों की ठंडी ठंडी लस्सी पीते हुए जब यह कहा जाता है। चिंता की कोई बात नहीं है। जेल में कम रहूँगा। खुदा की कसम क़ानून की सज़ा के प्रावधान का पूरा व्यक्तितत्व निखरकर रह जाता है।                     सज़ा जेल के अंदर भी घर का सुख देती है। स्वंम खाना बनाकर खाने का नया रुतवा  क़ायम रखती है। सज़ा का हाल चाल और उसकी प्रतिष्ठा पर सज़ा का ज़ोर नहीं चलता। सज़ा में मज़ा ढूंढ़कर यूँ इस तरह जीना प्रारम्भ हो जाएगा । इसकी बड़े बड़े कानूनविदों तक को खबर न थी। अब तो सज़ा पाने वाला भी सज़ा समझकर सज़ा नहीं भोग रहा । उसको अच्छी तरह पता है कि हम सज़ा नहीं झेल रहे हैं। सज़ा को अपने मन मुताबिक़ जीने की कोशिश कर रहे हैं। सज़ा भी अपने आपमें चिंतित है कि हम करे तो क्या करें। प्रभावशाली लोग सज़ा पर उल्टा अपना प्रभाव डालकर सज़ा को इतनी शान से जी रहे हैं, कि सज़ा भी एक सज़ा लगने लगी है ।   आसिम अनमोल 

@ Keyword in life @
 Pallabi Das  
 7 May 2018  

In programming language there are lots of keywords like in "Java" 50 reserved words are there, 32 in "C" programming language and another 30 reserved words are for C++. But in life there is a very powerful keyword present, guess what it would be! Which plays a very important role in our day to day life.i. e-"SORRY".Sorry is used as a polite way of asking someone to excuse you for having done something that might have annoyed the person.If someone scolding you in a very loud voice and he/she didn't give a chance to explain properly then you should let them speak for a moment until they speak out their issues. Feel like this, who are talking in a louder voice by dominating others then there must be some serious issues in their life, they might be in pain or suffering some problems, to hide their emotions they are taking the help of a louder style. Keep quiet and listen to their thoughts, if they are nonstop then just apply a trick by saying sorry then they must pause for a while and you should take chance at that time and start your words. Make sure your every word are polite which give them relax like medicine. Even if they are wrong and you are right you should give them a chance to speak out, when they get relax take a break and tell all the things. If they don't understand then give them time for realizing. If still, they do not understand the thing, then don't think so much and leave that topic by saying sorry. Keep your ego in your pocket and try to spread happiness. Life is too short, there is no place for all negative words. Try to smile and make everyone smile.

Mothers Day
 Suraj Kumar  
 13 May 2018  

How do you celebrate Mom?

अकेले है हम
 Suresh Kulkarni  
 15 May 2018  

खुपदा आपण एकटे पडले आहोत असे वाटत असते . मित्र सुटलेले किवा सोडले असतात . आपण unwanted आहोत हि जाणीव आतून पोखरत असते .“ हम भी कभी करवा में थे,                                                                                                                                  कुछ साथी  बिछड गये ,                                                                                                                                                कुछ साथी रूठ गये ,                                                                                                                                                  कुछ तो छोड गये ,                                                                                                                                                   कुछ तो छुट गये ,                                                                                                                                                          करवा से पहिले अकेले हि थे ,                                                                                                                                      आज भी अकेले हि है ,                                                                                                                                              फिर भी अपनी राह चालते है ,                                                                                                                                      और चालते रहेंगे !                                                                                                                                       असे ‘एकटे ‘पणाचे , दुर्लक्षित पणाचे भोग कुणाच्याही नशीबी येऊ नयेत . आणि आलेच तर मी आपल्या दुखा:त सहभागी आहे . पण निराश होऊ नका . कारण पुन्हा ‘करवा ‘तयार होईल ,कारण  ‘राह चलने वालोंको राह्गीर मिल जाते है ‘--सु र कुलकर्णी 

Individualism vs. Collectivism
 Anuradha Singh  
 16 May 2018  

A few days back I read once again Ayn Rand’s Fountainhead, when I had read it earlier as a school going child I had not understood it at all. I had found it silly and boring; the old copy was still lying in the corner of my father’s bookshelf. My hand stretched involuntarily to pick up the yellow-paged old book a few days back. I started reading it late in the evening and kept at it into the night to finish in a readathon (like marathon) manner. This time I saw the book anew. It was fresh and ringed of issues and thoughts which are relevant even today, as they were at that time, in 1957, and I think they will be still relevant for years to come.The Russian immigrant writer was strong-willed, intelligent and years ahead of her time. The philosophical novel which she wrote then invited much criticism but soon it gained lots of popularity and sold millions of copies.  I feel the story of the protagonist though larger than life, why I am saying larger than life as the feelings, conditions, the circumstances which he goes through are little hard to find in today’s world. Many people go through times when they have to succumb to societal pressures, make deal with their ideas, priorities and sooner or later they do it for the sake of their family, friends, careers and what not. But Fountain head’s hero is not ready for a compromise. Not as a student, never as a professional. He is at war with the complete society. He does not give up even after being jobless, alone and broke. It is an amazing read, and I will not venture further. Those who have read it will understand the points which I have mentioned. Those who have not read it, I suggest should read it.Here I want to draw out the philosophy of Fountainhead. Ayn Rand supports individualism on the face of collectivism. It is hard to digest for an Indian, as all other societies but predominantly Indian’s have always been supporting collectivism. We have been always taught to sacrifice, bend, compromise for the sake of family, society, organization and many more. As psychology says a man is a social animal and likes to live in groups. Since the period when a man was a caveman he learned a lesson that if he has to survive then he should live in groups, otherwise he does not have a chance in front of the wild animals. The lessons taken in the jungle worked wonderfully till man dwelled in a cave. It gave him security, protection, recognition, power and many more. But once the wheel was made, the fire was ignited, mines were dug, and houses were constructed things changed.The civilized world came into being, with it came rules and regulations.  Discipline was ingrained and customs and traditions became prevalent and then staunch for the smooth running of the society. But, then it was possible for a man to live independently, think independently and work also. When I say independently it does not mean, to live like Robinson Crusoe alone on an island with no contact with the world. That is something totally different; it is a disorder if you choose to do it while living in this usual friendly world. When I say think independently means to take certain decisions, which could be distinct, advanced and revolutionary. It may not fit in with the run of the mill, prevalent set of thinking or working culture of a particular society. But if an individual finds it correct, if he or she has complete faith in his work, concept, project or whatever decision he or she has taken then that individual should go ahead with it with complete confidence. In short ‘dare.’In our own country, India and a huge list of foreign countries we have examples wherein we can see that since time immemorial society has ridiculed, tortured, outcasted individuals with advanced ideas which were completely strange, foreign to that generation. There is a long list, right from Galileo, the Wright Brothers, Edison, Marie Currie, Edward Jenner and many more had to go through great pains and efforts to make people realize the importance of their work. In India as well there have been many great men and women who have been educators, reformists, social workers, businessmen whose work was at first trashed but later on understood and hence accepted by people. Why is it so that people are not ready to accept anything new? I think one of the problems which I can perceive lies in the psyche. We humans or even animals get conditioned to a certain routine, habits, weather and almost everything. If we are doing a certain chore every day, or we have been listening about a certain notion over the years, coming down from parents, grandparents and so on; then our mind and even our body accept it without any resistance. In other words, we can say this is the training of a kind. Our body and mind get prepared to see and then accept certain things in a certain way. As in Fountainhead, the Americans of that time were used to see and hence build completely orthodox, conformist kind of buildings which is why they were not liking and hence opposing the innovative ideas of Howard Roark. Some are so influenced by a certain style of living, that they get upset and so angry and jealous to see innovation. Sometimes, these sensitive minds can see or judge that the idea in front of them is fantastic but they are not willing to change, they do not want to come out of their comfort zone. Here again, I will give an example of the manipulative journalist Ellsworth Toohey of Fountainhead. Just because he didn’t appreciate or understand Roark’s independent thinking, his revolutionary ideas, Toohey tried his level best to finish Roark. In the real world also, where we dwell, there are certain elements like Toohey who do not welcome fresh ideas. But I firmly believe that if we look at today’s world analytically, the progress which it has made in leaps and bounds is because of a germ of an idea, vision, a dream seen by an individual. It is very rare that a dream is carried forward by a society as a whole.  It is always initially an individual dream, may be taken up by the society much later. If the individual manages to convince the society of his dream then it propels into a nationwide, statewide revolutionary idea, but never in the beginning.With assurance, I say that individualism, (as in liberty to try new things, set on a new path, try new ways at looking at this good old world) is much greater and better way of living. It should be allowed, helped, propagated and seen as navigators of the progressive world. Collectivism may have helped us in certain situations; where great upheaval is required to turn the old world structure into a new one. But here, I must point out; even this great revolution is always started by one man, one situation. To be always be trapped in the shackles of society’s beliefs, their likings, their fears, their conceptions or misconceptions, how far one can carry this heavy load. There will always come a time when one would like to dump the load and think and move freely.  After all, we are genetically distinct from the sheep which follows each other with precision. We are at the peak of the ecosystem because of the structure of our brain. This boiling pot requires fresh ideas for sustenance, as only change is constant and always needed. A caterpillar which is green colored transforms into iridescent blue and does not stay green.By Anuradha Singh.

Directionless Youth of our country
 Ayush Mathur  
 12 June 2018  

Today, India is one of the most populous countries in the world, out of which most of the population is youth. Youth percentage in India is more than 50%, young people are full of abundant energy, courage, a spirit of adventure, imagination, hope, and ambition. The young men and women of India should be fully involved and creative work of nation-building and reconstruction. The younger generation, which is more generous, flexible, sensitive and dynamic, can do wonders if properly guided and motivated. In fact, the Youth is the future of India. In our country, children always taught by their parents and elders from their childhood to score good marks and be competitive and practical in life, despite of teaching them life lessons about kindness, loyalty, humbleness, helping others, etc instead of that they were taught to be mean, self centered, money-minded etc. In schools, they just got bounded and trapped between walls that just teach them to study as it is whatever it is written in the book, they don't have any practical knowledge about how the world works, how to behave, how to react in difficult situations of life, how to get rid from the unwanted problems. They don't have direction in life, they are just blindly following each other like a flock of sheep. Most of the youth are not aware of what is right and what's wrong, they are in the age where their extreme emotions can turn them into completely different individuals. They start drugs in very young age because of peer pressure and then became an addict with the passage of time. Their Brain stops working after reaching at one point when they completely dissolve themselves in the addiction. We can take the example of Punjab, where 90% of its total youth population was drug addict once, they even don't get bothered by their families, relatives etc.  But all these reflect one-sidedness and lack of proper understanding on the part of the elders and grown-ups. The lifestyles youngsters adopt today are chosen either out of curiosity , peer pressure or fashion, alternatively stress, anxiety, and frustration drive them onto these paths. What is even more alarming is that the attraction of today's youth is no longer for ciggerate, tobacco, alcohol. These are now termed as soft items. The "in" things are cocaine, heroin, brown sugar which are so called as stress buster. Besides it, most of the young generation are living meaningless lives, they don't have any ambition or motives in their lives, they don't have dreams. They don't want chase success they are just living in a parallel universe where they just wanted that everything should work according to them. The time is declining very rapidly and now it's the time that they must realise that life won't work like this, they have to came out from the black hole that is attracting them everyday as soon as possible. They have to realise the meaning and importance of their life. They have to direction their lives in a particular way. The future of our country totally relies on the youth, they have to stop wasting their precious time and lives in drugs.

Childhood-The best part of our lives
 Ayush Mathur  
 28 June 2018  

Everyone in this world was once a child and had gone through the phrase of Childhood. It's been that part of life where everyday was memorable, unforgettable, innocent and the best days of life. After growing up we realised that childhood days were the best days of our life, that's why everyone wants to go back to their childhood days. They were the days when there were no worries, no tremendous work load, no thinking about what others might think. Free from all these extra added problems in life. It seems to almost everyone that life was easier then, we don't have have stress, we live a peaceful life in which we were taken care by our parents and our elders. We don't think about our futures, we don't have the fear of getting judged by other people, we make friends from our heart without judging anyone's family background. Childhood is fresh Life and non corrupted.Those were the days with innocent attitude, we used to run play and enjoy every moment of our life.We used to forget the fights in few hours, no sorrows only happines. The only tension we had at that time was of homework nothing else. Relatives used to gift us, we learnt to be brave, stronge, we had our own world with no responsiblities at all. On the same time were very active and weren't obsessed with mobile/laptop.No job,No Money, no tension, free food, free hugs n kisses, bedtime stories. Eat,play,sleep......and then repeat we don't do care about anything else.You do not care how you look, what people think about you. You can play in mud without caring about your clothes, you can cry loudly anytime anywhere. We dont have any responsibilities and, the amount of care and affection towards us is so high and the major thing is that we are not blinded by money which is mere entity that cause the differences in the society. We're taken care by our parents, and elders, we're dependent on them we don't have to care for ourselves. Our hearts we're pure, unadulterated and simple. We're completely unawared from the materialistic world that was existing outside the walls. We have tensions in that period of our lives as well but they're just about studies Tensions of not finding my classwork copy just before the day of the weekly test, Tension of holidays ending and the holiday homeworks still pending. We love to get surrounded by our family, we feel secured, happy and love to get their attention. Childhood is the best part of our lives.

Wish - An Aspiration
 Rita Dobriyaal  
 17 July 2018  

Life, happiness, love...

" माँ नर्मदा के किनारे "
 ठाकुर भवानी प्रताप सिंह  
 23 July 2018  

              " माँ नर्मदा के किनारे "आज अपने घर और शहर के कोलाहल से दूर जीवनदायिनी माँ नर्मदा के किनारे प्रकृति की गोद में आज इस साल की पहली बारिश का अनुभव कर रहा हूँ । एक ओर नदी का किनारा है वहीं दूसरी ओर गरजते हुए बादल जहाँ एक ओर नदी की लहराती हुई जलधारा है वहीं दूसरी ओर मचलती हुई हवाओं का झोंके । एक बहुत अद्भुत संगम दिखाई दे रहा है ।                             यहाँ से दूर उस नीले पर्वत पर छाई हुई काली घटाएँ और उस पर्वत के आगोश से निकल कर आने वाली ठंडी हवाए । यह सब मिलकर आस-पास के पूरे वातावरण को एक अद्भुत आकर्षण का केंद्र बना दे रहे है। इसी संगम में सम्मिलित हो जाती है यह बारिश की बूंदे जो कभी तो सीधे धरती पर आकर गिरती हैं और कभी हवा के साथ-साथ अपने रुख को भी मोड़ लेती है              नदी के किनारे पर बैठकर यह सब देखना एक बेहद रोमांचक और मनोहारी है एक ओर जब हम शहर में बारिशों से बचते हैं उन से दूर भागते हैं आज शहर के कोलाहल और तनाव से दूर यहाँ एकांत में एक नदी के किनारे पर बैठकर इस तरह बारिश की बूंदों से भीगना और इस मनोरम दृश्य को देखना ऐसा लगता है जैसे जीवन का सबसे अद्भुत दृश्य जीवन का सबसे सुकून दने वाले पल यदि कहीं हैं तो यहीं पर है।                                        शहर में जो बारिश और हवाएं आफत नजर आती हैं आज वही सुख प्रदान करने वाली नजर आ रही है दोस्तों बारिश में कोई फर्क नहीं है फर्क हमारी मानसिकता में है। शहर की तनाव भरी जिंदगी और शोर-शराबे में हम इतना ज्यादा परेशान रहते हैं कि हम इन छोटे-छोटे सुखों को भी नजरअंदाज कर देते हैं ।                                                  आज यहाँ इस शांत वातावरण में बैठ कर लगता है कि कभी-कभी शहर के कोतूहल और कोलाहल से दूर शांत और एकांत में आकर हम ऐसा बहुत कुछ पा जाते हैं जो हमें शहर की चकाचौंध नहीं दे सकती।                जीवन का वह छोटा सा असीम सुख जो इस स्थान पर मुझे मिला शायद यह इन शब्दों से प्रतीत नहीं होता किंतु हाँ यह एक बेहद अद्भुत, बेहद अनोखा और बेहद मनोहारी समय था । यह एक ऐसा समय एक ऐसा स्थान था जहाँ प्रकृति क्या है और प्राकृतिक सौंदर्य क्या है इसकी एक झलक मुझे देखने को मिली।                          !! धन्यवाद !!भवानी  प्रताप  सिंह  ठाकुर संपर्क - 8989100111ईमेल - thakurbhawani66@gmail.com

Rat Race of life
 Meenakshii Tripathi  
 21 August 2018  

The sun had completed its tour for the day,dark mantle sweeping across the sky,strange darkness in city of heart,light of moon filtering in through the gap of curtain and millions of bright stars,thinking a thought ,you know what! At night you can be anybody and no one care who you are!!You can be a Flower which carry a different fragrance,color and beauty for the world.Can be a Wind ,that exist but can't be seen or heard.somethings need to be felt.Can be Sky ,no matter what storms are passing beyond the clouds.It is always blue. Can be  Pet which love unconditionally  without expectation. Can be a Butterfly which  grow, change and find color in .Can be Bird who wants to fly up at the sky wants to touch the high. Can be a Night sky which is important  to appreciate, the light. Can be a tree that full of generosity. Can be a Child  who teach us to be happy for no reason, busy with something, carefree and living life fully. But when step out from imagination,we  are a person of cruel world which has lost it self in self. We are not living we are just surviving. We  don't want to change our life because we are afraid to change. We all are busy in rat race of life. We are comparing our accomplishments, our joys, our challenges, feeling, pain to others .I can be anybody but I don't  concern myself with Rat race!Nature is our origin and the place where all our subtle needs for beauty, mystery, and adventure are met. And when  we feel empty inside and lifeless outside. Nothing seem colorfull then we notice blooming flowers,purple glow in the western horizon ,rain drops,The snow-capped mountains,blue sky,watered lakes,  rainbow ,that makes us  fall in love with Our self. 

A Journey
 Pallabi Das  
 3 October 2018  

A glimpse of the journey...

स्वतःच्या आयुष्याचा अनोखा इव्हेंट
 Gayatri Pophale  
 18 October 2018  

#स्वतःच्याआयुष्याचाअनोखाइव्हेंट#पार्ट १बघायला गेलं तर स्नेहल ने घेतलं होत इंजिनीअरिंग च शिक्षण पण तिचा इंटरेस्ट इव्हेंट मॅनॅजमेन्ट मध्ये होता त्यामुळे एका प्रख्यात कंपनी मधला जॉब सोडून तिने स्वतःचा business चालू केला होता . खूप जास्त बडबडी ,अतिशय हसरी , कोणामध्ये पण पटकन मिक्स होणारी अशी ही स्नेहल . दिवसेंदिवस तिचा business मस्त वाढत होता .खूप ठिकाणी तिचे छान  tie -ups  झाले होते . तिने एकदा विचार केला की आपण हिंजवडी च्या हॉटेल्स ला तर कधी भेट च नाही दिली .बघूया ना तिथे काही  टाय-अप्स  होतात का इव्हेंट्स साठी . म्हणून निघाली आपली गाडी घेऊन . म्हणतात ना आवडीचं काम करत असाल की कामात पण एक वेगळाच उत्साह असतो. तिने थेट हॉटेल गाठलं . स्नेहल : आप के हॉटेल के  मॅनेजर के साथ बात हो सकती हैं ?गौरव : हा बताईये कैसें आना हुआ ? मैं यहा का मॅनेजर हू . स्नेहल : मेरी खुद की इव्हेंट की कंपनी हैं तो मैने सोचा की एक बार आपसे बात करके  देख लू . i can handle the events of your hotel if you give me a chance . गौरव : ठीक हैं मॅडम . I will contact you .आपका नंबर या फिर व्हिसीटींग कार्ड देना . स्नेहल ने पटकन पर्स मधून कार्ड काढून दिल . पण तिच्या मनात फार प्रश्न होते . की याने आपल्याला कटवलं  का फक्त हो हो म्हणून . हा करेल का आपल्याला संपर्क . असे नको नको ते विचार करत बिचारी निघाली हॉटेल मधून . आता परत परत तरी कस विचारणार ना . म्हणजे कस आजच्या काळात जास्त पण आपली गरज दाखवली तरी प्रॉब्लेम होतो. डिक्की मधून स्कार्फ काढत आपल्या चेहऱ्याला तिने तो गुंडाळला आणि तिथून निघाली . तिच स्वतःच छोटस ऑफिस होत . ऑफिस मध्ये ती आली शांतपणे बसली. डोक्यात विचार चालू होता शेवटी त्या मॅनेजर चे डिटेल्स स्वतःच्या लिस्ट मध्ये टाकून तिने तो विषय सोडला आणि आहे त्या कामावर फोकस करू लागली . बाकी कोणा ला भेटायचं आहे हा विचार डोक्यात चालू होता . business म्हटलं की स्वतःला फार ड्राईव्ह करावं लागत . हे करत असताना तिच्या डोक्यात कधी तरी तिने सोडलेल्या जॉब चा विचार यायचा . कारण जॉब म्हटलं की कस secured इनकम आणि business मध्ये ती लेवल यायला फार वेळ लागतो ..पण पुन्हा स्वतःला मस्त विचार देऊन ती  जोमाने कामाला लागायची . या सगळ्यात ती गर्क झाली होती. तेवढ्यात तिचा फोन वाजला . एका क्लायंट चा कॉल होता . सो कॉल नंतर ती venue वर कलाईन्ट ला भेटायला गेली. नेहमीप्रमाणे मीटिंग छान  पार पडली . तिला इव्हेंट मिळाला . पण तिच्या मनात मात्र एक मोठी झेप घ्यायचा विचार होता . वाट बघत होती ते एका सुवर्णसंधीची . तेवढ्यात तिच्या आईचा कॉल आला. आई : उद्या शुक्रवार आहे ग . तुझ वैभव लक्ष्मीच व्रत आहे . स्नेहल : हो आई आहे लक्षात .काही आणायचं आहे  का ?आई : संध्याकाळी येताना गुलाबाचं फुल घेऊन ये बाकी सगळं आहे घरामध्ये . स्नेहल ने हो म्हणून फोन ठेवला . डोक्यात विचारांचा गुंता अजून पण चालूच होता . क्रमश :........ तळटीप : मी लिहीत असलेली कथा सत्य घटनेवर आधारीत आहे .आपल्या प्रतिक्रिया हाच माझा उत्साह अजून वाढवेल. पुढच्या पार्ट मध्ये एक वेगळीच ट्विस्ट येणार आहे . Stay Connected ! Stay Tuned :*  

The value of Special Event Videography
 Leona Zoey  
 1 November 2018  

Despite the fact that we are now living in a digital age where more than two thirds of the adult population carry a smartphone, there is still great value to be had from hiring the professional services of an experienced videographer to film your special event, whether that be a corporate event or a notable family event that you want to capture for posterity.In this world of Instagram and throw-away snaps on our phones, hardly any of those taken are even looked at following an event, or even downloaded to print out!Within the visual industry, you will find some very talented and creative professionals that can turn photograph and films into a work of art. They plan out amazing ideas and execute them in a way that leads to delivering some spectacular work.Corporate event videographyUnless you have someone with these creative and clever capabilities present, your event will be just a moment in time that will be gone forever if you don't document it properly. Shooting professional footage of your corporate event can come in very handy. You can use the material to help tell a story or sell your company to prospective business partners and raise awareness of your brand.You can use your film footage to help captivate and entice a target audience that you want to attract to your company, whether that is to work with or sell to. If you are trying to raise money at the same time as running an event, then having a winning film of your event can help to boost ticket sales for the next event you plan to hold.Simply relying on using captured footage from staff smartphones to use for your marketing or to tell a story and document the event can end up looking bitty and unprofessional. What sort of image or first impression will you give to prospective business partners or customers if you don't approach running and documenting your events in a professional manner?Without quality film of your even, you cannot show how impressive or fun it was. You will be unable to show specific elements to potential sponsors, delegates and speakers.Important family eventsJust like in the corporate world, you cannot rely on gathering any useful or quality film footage from your friends and relatives that take snaps and videos of your family event using their smartphones.Whether it is a milestone wedding anniversary, a baby Christening or naming ceremony, engagement party or a celebration for a significant birthday, if you want to keep some treasured memories alive for years to come, hiring a professional videographer is the way to do it properly.Remember that just because everyone owns a smartphone these days, doesn't mean that everyone has suddenly become an expert videographer overnight! Just because your mum can bake a fantastic fruit cake doesn't mean that she could cater a whole wedding with 250 sit-down guests!The old saying of 'horses for courses' really still applies with videography as well as other skilled creative services. Book a professional if you want to benefit from good results. To know more visit our website.

HEARTS AMBASSADOR
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

Hearts Ambassador is a good quote

Happiness
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

Happiness each one should have in each ones life.

BURDEN ON HEART
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

Burden on Heart is always there for everybody.

EYE SIGHT
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

Burden on Heart is good

WIFE AUTHORITY
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

A good quote

LOVE LIVE LONG
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

Love will be always in this Universe

THINKING IMMERSION
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

This quote is good

UNEASY BANGING
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

Its a regular feature in everybody's life.

SMART LIFE
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

A Smart Life, is a good quote

ARTIFICIAL LOVE
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 15 November 2018  

This is a good quote.

ARTIFICIAL LOVE
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 17 November 2018  

Artificial Love

HOUSE WAR
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 18 November 2018  

HOUSE WAR

LIFE MIRACLES – Article
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 18 November 2018  

LIFE MIRACLES – Article

CONCRETE LOVE
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 20 November 2018  

CONCRETE LOVE. Its Life

GREAT LEGENDS
 Mantri Pragada MARKANDEYULU  
 20 November 2018  

GREAT LEGENDS